TallMuscl37

Great list, I started to do the same. Curious about when you say you don’t advertise there: are these regular/former clients you refer to, where you used to advertise? I know all those cities you mentioned are big markets. I’m surprised you didn’t say Miami/Ft. Lauderdale, Chicago, Seattle, or Las Vegas. I know for me, I don’t always seem to get the hits in those bigger cities. But like @Shawn Monroe mentioned, sometimes as a black provider, it matters where I go. After spending 2-3 weeks in San Diego earlier this year, I found Los Angeles to be too overcrowded. Lots of Black providers with big dicks. San Diego was better, but I had to advertise there for a whole week before I got my first client, and then I had 3 back to back. 0 to $1,000 in no time lol. Palm Springs, I tried to go but all the hotels were $200-$400 a night. I started to post up in the nearby casinos, but I was running out of time. I find I do best in; smaller enclave cities that aren’t so frequented. Tucson in Arizona, Santa Fe in New México, Oklahoma (though it’s not as busy like it used to be when I would go years show), Salt Lake City; Boise, Idaho… Even when I lived in Florida: I would skip the usual Miami/Wilton Manors and go for Naples, Sarasota, St. Augustine, even north central Florida. So many people go to the big cities, and only the biggest muscle guys and dicks can make it in those lol.

I get where you’re coming from, I could have suggested a meeting time instead. But I guarantee you: he would have said, “that’s too late for me, let’s plan for another time”. And then not get back to me until 2 years later. Just like he did back in 2021. However, I did give him an approximate arrival expectation when I said: I’m on my way in 15 minutes, and it’s a 50 minute ride to his location. So there was in no way he could have been “stewing with uncertainty” like you implied. On top of that, he was already getting a discount, so to cancel when I’m already in route: was plain and simple: an asshole move. We can nitpick small clues to defend his childish and inconsiderate actions. But all that’s doing is making it seem like I’m responsible for someone’s lack of consideration. And that, I’m not ☝️ If he needed a specific time, he could have suggested that. And like I said: he wasn’t in hurry to do so, until the morning of. So…that’s on him. 100%.

That’s a good point you made, I actually want to go back to that in regards to what a fellow poster mentioned: I don’t think I appropriately addressed this earlier, but I’ll go over it again. I did not leave him stewing in impatience and uncertainty, and I also don’t do that to clients either. I think you misinterpreted the message that was posted. What I did do: is tell him upfront, I can follow back up shortly and provide a time of arrival. As I did not want to do that prematurely and make sure I got the timing right. He was not on my schedule that day. 11:30-1 pm on a Sunday: it’s expected most people are either recovering from the Saturday night out prior, or are doing other things like church, brunch, yard work, catching sales, etc. it’s a Sunday. That’s what people do. However, he had no basis to suddenly assume I would be able to instantly push aside everything I was currently engaged in BEFORE he contacted me. He did not earn that privilege. He never sent me a deposit the day prior, he never even mentioned he wanted to meet on Sunday the night prior, and then he specifically implied he PREFERRED to meet “today” (Sunday), which means he should have been willing to give the necessary time for me to accommodate. Reason why, is because: the day prior he was messaging me on adam4adam, and this is the language he was giving me: Now @Simon Suraci: do you see anywhere in that message that gives a sense of urgency on his part? Nothing. Then the next day I’m getting: So, why all of a sudden I have to stop, drop and roll for him? I had to already lead him to water, and make him drink. All I was doing, is getting him to first text and confirm: I do not set ANY TIMES ON ADAM. Period. That’s not an appointment request. Appointment request doesn’t start until I receive text message. That’s for any website. I don’t think it was accurate to make it seem like I kept him waiting and was indecisive. And I was a bit offended by that, to be honest. No, he hit me up at the last minute on the day of. I already know from experience with a lot of gay men and dealing with sex: they are NEVER available as fast as I want them to be. I know that for a fact. So I’ve learned to just have patience and understanding. Nobody is going to drop their life for me, so…where’s this expectations that I have to do the same? 90% of these clients are never available when I reach out to them, but meanwhile I have to basically had to leave my sick grandmother’s bedside to meet 2 clients years ago. And one even had the nerve to say, “if you’re not here by 10, just cancel”. And this was after I drove from Fort Lauderdale to Tampa. What a fucking bitch of a client now that I look back. So rude. And @BenjaminNicholas is right. Some of that is due to just being a Black gay sex worker. They expect super-hero powers: hard dick, fast arrival, no deposit…because we’re all broke and scammers and need money, stereotypical speaking. And @Monarchy79and @pubic_assistance need to stop spreading that false propaganda making it seem like I’m the reason and fault for everything that I encounter. No, it’s not. I don’t give a fuck how much you don’t like it, don’t want to hear or don’t believe it. I will keep talking about it over, and over, and over, and over again until either one of you say: I understand. I emphasize. I see your point of view and realize it’s NOT YOU, it’s them. The reason why I’m posting all these messages, is to show that these things I talk about are reality, and nobody can gaslight that existence. Sometimes it’s just hard to say: There are some people, some gay men online, in this country: they’re cheap, they waste sex workers time, they don’t respect them. And they are a problem for our business. We need to discuss this and do something about it. Was that so hard?

Again: also only giving you 5 seconds to scan your post too because: your posts towards me are always nasty anyway. We’ve been there before… But you sound foolish because, I simply addressed a statement another provider asked about. #1 you were not being addressed by @BenjaminNicholas and #2 I did not inquire your input in that response either. Now, if you can’t handle a discussion that includes certain factors that contribute to certain behaviors: You can leave too. You are so motivated to say stuff to get me to try and run off. It’s not going to work with me, honey. We already settled long time ago: we will not see eye to eye on certain discussions. And that’s okay…But don’t keep coming around trying to project your opinion about me, where it’s not necessary.

Thanks much. No you weren’t insensitive, just giving your viewpoint. Especially compared to some of the other stuff I’ve had to respond to. At the moment I just sent out cancellation fee request to someone who said he wanted to book me for Thursday 1.5-2 hour session. Claims he never confirmed. Also has: 10 reports, only 2 positive. Then has the audacity to claim he’s been hiring 20 years and never paid a deposit. Why wouldn’t I? 🤦🏾‍♂️ Definitely, I was trying to use it in a way that implied “widespread occurrence” of something. Versus the actual medical definition. But you’re right, it is. With the particular person in the original post: he reached out the day prior, but he didn’t text me to request a time until the following day. He wanted to rush me to hurry up and figure out a time for him, but there was nothing signifying that I was expecting him to meet that day. That’s why I told him, I would return back to him an approximate time. Which I did, but he couldn’t even be patient enough for me to arrive. It’s just very frustrating dealing with so many of these type of people in my area. Like I’ve literally been home from tour for a week, and haven’t had one serious client book. Yet I’ve had 3 people who lied about wanting to book. I don’t even need to have anyone tell me what I need to do, go thru this shit all the time: I want to leave. Leave the state or leave the business. It’s depressing, and I’m not doing anything differently from when I meet reliable clients who don’t flake, don’t argue about deposits, and write nice reviews to my page. These other people don’t read ads, yet claim they been hiring for years. Well how have you been hiring for years, but fail to be able to read an ad? They tell me something they don’t want to do, that’s specifically mentioned FIRST LINE, in my ad. Do they just click my profile and go straight to my number, why would they think that’s a smart thing to do?

By the way: just imagine, what it would be like to have to reside in a market like that. Haven’t been to Montreal so can’t speak on it specifically…but imagine having to experience that all the time. It can do real damage to your biz and patience over time. And it’s easy to be gaslit into believing, you’re not cut out for the biz. I know you spent 3 days there, how far in advance did you post up before arriving? Sometimes it can take advertising for weeks to get the right bookings. That’s why sometimes it can be hard to explain to perspectives in other cities, I’m not there yet. I have to survey the crowd from a distance, before I just up and go someplace.

That’s what I’m hoping and praying on. I’ve also just happened to purchase two vehicles, both in October over the past few years: so that’s definitely a pattern of hope 🤞🏾

First and foremost: RentMen won’t allow that. They will shut that down, real quick. We can’t do photos of texts, or barely have texts in our photos unless it’s a light watermark with something of permission. Part of why I went thru the process of building a website, even something simple and not necessarily professionally built: is because I needed to get my message out there. These websites censor us so much. I almost can’t fault the clients too much because: the websites don’t explain much at all. I have to constantly tell clients: “YES MY AD IS APPEARING IN YOUR CITY BECAUSE I’M ADVERTISING IN ADVANCE OF MY ARRIVAL.” They think it’s as easy as: his ad is up, so he must be here today. Magically. That’s regardless whether I have dates or not. On my website, I can write paragraphs longer than the character count that’s allowed on the ads.

And that’s understandable. There’s some clients who I can genuinely understand having to cancel here and there when needed. I try to extend the same grace, as I may need when I have to cancel things, even unrelated to clients. I even allow one of my clients to fantasy text me, even though he hasn’t booked a session since 2020. But he’s hired me for so many overnights, that he’s on my “lifetime” standby status lol. I wish he’d just work up and re-book again some point. But I can pick up between genuine cancels, and just being passive aggressive. In the 2 cases I mentioned, those were clearly passive aggressive moves. One definitely had no basis to cancel, and the other: couldn’t have just found out at 6:30 in the morning that he couldn’t include my service with his bills. Plus, that’s too early in the morning to be waking me up with bad news. It’s sad because, I really did like that particular guy. He had a nice dick, nice ass, talented mouth, was a good host at his place…everything was fine. But he also took me thru a lot of cancel/book/cancel/cancel book patterns. Then came around with the new boyfriend story AFTER we had #1 just prior agreed on meeting every 2 weeks #2 going to a local resort in the state (and he should have been cut off long time ago, just for that). That goes beyond an understanding escort, to being subjected to emotional labor. I can’t be bothered with someone who lies, can’t keep their word, plays games with me, etc. People wonder why I feel strongly about this topic, but they don’t always know the full story. That’s why I post copy of messages. It’s not to be messy or expose the client or disclose privacy, but when you can actually anonymously see what’s going on: maybe there can be a better understanding.

I posted in San Antonio during Craigslist and m4rn time. It was better at that time. However, most visits were generally starting around $60-$150. At that price, one could stay busy. But when I tried to work up to longer bookings: it just wouldn’t be as busy. So San Antonio was one of my more challenging cities to live in: Though at least people showed up. If they couldn’t afford it, they would just say it. I was doing higher volume, but it got to be a bit much having ins/outs of my place all week. I prefer relaxed, planned ahead bookings. I took a lot of last minute stuff back then, and it just didn’t seem like there was much acceptance to higher rates. And Houston: went for the first time back in May, since 2010. I didn’t plan far enough ahead for a Memorial Day weekend, ended up disappointed. It was great to be in a big real city for a change, but it was just nothing happening on the lines. I gave it two days, and got outta there.

I quickly glanced at all what you wrote, in a 5 second time frame. Because that’s all you’re getting from me at this point. It’s nothing about owning the site or thread, it’s simply me informing you that you have the option to not post or read here if you don’t like it. This thread was not designed to address you, and if you’re not even the type of client I’m referring to: it shouldn’t even apply to you at all. So I don’t understand where your animosity is coming from. You’re inserting your opinion and annoyance where it’s not required. I appreciate wholeheartedly the advice you have given, however if you season it with criticism and abrasive tone: I don’t have to receive it. That’s my choice, just like it’s your choice to leave this particular thread. You can stay on the forum all you want. But what you’re not going to do, is keep coming for me after I told you, I’m not going to agree if you can’t talk to me respectfully ☝️ If you want to stay here and continue arguing, we can do that too. But, that’s contradictory to the message you’re trying to give to me. And I really don’t have time to do all that. I had the thread hidden for a day, to cool things down. Now you just bringing the heat back. At this point, I’m just not going to respond to you anymore. I’ve said what I had to say:

Typical Nordic model…

What days were that? And what makes it any less now than then? You’re not implying that racial discussions constitutes someone needing to feel disconnected, right? I 100% get that last part. I concur. And it also applies to the forum and I also. They can’t change if I feel a certain way about how I’m being treated by clients. Take for example this passive aggressive situation with a client the other day. Now mind you, last month he “bailed” on an appointment even after sending me a deposit, because I was expecting him at the hour he wanted to meet. But then he told me, “mid September” he would be available again. But now he’s singing a whole other tune: (mind you I wasn’t referring to another client’s appointment, it was just a service appointment that I could have easily rescheduled.) And I know I’m being more proactive than what’s typically expected escorts to do: but I try to be so, follow back up, agree to a time etc. But instead of just being upfront that he doesn’t want to do it, he strings me along, makes up excuses, etc. So clearly he’s not reliable so, I’ll take the advice and just stop engaging. And I’ll add another point: I can understand if I was working in a sales job that involved soliciting/cold calling new clients. In those situations, you have to really have a thick skin and patience, and that’s why I left “sales” jobs back in 2009 and never looked back. I even tried it again after a couple years break, and ended up quitting again within a couple months, and sticking with escorting. However, these guys are contacting and initiating with me. In both situations including the original post where I put the guy on blast: they contacted me first. I was minding my own business not expecting a penny of their money, until they started harassing me and then flaking out. THAT is why I got mad and THAT is why I put them both on blast. At this point, the only welcome that’s being worn out: is yours in this thread. So you can go ahead and escort yourself out. And while the discussion of therapy is being thrown around: let me share some tips with you: you don’t have to insert yourself here if you don’t like the topic. I didn’t invite you to respond, if it’s not something you want to do. I never quoted your name or messaged you to respond. I don’t even know who you are, why are you even discussing what I’ve been doing for years? It shouldn’t even matter. Focus on controlling what you can control, which is not coming here trying to disparage me…and that’s one less argument you have to hear about. It’ll benefit you AND me. And that goes for anybody. It’s a million other threads to respond and read. You don’t have to throw shade on my discussion, which is doing ABSOLUTELY NOTHING to better the situation and only serving to ignore and minimize the issue. So please, leave. It’s nothing else to talk about ☮️ ✌

I thought it had a particular reference to hiring male providers, but it doesn’t say. Also when it say “on going investigation”, it almost sound like something may have happened or been going on in the area to initiate that.

The other thing too: right now is just a challenging time to be starting into the biz. Even though nobody talks about it much here, there’s other forums out there where sex workers have been lamenting almost daily about how slow it’s been. Idk about Canadian economy but, down here it’s a jungle. Despite everyone still seemingly doing well out in public: the sex work and other niche industries aren’t. I just had a friend in San Diego send me this (but at least it’s only 10 cents extra for premium. In some places, it’s more like 50 to even $1.00 extra) And then, all my favorite businesses are charging more for their stuff, yet certain clients be trying to get me to work for less. Or, not a dollar more. Like WTF is that? It’s a slap in the face. Companies are taking more of what I earn from clients, yet sex workers are expected to be okay to see clients for less money, all the while having fewer clients. Make it make sense 🤷🏾‍♂️ On top of that, you have an influx of new and traveling sex workers in markets that don’t even be paying that well in the first place. Just like I said before about Kansas City/St. Louis: lots of providers, few actually paying. The only reason I stay advertising is because, I’m already established. I can still get the bookings, and ask what I like because I have the reviews and profile to command it. I also do genuinely enjoy the work. Just not so much the shoplifters. At the same time, soon as I get a full time place: I’m definitely looking at some other opportunities…

Patience grasshopper… 2 months is hardly long of a time. I probably waited 2 years before seeing my first review, and for awhile even after it still took some time. probably better to keep your profile and just update it, versus getting a new one. You want to stay consistent. Also try to feel the person out, before asking for a review. The last minute wham bam, thankyou sir, might not be into reviews. But someone you planned ahead with may be moreso. I also don’t ask for it in person, as I don’t want to corner anyone. Better to let it seem “suggested” but highly appreciated.

Good grief, that’s got to be annoying for sure. I’m pretty much contending with the same thing, in my area. The flakes ❄️ seem to come in 3s when you need them the least 🤦🏾‍♂️ Never been to Canada “officially”, but I have heard Montreal is more French and Toronto more “New Yorkish” I guess? That said, clients ask me often what’s my best and worst cities. I always reply: there are non. A City that was great and fully booked on 1 trip, can be dead on the next trip. However I can say: there are some cities I just can’t stand, because the inquiries are usually unreliable or just as you mentioned. For example, in my home market I often have to deal with shit like this: no matter how professional and consistent to following up with them, they always have an excuse. One person even sent me a deposit last month, but we never got to meet because he was too limited on time. Yet he’s been contacting me for MONTHS trying to plan a booking, but always flakes off. It’s the same thing I was discussing in my “epidemic” thread. I’m trying to take the advice of my fellows and just ignore them, when they come with the non sense. And then people want to talk about someone needing therapy. No. what we need is more people willing to stand up and hit the picket 🪧 lines like all these other industries are doing, and demand better. No need to ostracize your fellow worker in another city, who may be dealing with a rough patch.

Update: decided to request a change to this thread because I didn’t want it to just be passed off as another rant/complaint. When I think about it, it is an actual epidemic within the industry. There shouldn’t be this expectation that, a provider’s time is less important to that of a client: and trying to speak and think for a provider should not be considered acceptable. Hopefully we can all leave off on a positive note, with a better understanding of the message 📝

Well, this is exactly what I had pushed and projected would be the case, And part of that “strike” I had proposed not long ago. Providers are tired of guys looking at pics and not booking. And providers are also tired of these incessant spam texts day in/day out talking about painting a mural of us, offering a text buddy, a sugar daddy: just about everything besides actually putting money into our hands or accounts. So Hollywood is off strike, but we’re on it…Not necessarily verbatim in the same way, but the “strike” is moreso a demand from the customers to either start paying up, and stop playing around: or less free jerk material. And it’s also: until RentMen gives the option to get paid for private pics, don’t expect everyone to want to unlock for free… It’s funny how RentMasseur doesn’t allow any public nude pics, yet it seems just about every person who contacts me by phone: is from RentMasseur. On RentMen, they private message in droves, but the turnover to text that I request, most don’t do it.

Funnily enough, I usually debate whether to turn my phone on or off for Black Friday. I wonder why 🤔

And I have done certain things to make solutions accordingly. But to insinuate a set of solutions is immediately attainable per one’s circumstances, is a bit assumptive. Just like the article above I stated: change the pity to empathy. But if that’s how you feel, then that’s on you. You don’t have to understand, you already said you could never be an escort and prefer to stick with massage. That’s great. But I don’t think that could be used as a “solution” on a site that’s called “company of men”. So if you’re going to get snappy and start being condescending towards me, you can leave too. Here’s the door 🚪 and please don’t wish me best of luck if you don’t really mean it. The whole point of this thread is addressing passive aggressiveness, and you’re epitomizing that by leaving off with that, after you just insulted me. Don’t ✋🏾

There is no, “charge his account” button on cash app. The only way to wipe any account, is to add cash to your own cash app from your bank account. I try to imply this with clients who use apps or my site. Also: there’s many “text buddy” and “sugar daddy” scammers who contact me by text daily, even multiple times daily. This is another reason I have to regularly remove my phone number from my RentMen ad, and hope clients click my website or send me a messenger which delivers my auto-reply. I recently came up with a clever line in my ad, to further let people know: you can trust me: Meet one of RentMen’s longest 🍌 running advertiser, since 2009! So when someone says something equally clever like: “I’m not going to send money to a stranger”, I’ll know what to do 🚪 ☎️

Thanks for the tips. I appreciate what you’re saying but, I can’t only hear one person’s side and then expect it to speak for each particular situation. I also still say: there’s no getting defensive, but rather I’m answering the questions and comments that are being given. If someone misinterprets something I say, or do: I have the option to address and/or give my take on that. That’s why it’s a forum, unless I just post a topic and run off and never respond to anyone. Which some do. But I’m also not going to just sit back and say: “you’re right you’re right” to everyone. Not that a person is “wrong”, but maybe misinterpreted. Just like I mentioned about the therapy statement that you said: I have friends who have gone to therapists, but fact is: people are going to be who they are regardless. That’s the thing that you, and a few others just need to accept. You’re not necessarily going to change my reaction or perspective about a particular client. I have my way of dealing with them, to ensure I make it clear: it’s over and done with. Don’t come back around next year or the year after and think it’s going to be all good. As for the rest: I agree with what I need to do. I do plan to move, in fact I have a client who owns rentals in a neighboring state: and last we met we discussed my desire to leave this area. I got in contact with him yesterday, and hopefully the ball can get rolling. But even if it doesn’t, I’m still looking. The other thing is: telling me to move without giving me the means to do it, doesn’t help either. I know I need to move. Yes, I hate my home market. I have never traveled more in my life, than I have since I moved here. I mostly never fully unpack my bags because I already have another trip coming up. The days I try to stay here, all I do is deal with timewasters, people who make fake appointments, last minute appointments that I can rarely accommodate: it’s a racket. And all that traveling makes it hard to save money. It’s really been a merry go round to an extent. Normally I would be able to use proceeds from travel to save and make a move: But RentMen, RentMasseur and Adam4Adam are SLOW ever since the political climate has become toxic. Take for example this real text from a former client (and he’s far from broke; Edited for privacy and censorship obviously): So where am I going to get the money to pack up, uhaul, put a down payment, transfer vehicles, and do ALL of that: when you see right here: I lost $400 between 2 clients, in one DAY. One guy agreed to pay my regular rate $250, the other wanted just my basic $150 rate. And both cancelled on me Sunday. Neither was my fault in any way. I don’t care how people make it seem like the guy didn’t have an exact time, etc etc. He knew what he was doing, being a liar. Now, that’s $400 I don’t have to relocate with. So now: if I’m supposed to move in 30-60 days, where am I going to get that money? That’s what I’m saying: you’re telling me everything that worked for you: that’s great. It worked for me too, I wasn’t always in this position. I been sex working since 2009. I’ve had several apartments, in different cities. I even had a condo for 5 years in Denver. I paid so much for it, I could have practically brought it. But it wasn’t for sale and then, goodbye Rentboy and hello rent prices skyrocking. And guess where that left me? Figure that one out… Don’t look at me now like I’m struggling and have nothing going on, or don’t know how to manage my life. That’s not the USUAL routine. That’s only the current moment, and that’s because of having to work in a market that literally hates sex workers. Like yes: In Kansas City these people literally HATE SEX WORKERS. I hear it all the time from friends, men on hookup apps in the area. They talk about us derogatory, they’re interested until any mention of payment is brought up, the “potential” clients are just the worse inconsiderate types I’ve encountered. It’s easily the worst place I ever marketed in my life (albeit almost a tie with Nashville which however used to be quite decent for me during the time I lived there). But they were also hit with the rental crisis and influx of escorts. And that’s the thing: even under performing markets like Kansas City are filled to excess with escorts, so everybody is all trying to reach the same decent clients who are here. Or, the only ones doing good happen to be the guys lucky enough to marry an older well off White guy (which is very common I see in this area). Many minorities in this part of the Midwest partner up or marry much older White guys with money, and do their BEST to keep other Black men away from them, unless it’s like their trusted trusted guys from high school: even if they are 30 and 40 years old. I’m just over it. I talked to my therapist so many times, that there was nothing else to talk about. Only suggestion he made that was similar, was consider looking for other sources, and worked with me to find things I would like: but But I’ve also had jobs PRIOR to being an escort, and they had not much promise than some of these flaky clients have. Many companies hire an influx of semi-qualified candidates, then use them for a few months/couple years, only to drop them once their busy season is over. Which is okay if that’s what you’re looking for but: that’s a lot of commitment to something that’s temporary. Many jobs want your whole life, each and every day: but don’t want you to depend on them “too much”. Because: it’s “at will”. I have an idea and suggestion right now: how about we raise some money TONIGHT to help me relocate, so I can stop dealing with what I am dealing with. Then I can stop talking about it here 🙂 In the meantime, I’m thinking about removing all of my nudes on RentMen, and making them only available for rent on my website. That way I can have an extra source of income, versus relying on in person visits only. Just put my nudes on sale. If people want to start donating $100, $500, $1,000 to my cash app: it can be used to help me fund a move. Because at this point, with the shit I’ve been dealing with: I don’t have the means to move. Like I said, I’m hoping a client of mine who owns some rentals, can come up with something. If so, I might be moving to Arkansas ✌ I’m tired of over saturated, cesspool markets where there’s nothing but flakes and unreliable.Then you have 20 escorts being contacted all at once by the same flakes at the same time ✋🏾

Interesting read. At the same time: I should have better prepared for the typical nonsense that often arises when I have re-market back in my home base area. I should have known better than to make a rookie mistake like I did, but I’m looking forward from here. And the only reason I even took that route that I did, by posting: is because this person descended from being a potential client to: okay this guy is just fucking with me, and it shows from TWO prior messages that he either can’t make up his mind, or is very inconsiderate. I don’t get bent out of shape about clients looking at my profile and not booking, or asking reasonable questions with intention to book. But I draw the line at those who know better: they didn’t do it once, or twice. For every person who says I’m not this or that or need to do this or that with my life: apply that to every person who does the things I mention above. It’s funny how people always want to say what I need to do, but never make an honest assembly about those who instigate the situation: need to do. And in my case, I’m usually trucking along just fine minding my business…doing what I need to do and focusing on good clients: then some bozo clown (not referring to bozoTclown here) wants to come around and be childish. I don’t have time for that. And I definitely don’t have time to be reading texts at 6 fucking 30 in the morning, talking about he need to cancel a booking because he doesn’t want to part with the money.

Well you’ve just included DOZENS of other providers, many who on this board who are over 30, 40, even 50 and 60 and are still in the biz. I definitely don’t “feel” old, I don’t look old, I’m still bagging 20 year olds and have clients who are in college even. So, you really need to lay-off that mentality. 36 is not “old” and if anything, it levels out the playing field because, as a Top; many clients want an older nature guy, they don’t want to get fucked by someone barely out of high school (hopefully, I mean…I would think). The escort shelf life for Tops is likely a bit longer, I can be 70 years old, and still be escorting as a top and I guarantee I would still have some young guys wanting me. I know for a fact because: I just had a (real and in person) client tell me this the other week. He’s 75 and has young guys hitting him up all the time. And I appreciate the career advice but, reserve that for someone who’s asks for it: please.