AceHardware

NOVEMBER 1973

He actually had 20+ positive reviews on RM (I used a VPN so I saw some of the positive comments alongside the ratings), though I did read some mixed reviews on here. It might have been an error in judgment on my part to proceed, but I thought that it's impossible for anyone to have 100% perfect reviews, so the occasional mixed review, balanced with the 20+ positive ones on RM, makes sense. But perhaps the RM reviews could be fake?
And thank you! Now that I had my first experience hiring a provider, I do know now what I want or find enjoyment out of and not just the actual sex, even though that's fun too.
I'm wondering how I could screen for guys who enjoy giving pleasure and being with a variety of men. Are there certain keywords that providers would use on their profile, or something I could ask?
Thank you so much for sharing your perspective! I'd have liked to be made to feel special haha. But you're right, an hour is probably not enough, though I couldn't afford more than that at the moment.
Interestingly, I've heard that the fantasy leading up to the actual event is often hotter than the deed, but I guess it's often luck of the draw on the actual experience we'd get.
And thanks for the kind words. I'm actually in NYC as well.  I guess I can't force chemistry, but thanks for the tip about slowing things down for a few minutes to get to know each other a little. I'll keep that in mind.
Thank you for the kind sentiments! I wasn't planning on hiring frequently, maybe just once or twice a year, so I guess I was expecting too much as a newbie. This is a learning experience nonetheless!
The provider was in his late 20s, but I'll see if I can find someone else a little older in the future who would be more experienced.
I actually did ask him before meeting up if he would be into getting facefucked, and he said yes. But perhaps that had set the tone of having the entire session as sex-focused and nothing else.
Now that I know what I'm looking for, or what I think would be an enjoyable experience for me, I'll make it clearer in the future.

Not a provider either.  It sounds like you had a hire who didn't engage with you well for whatever reason.  It happens, unfortunately, and it's best to just look for better prospects down the road for next time.  Using this forum and the reviews on RM can help find guys who'd be a better fit.  
You also mentioned you realized, a bit after the fact, that you really wanted a more intimate time than a purely sexual session.  Going forward you can look for guys who advertise they give intimate or boyfriend experience sessions.  You don't have to script out the entire hour, but you can tell them you are looking for someone into kissing and cuddling before or after the sex and they be able to accomodate.
Also, there are a lot of guys who are open about race and enjoy being with Asian top men, but unfortunately there are going to be some who aren't.  One thing you can do is look a the usernames of the RM reviewers, since there are often some that imply they are Asian clients.  If they give a positive review, it's a good hint the provider will work well with you. You can even send them a message to ask about their experience with the provider, and some will respond.

Not a provider, but as usual, i have an opinion!  I am sorry you had a mediocre experience. It is always disappointing when you picture a meeting in your mind and then the actual experience does not come close to measuring up.  
There are plenty of men who enjoy the company of Asian men - I happen to be one of them. This forum has been super useful in helping identify the companions that are compatible with my desires - I am also lucky to live in NYC. Hiring the right companion is key to a good experience.  Sometimes the chemistry just isn't there - but when it is... wowza! Hang in there - do get back on the horse!!
Usually, when the companion aims straight for the main course and don't seem like he is willing to sit down for a few minutes to get to know each other, I just know the experience will be sub par and try to slow things down. Offer him a drink. Ask him how his week is going. Try to slow things down just a little bit. See if that helps. 

That’s a really sorry story. I think you probably chose the wrong provider. A better guy would have slowed things down and made you feel more special during the sex. Also if you book an hour it kind of implies you want a session where you get down to it faster, which is what he seems to have provided? 
I’d not assume that because he didn’t get hard while you fucked him that he wasn’t into you. If I bottom for a client I always get hard but I know that lots of guys can’t stay hard when they get fucked. 
I think next time if you want a better experience that’s less rushed then take time to find a guy that is more professional (look for experience, recommendations, has he a website?, is he busy?). Also if you can afford it book a longer session. 

I recently hired someone for the first time, and I left feeling a little disappointed.
I had mentioned to him via chat that I wanted to explore face fucking him, and topping him after. In retrospect, I guess I didn’t know what I want and wanted more of the boyfriend experience that eventually leads to sex.
We started off the session almost immediately with sex. What ended up happening was him simply lying in bed while I did the majority of the work. I kissed him, but his kisses were not passionate. I sucked him off, but he was soft the entire time. Eventually I lost my hard-on when I realized (at least in my view at the time) that he probably wasn’t attracted to me, based on how foreplay went, but the least he could do was pretend to be interested.
The sex ended in 30 minutes after I came, and he then immediately got up to use the bathroom and wear his underwear. I would’ve liked to stay in the bedroom and do some post-coital chats and cuddles, but instead, we ended up in his living room not cuddling, and sat side by side talking. He had made indirect hints as if the session was over, but I told him I’d like to chat since there was still 30 minutes left.
That chat was nice! I felt like I enjoyed the chat more as it was more intimate than the sex. And I guess what I desired was also intimacy.
I just needed to get this off my chest. I know he can’t read my mind, but I wish that he could’ve guessed or even asked what I like. Should I have planned out the whole hour in a detailed fashion? I had wanted it to be a little more organic.
That feeling or perception from me that he didn’t find me attractive didn’t make me feel very good, judging by how soft he was during the entire half an hour of sex. Is that normal for a provider that bottoms? I’d have liked him to cum.
I’m just wondering how I could ensure I’ll have a better experience next time if I were to hire someone again. Would you have any tips for me?
If it matters at all, I’m Asian. I’ve read studies and heard that Asian men aren’t typically desired in Western countries, and that probably contributes to the occasional hit in self-esteem.

The green background is oddly distracting, but I like the trade look.

Sadly Tyler Roberts has passed away.
https://www.queermenow.net/blog/tyler-roberts-death-gay-porn-star/

I’m also a NordVPN customer; it solves many problems related to living in Europe but helping elderly parent in Phoenix for various deliveries (Fry's, Walmart, CVS, ...) and appointments.   I've not noticed any performance degradation when it's running.    
It's really easy to use - when I need my browser to behave as if I was in Phoenix - I open the VPN app, choose Phoenix server... and that's it... everything behaves like I'm in Phoenix.   When done I disconnect in the app (and then close it), and everything goes back to normal (whatever normal is). 

I use NordVPN, and it doesn't slow anything down.

Time to just move on as sounds like the address was wrong on the envelope But for me if a provider set aside time to see me and I am the one that is not comfortable and chose to end the session even before it started I thrust the money in his hand at the door and say this won’t work for me and leave. Just saying 

I downloaded Mr Number after reading this thread too. After entering a lot of numbers I did find a few with comments, so they are there. Try searching for some of the more popular or controversial providers discussed on these forums. From some internet searches, I think the comments feature on the app is used more by female providers commenting on male clients. 

Greetings from Paris. I’m taking a week off to get away for awhile.

You can ignore a user from your account settings.  A direct link to that area is:
https://www.companyofmen.org/ignore/

You can choose what type of content you want to ignore from a user. 

I use NordVPN, and it doesn't slow anything down.

The typical vitriol normally contained in the politics forum is spilling into the discourse in the other forums since it’s closure. It’s 1 or 2 posters that have invaded otherwise civil discourse.  @RadioRob, is there a post explaining how to ignore? 

I’m discovering why the ignore feature was created. 

I use ExpressVPN and think it's a good part of "online hygiene," together with a firewall, virus blocker, popup blocker, etc.  It doesn't impact my throughput in any noticeable way, although it's lately messing with my torrent client, so that's a problem to be resolved. Be sure you choose one of the big ones with plenty of transmission points, check cnet.com or pcmag.com for informed comparisons.  Occasionally I have to turn it off to do a bank transaction or whatever because they validate my ISP, but that's easy.