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PART 2 OF 2
(Again, if this is considered "off-topic," kindly inform me and I'll delete it.)
PRESENTATION:
In addition to analyzing reviews, I always analyze a provider's ad in its entirety.
I begin by zooming in to their photos and analyzing the details. If they have an interview, I read it. If they have social media, I analyze that too. The entire time I'm doing this, I'm judging them. Are they here because they want to be here? How intelligent are they? Do they have health and hygiene standards? Do they have boundaries? How much effort have they put into all of this? Do they appear to have at least basic morals/values?
— — — — —
COMMUNICATION:
Now that you've completed your research, it's time to initiate contact. First, let's put ourselves in their shoes.
Many providers, myself included, receive hundreds of spam messages per day. Bots, trolls, flakes, harassers, stalkers, con artists, LEOs attempting to entrap them, other providers “booking them up” so they won’t have any availability… They have to deal with just as much, if not considerably more, nonsense as you do.
If you want a non-desperate provider to respect you, then you have to respect them too. If you treat them like merchandise, they're going to treat you like an ATM. 
- - - - -
Rather than:
hey/hi/sup/how are you/you available
–or–
How much do you charge for [insert any sex act here]?
Try something along the lines of:
Hi there. My name's [insert name/alias]. I found your number on RM.
I enjoy [insert preferences/activities here].
I found your profile intriguing, so I figured I'd reach out. If you'd like to connect, I'd be more than happy to gift you a donation for your time. Just let me know how much you'd like for X hour(s)/day(s), and we'll go from there. Thanks.
— — — — —
CLOSING:
There'll always be risk in this industry—for both of us. Clients will lose money and providers will lose time. Some will lose both. All we can do is figure out where our limits are, do our research and treat people how we want to be treated.
If the majority behaves professionally and respectfully, regardless of how others behave, it'll become the new standard.
I'm hungry and lost my train of thought. Happy 4th, everyone!
 

PART 1 of 2
Some of my patrons regularly entrust me with procuring additional talent. Here's my two cents.
If I'm violating any rules, please inform me and I'll simply delete this. I don't wish to hi-jack the conversation.
— — — — —
REVIEWS:
For those of you who aren't aware, you can view the reviewers' profiles. Simply click on their usernames. You may have to do some scrolling to find it, but every profile on RM publicly lists the date that it was created. Make judgements accordingly.
Clients can choose to display some, all or none of the reviews that they've given on their profiles.
Some clients are comfortable discussing explicit details with others, most aren't. Remember—the members of this forum constitute a fraction of the overall market. Most of my clients weren't even aware of its existence, until I shared it with them.
Occasionally, reviewers will leave comments to the webmaster, when submitting a review. In sex-worker-friendly countries, those comments are published. In non-sex-worker-friendly countries, those comments are hidden. To read those comments, log in to a VPN and connect to the Netherlands or any other sex-worker-friendly country. I use ProtonVPN, but there's dozens to choose from.
- - - - -
A client may review a provider only for in-person meetings and pre-paid services. Reviews given for any other reason are subject to removal.
When submitting a negative review, it's imperative that you remain concise and objective. Do not direct your frustrations towards the webmaster, or bombard them with a novel. If the client is emotional and irrational and the provider is calm and collected, the webmaster will be inclined to side with the provider.
If you have relevant photos, screenshots and/or documents, send them to the webmaster via RM Messenger after submitting your review.

If I couldn't follow through, I'd refund their money. I know this is difficult for some of you to believe, but not all providers are comfortable with being labeled as thieves.

PART 2 OF 2
(Again, if this is considered "off-topic," kindly inform me and I'll delete it.)
PRESENTATION:
In addition to analyzing reviews, I always analyze a provider's ad in its entirety.
I begin by zooming in to their photos and analyzing the details. If they have an interview, I read it. If they have social media, I analyze that too. The entire time I'm doing this, I'm judging them. Are they here because they want to be here? How intelligent are they? Do they have health and hygiene standards? Do they have boundaries? How much effort have they put into all of this? Do they appear to have at least basic morals/values?
— — — — —
COMMUNICATION:
Now that you've completed your research, it's time to initiate contact. First, let's put ourselves in their shoes.
Many providers, myself included, receive hundreds of spam messages per day. Bots, trolls, flakes, harassers, stalkers, con artists, LEOs attempting to entrap them, other providers “booking them up” so they won’t have any availability… They have to deal with just as much, if not considerably more, nonsense as you do.
If you want a non-desperate provider to respect you, then you have to respect them too. If you treat them like merchandise, they're going to treat you like an ATM. 
- - - - -
Rather than:
hey/hi/sup/how are you/you available
–or–
How much do you charge for [insert any sex act here]?
Try something along the lines of:
Hi there. My name's [insert name/alias]. I found your number on RM.
I enjoy [insert preferences/activities here].
I found your profile intriguing, so I figured I'd reach out. If you'd like to connect, I'd be more than happy to gift you a donation for your time. Just let me know how much you'd like for X hour(s)/day(s), and we'll go from there. Thanks.
— — — — —
CLOSING:
There'll always be risk in this industry—for both of us. Clients will lose money and providers will lose time. Some will lose both. All we can do is figure out where our limits are, do our research and treat people how we want to be treated.
If the majority behaves professionally and respectfully, regardless of how others behave, it'll become the new standard.
I'm hungry and lost my train of thought. Happy 4th, everyone!
 

There are prepaid cards you can get anywhere .
I find those useful when dealing with (ahem) certain sites.

If you can’t afford RM, I don’t see how you can afford escorts.  Like it or not, this hobby is not for everyone.

My feeling is that if I reach out in the manner that Liam outlined, a providers response is very indicative. If they answer my questions, and ask their own, we're on. If I get "sup", then it's not going anywhere. 

This is almost exactly what my initial texts to a provide are like. I'm a little less explicit and I'm also scanning to see if the provider is open to working with a couple, and has experience doing so. 

PART 2 OF 2
(Again, if this is considered "off-topic," kindly inform me and I'll delete it.)
PRESENTATION:
In addition to analyzing reviews, I always analyze a provider's ad in its entirety.
I begin by zooming in to their photos and analyzing the details. If they have an interview, I read it. If they have social media, I analyze that too. The entire time I'm doing this, I'm judging them. Are they here because they want to be here? How intelligent are they? Do they have health and hygiene standards? Do they have boundaries? How much effort have they put into all of this? Do they appear to have at least basic morals/values?
— — — — —
COMMUNICATION:
Now that you've completed your research, it's time to initiate contact. First, let's put ourselves in their shoes.
Many providers, myself included, receive hundreds of spam messages per day. Bots, trolls, flakes, harassers, stalkers, con artists, LEOs attempting to entrap them, other providers “booking them up” so they won’t have any availability… They have to deal with just as much, if not considerably more, nonsense as you do.
If you want a non-desperate provider to respect you, then you have to respect them too. If you treat them like merchandise, they're going to treat you like an ATM. 
- - - - -
Rather than:
hey/hi/sup/how are you/you available
–or–
How much do you charge for [insert any sex act here]?
Try something along the lines of:
Hi there. My name's [insert name/alias]. I found your number on RM.
I enjoy [insert preferences/activities here].
I found your profile intriguing, so I figured I'd reach out. If you'd like to connect, I'd be more than happy to gift you a donation for your time. Just let me know how much you'd like for X hour(s)/day(s), and we'll go from there. Thanks.
— — — — —
CLOSING:
There'll always be risk in this industry—for both of us. Clients will lose money and providers will lose time. Some will lose both. All we can do is figure out where our limits are, do our research and treat people how we want to be treated.
If the majority behaves professionally and respectfully, regardless of how others behave, it'll become the new standard.
I'm hungry and lost my train of thought. Happy 4th, everyone!
 

PART 2 OF 2
(Again, if this is considered "off-topic," kindly inform me and I'll delete it.)
PRESENTATION:
In addition to analyzing reviews, I always analyze a provider's ad in its entirety.
I begin by zooming in to their photos and analyzing the details. If they have an interview, I read it. If they have social media, I analyze that too. The entire time I'm doing this, I'm judging them. Are they here because they want to be here? How intelligent are they? Do they have health and hygiene standards? Do they have boundaries? How much effort have they put into all of this? Do they appear to have at least basic morals/values?
— — — — —
COMMUNICATION:
Now that you've completed your research, it's time to initiate contact. First, let's put ourselves in their shoes.
Many providers, myself included, receive hundreds of spam messages per day. Bots, trolls, flakes, harassers, stalkers, con artists, LEOs attempting to entrap them, other providers “booking them up” so they won’t have any availability… They have to deal with just as much, if not considerably more, nonsense as you do.
If you want a non-desperate provider to respect you, then you have to respect them too. If you treat them like merchandise, they're going to treat you like an ATM. 
- - - - -
Rather than:
hey/hi/sup/how are you/you available
–or–
How much do you charge for [insert any sex act here]?
Try something along the lines of:
Hi there. My name's [insert name/alias]. I found your number on RM.
I enjoy [insert preferences/activities here].
I found your profile intriguing, so I figured I'd reach out. If you'd like to connect, I'd be more than happy to gift you a donation for your time. Just let me know how much you'd like for X hour(s)/day(s), and we'll go from there. Thanks.
— — — — —
CLOSING:
There'll always be risk in this industry—for both of us. Clients will lose money and providers will lose time. Some will lose both. All we can do is figure out where our limits are, do our research and treat people how we want to be treated.
If the majority behaves professionally and respectfully, regardless of how others behave, it'll become the new standard.
I'm hungry and lost my train of thought. Happy 4th, everyone!
 

PART 1 of 2
Some of my patrons regularly entrust me with procuring additional talent. Here's my two cents.
If I'm violating any rules, please inform me and I'll simply delete this. I don't wish to hi-jack the conversation.
— — — — —
REVIEWS:
For those of you who aren't aware, you can view the reviewers' profiles. Simply click on their usernames. You may have to do some scrolling to find it, but every profile on RM publicly lists the date that it was created. Make judgements accordingly.
Clients can choose to display some, all or none of the reviews that they've given on their profiles.
Some clients are comfortable discussing explicit details with others, most aren't. Remember—the members of this forum constitute a fraction of the overall market. Most of my clients weren't even aware of its existence, until I shared it with them.
Occasionally, reviewers will leave comments to the webmaster, when submitting a review. In sex-worker-friendly countries, those comments are published. In non-sex-worker-friendly countries, those comments are hidden. To read those comments, log in to a VPN and connect to the Netherlands or any other sex-worker-friendly country. I use ProtonVPN, but there's dozens to choose from.
- - - - -
A client may review a provider only for in-person meetings and pre-paid services. Reviews given for any other reason are subject to removal.
When submitting a negative review, it's imperative that you remain concise and objective. Do not direct your frustrations towards the webmaster, or bombard them with a novel. If the client is emotional and irrational and the provider is calm and collected, the webmaster will be inclined to side with the provider.
If you have relevant photos, screenshots and/or documents, send them to the webmaster via RM Messenger after submitting your review.

PART 2 OF 2
(Again, if this is considered "off-topic," kindly inform me and I'll delete it.)
PRESENTATION:
In addition to analyzing reviews, I always analyze a provider's ad in its entirety.
I begin by zooming in to their photos and analyzing the details. If they have an interview, I read it. If they have social media, I analyze that too. The entire time I'm doing this, I'm judging them. Are they here because they want to be here? How intelligent are they? Do they have health and hygiene standards? Do they have boundaries? How much effort have they put into all of this? Do they appear to have at least basic morals/values?
— — — — —
COMMUNICATION:
Now that you've completed your research, it's time to initiate contact. First, let's put ourselves in their shoes.
Many providers, myself included, receive hundreds of spam messages per day. Bots, trolls, flakes, harassers, stalkers, con artists, LEOs attempting to entrap them, other providers “booking them up” so they won’t have any availability… They have to deal with just as much, if not considerably more, nonsense as you do.
If you want a non-desperate provider to respect you, then you have to respect them too. If you treat them like merchandise, they're going to treat you like an ATM. 
- - - - -
Rather than:
hey/hi/sup/how are you/you available
–or–
How much do you charge for [insert any sex act here]?
Try something along the lines of:
Hi there. My name's [insert name/alias]. I found your number on RM.
I enjoy [insert preferences/activities here].
I found your profile intriguing, so I figured I'd reach out. If you'd like to connect, I'd be more than happy to gift you a donation for your time. Just let me know how much you'd like for X hour(s)/day(s), and we'll go from there. Thanks.
— — — — —
CLOSING:
There'll always be risk in this industry—for both of us. Clients will lose money and providers will lose time. Some will lose both. All we can do is figure out where our limits are, do our research and treat people how we want to be treated.
If the majority behaves professionally and respectfully, regardless of how others behave, it'll become the new standard.
I'm hungry and lost my train of thought. Happy 4th, everyone!
 

PART 1 of 2
Some of my patrons regularly entrust me with procuring additional talent. Here's my two cents.
If I'm violating any rules, please inform me and I'll simply delete this. I don't wish to hi-jack the conversation.
— — — — —
REVIEWS:
For those of you who aren't aware, you can view the reviewers' profiles. Simply click on their usernames. You may have to do some scrolling to find it, but every profile on RM publicly lists the date that it was created. Make judgements accordingly.
Clients can choose to display some, all or none of the reviews that they've given on their profiles.
Some clients are comfortable discussing explicit details with others, most aren't. Remember—the members of this forum constitute a fraction of the overall market. Most of my clients weren't even aware of its existence, until I shared it with them.
Occasionally, reviewers will leave comments to the webmaster, when submitting a review. In sex-worker-friendly countries, those comments are published. In non-sex-worker-friendly countries, those comments are hidden. To read those comments, log in to a VPN and connect to the Netherlands or any other sex-worker-friendly country. I use ProtonVPN, but there's dozens to choose from.
- - - - -
A client may review a provider only for in-person meetings and pre-paid services. Reviews given for any other reason are subject to removal.
When submitting a negative review, it's imperative that you remain concise and objective. Do not direct your frustrations towards the webmaster, or bombard them with a novel. If the client is emotional and irrational and the provider is calm and collected, the webmaster will be inclined to side with the provider.
If you have relevant photos, screenshots and/or documents, send them to the webmaster via RM Messenger after submitting your review.

PART 2 OF 2
(Again, if this is considered "off-topic," kindly inform me and I'll delete it.)
PRESENTATION:
In addition to analyzing reviews, I always analyze a provider's ad in its entirety.
I begin by zooming in to their photos and analyzing the details. If they have an interview, I read it. If they have social media, I analyze that too. The entire time I'm doing this, I'm judging them. Are they here because they want to be here? How intelligent are they? Do they have health and hygiene standards? Do they have boundaries? How much effort have they put into all of this? Do they appear to have at least basic morals/values?
— — — — —
COMMUNICATION:
Now that you've completed your research, it's time to initiate contact. First, let's put ourselves in their shoes.
Many providers, myself included, receive hundreds of spam messages per day. Bots, trolls, flakes, harassers, stalkers, con artists, LEOs attempting to entrap them, other providers “booking them up” so they won’t have any availability… They have to deal with just as much, if not considerably more, nonsense as you do.
If you want a non-desperate provider to respect you, then you have to respect them too. If you treat them like merchandise, they're going to treat you like an ATM. 
- - - - -
Rather than:
hey/hi/sup/how are you/you available
–or–
How much do you charge for [insert any sex act here]?
Try something along the lines of:
Hi there. My name's [insert name/alias]. I found your number on RM.
I enjoy [insert preferences/activities here].
I found your profile intriguing, so I figured I'd reach out. If you'd like to connect, I'd be more than happy to gift you a donation for your time. Just let me know how much you'd like for X hour(s)/day(s), and we'll go from there. Thanks.
— — — — —
CLOSING:
There'll always be risk in this industry—for both of us. Clients will lose money and providers will lose time. Some will lose both. All we can do is figure out where our limits are, do our research and treat people how we want to be treated.
If the majority behaves professionally and respectfully, regardless of how others behave, it'll become the new standard.
I'm hungry and lost my train of thought. Happy 4th, everyone!
 

PART 2 OF 2
(Again, if this is considered "off-topic," kindly inform me and I'll delete it.)
PRESENTATION:
In addition to analyzing reviews, I always analyze a provider's ad in its entirety.
I begin by zooming in to their photos and analyzing the details. If they have an interview, I read it. If they have social media, I analyze that too. The entire time I'm doing this, I'm judging them. Are they here because they want to be here? How intelligent are they? Do they have health and hygiene standards? Do they have boundaries? How much effort have they put into all of this? Do they appear to have at least basic morals/values?
— — — — —
COMMUNICATION:
Now that you've completed your research, it's time to initiate contact. First, let's put ourselves in their shoes.
Many providers, myself included, receive hundreds of spam messages per day. Bots, trolls, flakes, harassers, stalkers, con artists, LEOs attempting to entrap them, other providers “booking them up” so they won’t have any availability… They have to deal with just as much, if not considerably more, nonsense as you do.
If you want a non-desperate provider to respect you, then you have to respect them too. If you treat them like merchandise, they're going to treat you like an ATM. 
- - - - -
Rather than:
hey/hi/sup/how are you/you available
–or–
How much do you charge for [insert any sex act here]?
Try something along the lines of:
Hi there. My name's [insert name/alias]. I found your number on RM.
I enjoy [insert preferences/activities here].
I found your profile intriguing, so I figured I'd reach out. If you'd like to connect, I'd be more than happy to gift you a donation for your time. Just let me know how much you'd like for X hour(s)/day(s), and we'll go from there. Thanks.
— — — — —
CLOSING:
There'll always be risk in this industry—for both of us. Clients will lose money and providers will lose time. Some will lose both. All we can do is figure out where our limits are, do our research and treat people how we want to be treated.
If the majority behaves professionally and respectfully, regardless of how others behave, it'll become the new standard.
I'm hungry and lost my train of thought. Happy 4th, everyone!
 

PART 2 OF 2
(Again, if this is considered "off-topic," kindly inform me and I'll delete it.)
PRESENTATION:
In addition to analyzing reviews, I always analyze a provider's ad in its entirety.
I begin by zooming in to their photos and analyzing the details. If they have an interview, I read it. If they have social media, I analyze that too. The entire time I'm doing this, I'm judging them. Are they here because they want to be here? How intelligent are they? Do they have health and hygiene standards? Do they have boundaries? How much effort have they put into all of this? Do they appear to have at least basic morals/values?
— — — — —
COMMUNICATION:
Now that you've completed your research, it's time to initiate contact. First, let's put ourselves in their shoes.
Many providers, myself included, receive hundreds of spam messages per day. Bots, trolls, flakes, harassers, stalkers, con artists, LEOs attempting to entrap them, other providers “booking them up” so they won’t have any availability… They have to deal with just as much, if not considerably more, nonsense as you do.
If you want a non-desperate provider to respect you, then you have to respect them too. If you treat them like merchandise, they're going to treat you like an ATM. 
- - - - -
Rather than:
hey/hi/sup/how are you/you available
–or–
How much do you charge for [insert any sex act here]?
Try something along the lines of:
Hi there. My name's [insert name/alias]. I found your number on RM.
I enjoy [insert preferences/activities here].
I found your profile intriguing, so I figured I'd reach out. If you'd like to connect, I'd be more than happy to gift you a donation for your time. Just let me know how much you'd like for X hour(s)/day(s), and we'll go from there. Thanks.
— — — — —
CLOSING:
There'll always be risk in this industry—for both of us. Clients will lose money and providers will lose time. Some will lose both. All we can do is figure out where our limits are, do our research and treat people how we want to be treated.
If the majority behaves professionally and respectfully, regardless of how others behave, it'll become the new standard.
I'm hungry and lost my train of thought. Happy 4th, everyone!
 

I sort of covered that here:
 
 

PART 2 OF 2
(Again, if this is considered "off-topic," kindly inform me and I'll delete it.)
PRESENTATION:
In addition to analyzing reviews, I always analyze a provider's ad in its entirety.
I begin by zooming in to their photos and analyzing the details. If they have an interview, I read it. If they have social media, I analyze that too. The entire time I'm doing this, I'm judging them. Are they here because they want to be here? How intelligent are they? Do they have health and hygiene standards? Do they have boundaries? How much effort have they put into all of this? Do they appear to have at least basic morals/values?
— — — — —
COMMUNICATION:
Now that you've completed your research, it's time to initiate contact. First, let's put ourselves in their shoes.
Many providers, myself included, receive hundreds of spam messages per day. Bots, trolls, flakes, harassers, stalkers, con artists, LEOs attempting to entrap them, other providers “booking them up” so they won’t have any availability… They have to deal with just as much, if not considerably more, nonsense as you do.
If you want a non-desperate provider to respect you, then you have to respect them too. If you treat them like merchandise, they're going to treat you like an ATM. 
- - - - -
Rather than:
hey/hi/sup/how are you/you available
–or–
How much do you charge for [insert any sex act here]?
Try something along the lines of:
Hi there. My name's [insert name/alias]. I found your number on RM.
I enjoy [insert preferences/activities here].
I found your profile intriguing, so I figured I'd reach out. If you'd like to connect, I'd be more than happy to gift you a donation for your time. Just let me know how much you'd like for X hour(s)/day(s), and we'll go from there. Thanks.
— — — — —
CLOSING:
There'll always be risk in this industry—for both of us. Clients will lose money and providers will lose time. Some will lose both. All we can do is figure out where our limits are, do our research and treat people how we want to be treated.
If the majority behaves professionally and respectfully, regardless of how others behave, it'll become the new standard.
I'm hungry and lost my train of thought. Happy 4th, everyone!
 

I don't have an issue with anything you posted in your interview. My preference is RM messenger or voice mail. I don't usually have time to text and, honestly, my dyslexia always makes me worry that I'm texting the wrong number. However, I get your point.
If the fee is in addition to the rate, then yes you would be unreasonable. If you requested a $25 booking fee that you applied to the rate, I would find it less unreasonable. However, given the number of escorts who charge up-front fees and never show, you will immediately be looked upon with suspicion. 
A booking fee will not deter time-wasters from filling up your inboxes. They get something (God knows what) from leaving messages and voice mails with no intent to hire. My guess is that a segment of the population has decided to "get" the straight guy, you are a straight guy, and they are coming to "get" you. 
 

I completely understand your intent on wanting to post your disclaimers as a way to reduce spam, bots, trolls and time wasters. All businesses have this same issue to deal in some respect. 
 
I would say as someone browsing potential hires, I would probably not attempt to connect based on the stern tone. I think there is a better way to edit that message a bit without sounding like everyone is annoying you. I also would pass because of the booking fee as it comes across as self righteous. I am not a provider, so I’m not the expert at advertising your services, but I know in other businesses, this would be a turnoff to potential customers. 
 
I think advertising should focus on engaging the client to book you without hesitation. There has to be an allure or something that creates the desire to connect. Marketing 101. Selling, marketing, advertising is all a game. Stay focused on winning people over, not pushing people away. Disruptions, as annoying as they can be, is a part of business. I would guess that if someone reached out more than once as a follow up is someone who is interested…just in case you are truly bombarded with the amount of spam, etc that you described. People want to connect with someone who comes across as sincere, genuine and appreciative. You attract more bees with honey. 
 
My two cents as a business person, and client. Wishing you success. 

It sounds like you are a good guy that is frustrated that others are not. That being said you ask "what can I do to make it clear to you all that I'm not another desperate, money/time-wasting criminal?". The answer is.... get rid of the desperate money/time wasting criminals.
in other words, it's not a reality. Comparing a deposit at a well established hair salon to guys hiring mostly strangers from unhealed walks of life isnt a fair comparison. 
a great restaurant takes reservation. Most dont charge a fee upfront for no shows. If they do then they are in another stratosphere as far as star ratings ect. If you feel you are "that restaurant" then I would advise looking outside of rentmen to advertise your wares.

You’ve asked for honest opinions, so here are mine. 
I know a number of gents on here will vehemently disagree with me, but I generally don’t have a problem with giving a deposit. Provided of course the provider is well reviewed, and we’ve had a conversation ironing out details first. Also, while you didn’t say it, I take it that this deposit is off your rate, and not in addition, (ie; rate of $300/hr less $25 deposit means $275 due), correct?  The way I look at it, the deposit is to reserve a service - like a hotel reservation, a restaurant reservation, etc.. If you as the hobbyist don’t show up, you lose that deposit. Then, at least the provider has some renumeration for blocking out the time and potentially missing out on further earnings. 

I’m not sure how much this will cut down on flakes, but I know from other providers it does help. One told me after our second encounter he used deposits to both separate the wheat from the chafe, as well as to establish reliable regulars when traveling. He’d know before going to X city he has say 5 reliable regulars who get priority. After that second encounter, he didn’t ask for a deposit again saying “no, we’re good now”. Maybe that’s a model you can work into your own?
As far as leaving a voicemail, again not a problem. In fact, I do insist on at least one phone call prior to engaging a provider. Voices are important to me, you can tell a lot about a person just from their voice - the timber, pitch, accent, vocabulary, etc.. In addition, texting, e-mailing is such a flat medium. There’s been plenty of commentary on these forums thru the years about “brusque” or “rude” providers based on text/email interaction. While I’m sure some are, I can’t help but wonder how much of the perceived brusqueness or rudeness is a result of the medium, not the messenger. 
 
A question or two for you now if I may: 
1.) when I reach out to a new provider, I usually direct to my profile on rentmen so he can see what I’m looking for and decide if we’d be a compatible fit - how do you feel about that? 
2.) any plans to come out East, preferably NYC, in the coming months? 

Cheers! 
BBD

PART 2 OF 2
(Again, if this is considered "off-topic," kindly inform me and I'll delete it.)
PRESENTATION:
In addition to analyzing reviews, I always analyze a provider's ad in its entirety.
I begin by zooming in to their photos and analyzing the details. If they have an interview, I read it. If they have social media, I analyze that too. The entire time I'm doing this, I'm judging them. Are they here because they want to be here? How intelligent are they? Do they have health and hygiene standards? Do they have boundaries? How much effort have they put into all of this? Do they appear to have at least basic morals/values?
— — — — —
COMMUNICATION:
Now that you've completed your research, it's time to initiate contact. First, let's put ourselves in their shoes.
Many providers, myself included, receive hundreds of spam messages per day. Bots, trolls, flakes, harassers, stalkers, con artists, LEOs attempting to entrap them, other providers “booking them up” so they won’t have any availability… They have to deal with just as much, if not considerably more, nonsense as you do.
If you want a non-desperate provider to respect you, then you have to respect them too. If you treat them like merchandise, they're going to treat you like an ATM. 
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Rather than:
hey/hi/sup/how are you/you available
–or–
How much do you charge for [insert any sex act here]?
Try something along the lines of:
Hi there. My name's [insert name/alias]. I found your number on RM.
I enjoy [insert preferences/activities here].
I found your profile intriguing, so I figured I'd reach out. If you'd like to connect, I'd be more than happy to gift you a donation for your time. Just let me know how much you'd like for X hour(s)/day(s), and we'll go from there. Thanks.
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CLOSING:
There'll always be risk in this industry—for both of us. Clients will lose money and providers will lose time. Some will lose both. All we can do is figure out where our limits are, do our research and treat people how we want to be treated.
If the majority behaves professionally and respectfully, regardless of how others behave, it'll become the new standard.
I'm hungry and lost my train of thought. Happy 4th, everyone!
 

1. I feel this is a great idea. I'd still need to verbally chat with those who have young profiles, but I wish everyone did this.
2. I don't have plans to travel East anytime soon. Do you have plans to travel West?

As a client, how do you feel about leaving a provider a voicemail, when reaching out to them for the first time? I'm asking however many of you are willing to respond.
I ask because I've had an issue with spam since week one. To better explain, I recently posted the following response to one of my RM Interview questions:
 
I often come across as "super serious" when communicating through text, email and social media. Don't let that give you the wrong impression, should you reach out to me in writing.
Every day, I receive literally over 1,000 spam texts, emails and social media messages. Bots, trolls, flakes, harassers, stalkers, con artists, other providers “booking me up” so I won’t have any availability… The list of time-wasting, juvenile nonsense is endless.
As such, I must ask strangers to initially contact me through voicemail. If you’re not comfortable with leaving a voicemail, you may text/email your availability to me and I’ll give you a call. Beyond scheduling a phone call, I will not engage in written conversation with strangers.
Alternatively, you may pay an upfront deposit.
If I don’t respond within a couple of days, please don’t hesitate to re-message me. Sometimes legit messages get lost in the ocean of spam.
 
Does any of this seem unreasonable? Does anyone even read this stuff?
Lastly, considering that:
–my ad's ~3 years old
–I have over 90 glowing reviews (0 negative reviews), many of which from profiles that have reviewed other providers and/or from profiles that were created years before mine was
–I've posted numerous recent photos and videos on social media and OnlyFans
Would it be unreasonable for me to charge a $25 booking fee?
Does anyone have any advice for me? I'm looking to weed out the time-wasters, without scaring away those of you who are legitimate.
Thank you all for your feedback!