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Back to chicken cacciatore-I love it. I frequently order it when go to Italian restaurants. I've even made it a few times. About four years ago I tried making it starting around 1 AM in the morning. That was a mistake. I was browning the chicken breasts, and the rising smoke set off the fire alarm. I couldn't continue because other people in the house were trying to sleep. I ended up throwing the chicken breasts away. Last time I made it -about two years ago-I used an Instant Pot. I made it for my Mom and myself. It turned out pretty good, but my Mom doesn't like bell peppers. So I had to leave them out.

My take as one who formerly hired (and was never handsome or in shape and is even worse now) is that @Joshiehas done everyone a big favor. If you're handsome and you know it clap-oh wait that's a song -the older I get the more my attention span wanders. As I was saying before I so rudely interrupted myself, if you're handsome and in shape, Freddie is apparently the cat's pajamas not to mention the bee's knees. If you aren't, then you've been warned. You could always see if you're the exception that proves the rule. Maybe you might be. But as for me-if I were still hiring, I'd want more of a sure thing. The monetary costs of this hobby these days from what I read on here has increased exponentially compared to the general cost of living. It might have been one thing to try for an iffy experience-at say $250 for a two hour meet, back when I first started hiring in 2002, it's an entirely different circumstance when a two hour visit these days might cost upwards of $400. One other thing though. What I said above was all about the client end of things. My thoughts on Freddie as an escort is that he is less than honest. In this case if the reports from some of the members in this thread are true, Freddie lies by omission. He doesn't state in his ad that he can really only perform if the client is in shape and good-looking. Sure if he did say that in his ad, he wouldn't make as much money. But it would be more honest. I can remember being turned down in the lead up to a meeting by several guys when I described myself. I remember one escort told me he had been overweight as a child and had problems with overweight clients. Being told that was upsetting and depressing when it was someone I had really wanted to meet. But in the long run I'm glad they told me as it would save me from being hurt (and poorer) after a dud of a meeting.

I've seen the same thing on Rentmen. Obviously it's not the majority of ads. But I occasionally run across guys with no contact info available. I don't know why I look since I'm not hiring. But I do. Also I think occasionally an ad on RM will show expired with the escort currently on or (and I've def seen this)-an expired ad and the escort has been on in the last 24 hours. Sometimes I notice this more at the beginning of the month-and I just assumed for those whose ad eventually becomes active again that they were behind on renewing them.

In my previous hiring career, I did lots of overnights. ( I don't hire anymore-for one thing I have no money. And even if I did, my libido is mostly in the 'toilet'. My urologist on seeing how low my testosterone level was recently said, "I'm surprised you're awake.") They were usually around 12 to 14 hours. But I made a night of it. I didn't usually have a lot of friends, so often if the timing worked we'd have dinner and go to a show of some type. It didn't always work out-but that was what I preferred. As for the 'playtime' when we finally made it back to the hotel-well let's just say that Carol Hall had me in mind when she wrote, "lots of goodwill and maybe one small thrill. But there's nothing dirty going on". So it's not like my playtime lasted that long or would be considered overly strenuous by most experienced providers. I'm a bit of a night owl-ok-a lot of a night owl. So after a show-and maybe dessert -we might not get back to bed until 1 AM or later to play. Now of course in most cases, I'd discuss the plan of events with the guy to make sure he was ok with that. As for snoring-I have sleep apnea-and use a bipap machine. I always tried to remember to tell the escort to make sure they could get to sleep with me wearing it. If the escort told me they were a light sleeper, I knew, it wouldn't work out. At least one escort had his own. So we had dueling machines overnight. In one case I forgot to mention me using a machine. When I told the escort-before we met- he acted like I was trying to pull something over on him. And I canceled the meeting. I think he may still be advertising. In two particular cases that I can remember the guys didn't stay all night (probably happened more than that. But these two episodes stick in my mind. ) In another case one guy didn't even last thru the musical and left at intermission-but that's another story). These two episode were not planned that way (or at least not by me)-one guy David (hasn't escorted in 20 years as far as I can tell so don't mind using his escort nom de plume) claimed he had bad back problems. It had been a pretty good meeting up to that point. I think we had eaten- and then gone to see a traveling production of Wicked in Miami or Ft. Lauderdale. The escort was nice enough and secure enough that he even allowed a bit of public affection (I'm not talking anything overboard. I think my hand was occasionally on his knee during the performance and vice versa). I think I remember being mildly out of sorts when he left. But again the night had been very nice -so I wasn't horribly put out. The other main time I remember. The escort's initials were AW. He doesn't have a great reputation on here. He was fairly decent to me-seemed a bit stuck on himself. Of course if I had looked like him very possibly -what do I mean possibly-I'd probably be worse. Turns out he was from Texas originally. So that was nice. (Some people on here might remember him) We had gone to a show on broadway. Hugh Jackman was in something called 'The River'. Neither of us was that impressed by the play. After the play we went to The Palms steakhouse. (I wasn't that impressed by The Palms either. I don't know what it is. At a lot of these fancy steak restaurants-I wonder if they grill the steak with butter. Maybe that's not it. But the steaks often taste a bit sour to me.) In any case after the show and dinner, we went back to the hotel. By this time it was very late. We played a bit. I'll have to admit that 'Junior' was a bit over anxious, and I came too soon. He said he had dogs he had to care for and ended leaving probably around 3 AM. It was a bit disappointing. But on the other hand-often after I had cum I wasn't that interested in continuing (in other cases I was wanting to cuddle), so I don't think I felt awful-also if I'm recalling right, he wasn't the best kisser. As for morning play-seems to me that didn't happen often. But as I said, we often didn't get to sleep until around 3 AM. So the escorts may have taken that into consideration. Oh and let me just state for the record-I wasn't into PNP-I'm just naturally a night owl. It's more difficult now that I'm in my 60's. But it's still the way my body time clock skews.

Maybe he 'heard' you. The ad doesn't mention smoking anymore.

How did this thread get resurrected? The initial date is 2012. As for Derek -no experiences. But I was quite shocked at his current pictures. He has probably been advertising for over 10 years. And these are the first newer pictures I've ever seen of him-(I used to look at his ad semi regularly). And while I haven't looked in a few years-last time I looked he had the same pictures I remember seeing on Backpage. I almost hired him several times years ago. But something always stopped me. However I will say if he's actually 34, I'll eat my hat. Gman

Thank you for commenting. I'm glad you have photos to remember your friends. I may have had a few of us -not many-but I can't be sure at this late date. And if I did, I don't now because of a problem with an iPhone backup years ago. I think -I'll have to look -have one general picture of Charlus -may have gotten it off the web-or maybe he sent it to me. As for the other friend-there's a picture on the web-again of him alone, not us - due to his former job. So I can pull it up if the mood hits.

Long time members may remember him. He was never extremely active on here. Using the search function on this new website, the last post I could find from him was from 2007. Even with him gone I don't want to give too many personal details. But in case it might jog someone's memory, he was a retired English professor. He had an especial interest in Proust-hence his screen name I hadn't 'talked,' well emailed, with him for 4 or 5 years. I tried contacting him over the last several months-but couldn't find him. I recently came across his obituary from January. He (along with one other now deceased member) was a friend and advisor when I really needed one. We actually managed to meet in person on three separate occasions. Even though it had been years since we were in contact, it still hurts that he's gone. If I can bring myself to do it, I might be posting more in depth about these two friends I've lost. It's definitely more difficult to grieve when you're grieving by yourself. In one case -the friend who passed years ago-he has family left-but -and we were only platonic friends-I'm not someone known to them. In Charlus' case -he was an only child, a bachelor with no significant other as far as I know-with the only family left being cousins.

Well my dementia isn't quite as bad as I feared. I just found it. It's on the upper right of my screen-but you have to 'click' on the three bars to get to it.

Hmm -I don't see anything about a Members Search in the upper left. It may be there (but dementia could be rearing it's ugly head-I'm missing a lot of obvious things these days), but I could follow the link @56harrisond supplied. Thank you both. Gman

I don't come here very often anymore. And I don't really know/understand how to use a lot of the functions on this 'new' website. Maybe I'm just getting old and new information doesn't sink in the way it used to -dementia here I come. On the former site there was, if I'm remembering correctly, a way to look up members by their screen names-probably mostly used in the process of emailing someone-but the info also contained how many posts they had made and when they were last on-as well as a way to look at their posts. is there a way to search the Member Directory for this information on the current website? Thanking in Advance, Gman

I hadn't realized Missouri was so oversaturated with providers. I'd say come back to Dallas, but apartment rentals here are bad. If by some chance you did come back to Texas, while I don't hire anymore, I def wouldn't mind standing you a meal. Chicken-fried steak at the Cotton Patch anyone? ( Brandon-you might remember a chain called The Black-Eyed Pea from your sojourn years ago in Texas. It's mostly defunct. The Cotton Patch is a current reasonable facsimile).

I remember first seeing it being used by an escort I had hired for a weekend (Ray Stone if anyone is interested ca. 2005). I was pretty deeply closeted when not hiring at the time-partly because I was still having trouble being gay (I still struggle, but I'm more accepting than I ever thought I'd be), and there were professional reasons too concerning my career. But I envied Ray-because he was (and still is in case he's reading) drop dead handsome. Even if I had been sanguine about being gay, I thought I was too unattractive to catch anyone's eye on a site like that. Go figure -it's now 18 years later. I'm not one of those who has aged well. And I have a full face picture on it. A FB post from 2009 just popped up. I was a lot more adorable than I had realized-not exactly handsome but I did have a certain Je ne sais quo(in my own eyes at least) . Wish I had capitalized on it a bit more. In summary may I say that getting old ain't for chickens. 😝😝

There are so many scammers on Adam4Adam. Guys who list they are into relationships, but just send smiley faces to your profile. And that's when I've said I don't reply to smileys in mine. But I almost never find a match using Google search anymore when I'm sure these guys are fake. So my question remains-

It's interesting that in the picture, his bulge doesn't look that large. I'm not doubting his ad or anyone's experiences. Just remarking on the photo. Gman

Just as an FYI-I don't spray it into my nose. A small amount on my hands then rubbing liquid onto my face. But the smell lingers in my nostrils for hours. 😢😢 Gman

This is a long and boring history of my prostate problems. Feel free to skip it if you like. I appreciate the concern, but at least currently I think I'm ok. I didn't go into this before -but I have a long history of chronic prostatitis/chronic pelvic pain syndrome. It started in my early 30's-pain enough to drive me to tears. It doesn't bother me much anymore but I get minor symptoms occasionally. I relate that as background. More recently-2 or 3 years ago-the urologist found out my testosterone was low. So I started on replacement. Apparently replacing testosterone can increase your PSA. Mine had been normal before. But mine went up really high with the replacement-more than he was used to seeing. While the collected wisdom at the moment is that testosterone replacement-keeping testosterone in the normal range-does not cause prostate cancer (who knows this could change at some point) but that if prostate cancer is present, testosterone therapy can make it much worse The urologist sent off a lab test which determines overall risk of prostate cancer. It took several factors into consideration including family history (my Dad had prostate cancer). He thought it was going to turn out that the test would show I had low risk for prostate cancer. Well it didn't. I can't remember the exact result. But it said something like I had moderate risk of developing prostate cancer. All this with a normal prostate exam. The doctor stopped my testosterone. And he sent me to a cancer specialist at the local medical school. The cancer specialist ordered a prostate MRI. If the MRI were normal, I could restart testosterone. Now there are two ways of doing the MRI. Some places use a probe-which is inserted -you probably can guess. Other places can do it without the probe. Southwestern Medical School where I am uses the probe. And for those who don't know-MRI exams are not quick. So the probe would have been inserted for a fairly long period of time. I talked about all this on here at the time I was about to get the MRI about a year or so ago. I should also probably tell y'all that the thought of having to bottom was one (among many issues) that kept me from wanting to be gay and a virgin until I was 41. And I've still never bottomed and don't want to. I have a phobia against it. I don't often tell my physicians I'm gay. In most of my contacts it's unnecessary knowledge. I go to a PrEP Clinic for my PrEP. But I told the cancer urologist I was gay but that I could not tolerate having an anal probe for the MRI. He ordered the MRI without the probe-thank G-d. I would have had to be anesthetized for it, if he had said the probe was necessary. And they would never have done that. So the MRI came back with an area of abnormality which could be due to inflammation or I guess cancer. But off testosterone my PSA was normal and again so was my exam. The cancer doc wouldn't put me back on without a biopsy. But he was fine since the PSA and physical exam were normal off testosterone not to do the biopsy if I stayed off the testosterone. Now we come to current news. I was about a year overdue for an urology appt. I was supposed to have one last September/October. But I was in recovery from a hernia repair operation and let it get away from me. I finally made an appt with my old urologist-the non cancer specialist. In the meantime my ED which was occasional had gotten worse. I haven't probably topped anyone successfully since last December. (Due to circumstances I've only tried 2 or three times) The urologist sent off testosterone and other labs. The testosterone was I believe in the 60's-low end of normal is 200. The urologist said, "I'm surprised you're awake with that low a level." The other labs were normal. He also sent off a PSA. It was totally normal too -about 1.5 as I recall. My prostate exam was normal too -no nodules palpable. So if I do have prostate cancer, it's very small and seems to be slow growing -and at least currently would be the kind that men eventually die with prostate cancer rather than because of prostate cancer. I've heard they say that if you live long enough, all men would develop prostate cancer at some point. The majority, as I said above, dying having prostate cancer but not dying from prostate cancer. So now the next step is to reschedule with the cancer urologist to talk about my ED, laughably low testosterone, and my options. I have a sneaking suspicion a biopsy is in my near future. But I'll cross (or avoid) that bridge when I get there And darn it you'd think with my T level being so low-maybe I wouldn't be as bald as I am. But nope apparently even the little bit of testosterone I have is enough to make DHT and keep me bald Gman

I will say it was a really nice date. It was interesting. We met at the bar. He almost immediately kissed me (out in public). And I'm not talking about just a peck on the cheek. Of course it was a gay bar. Pretty dark on the inside. The one bad stick up on the date-I wasn't able to top. It's been months. I recently went to my urologist. My T level is like 60. He said he was surprised I was awake. They won't give me supplemental because of a funny area on my prostate by CT. They might if I had a biopsy. But knowing me-I'd be the one to suffer complications from a biopsy. But we'll see if it leads to a second date. My luck ain't great. But time will tell.

yech!! That's so true. Well not like 20 years or something. I think he's in his 50's. I'm not a slave to Old Spice. I do use other brands. But of course 'All My Men Wear English Leather...." Gman

Let me expound a bit. First did anyone notice that pigs and donkeys were flying last night? I was the cause. I had a -well I guess it was a hook-up. We did meet (planned) at a bar first and had a drink. That was followed by us going to his house. Considering the meetup at the bar, maybe it was just a date on hyperspeed. But to get back to the topic at hand... as I was cleaning up after, I asked to use his bathroom. While in there, I wasn't really snooping. But I wasn't wearing my glasses. On top of that I've developed cataracts and haven't had a chance for surgery yet. I walk around in a bit of a visual haze even with glasses on. (If I drive at night-which I try not to-G-d really is my co-pilot). While trying to find the soap to wash my hands I came across several personal grooming toiletries -much more than I have. (I have to add that I came across his aftershave/cologne, and he smelled great!!) Let me tell you what I have in the way of toiletries in my bathroom. 1) 1 Bar of Irish Spring Soap 2) 1 Bottle of Irish Spring 3 Way Body Wash 3) 1 Old Spice Antiperspirant/Antideoderant Stick Aside from some shaving things-that's pretty much all I have. Now I'm bald so I don't really need any hair products (my 'date' had a full head of hair (I'm jealous) , so we'll have to give him some leeway on that. And I've had aftershave/rarely, if ever, cologne but haven't used any in awhile. I never used it consistently even when I was young. And I always hated the way the aroma would stay in my nose for hours. I will admit to also occasionally using body spray -esp down in my private area -when having a date or hook-up. (But those have been few and far between over the last 7 months. ). My notice of my lack of toiletries isn't a new phenomenon. I used to notice it a lot while either doing incalls with escorts or when I'd do an overnight or weekend with escort. So with my lack of toiletries, I guess there's a good chance I've been deceiving myself about being gay. But now that I think about it-maybe straight guys are buying more grooming items too these days. So maybe I'm not straight either. I guess I'm in a lonely category by myself. Gman

I guess this goes along with a recent topic I had in the Deli. Let me say first that I totally believe that U = U. The problem that always occurs to me-and I'm not just talking about escorts here, but also casual non-paid encounters or even people you know on a more regular basis - is that even if someone is on their medicine -how do you know they are taking it regularly-didn't miss any doses-or that maybe they have for whatever reason-a short period of out of suppression viremia. I guess the smartest answer is -"You never really know. ". And you should always take precautions.

I can't really hire anymore. But I look at Rentmen frequently due to not having many real life encounters lately. There are lots of reasons why I'm not having many 'encounters' lately, but that would be an entirely different thread. I happened to peruse one escort's ad the other day. And I noticed that a miracle had happened. He had suddenly regained his HIV negative status. At least I'm 98% sure that he had advertised being positive for years and years in the past. I'm not really shocked by this, and I know most of y'all won't be either. We all know it happens. I'm not even quite sure why I'm starting a thread on it. #1. Maybe I just want to caution any new members out there to always be careful, or #2. maybe it's just that it's 5 AM, and I haven't been to sleep yet. And I'm bored. Well after a slight bit of thought, I've decided to think well of myself and decide it's choice #1. What a relief!! Night All!!

As the young lady stated, in Best Little Whorehouse in Texas, "No three or more in a bed. This ain't the circus!!"

Oiii-If only I still had a career and you were versatile!!

It's because I respect you too much to want to show you up!!🤪🤪🤪