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Hardly minimal over the past 22 years...though I will readily admit that the scenarios I described are much less common nowadays

I was there a couple of days ago. Even with timed entry, it was uncomfortably crowded. One of the glories of the "old" Frick was how you could have a whole room almost to yourself with unhurried time to linger. I'm hopeful that things will get better once the novelty of the re-opening has passed. Still one of my favorite museums, right up there with the Norton Simon in Pasadena.

Arm over your shoulder? What about those who start massaging your shoulders? Or even better, the ones who sidle up to you at the bar, strike up conversation, and begin tweaking your nipples or groping you? (In my experience, the latter fall into 2 groups: the ones trying to con you into lap dances who deliver practically nothing once you agree; and the ones -- often the younger twinkier types -- who enjoy flirting and foreplay. The latter are almost always good value in the booths.)

I've been the client in this situation once or twice. And one time I actually went home without paying (the bliss😁!) without the escort's saying a word. When I called a few hours later to apologize profusely and make arrangements to pay, he laughed off my apologies...he said he knew I would eventually figure it out. Talk about trust!

This is pretty much what I do as well. The key is "regular poster" -- I don't share with random folks who reach out to me. I'm happy to do this because I've benefitted many times from replies to my own queries here.

There *are* high schools that offer Chinese as a language option...I've met a few college students over the years who entered with 4 or more years of hs Chinese.

Has Campus gotten more lively in the afternoons? Used to be my go-to afternoon place, but for the past several years it's been dead at that time...essentially no dancers.

Thoroughly enjoyed this book -- in fact, read it straight through in one sitting. But to my mind, it didn't measure up to The Swimming Pool Library or The Line of Beauty. In particular, the scenes in which he meets/has sex with his various lovers seem all based on the same template.

Doesn't have to be...there are spectacular total eclipses upcoming in Egypt (2027) and Australia (2028). Happy New Year!

I'm curious: what do these beach massages consist of?

I've seen them out in the neighborhoods as well.

My experience has been the same as @Vegas_Millennial's. Maybe @Danny-Darko's differs because he picks them up from the club and they are all sweaty from dancing? (Although I've certainly done lots of club hires over the years and have not found showering to be a frequent request or necessity. And on the few occasions where showering happens, I've never felt anyone was trying to shorten our interaction time. Maybe that's because the guys I hire from the clubs are the ones I've established a good rapport with. We feel comfortable with each other and showering, amount of time spent, et. al. happen without the need for much discussion.)

Why a masseur and not an escort?

That's a response I sometimes used until the night a dancer replied "I'm not looking for a date, just a private dance."

You might do well on Maui. I was a regular visitor there for about 6 years and I found essentially nothing in terms of escorts or erotic massage.

Thanks for sharing! I always enjoy hearing about people's Montreal club experiences. As for fending off unwelcome attention, here's what I do. I say "I know you're here to make money, and (at the moment) I'm not likely to be doing any private dances because [insert reason here, typically 'I just arrived and want to enjoy the show for a while' or 'I just did some private dances and I'm not sure I'll be doing any more tonight']. So while it's nice to talk with you, I don't want you to waste your time with me under false pretenses." I don't engage in conversation for more than a minute without saying this and I only say "at the moment" if I think I eventually will want to interact with the dancer. This has the advantage of being true and of acknowledging what their concerns might be. There are many variations. For example, if I really am enjoying the conversation and would like the dancer to come back, I might say that and suggest it's OK to walk around and check for other interested customers and come back to me later.

Not sure I would call it a "mess", except that it might be confusing for those from an era in which those lines weren't very fluid, or fluid at all.

Your use of such phrases makes me wonder whether you're writing about "PrEP" rather than "PEP"...can one really describe someone as "being on DoxyPEP"? Could you clarify? Also, it would be helpful if you could include links to the studies you refer to. Thanks.

I was there a couple of weeks ago. My experience was roughly like yours. Taboo, for many years my favorite, was dead every time I stopped by...no DJ, no customers, and essentially* no dancers (*essentially means one night there was the cutest twink in the world behind the bar -- and no once else. I asked him about other dancers and he said "just me." "How can you dance if you have to tend bar?" "Gerry takes over for me." (Gerry is the long-time manager.) I told him I'd love to do some dances with him, but needed to see him on stage first -- by now we're clearly flirting. He jumped up on stage, did some bumps and grinds, showed me his butt and dick, and jumped down. We did some dances...well worth my time and money. ) (Taboo now has curtains on the booths by the way.) Campus was pretty lively every time, but not until well past 9:30 pm...I suspect it was even louder and more crowded after I went home. The new owner has a new business model...no more porn on the screens, but a well-produced, sometimes humorous, montage of the dancers. (I miss the raunch of the old Campus! ) He seems to be drawing a lot of locals who want to hang out with their friends. I bonded with one dancer who told me that almost all the dancers are straight, and many are refugees from Stock. That was certainly the vibe I got. He claimed that most of the women who frequent Campus are themselves strippers in the straight clubs. I have never encountered a problem doing whatever I wanted (or the dancers would allow) in the booths at Campus, no matter how exposed the booths were. I remarked to my informant, who himself used to dance at Stock, that the outside terrace bar at Stock seemed to be doing good business, He replied that inside was dead, rather like the description I gave above of Taboo. As a result, I never tried Stock. (Sorry @Lucky 😞) For the record, l'Adonis/Luxe/Expose is now the Red Diamond. There were dancers hanging around outside when I walked past. No one to tempt me inside.

I've always felt that providers like you, who are actively and substantively involved in this site, are marketing...and it works! -- at least for those like you whose comments are tempered, informative, and interesting. My problem is that those providers almost always live far from me and all I can do is note them for future reference if our paths cross. (There are also occasional providers whose participation here has made me note them as people to be avoided.)

Ahhh...sorry for the misunderstanding. Over the time I've known him, his stage name has changed from time to time, but it's always been something close to what he is using currently.

Both links you gave in your first post (May 1) still work...

His name has come up periodically here. Here's what I wrote in response to one query: "...the real thing -- I can think of only 2 masseurs in 20 years as good as he is. Gives a real massage with extensive "sensual" elements. You should discuss what you're looking for erotically with him when booking -- his price goes up if you are interested in what he considers escort services (he also advertises on rentmen with a slightly different handle). He does not try to upsell you in the moment. I found his non-escort erotic massage more than enough. Highly recommended."

any idea of why the name changed? new management? I was an occasional customer when dragged there by some cute dancer who wanted me to buy him underwear.