I've enjoyed both strictly therapeutic and sensual/erotic massages. I typically just go with the flow and respond to the masseur's cues. I avoid asking about how erotic a massage will be, particularly if it's not in the ad (e.g., MF), because I feel awkward and creepy if the masseur denies engaging in such practices. I also don't want him to feel obligated to do things he doesn't want to do. I can do without a nude guy who doesn't want to be touched giving me a said HJ. I'd rather him just keep his clothes on and provide a solid therapeutic massage. I've also found that sometimes ads, discussions, and the actual massage don't always align. If the masseur indicates that he practices sensual/erotic massage (e g., rentmasseur), in my opinion, it's fair game to respectfully ask for further details, however. All that said, the majority of masseurs I've hired, regardless of ad site, have performed some form of sensual/erotic massage.