LJNYC83

It’s interesting as a escort, I have two ideas when I am asked this question. First the serious one. A BFE is the ideal time that two guys in a relatively relationship would have. The lust, the passionate kiss, warm embrace, subtle look over a shoulder to know they are alwyas watching each other knowing they cannot get enough physically, mentally and developing the pseudo emotional bond that potentially has the foundation for a long time. The passionate sex, where breathing becomes challenging as you cannot get enough of each other’s bodies...exploring each other bodies fully with your tongue, massaging the neck, nipples and all the way down to your....toes. The experience evaporates time as when both of you are out of breathe, you realize the sun has set and its time to part ways reluctantly as each mind as to the sensory overload, both bodies exhausted and empty of fluids.

 

The second scenario is the actual BFE from my own personal relationships. You don’t talk, don’t have sex, do the household chores and barely make eye contact. Plan very nice holidays spending your time instagramming or facebooking to show your friends back home how fabulous your time away is....and repeat. The second part is obviously a joke, but it’s based in much of our true gay relationship experiences. Haha.

 

Now back to the first.....

I made this joke to a friend recently too. Told him I was going to start offering the “Three Years In Boyfriend Experience” that involves no sex but two chore related arguments and an hour of figuring out what to order for dinner.

But I don’t think it would be a best seller...

My expectation below.

Occurrences in which I expect Airfare to be covered:

 

- I am making a non scheduled special trip for a client

 

- If I add a day to the end of my trip, or divert plans

 

If my airfare is being covered, out of courtesy I will not double dip and try to book hourly appointments in said city.

I had a client recently who wanted to see me enough to offer to cover my airfare but didn’t want an overnight, so he understood I’d get my own hotel (that I paid for) and see other clients. That was pretty cool. But all discussed beforehand.

Got it. Regardless, the "check-in" text is bordering on too much and any more than that crosses over the line.

That’s why I asked when he last heard. If it had been a day, I think you leave it alone because maybe the situation hasn’t sorted itself out yet. If it’s been a week or two, a follow up check in text is totally valid.

Hey guys. I texted a provider and exchanged a couple of text and the last one he said he was having a family situation and would be back in touch. Have not heard back and his RM ad indicates he has not been online since Oct 23. Should I wait until I see his back or text again? Hate to bother him if he has problems but I have heard nothing but good things and would like to meet.

How long has it been since you last heard from him?

As a provider (you) advertising on RM do you know when someone (me) buddy lists you?

I don’t believe so. I know at least one person who has me on their buddy list (he’s shown me his list) but I don’t recall ever getting a notification that I had been added. I think it’s similar to “favoriting” someone on Grindr.

I haven’t been since 2010 but I love the festival so much! So many great films!

I love advanced bookings and I don’t really have a time that’s too advanced, if the person will follow through. Someone who is a regular that I’ve built trust with could book me months in advance and I’d trust that it will happen (unless something life related comes up).

I just spent two days with a wonderful client, first time booking. I took the advice from this thread. At one point I excused myself for a phone call, and the rest of the time I only looked at my phone and answered personal texts when he was using his phone.

It went great and he’s already booked me for another two days next month, this time out of town!

Sometimes it’s obvious, is it not? Like if you quote your rate when asked and suddenly never hear from the person again, it’s easy to assume they didn’t want to pay that much (either for you or in general). If you normally get that rate, then this was just about the client and shouldn’t change how you do business. If you regularly get ghosted after quoting your rate, then it’s probably a good idea to consider lowering your rate.

There’s still a number of them around my office in Times Square. Would be surprising to see them shut down honestly.

I have a vague feeling my boss might be getting “massages” at lunch time in NYC mid town, like I do. He is straight, so it must be from girls.

 

I really have nothing for this theory, other than: he also tales long breaks for lunch (like me), and always out of the building. And, that it is what I would do. That is all!

No much for a theory, but my twisted mind cannot think of what else would be good enough to so often stay away for so long at lunch time?

Maybe I should follow him from afar to see where he is going?

If you ever want someone to tail him, let me know! Wouldn’t be the strangest thing I’ve dver done on my lunch break in midtown.

Contrary to smurof, I only trust daddyreviews.

There are no other places where reviews are sufficiently numerous and somewhat verified.

@LJNYC83 , you should post a link directly to that review.

Sure!

https://daddysreviews.com/venue/usa/new_york/lj_nyc

Some clients don't become regulars because they aren't allowed back due to abusive behavior. It's the provider's call as to who becomes a regular too. Sometimes the money just isn't worth the aggravation. They aren't allowed in the 20% of customers that make up the 80% of revenue.

I agree with this completely. Before I started on RM, I had met a guy who would give me $350 once a week to spend a whole night with him. It started out nicely, but after a few weeks it became a bad scene and was starting to really get to me mentally and emotionally. I had to cut him off. Blocked his number and deleted his contact. I miss the guaranteed $350 every week, but my mental health is worth more.

I will wholeheartedly agree. Anybody I am with I have chosen. I show them the same amount of respect I think I deserve. Given the intimacy involved this is no ordinary business transaction. It's not like buying a pair of shoes.

Yeah, you can return shoes when they’re too tight...

I always get excited by these things!

As FrankR pointed out to me this morning, I received my first review on Daddy’s site yesterday!

I text the person who posted it to thank then this morning. I’m always quite humbled to receive passing grades at this, haha.

Anyway, just wanted to share my joy!

Thank you guys! I’ve decided to take it for sure. I’m excited, it’s not an overnight but it’s my first specifically working trip! Should be a fun one night getaway!

So, fellow escorts, let’s say you were thinking of visiting another city (not definitely, just thinking). How would you gage interest in the area in terms of getting hired?

I ask because someone has offered to help fly me out to San Franscisco (I’m in NYC) but he just wants a regular hour appointment (or at least won’t want an overnight). I’m considering it, but I’d be more likely to go if I could book another appointment or two at least. That way I go for one night and come home with a decent amount instead of just going for a one hour appointment.

I love San Fran, but I don’t need a weekend getaway per se. But a working trip I am certainly all for.

I just don’t know how to gage interest. Especially in a city like San Fran that’s as busy as NYC.

What advice would you guys give?

$3,000? It definitely sounds like his loss.

I shaved my beard recently but I’m also half Sicilian so I can grow in some heavy stubble in about two days. So I am to please all!

Yes, I’ve already done it for a period of time. But not under your terms. My sugar daddy had multiple wives, so neither of us had any illusion that our relationship was monogamous or ever would be. In fact, he didn’t even ask me to stop seeing my regular clients (nor did I ever mention that I was still doing so, however). But my discontinuing to tour internationally was part of our deal. He became my full-time focus, and I altered my lifestyle drastically to cater to his specific fetishes. It worked out well for us while it lasted, because I wanted an extended break from touring anyway, and the drastic lifestyle changes which I made were HEALTHY ones that I was glad to have an excuse/motivation to make. This arrangement also allowed me to retire my “female” escort persona and start my hormone treatment with enough financial stability to carry me through almost my first entire year of transition. And meanwhile, my SD was really excited by most of the changes that testosterone was producing in me. What made me agree to this whole situation? Well, it worked perfectly with my life goals. Ultimately, my SD started pursuing me for marriage and encouraging me to discontinue my testosterone treatment because he was shocked just how quickly I actually started to look and sound like man. He wasn’t ready to admit to himself any attraction to a man even if my masculine characteristics WERE a turn on. But luckily, I’d been wise enough to request a security deposit early in our arrangement, to protect myself against my drastic lifestyle change and the pause in my career should anything go awry between my SD and I. So I was in a position to hold my ground and express honestly my disinterest in both marriage and halting my testosterone treatment. He couldn’t and still can’t accept that I am a man and not just a masculine woman. I can’t compromise and provide that fantasy to anyone for ANY amount of money anymore. I don’t know why exactly, but after 7 years of doing that to great effect, my patience for that gig is simply up.

 

You asked specifically if we would have to be physically attracted to the man in question. My answer is no. As a sexual professional, I don’t consider my compatibility with someone based on PHYSICAL attraction. But there are OTHER types of compatibility that are important to providing companionship to someone on a full-time and/or long-term basis. And those are extremely critical for this type of arrangement to work out. I myself invited this client to be my sugar daddy after identifying the compatibility and the potential for it to be a long-term match. I was ultimately wrong about it being a good long-term match due to his personal hang-ups about my gender, but we were compatible enough for it to work out while things lasted, and now that it’s over, I can say the whole thing impacted my life very positively in terms of moving me forward toward my life goals.

 

Pausing one’s career does have an opportunity cost for sure. Dipping out of the escort scene for a year means that I lost a year’s worth of networking and market exposure. This was coming on the tail end of the height of my career as a high-end female escort who was well-respected by most in my industry. Had I not paused my career for this arrangement, I would have had a much bigger audience to receive the news of my re-branding and book me during the early stages of my transition when the changes were barely noticeable, possibly creating a wider bridge of a client base to carry me into this very androgynous phase of my career. This is a specific example for me, but my point is that for every escort, there is a significant opportunity cost to pausing one’s career. Time away could mean missing out on meeting a new regular who would turn into someone’s most loyal spender for the next 10 years. The sugardaddy might only last 6-12 months! So there’s good reasons for escorts to take pause when considering this type of offer, and to request a significant “allowance” equal to more than our actual spending requirements, to make up for the potential losses to our careers that an exclusive arrangement entails.

 

OP, your ACTUAL suggested stipulation, that I would have to be sexually monogamous with someone, would simply never happen. That option is not on the table for anyone in this world for any amount of love OR money. I am not a sexually monogamous creature and will not attempt to torture myself for the sake of any one for any reason. There is no positive end-point to that scenario for me regardless of whether money is involved or not....

If monogamy was part of the deal, I’d say no too. I don’t even date guys who want monogamy, I certainly wouldn’t agree to a sugar daddy relationship with someone who wanted that. I could agree to not see other clients though. Dedicate that time to him.

This is my side gig, so I don’t really worry about the money stability. I do this for extra cash to help enjoy life more and pay off some debts from my younger years (student loans are a bitch). So that’s why I say if a SD was willing to give me a reasonable amount every month to help with that, I’d be happy to go for that arrangement.

Husband no, sugar baby yes. Absolutely. Basically the guy would just have to treat me well, give me what I need financially (which actually isn’t a lot) and I’d hope we have dome sexual chemistry.

I use public transport all the time. In fact, i’ve taken the train/bus to Newark airport all the time (when i travel very light, i take the 62 bus from Newark penn station to the airport). I was just referring to some potential escorts that may be leery of going out of state..

Oh I know, that wasn’t meant to be about you at all. I’ve been told by clients that they get the Uber request a lot and it just surprises me.

Perhaps if the price is right, you can Uber a guy from manhattan to come visit you.

Maybe I’m crazy, but I would never ask for an Uber to somewhere that I could easily and cheaply reach via public transportation. Newark is super easy to get to. I’ve traveled to other parts of NJ too. It’s mostly easy!

Maybe it’s just the Brooklyn born and raised kid in me, but I’d rather use the trains and buses. Have Metrocard, Will Travel.

Ah! A different question altogether!

 

It's unusual, but not unique....or at least it was when I was escorting back in the day. I always appreciated a "heads up" (no pun intended) if there were any physical issues I needed to take into account. That way I wouldn't spend 45 minutes of the hour trying to get the client hard if it were not possible.

 

Or sometimes the client wanted to do nothing but blow me or ride my dick and not have me touch them at all....in all earnestness, it's all up to what you want to do and what you and the escort agree on. It doesn't have to be all about your dick if you would rather focus on other avenues.

Agreed completely. As I’ve saud before, I’ve been booked literally just to spar with some guys because they’re into the boxing thing. No sex at all. It’s all good.

As long as they aren’t blaming me, I wouldn’t say anything and would hope the client enjoyed themselves either way.

I was in a situation like that once that went for hours and the guy (who was drunk and high) blamed me. That was awful.