Dolman

So I met this gentleman today.  The session was fine although I wouldn't repeat.
He's a very nice guy and a true musclebeast - big and thick as his photos indicate and quite hairy which was hot in the moment.  He really does not speak English although he knows a few basics.  I'd say he's eastern European/Russian or the like.  
Again, GREAT body and a big member as well. He's very physical which was nice, but not passionate or sensual; more bear hug-ish.  He didn't kiss which was a bummer but in light of the experience, that was ok with me.  
He's staying in a BnB that was slightly on the seedy side but that's certainly no reflection on him as a person.  
I love big muscle, huge meaty pecs, and thick shoulders and upper back - He scored 10s on each of those.  He was very generous with his body and, again, a very nice guy.  
Feel free to PM if you have any specific questions. 

Rather, meooooow...

An absolute delight to meet this individual. his presence was truly captivating and engaging. I was recommended to see hin by a fellow forum member. Glad i did 

I met him once for an hour. Highly recommended and will absolutely hire again. 

I look for girth not length 😜

I’ve been with him a few times and will continue to see him. He is a creative. Definitely lives in Brooklyn. Has a beautiful cock, thick and true 8”. He is insatiable and can go multiple rounds. He’s the sweetest guy, really kind and genuine. There’s no drama. Can’t recommend him enough. Dm me for more info. 

Have to say--given the name--I had longer expectations than 6.5 inches......🙄

This all sounds like a date, rather than a hire. He might see it as worrisome.

It really varies.  I usually aim for once a month but last summer was once a week.  This summer will likely be the same.

Twice a month, alternating between two regulars; When traveling, twice a week. 
 

Every now and again I go to a gay bar, usually when I am on vacation.  I enjoy people watching and checking out whatever attractive men are there..  I do not expect to pick someone up.  In fact, I am fine if no one speaks to me, but usually, someone does and I will have a fun, usually superficial conversation.  Certainly I find it more entertaining then heading back to the hotel after dinner.  So I am old. I am okay with my looks and my life and I find an occasional  night out at a bar checking out men I will never have, enjoyable.  I am actually someone you should aspire to be, an old man who has seen better days and also has seen better days than 90% of the younger, fitter gay guys at that bar will ever see.  When I leave the bar, almost always alone, I head back to a life I am happy to have.   

some Thermas tips 
1. go early - before it gets crowded.  Thermas is big and spread across 3 floors - it can be disorienting to arrive when filed with providers & clients. Plus - it’s competitive & the locals/regulars will always go for their favorites who are usually the most in-demand. Arriving when it’s crowded puts you at a disadvantage. I like to arrive at opening about 3p and watch as providers/ clients arrive. 
2. get familiar with the layout - because it is confusing.  I’d recommend a complete walk-through of the entire place at least once to take note of spa facilities & bar (first floor), all showers (first & second floors).  And the one private bathroom on first floor with a douche - the key to that bathroom is at reception and depending on the attendant, they may require you buy an attachment or if you have your own, then a tip to get the key.  Return the key asap as there may be others waiting.
3. there will always be guys hanging around the reception area & watching the clients locker room.  the game is to snag clients in that area & before they can see the other providers.  don’t fall for it.
4. like anywhere else - be cautious if anyone offers you anything to ingest. last time I was there, a provider offered candy between sessions - upon inspection it was potent edible marijuana. there are a couple guys there routinely selling things - I’d avoid them & whatever they have.  they are obvious & likely will make an approach at some point. 
5. the free cabins are fine for 30 minutes & the staff cleans continuously- but that doesn’t mean you’ll always get a fresh cabin.  If you want to make sure it’s clean - then private rooms. Again - getting there early ensures access to private rooms - when it’s crowded you may wait and sometimes they don’t open up at all. 
6. you dont need ID to get in - leave passports & valuables in your hotel safe.  I carry a set amount of cash, one credit card & phone.  I don’t leave those items in the locker - I carry them with me in a small pack at all times.  you need cash for the guys - everything else can be on credit card.
7. bring your own condoms & lube.  the condoms provided are the most basic & the lube is almost nonexistent.  the guys appreciate good quality condoms & it makes a big difference.  I like to bring my own antibacterial soap along too - just to be extra careful between sessions.  availability of soap in the showers is not a sure thing.
8. if smoking bothers you - avoid the area on the second floor where smokers congregate.  for people who smoke, it’s ideal place to engage the guys in a more relaxed environment.
9. don’t be afraid to say no.  you will be approached many times by guys who may not be your type.  there’s not pressure per se, but they are direct and don’t want to waste time.  they are used to no & it’s just part of the environment.  polite & firm gets the message across.  

10. you will pay for everything at the end & check your final bill carefully.  if buying drinks for providers, make sure you are clear at that time what you’re offering. an offer for a drink can easily turn into a full meal - and that’s fine if that is what you’re offering.  if spending a few hours there, the charges can add up quickly. 
11. don’t be afraid to tell the provider exactly what you want - they’re professionals and have seen it all, several times.  no reason to be embarrassed.  If there is a language barrier - use google translate or show them a video of the type of scene you want. a video is easiest way to get the clear message across & I’ve seen several clients do it.

 
 
 

Quoted me $500.  Uhm, no.

I was thinking according to the pics it doesn’t look 9.5 😂

It sounds as if you just randomly put together two escorts and it didn't work out for you.
Learn from this.  Find an escort who has a second he works well with.  Don't just throw two strangers together and expect that it's going to work out in your favor.
Also, when it's not working out, don't exacerbate being the odd man out.  Ask one or both of them to leave.
No, you cannot demand them to pay attention to you, but you can end things and save yourself the stress.

I love a man who knows his Latin.

People talk themselves in circles about providers who don't kiss.
They don't kiss because they'd rather not be doing what they're doing.
I have neither patience nor sympathy for providers who don't kiss and yet expect to stay in the game.
 
 

This is why I always talk to providers about kissing before I hire.
A RM said he was into kissing, but when I told him I was into that, he replied thus. Needless to say, no hire.
 
Well my rates start at 300/hr….. and kissing donations are per kiss at 50/per or flat rate of 200/hr

wrong approach bc it’s way too vague.  
2-3 texts max to schedule, including your preferred time & place.  some flexibility, but not for the flakes.
a key decision point is how provider responds to inquires & ease of scheduling.  If it’s cumbersome & problematic- then you can expect that to carry through if there is ever an actual appointment. 

I talked to the guy that left that review. He said it was a good time maybe not exactly 9.5 but knew how to use what he had. $400 though so I politely declined not into test driving.

I’m an old gay man but nothing sad about me. I don’t have sunken eyes and I keep my figure trim by eating right and getting exercise into my weekly routine. 
I also have a life outside my gay world and am associated with several non gay  causes that keep me busy contributing my talents and time. I keep in touch with my family members. 
I haven’t been in a gay bar in ages except for one visit to Campus in Montreal recently. I do go to restaurants which gays frequent but not exclusively. 
The world consists of all sorts of people and I try to expose myself to a wide variety to keep the proper perspective on what it means to be social. 
 
 

I hired him. He is a really nice guy and very accommodating. It is HUGE but he takes his time. Overall a really good session. I will definitely hire him again.

"Unavailable
Not taking any farther requests"
 
I guess he either got a job or found Mr. Sweet. I'm going to assume that he misspelled 'further' rather than 'father'.

I'm at 2-3 times a month now.  I keep telling myself I need to cut back, but I now have 3 go to guys in Philly and it's kind of addicting.
Guess I just have to work more to support it.  I'm in my mid fifties, who knows how long I have to enjoy this type of fun before father time catches me!

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