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Onsens are hot springs. You will find people of all ages in just about any onsen in Japan. They generally are not cruisy, because in Japan, there's a time and place for just about everything. People are generally just comfortable being naked. It's not uncommon for friends or even for men who work in the same company to take a trip to an onsen together and bathe together naked.
 
There is also what's called a sento. A sento is a public bath. These are also generally not cruisy. They're for bathing. You wash, then soak in hot water. They used to be ubiquitous, but there aren't as many anymore, since most people have a bath at home. They're still easy to find in Tokyo or Osaka, though. (Some sentos have all male clientele and older women working in the bath. And they have seen it all, and they don't care.) I like these, myself, and it's worth going to one or more.
 
If you want to go where the action is, try a Japanese sauna in Tokyo or Osaka. They have the same set-up as a sento that lets you wash and soak in hot water. They also have a steamroom, a sauna, and then common rooms where guys go to have sex and/or sleep (on bunk-beds!). Lots of guys go here when they miss the last train out of Tokyo to the burbs. These tend to be hit or miss. On weeknights, they can be dead. Friday and Saturday can be good, though no guarantees. When they are hopping, though, you can have a great time. Japanese guys are not always so welcoming of attention from foreigners, so bear that in mind. But they'll probably let you watch. Other guys can be pretty persistent, which can get annoying. People tend to be very quiet, there's very little talking. You can also get a private room at many saunas. The one I liked best was 24 Kaikan in Shinjuku--it's a chain. One of the others (Ueno, I think) is more geared to bearish guys, and the one in Asakusa is for older guys and their admirers. In Osaka, Hokuoukan was fun.
 
A couple of other things: if you have tattoos, you'll have to cover them in many onsens and sentos. If they're too big to cover, they might not let you in, or they might freak out out when you disrobe. Tattoos have a yakuza/mafia connotation.
 
I'll look up some of the onsens and sentos around Tokyo and see if there are any I can recommend. Those might be more fun if you're traveling with someone, though.
 
You can PM me if you have other questions.

He's lucky you didn't fuck him using the lotion, then. I'd say no refund.

To your last point, I don't see why anyone's panties are getting in a bunch. So little was divulged about this client that there is no way anyone other than the client and masseur would be able to read this thread and identify who it's about. There isn't anything remotely identifying posted here, and this certainly isn't the first time an escort or masseur asked for public feedback about how to handle a client situation.

I didn't take that from what he said at all. If anything, not disclosing the guy's past behavior kept the discussion focused on his question in his original post, which was whether he should give the guy a refund in those circumstances. He didn't set out to show the guy in a bad light, in my reading.
 
Will he do the exact same thing to me if I am his client? I don't know: am I stalking him first in this scenario? I think anyone has a right to get a bit irked about creepy behavior. Thankfully, it wasn't dangerous creepy (lavender rash aside, of course).
 
Finally, did he disclose anything about the client at all that would make him identifiable? All we know is that he's on Grindr, has tats, and wants to get fucked. That doesn't narrow things down much...

Transfer on Death may be fine for bank accounts, but if you put real property in joint tenancy, you are giving away that interest in property now. You may be creating a taxable event for yourself, violating the terms of your mortgage or loan agreements, and triggering a tax reassessment of that interest in the property. That could be a big deal, depending on where you live. You can't "deed" personal property, because deeds are only for interests in real property.

Depending on what state you're in, you may be better off going with the lawyer, or a lawyer as your executor, than a financial advisor. If you're in California, for instance, the lawyer can't double-dip and take a fee as the lawyer and as the executor. That kind of depends on what your estate is composed of, though. If you have securities, the lawyer may take it on, but if your wealth is tied up in Beanie Babies, probably not. A professional fiduciary is a good way to go. Northern Trust takes on a lot of these. https://www.northerntrust.com/ There might also be an independent professional fiduciary in your area. If you're in California, you can also check out. https://pfac-pro.org/ If your lawyer is primarily an estate planner, they will know some decent fiduciaries in your area. Good luck!

Depending on what state you're in, you may be better off going with the lawyer, or a lawyer as your executor, than a financial advisor. If you're in California, for instance, the lawyer can't double-dip and take a fee as the lawyer and as the executor. That kind of depends on what your estate is composed of, though. If you have securities, the lawyer may take it on, but if your wealth is tied up in Beanie Babies, probably not. A professional fiduciary is a good way to go. Northern Trust takes on a lot of these. https://www.northerntrust.com/ There might also be an independent professional fiduciary in your area. If you're in California, you can also check out. https://pfac-pro.org/ If your lawyer is primarily an estate planner, they will know some decent fiduciaries in your area. Good luck!

You might want to consider consulting with a plaintiff-side employment lawyer in the area where you worked. They can tell you what realistic expectations are, whether you have a claim worth pursuing, and the various avenues open to you, such as an EEOC complaint process, a state employment discrimination process, or other avenues. Many will offer a free consultation, although whether the good ones where you are, I can't say. If you can get a free consultation, which is usually 30 minutes to an hour, you should present yourself well, have any relevant paperwork organized, and be prepared to give a coherent capsule summary of what happened in very concrete, linear chronology. Including the parts that might not be favorable to you. Good luck!

You might want to consider consulting with a plaintiff-side employment lawyer in the area where you worked. They can tell you what realistic expectations are, whether you have a claim worth pursuing, and the various avenues open to you, such as an EEOC complaint process, a state employment discrimination process, or other avenues. Many will offer a free consultation, although whether the good ones where you are, I can't say. If you can get a free consultation, which is usually 30 minutes to an hour, you should present yourself well, have any relevant paperwork organized, and be prepared to give a coherent capsule summary of what happened in very concrete, linear chronology. Including the parts that might not be favorable to you. Good luck!

Spot on...

Was simply ignoring him not an option?

When you use a penis pump does your ring finger grow or your index finger shrink?

Was simply ignoring him not an option?

Was simply ignoring him not an option?

Was simply ignoring him not an option?

Was simply ignoring him not an option?

Interesting. Back when I was using, when I saw PNP I always assumed it was meth and for those I hooked up with, meth was always part of the equation. Sometimes there would be other things like g, or k but there was always meth. I will hit my 3 year sober mark on the 19th of February. So glad I left all that shit behind.

Actually, he has a more recent movie. People hate it, it's a mess. I liked it a lot, fantastic sets. Here you go: 
http://www.imdb.com/title/tt5208216/?ref_=nm_flmg_dr_2
 

My Beautiful Laundrette was an early favorite of mine. One of the first films in which the gay characters didn't end up dead or broken at the end. Has anyone mentioned Happy Together, by Hong Kong director Wong Kar-wai? Definitely not a happy movie, but worth a viewing. I really liked it when I saw it. It's about 20 years old, and I haven't seen it in a long time.
 
Carol, Todd Haynes' most recent movie, is pretty great. Actually, anything by Todd Haynes is pretty great, IMHO.

Yes it does, Gus...yes, it does!

Are The Size Of Fingers An Indication Of Penis Size?
 
Not on women.

Do baby ducks know how to swim before they hit the water for the first time? Maybe, maybe not, but either way, they sure do pick it up quickly.
 
As a teenager, I fooled around with guys and girls, but I definitely felt I knew what I was doing with the guys a whole lot better than I did with the girls. Probably because I'd been thinking about it non-stop for years by the at point, and had, uh, practiced extensively on myself.

My Beautiful Laundrette was an early favorite of mine. One of the first films in which the gay characters didn't end up dead or broken at the end. Has anyone mentioned Happy Together, by Hong Kong director Wong Kar-wai? Definitely not a happy movie, but worth a viewing. I really liked it when I saw it. It's about 20 years old, and I haven't seen it in a long time.
 
Carol, Todd Haynes' most recent movie, is pretty great. Actually, anything by Todd Haynes is pretty great, IMHO.

I'm having a hard time replying. This keyboard is just too damn small.
 
Kevin Slater

LOL, it was a good review. I don't mind sharing.