nycman

Or by just being a twat? grin

No, but I am willing to bet you paid upfront. That’s on you. Yes, but this is an easily avoidable situation. No Huggie, No Kissie, No $$$$. Repeat after me, "We’re not here to talk. We’re here to fuck."

Thank you for sharing your experience and I’m glad it was different than mine. I will say, he seemed generally surprised and disappointed when I refused the "payment upfront" thing. My little head was telling me to take a chance, but thankfully my big head won out. If you find yourself talking to him about it again, please encourage him to just be upfront at the very beginning with his policy. It’s easy to say "no" with no hard feelings at the very beginning. Waiting until the time of the scheduled meet up burns a little.

Glad to hear you had a good experience. Just curious, did he ask for payment upfront?

They always say "self love" is the best love.

Personally, I’m not a big PS fan. It’s just not my scene. Too hard to get to from the East Coast, and too close to LA. I was a HUGE Key West fan 10-15 years ago. It was fading even then, but it was fun. Now, it’s a place I’d visit with straight friends. And that’s not a good thing.

Because I can.

I tried this. I just ended up with a freezer full of old vegetables and discarded carcasses. An Instapot makes the preparation of the stock easier and faster. I just can’t be bothered. Also, my friends freak out when they open the freezer and see a bunch of dead animal bones. My local grocer sells cheap, ugly, and fresh "stock vegetables" and "soup bones". That’s good enough for me. I will admit @mike carey’s post made me hard. Especially the choose your own adventure section: And we all know what word I chose…..

Yeah, his map shows him about 70 miles outside Philadelphia. Ain’t nobody got time for that. There are better options in town, for less.

As others have suggested: Take the items out of the LV shopping bags. Discard the LV shopping bags. Rip the tags off the merchandise. Hand carry/wear/use anything you can on the airplane home and as you pass through customs. I’ve walked through US customs hundreds of times, but never been stopped. I have been stopped multiple times by Canada, once in Germany, once in the Caribbean, once in Morocco, and once in Egypt. On every occasion, I’ve been let through without having to pay any duty or fees. However, I also wasn’t carrying anything that would be subject to duty or import taxes. Nonetheless, they wasted hours of my time asking me to explain things like underwear that had never been worn. They literally picked up every single piece of clothing in my bag and asked me where I bought it and how much I paid for it. They tortured me over why anyone in the world anyone would pay $2000 for a cashmere Ralph Lauren purple label sweater. Try explaining that to a massively underpaid and exhausted Customs worker. Just stay calm and endure the torture. They’re only trying to get you to buckle under the pressure. If they actually knew you were guilty of something, they wouldn’t bother asking you questions. As long as you’ve taken the precautions above, it’s virtually impossible for them to prove where you bought something. Avoid the temptation to be sarcastic or condescending. "Yes sir", "No sir", and "Thank you, sir", are only words that should be coming out of your mouth. For the record, the Canadian Customs agents were the biggest jerks. By far. Every time. I must be on their "watchlist" or something. It’s so bad that I actually avoid going to Canada, which is sad because I think it’s a nice country otherwise.

You rang? As a rule, I pretty much never involve spanking on first meeting someone. Even though I tend to have a dominant sexuality, I’m very sensitive about stepping over someone else’s boundaries. It takes a lot of time and trust for me to open up my more aggressive side. There are a handful of guys out there who are just naturally submissive. If I get a whiff of that on the first hire, I quickly ask if they’d be open to a more intense experience in the future. Some are. Some are not. For me it’s cool either way, there’s more to sex than Dom/Sub play.

Welcome to the Internet! Learn to use the ignore function. It has greatly increased my enjoyment of this site.

That’s not a "rack rate", that’s robbery. grin

I feel the song coming on….

I believe it. I sat next to him in a Michelin three star restaurant in New York once. I’ve never seen a more socially awkward human in my life. He was eating all alone. He barely said anything and never made eye contact with the staff who were trying to be polite and engage him. It wasn’t until Anna Wintour walked over and licked his ass that I was sure it was him.

If someone says they have a "policy" of being paid in advance, I simply respond that that is a dealbreaker for me and ask if that’s a "dealbreaker" for them. If they say "yes", then I thank them for their time and I move on. I’d say about 50% say it’s a dealbreaker for them and about 50% agree to meet without being paid upfront. If they do decide to "break their policy" for me, then I make sure the money is clearly visible when they come into the room. That seems to be enough to set the skeptics at ease. I’ve had some great times with some guys who have broken their policy for me, so I think it’s worth at least asking. I will tell you that refusing to pay an upfront will piss some guys off. I’ve certainly been spoken down to, berated, and even threatened for refusing to pay ahead of time. The funny thing is, the more agitated a guy gets, the more I think he’s a scammer, and the more I think I just dodged a bullet. So it’s a win-win in my book.

That was my first thought as well. If you didn’t ask for your bourbon by name, you got what you deserved. grin I’m a Marker’s Mark fan for most of my mixed bourbon drinks. My absolute favorite whiskey for an old-fashioned is Mitchner’s Sour Mash. It can be a little hard to find, but a good bartender can produce a masterpiece with it. If you happen to see it on the shelf (it will probably be next to the Mitchner‘s bourbon or Mitchner’s rye), give it a try! For sipping bourbon, I try to find more boutique, small batch varieties. The only problem is when you find something you like, you’ll probably never find it again.

Yeah, the appointment was all set up. We seemed like a good match, but then the dreaded "one last thing" text at the time we were supposed to meet.

Requested payment up front, but he was polite about it when I refused. As a result, we never met. Sorry, I don’t have anymore information than that.

Then he might want to think about having an active ad….. (i.e., the link above doesn’t work)

My new favorite epithet…."Birkin Bag Face".

And that’s a bad thing? grin

Thankfully, I have a severe dislike of Wagyu steak. I love steaks, but Wagyu is just mealy and weird to me.

Whenever I get requests like this, I always chalk it up as an immediate loss. If I give the money, I’ll never get the services promised and I’ll never get the money back. If I say no, the relationship is done. True whether it’s escorts, business associates, friends, or family. Having said that, sometimes I say yes, and sometimes I say no.

It’s a minor negative in my book. I think it’s immature and kind of stupid. Two qualities that I don’t look for in someone I’m trying to fuck.