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    Jose_ok NYC

    in Spas & Masseurs

    Posted

    15 minutes ago, GlamNYC said:

    100% true in this provider’s case.  

    I just have to come out and say this in Jose's defense.  I've only had one session with Jose pre-COVID and he was not like this at all.  A friendly, bubbly, handsome guy who aimed to please.  I want to express my sympathy for him since it seems he hasn't been the same since the loss of his boyfriend.  I feel that he hasn't been able to fully deal with it and that's the root of his issues.  You guys are completely correct in what you say and I would feel the same way.   We want a good experience when we schedule a massage and don't need the extra drama.  This continuing situation will and obviously is affecting Jose's massage business which is his livelihood.  I hope he will seek out much needed help.  

    411 on Willybear - Newark, NJ

    in Spas & Masseurs

    Posted · Edited by Redwine56

    6 minutes ago, NJItalThickD said:

    Oh damn how dumb am I lol 

    The bio says 6'4" @ 120 lbs.  Isn't that very thin?  He is a cute bear.  Nice body.  You're not dumb.  We can't know about everyone or everything.  That's why we Google!  😁

    NEIGHBOURS SON !!

    in Fetish Forum

    Posted

    On 2/11/2024 at 6:58 AM, Whitman said:

    I respect your concern, but my own best guess is that we're all trying to use good judgment and play by the rules of the forum.

    This thread has been around for a long time, moderators have been here, at least one of them regularly posts reactions to images. That said, perceptions may vary. Anyone who sees something questionable should call it to the attention of those in charge. There's a message about that from @Cooper posted earlier in this thread:

    Administrator’s Message:

    If you have a concern about the age of any individual in a picture, please submit a report and the Moderators will take a look. 

    Thanks,

    Cooper

    Just curious . . . Is there any need for concern by our posters?  These pictures were taken by others and posted publicly.  Our posters are just sharing them.  It's not as if they are going out and taking these pictures and distributing them.  Correct me if my assumption is incorrect.  Thanks!

    Masseurs with room mates? How to deal with this?

    in Questions About Hiring

    Posted

    On 2/8/2024 at 11:08 AM, soloyo215 said:

    No, you are not squeamish. You do what you are comfortable doing in a service that you are paying for. I know that there's some fucking involved, but let's not forget that the massage part is supposed to be relaxing to start with.

    I had a horrible experience with people in the apartment of a masseur I once hired. It was not a roommate, they were visitors, and yes, the exact thing that we don't want to happen, happened, them walking around and interrupting, and it wasn't a pleasant experience at all. They were passing by as I was getting the massage, and apologies from the masseur didn not make any difference. The experience was very unprofessional (he did not say anything about other people in his NYC apartment beforehand) and I decided to cut it short. Gave him a bad review, he changed his profile, probably to avoid the bad review(s) and later disappeared from the sites.

    Your provider was quite professional when he told you ahead of time. You were very clear stating your discomfort with it, so I think the situation was handled properly and professionally on both parts. Of course, there's always the fantasy that the roommate is some hot guy who also gets naked and joins the massage/fucking when they see you, but what are the real chances of that? So no, IMO, you're not bveing a prude. It's supposed to be a private, intimate and relaxing experience without disruptions and worries about other people present.

    I'd be very thankful to the provider for being clear and upfroint about it. He's very professional.

    Your experience gave me a chuckle.  People walking around the massage table!?  OMG.  Your body was on display like in some sci-fi movie.  The masseur should not have taken any $$$ from you.  Good grief . . . No excuses.

    Masseurs with room mates? How to deal with this?

    in Questions About Hiring

    Posted

    9 hours ago, Simon Suraci said:

    Haha yes, this particular guy is therapeutic only. A bit of hyperbole to make the point that he’s so good that he’s about the only one I would go to such lengths for. If I’m publicly doing anything in the nude in Times Square, I should be getting paid for it. Or arrested. Or both.

    Any NYC folks PM me so I can add you to my interest list. When I have enough I will reach out to make a trip.

    Understood.  With reference to your insightful and thoughtful comments on this forum and welcoming descriptions of the type of massage performed, I believe you have earned a list of respected clients who will easily keep you busy for a trip to the Big Apple.  I'll pm you with my personal info.

    Masseurs with room mates? How to deal with this?

    in Questions About Hiring

    Posted

    9 hours ago, Simon Suraci said:

    It sounds like in this case the masseur takes the right approach by only scheduling appointments when the roommate is not home i.e. the functional equivalent of a dedicated space for the duration of the session. As long as nobody else is coming or going or present, that sounds fine to me. Also, he did the right thing by alerting you ahead of time. I agree, you should reschedule for a time that he has the privacy to offer you all the services you want, in an atmosphere you want.

    A few of my workspace peeves:

    Rule 1) no other people in/around your work space, or hanging around outside of it. The client shouldn’t encounter anyone besides a neighbor or doorman or stranger on the street or in a hall or lobby. Certainly not the masseur’s significant other, family, or friends.

    Rule 2) no pets in/around your workspace. People have allergies and pets are distracting, even the most well behaved ones. Who wants a dog licking your feet or whimpering for attention in the next room or a masseur snapping their fingers or raising their voice to ask their cat to exit the room? Or worse, the pet jumps on the massage table. One of my clients told me he visited someone else and the masseur set out a glass of water for the client, upon request. The cat started lapping from the glass during the massage. I don’t blame the client for feeling weird about that.

    Rule 3) provide a dedicated workspace

    Rule 4) provide a sufficient buffer in between appointments so that clients will not cross paths on their way in/out.

    These are just some of the problems with working out of the same place you live. If you live with other people, you must have a division of space that offers complete privacy, with a separate entrance and 100% dedicated bathroom. A client should never feel like their privacy is at risk or that they are being monitored.

    One of my favorite masseurs worked out of his apartment and he had clients coming and going through his living room, which functioned as a waiting area. Appointments were back to back, no buffer, so you often saw his previous client leaving before you went in, and again in reverse on your way out. His partner lived separately at the time but was frequently in the living room too. So weird. It never bothered me, but I can’t imagine a lot of my clients would ever put up with that. Good thing his massage is so good. For him, I would have the appointment on the street in the middle of Times Square if it suited him. He is just that good. 

    Shall I presume that the massage was that of a theraputic nature?  I mean "in the middle of Times Square?"  And that begs the question -  When are you planning a visit to NYC?  Many of us are waiting for you.  😉

    Masseurs with room mates? How to deal with this?

    in Questions About Hiring

    Posted

    7 minutes ago, scorpio1988may said:

    i've had 3 really awkward situations - one of them the masseurs wife was upstairs and he took be downstairs for the erotic massage; another time i had to walk past a lady (wife?) sitting in living room to use the bathroom; the strangest was when the masseurs (mother?) knocked on the door 

    none of them told me there would be others there and i never went back to any of them

    Was Mom telling the masseur that dinner was ready?  😄

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