FTM Zachary Prince

I fully concur!
 
Don't just 'tell an escort' tho; tell everyone! This is advice everyone could benefit from unless you're the kind of guy who just won't let anyone near your ass (& even then a little soap honestly wouldn't kill ya).
 
 
I often have an exchange in the first few minutes of a hookup that goes something like:
 
Me: By the way did you get to shower recently or do you wanna take one now?
Him: Yup! I showered just a couple hours ago.
Me: Ok great but are you sure you're squeaky clean EVERYwhere because I really wanna be able to taste every... last... inch of you.
Him: I'll take another shower real quick!!

I fully concur!
 
Don't just 'tell an escort' tho; tell everyone! This is advice everyone could benefit from unless you're the kind of guy who just won't let anyone near your ass (& even then a little soap honestly wouldn't kill ya).
 
 
I often have an exchange in the first few minutes of a hookup that goes something like:
 
Me: By the way did you get to shower recently or do you wanna take one now?
Him: Yup! I showered just a couple hours ago.
Me: Ok great but are you sure you're squeaky clean EVERYwhere because I really wanna be able to taste every... last... inch of you.
Him: I'll take another shower real quick!!

I've been contacted after looking at a guy's ad & I don't mind it. The only time I do is if I look at the ad again later, and the escort contacts me again with the exact same message, as if we've never messaged before.

Because some guys like to bareback!
 
Are you using condoms for blowjobs? Because if not, you can easily contract and spread all the STIs you mentioned from oral sex. That's not a risk SPECIFIC to bareback anal sex.
 
If guys are asking you to bareback when your profiles clearly state that you DON'T, then I certainly empathise with you though. It's never acceptable for a client to push your boundaries when you've already said NO.
 
But at the end of the day, your safer sex preferences are not superior to anyone else's. We all make choices about which risks we want to take and which we don't. You can justify your choices and condemn someone else's by citing STI risks, but in reality no penetrative sex (including oral) is truly safe. The best we can do is choose the types of protection that make us feel at peace with our choices.
 
And you are NOT competing with escorts who bareback for clients who are exclusively interested in barebacking. Those clients will find what they want regardless. If you don't provide the service that they are looking for, they will move onto someone else because that's what people do.
 
If the exchanges are annoying you then I would recommend making it exceedingly clear in all your marketing that you don't BB and don't want to be asked about it. Consider anyone who asks you to reconsider to be a boundary-pusher and delete them without responding. Problem solved.

Most escorts I know require deposits for extended dates for that very reason. If you have a solid reputation, then your clients shouldn't mind. Some escorts do require deposits on a case by case basis from clients who have canceled on them too many times in the past, regardless of session length.
 
Its almost the same whether you have deposit policy for repeat cancelers or simply cut them off. Because the reality is- most repeat cancelers (especially for extended dates and overnights) are either time wasters or people who don't respect escorts enough to consider their committments to us worth keeping. And obviously those types of folks will either ignore you or tell you to fuck off if you ask for a deposit. But in the RARE circumstance that someone actually had an unavoidable reason to cancel twice, having a deposit policy instead of directly cutting them off does give them an opportunity to still meet you.
 
It seems better to me to make the deposit policy preventative rather than punitive by simply requiring one for *all* extended bookings, but that's just my opinion based on my own business model.

Because some guys like to bareback!
 
Are you using condoms for blowjobs? Because if not, you can easily contract and spread all the STIs you mentioned from oral sex. That's not a risk SPECIFIC to bareback anal sex.
 
If guys are asking you to bareback when your profiles clearly state that you DON'T, then I certainly empathise with you though. It's never acceptable for a client to push your boundaries when you've already said NO.
 
But at the end of the day, your safer sex preferences are not superior to anyone else's. We all make choices about which risks we want to take and which we don't. You can justify your choices and condemn someone else's by citing STI risks, but in reality no penetrative sex (including oral) is truly safe. The best we can do is choose the types of protection that make us feel at peace with our choices.
 
And you are NOT competing with escorts who bareback for clients who are exclusively interested in barebacking. Those clients will find what they want regardless. If you don't provide the service that they are looking for, they will move onto someone else because that's what people do.
 
If the exchanges are annoying you then I would recommend making it exceedingly clear in all your marketing that you don't BB and don't want to be asked about it. Consider anyone who asks you to reconsider to be a boundary-pusher and delete them without responding. Problem solved.

Because some guys like to bareback!
 
Are you using condoms for blowjobs? Because if not, you can easily contract and spread all the STIs you mentioned from oral sex. That's not a risk SPECIFIC to bareback anal sex.
 
If guys are asking you to bareback when your profiles clearly state that you DON'T, then I certainly empathise with you though. It's never acceptable for a client to push your boundaries when you've already said NO.
 
But at the end of the day, your safer sex preferences are not superior to anyone else's. We all make choices about which risks we want to take and which we don't. You can justify your choices and condemn someone else's by citing STI risks, but in reality no penetrative sex (including oral) is truly safe. The best we can do is choose the types of protection that make us feel at peace with our choices.
 
And you are NOT competing with escorts who bareback for clients who are exclusively interested in barebacking. Those clients will find what they want regardless. If you don't provide the service that they are looking for, they will move onto someone else because that's what people do.
 
If the exchanges are annoying you then I would recommend making it exceedingly clear in all your marketing that you don't BB and don't want to be asked about it. Consider anyone who asks you to reconsider to be a boundary-pusher and delete them without responding. Problem solved.

Because some guys like to bareback!
 
Are you using condoms for blowjobs? Because if not, you can easily contract and spread all the STIs you mentioned from oral sex. That's not a risk SPECIFIC to bareback anal sex.
 
If guys are asking you to bareback when your profiles clearly state that you DON'T, then I certainly empathise with you though. It's never acceptable for a client to push your boundaries when you've already said NO.
 
But at the end of the day, your safer sex preferences are not superior to anyone else's. We all make choices about which risks we want to take and which we don't. You can justify your choices and condemn someone else's by citing STI risks, but in reality no penetrative sex (including oral) is truly safe. The best we can do is choose the types of protection that make us feel at peace with our choices.
 
And you are NOT competing with escorts who bareback for clients who are exclusively interested in barebacking. Those clients will find what they want regardless. If you don't provide the service that they are looking for, they will move onto someone else because that's what people do.
 
If the exchanges are annoying you then I would recommend making it exceedingly clear in all your marketing that you don't BB and don't want to be asked about it. Consider anyone who asks you to reconsider to be a boundary-pusher and delete them without responding. Problem solved.

Because some guys like to bareback!
 
Are you using condoms for blowjobs? Because if not, you can easily contract and spread all the STIs you mentioned from oral sex. That's not a risk SPECIFIC to bareback anal sex.
 
If guys are asking you to bareback when your profiles clearly state that you DON'T, then I certainly empathise with you though. It's never acceptable for a client to push your boundaries when you've already said NO.
 
But at the end of the day, your safer sex preferences are not superior to anyone else's. We all make choices about which risks we want to take and which we don't. You can justify your choices and condemn someone else's by citing STI risks, but in reality no penetrative sex (including oral) is truly safe. The best we can do is choose the types of protection that make us feel at peace with our choices.
 
And you are NOT competing with escorts who bareback for clients who are exclusively interested in barebacking. Those clients will find what they want regardless. If you don't provide the service that they are looking for, they will move onto someone else because that's what people do.
 
If the exchanges are annoying you then I would recommend making it exceedingly clear in all your marketing that you don't BB and don't want to be asked about it. Consider anyone who asks you to reconsider to be a boundary-pusher and delete them without responding. Problem solved.

Because some guys like to bareback!
 
Are you using condoms for blowjobs? Because if not, you can easily contract and spread all the STIs you mentioned from oral sex. That's not a risk SPECIFIC to bareback anal sex.
 
If guys are asking you to bareback when your profiles clearly state that you DON'T, then I certainly empathise with you though. It's never acceptable for a client to push your boundaries when you've already said NO.
 
But at the end of the day, your safer sex preferences are not superior to anyone else's. We all make choices about which risks we want to take and which we don't. You can justify your choices and condemn someone else's by citing STI risks, but in reality no penetrative sex (including oral) is truly safe. The best we can do is choose the types of protection that make us feel at peace with our choices.
 
And you are NOT competing with escorts who bareback for clients who are exclusively interested in barebacking. Those clients will find what they want regardless. If you don't provide the service that they are looking for, they will move onto someone else because that's what people do.
 
If the exchanges are annoying you then I would recommend making it exceedingly clear in all your marketing that you don't BB and don't want to be asked about it. Consider anyone who asks you to reconsider to be a boundary-pusher and delete them without responding. Problem solved.

Because some guys like to bareback!
 
Are you using condoms for blowjobs? Because if not, you can easily contract and spread all the STIs you mentioned from oral sex. That's not a risk SPECIFIC to bareback anal sex.
 
If guys are asking you to bareback when your profiles clearly state that you DON'T, then I certainly empathise with you though. It's never acceptable for a client to push your boundaries when you've already said NO.
 
But at the end of the day, your safer sex preferences are not superior to anyone else's. We all make choices about which risks we want to take and which we don't. You can justify your choices and condemn someone else's by citing STI risks, but in reality no penetrative sex (including oral) is truly safe. The best we can do is choose the types of protection that make us feel at peace with our choices.
 
And you are NOT competing with escorts who bareback for clients who are exclusively interested in barebacking. Those clients will find what they want regardless. If you don't provide the service that they are looking for, they will move onto someone else because that's what people do.
 
If the exchanges are annoying you then I would recommend making it exceedingly clear in all your marketing that you don't BB and don't want to be asked about it. Consider anyone who asks you to reconsider to be a boundary-pusher and delete them without responding. Problem solved.

Because some guys like to bareback!
 
Are you using condoms for blowjobs? Because if not, you can easily contract and spread all the STIs you mentioned from oral sex. That's not a risk SPECIFIC to bareback anal sex.
 
If guys are asking you to bareback when your profiles clearly state that you DON'T, then I certainly empathise with you though. It's never acceptable for a client to push your boundaries when you've already said NO.
 
But at the end of the day, your safer sex preferences are not superior to anyone else's. We all make choices about which risks we want to take and which we don't. You can justify your choices and condemn someone else's by citing STI risks, but in reality no penetrative sex (including oral) is truly safe. The best we can do is choose the types of protection that make us feel at peace with our choices.
 
And you are NOT competing with escorts who bareback for clients who are exclusively interested in barebacking. Those clients will find what they want regardless. If you don't provide the service that they are looking for, they will move onto someone else because that's what people do.
 
If the exchanges are annoying you then I would recommend making it exceedingly clear in all your marketing that you don't BB and don't want to be asked about it. Consider anyone who asks you to reconsider to be a boundary-pusher and delete them without responding. Problem solved.

Most escorts I know require deposits for extended dates for that very reason. If you have a solid reputation, then your clients shouldn't mind. Some escorts do require deposits on a case by case basis from clients who have canceled on them too many times in the past, regardless of session length.
 
Its almost the same whether you have deposit policy for repeat cancelers or simply cut them off. Because the reality is- most repeat cancelers (especially for extended dates and overnights) are either time wasters or people who don't respect escorts enough to consider their committments to us worth keeping. And obviously those types of folks will either ignore you or tell you to fuck off if you ask for a deposit. But in the RARE circumstance that someone actually had an unavoidable reason to cancel twice, having a deposit policy instead of directly cutting them off does give them an opportunity to still meet you.
 
It seems better to me to make the deposit policy preventative rather than punitive by simply requiring one for *all* extended bookings, but that's just my opinion based on my own business model.

Most escorts I know require deposits for extended dates for that very reason. If you have a solid reputation, then your clients shouldn't mind. Some escorts do require deposits on a case by case basis from clients who have canceled on them too many times in the past, regardless of session length.
 
Its almost the same whether you have deposit policy for repeat cancelers or simply cut them off. Because the reality is- most repeat cancelers (especially for extended dates and overnights) are either time wasters or people who don't respect escorts enough to consider their committments to us worth keeping. And obviously those types of folks will either ignore you or tell you to fuck off if you ask for a deposit. But in the RARE circumstance that someone actually had an unavoidable reason to cancel twice, having a deposit policy instead of directly cutting them off does give them an opportunity to still meet you.
 
It seems better to me to make the deposit policy preventative rather than punitive by simply requiring one for *all* extended bookings, but that's just my opinion based on my own business model.

Most escorts I know require deposits for extended dates for that very reason. If you have a solid reputation, then your clients shouldn't mind. Some escorts do require deposits on a case by case basis from clients who have canceled on them too many times in the past, regardless of session length.
 
Its almost the same whether you have deposit policy for repeat cancelers or simply cut them off. Because the reality is- most repeat cancelers (especially for extended dates and overnights) are either time wasters or people who don't respect escorts enough to consider their committments to us worth keeping. And obviously those types of folks will either ignore you or tell you to fuck off if you ask for a deposit. But in the RARE circumstance that someone actually had an unavoidable reason to cancel twice, having a deposit policy instead of directly cutting them off does give them an opportunity to still meet you.
 
It seems better to me to make the deposit policy preventative rather than punitive by simply requiring one for *all* extended bookings, but that's just my opinion based on my own business model.

I am going on 400+ pairs... Who the hell needs 400 pair of shoes....? I only have 2 feet..... I NEED HELP !

I'm on the @FTM Zachary Prince train all the way to Minneapolis! You reinforced my decision to do cancellation fees, and also gave me additional strategies to use towards it.
 
End of 2017 and into 2018, it's going to be STRICTLY cancellation fees enforced, zero tolerance for Inconsideration. I used to just be okay doing deposits, but with the level of things, a cancellation fee policy is going to be necessary.

I think the NEED for a cancellation fee varies widely depending on the business model of the escort. Some business models, for example, are primarily based on a higher volume of shorter appointments within a metro area, and involve a good number of last minute cancellations and last minute bookings that might on average even out, thus anyone could shrug and say it's just the cost of doing business. Let's say for example that this escort has a steady Incall arrangement and doesn't have to front hotel fees to host Incall either. Offering clients last minute flexibility in this case may be practical & have positive impact on the escort's relationships with said clients.
 
However~ consider an entirely different business model. An escort has a two hour minimum booking and is flying into NYC from Europe to see clients. He sees only two clients a day maximum to deliver optimum performance. Because of the higher commitment of time & money involved, most of his clients book weeks in advance. He spends three days each in NYC, DC, Chicago, SF, LA, and Atlanta. His hotel Incall costs amount to $300 per night on average, add in food/travel/incidentals and we're looking at $400-500 per day investment to make the tour. If a client were to cancel on him even 24-48 hours in advance, it might cause him a financial loss as it could be too late to adjust his travel plans, and he might be much more unlikely to be able to fill the spot on such short notice. This guy might need to have a cancellation fee in order to buffer the loss of income from unexpected last minute cancellations.
 
What feels last minute to one escort can vary widely from what feels last minute to another escort. When flights & hotel reservations are involved, 24 hours seems like much less notice than when someone's only investment to reach you is a taxi or uber ride. There are also hidden factors less obvious to the client. Did the escort have to rearrange his schedule to accommodate your request in the first place? Did that cost him anything? Did he turn down other requests that he can't now re-arrange because that client has already made other plans? Etc.

Kissing is extremely creative and like conversation will naturally be different from person to person as they have different needs and chemistry.

Yes, absolutely... There's so many thoughts and feelings that can be expressed thru kissing it IS like a conversation.

I personally do charge a cancellation fee. My business model makes it necessary. I invest a lot of money in advance to make myself available for clients. Since I serve a niche market, this allows me to meet clients from all over the country instead of listening to them lament from afar that they are dying to meet me but can't make it to my home city. But it does require some level of committment between my clients and I about our appointments.
 
If I didn't charge a cancellation fee, I know I would be suspicious and resentful of clients who canceled on me at the last minute. Anyone can say they're sick, or their mother died, or any number of excuses, but at the end of the day, I have no way of verifying any of that and I'll be the one stuck with a $300 hotel bill for a room that I didn't even end up using. Other clients have mentioned, here and elsewhere, that an escort has stopped communicating with them or accepting appointments after a last-minute cancellation. We often do this because we can't tell with certainty who legimately had a last-minute emergency and who is simply being disrespectful of our time. In an effort to protect ourselves from further losses in the future, we may cut off any client who cancels at the last minute, assuming the worst about their potential to repeat this behaviour in the future (as many who don't respect our time unfortunately do). For me, charging a cancellation fee is also a way of sorting between someone who genuinely had a last minute emergency but DOES respect my time/monetary investment, and someone who merely made an excuse because they didn't respect my time enough to keep their committment. This way, I don't end up resentful towards or cutting off a good client who genuinely respects my time but just couldn't make things work suddenly.
 
My cancellation policy is a contract between me and my clients where we both agree to share the financial responsibility in the event that something should come up on the client's end. Obviously if I need to cancel for any reason (very rare), then the loss is all mine. I NEVER surprise a client with a cancellation fee after the fact, tho. My cancellation policy is generally stated in my ads, on my website, and included in the body of my email request for a client to confirm our booking before I block it into my calendar and make the logistical arrangements. Thus every client CONSENTS to it when confirming a booking and has the opportunity to decline to confirm if he disagrees. I find that this approach makes having a cancellation policy a very smooth and conflict-free experience. I do not HAVE to demand a cancellation fee after someone cancels on me at the last minute; my clients already know when canceling that I have a cancellation policy, and generally mention their intention to send my cancellation fee at the same time that they inform me of the cancellation.
 
Is my cancellation policy "enforceable"? Absolutely not, in the same way that I don't have much legal recourse if a client shorts me $100 of my fee after a session. However, given that my clients consent to my policy when making a booking and are aware of it when they choose to cancel, if someone doesn't send me the fee as previously agreed then it lets me know pretty clearly just how much they respect my business. At least I don't have to play any guessing games about their intentions and can comfortably refuse to engage with them about any future appointments. At that point the breach of trust between the two of us is clear.
 
Since implementing a clearly-explained and client-consented cancellation policy (3-4 years ago), not only has my number of cancellations dropped dramatically, but the stress has gone out of the ones that do happen. Vast majority of my clients send my cancellation fee without any stress on my part, my touring finances are more stable, and the rare client who does not follow thru with my fee ends up on my permanent DO NOT SEE list. It's also improved my relationships with good clients who do have to cancel unexpectedly last minute because the whole exchange is consensual and respectful toward both of us... no reason for surprise or suspicion on either side of the equation.

Keep your hours. I see those as a buffer in between longer appointments and ONs. Also, the small hour appointments can take a trip with small profit, to a sizeable one.
 
I offer additional hour discounts, and this discussion is making me think I should post that in my ad. I too enjoy the 2-4 hour appointment range. I feel there isn't a sense of being rushed on either end. Plus, both parties gain more of a connection with the longer appointment.

Kevin Slater

Glad that you fleshed this out for the OP. When a companion tells you how he excels or what he prefers, stick to his wheelhouse......OR choose another provider. Scheduling a companion outside of his best skillset leads to unremarkable or unsatisfying encounters.