Cancel on me once, shame on you. Cancel on me twice...

[+ VictorPowers]

An inquiring mind here. I'm asking those of you that do not assess cancellation charges. If a new client has cancelled on 2 separate occasions, what do you do? Are they not to see you in the future? Is a deposit now required? Is each occurrence situational? I'm in the midst of changing some cancellation policies, and would love some guidance.

[hornytwells]

I am a freelancer who sees people by the hour too, altho in a different line of work. I have a 24 hour cancellation policy, and generally enforce it unless the client is so regular and never cancels, then I will usually let them off. It is more to discourage those who are inclined to be flakey. I know in your line of work it is harder to enforce this rule, as your clients can be sparse/sporadic. My usual rule is to let them off the first time, but second time I would say they have to pay you, chances are they won't but then you don't see them or accept their booking next time. For the odd hour you may lose it will be worth it in the end to avoid endless flaking and last minute rescheduling.

[+ VictorPowers]

I am a freelancer who sees people by the hour too, altho in a different line of work. I have a 24 hour cancellation policy, and generally enforce it unless the client is so regular and never cancels, then I will usually let them off. It is more to discourage those who are inclined to be flakey. I know in your line of work it is harder to enforce this rule, as your clients can be sparse/sporadic. My usual rule is to let them off the first time, but second time I would say they have to pay you, chances are they won't but then you don't see them or accept their booking next time. For the odd hour you may lose it will be worth it in the end to avoid endless flaking and last minute rescheduling.

Thank you for your response. The hourly cancels I can live with. It is the ONs and extended dates that can really damage a schedule.

[jjkrkwood]

An inquiring mind here. I'm asking those of you that do not assess cancellation charges. If a new client has cancelled on 2 separate occasions, what do you do? Are they not to see you in the future? Is a deposit now required? Is each occurrence situational? I'm in the midst of changing some cancellation policies, and would love some guidance.

 

 

I am sure that if you offered up a Free sample of that delicious "bundt cake", there would be NO further cancellations ?

 

It's like when you go to Costco, and they want you to buy the New products, they setup those little tables with those non-descript people handing out the Freebies, and you go "um, this is delicious", and you throw it in your cart.

[+ VictorPowers]

I am sure that if you offered up a Free sample of that delicious "bundt cake", there would be NO further cancellations ?

I'll need to travel to conventions and open up a booth

[jjkrkwood]

I'll need to travel to conventions and open up a booth

 

Start with the Javitts Center, so I can attend ! :D:p

[BaronArtz]

Thank you for your response. The hourly cancels I can live with. It is the ONs and extended dates that can really damage a schedule.

 

From this client's perspective, it would be totally acceptable if you requested travel expenses prepaid and a modest deposit on the fee, for overnight or extended dates.

[Mocha]

An inquiring mind here. I'm asking those of you that do not assess cancellation charges. If a new client has cancelled on 2 separate occasions, what do you do? Are they not to see you in the future? Is a deposit now required? Is each occurrence situational? I'm in the midst of changing some cancellation policies, and would love some guidance.

 

In 2017, 1 occasion is grounds for dismissal with a newbie. 1. Not 2. One. I don't play that. Someone did that last week. Booked, cancelled a few minutes before...said tomorrow, then said they couldn't make it. No loss as I was already with a client. But regardless, that's someone who is now aware upfront payment required. And I'm not waiting on it.

 

I know on a prior thread you mentioned not doing a cancellation fee?

 

Even if it's not a new client and seen him 3 time, still do the cancellation policy. Some people start off good, and then become unreliable later.

 

These guys can't be given free passes. I was reading elsewhere how the straight guys will book 2 or more females, and then cancel on 1 once the other one shows up and is kosher. Some of these things you'll only find out working side by side with another escort of your caliber.

 

I'm like okay, you can play the game...but it's going to be at their expense. I can't say that happens everytime, but every cancel must be treated the same.

 

And now, there's a new wave of cancellation tactic that's going around: these guys bookmark days when your coming to town. They say they want to see you and will check back. But then, they contact last minute..and if you say you're not available until a certain time, they say it's too late...but Monday or Tuesday may work. Monday or Tuesday comes around and they do the same fucking shit or say they aren't available after all.

 

They know they need to plan stuff in advance or atleast earlier in the day, and still be trying to do last minute stuff. There's already 2 regulars who do this kind of thing and I'm not fucking with them anymore because everytime it comes to scheduling whether I meet them or not, they make it this fiasco to set things up. Its almost like they are passive aggressively insinuating a lack of concern for their word.

[hornytwells]

Thank you for your response. The hourly cancels I can live with. It is the ONs and extended dates that can really damage a schedule.

In those cases I would not see those clients after first cancellation unless they were prepared to pay you a deposit. I can understand a client being reluctant to do a deposit up front without knowing the escort, but if they have already cancelled you once with no offer of compensation then I think it's a reasonable request.

[Cannon]

I wouldn't schedule with them again.

[FTM Zachary Prince]

Most escorts I know require deposits for extended dates for that very reason. If you have a solid reputation, then your clients shouldn't mind. Some escorts do require deposits on a case by case basis from clients who have canceled on them too many times in the past, regardless of session length.

 

Its almost the same whether you have deposit policy for repeat cancelers or simply cut them off. Because the reality is- most repeat cancelers (especially for extended dates and overnights) are either time wasters or people who don't respect escorts enough to consider their committments to us worth keeping. And obviously those types of folks will either ignore you or tell you to fuck off if you ask for a deposit. But in the RARE circumstance that someone actually had an unavoidable reason to cancel twice, having a deposit policy instead of directly cutting them off does give them an opportunity to still meet you.

 

It seems better to me to make the deposit policy preventative rather than punitive by simply requiring one for *all* extended bookings, but that's just my opinion based on my own business model.

[+ oldNbusted]

As a client, I would not consider booking an extended session for a first meeting, even if the guy was highly regarded or even personally recommended. That's the best call for me because even though I do my best to not be an a-hole as a client, I know the reality is I don't like most people and most people don't like me.

 

I should also say, if I did have to cancel with a guy on short notice, I would feel obligated to work out mutually acceptable compensation. Fortunately this has not happened so far, I guess that's an advantage of leading a very boring life.

Edited November 13, 2017 by oldNbusted

[big-n-tall]

I rarely cancel on an escort and the ones I do know it's usually because of something beyond my control. I have had working guys cancel on me, but also infrequently.

 

One guy, I had to cancel a day before we were to meet. I had a project due that would keep me at work past our appointment time. He understood, but told me flat out we can reschedule, but if I had to cancel again, he would require a deposit for our next meet up.

 

I only put down a deposit once for a meet up. That meet up never happened because the weekend we were to meet, my uncle took ill. I had to leave town. At this point, I would never again put down a deposit. There were a few guys I wanted to do an overnight with, but did not meet them (for an overnight) because they wanted a deposit. At most i have paid for a plane ticket to secure the overnight. That has backfired on me once.

[+ nycman]

A lot would depend on how much time the client is trying to schedule,

how far in advance were the cancellations, was there a “good”reason,

did the client seem apologetic?

 

Overnights cancelled last minute without a reason or apology?....bye bye.

 

One hour, days in advance, “good” reason, and a sincere apology....I might take a chance....maybe.

[ncc1701d]

I don't agree that how you handle it depends on what duration the appointment is/was for. Yes you are out more potential $, but assuming the cancelation is legit (sickness, family emergency) then whether it's a ON or an hour it should be still considered. We all have a life outside of escort hiring/provider, and life happens whether we like it or not. So I get the part about repeat cancelations, but not one. I've had to cancel with 1 day or more notice, usually due to sickness especially in cold/flu season. Just my 3 cents worth

[+ Tarte Gogo]

Totally unrelated, but nice new profile picture, Victor!

 

Sorry I didn’t book you on this NYC trip, as I was planning to, but my libido is much lower since last week for some strange reason.

[+ BenjaminNicholas]

An inquiring mind here. I'm asking those of you that do not assess cancellation charges. If a new client has cancelled on 2 separate occasions, what do you do? Are they not to see you in the future? Is a deposit now required? Is each occurrence situational? I'm in the midst of changing some cancellation policies, and would love some guidance.

 

Two extended cancellations from the same guy, I'd take into consideration why he cancelled, but definitely require a deposit in the future. If he's serious about meeting, he'll have no problem with the deposit: You're a known, well-reviewed escort.

[+ VictorPowers]

Again, thank you all for the copious amounts of responses. I enjoyed @ncc1701d post regarding cancellation reasons. I'm a very understanding and accommodating guy, so reason is important to me. A lot can be read between the lines with sincerity and true apologies as well. I carry myself in a professional manner, and ask clients do the same if a cancellation absolutely needs to happen. This recent occurrence happened from a busy work schedule and him taking on my appointment when he couldn't confidently guarantee a clear schedule. The disregard for my time irks me, and the apologies were non existent. All of your insight leads me to want to drop him altogether, but I'm too much of a nice guy to do that I suppose.