FTM Zachary Prince

I’m really hot for this Berlin-based FTM performer & escort Aram Assai who I was able to connect with on Twitter recently: https://www.xtube.com/profile/aramassai-54701421 He has an ad on Hunqz too, but I don’t have the link handy. Too bad he’s all the way in Berlin...

Hunqz (which yes, in in fact an offshoot of PR)

Yes, I’ve already done it for a period of time. But not under your terms. My sugar daddy had multiple wives, so neither of us had any illusion that our relationship was monogamous or ever would be. In fact, he didn’t even ask me to stop seeing my regular clients (nor did I ever mention that I was still doing so, however). But my discontinuing to tour internationally was part of our deal. He became my full-time focus, and I altered my lifestyle drastically to cater to his specific fetishes. It worked out well for us while it lasted, because I wanted an extended break from touring anyway, and the drastic lifestyle changes which I made were HEALTHY ones that I was glad to have an excuse/motivation to make. This arrangement also allowed me to retire my “female” escort persona and start my hormone treatment with enough financial stability to carry me through almost my first entire year of transition. And meanwhile, my SD was really excited by most of the changes that testosterone was producing in me. What made me agree to this whole situation? Well, it worked perfectly with my life goals. Ultimately, my SD started pursuing me for marriage and encouraging me to discontinue my testosterone treatment because he was shocked just how quickly I actually started to look and sound like man. He wasn’t ready to admit to himself any attraction to a man even if my masculine characteristics WERE a turn on. But luckily, I’d been wise enough to request a security deposit early in our arrangement, to protect myself against my drastic lifestyle change and the pause in my career should anything go awry between my SD and I. So I was in a position to hold my ground and express honestly my disinterest in both marriage and halting my testosterone treatment. He couldn’t and still can’t accept that I am a man and not just a masculine woman. I can’t compromise and provide that fantasy to anyone for ANY amount of money anymore. I don’t know why exactly, but after 7 years of doing that to great effect, my patience for that gig is simply up. You asked specifically if we would have to be physically attracted to the man in question. My answer is no. As a sexual professional, I don’t consider my compatibility with someone based on PHYSICAL attraction. But there are OTHER types of compatibility that are important to providing companionship to someone on a full-time and/or long-term basis. And those are extremely critical for this type of arrangement to work out. I myself invited this client to be my sugar daddy after identifying the compatibility and the potential for it to be a long-term match. I was ultimately wrong about it being a good long-term match due to his personal hang-ups about my gender, but we were compatible enough for it to work out while things lasted, and now that it’s over, I can say the whole thing impacted my life very positively in terms of moving me forward toward my life goals. Pausing one’s career does have an opportunity cost for sure. Dipping out of the escort scene for a year means that I lost a year’s worth of networking and market exposure. This was coming on the tail end of the height of my career as a high-end female escort who was well-respected by most in my industry. Had I not paused my career for this arrangement, I would have had a much bigger audience to receive the news of my re-branding and book me during the early stages of my transition when the changes were barely noticeable, possibly creating a wider bridge of a client base to carry me into this very androgynous phase of my career. This is a specific example for me, but my point is that for every escort, there is a significant opportunity cost to pausing one’s career. Time away could mean missing out on meeting a new regular who would turn into someone’s most loyal spender for the next 10 years. The sugardaddy might only last 6-12 months! So there’s good reasons for escorts to take pause when considering this type of offer, and to request a significant “allowance” equal to more than our actual spending requirements, to make up for the potential losses to our careers that an exclusive arrangement entails. OP, your ACTUAL suggested stipulation, that I would have to be sexually monogamous with someone, would simply never happen. That option is not on the table for anyone in this world for any amount of love OR money. I am not a sexually monogamous creature and will not attempt to torture myself for the sake of any one for any reason. There is no positive end-point to that scenario for me regardless of whether money is involved or not....

excuse you? trans women are all women. that dick is a woman’s dick. please learn to speak about trans women with an ounce of respect.

Yes it is... just clicked the link now and it’s there...

Quoting scientific facts that are posted on the Internet and cited is making things up now? LOL... who’s the one denigrating who here? Nice deflection again.

To academics! To everyone else it’s quite relevant. We aren’t here to discuss addiction in an academic setting. Rules of academia don’t apply here. I did notice that you ignored all the factual science quoted by my post tho, all of which is thoroughly cited. Nice deflection.

What’s the point in being angry that someone who’s in high demand doesn’t have the capacity to respond to hundreds of phone calls and e-mails? OP said the escort’s phone inbox was FULL. He’s clearly overwhelmed with messages. I was also responding to this sentiment as well. You’re not entitled to an escort’s response. Sometimes the escort is busy. An escort is a human being, not a large corporation with staffing resources at its disposal. The escort in question is a featured guest at the event mentioned. I’m sure he has other things requiring his attention besides going through and responding to every single guy who he doesn’t have time to meet.

Totally disagree. If he never agreed to book an appointment with you then in no way imaginable is this a no show. Without a specific date and time that has been agreed to by both parties, there is no appointment booked. “Call me the weekend of the event” = “I’m not in a position to commit now, but feel free to try me later” I don’t think OP is being overly-sensitive to be disappointed. But anyone who would be “angry” to have not gotten an appointment despite having “followed the rules” has an entitlement issue. No escort is required to meet you. No matter how many rules you followed. Getting angry because someone was too busy to book an appointment with you is pointless. I do agree that it’s not very professional to tell someone to contact you and then not be available to respond, but most escorts are one-man shows, and don’t have personal assistants to manage their contacts. If OP needed a guaranteed booking in advance, then being “put off” by the escort in question should have been a sign to move on. When your disappointment and your anger are mixed then you have an entitlement issue. Point blank. OP used the works “put off”, which means he knew there was no appointment promised in the first place.

Less than 1/3 for escorts. Sex addiction is not conducive to being successful as an escort. There’s nothing about escorting that satisfies the compulsiveness on our part. Quite the opposite, in fact. People might GET INTO sex work because they have some kind of addiction toward sex, and they think that this would’ve a good way to monetise the fact that they’re having lots of sex anyway. But being a successful escort in the long run requires setting healthy boundaries and treating this work as a real job. Endeavours that addictive tendencies are really not conducive to at all. That’s not to say that absolutely no one can manage to combine the two. But very few can. On the client’s side, I couldn’t really speculate a percentage, but the client side of things IS much more conducive to satisfying compulsive urges. I know for sure that at least some significant percentage of clients have addictive tendencies. They go thru cycles where they realize that the way they’re engaging with the industry is damaging their life, swear to quit, manage for some time, compulsively return to hiring, often even detailing their addictive tendencies to their providers. In the phone sex world this is particularly common, probably due to the very accessible, instant-gratification nature of phone calls. Hard to say that I could agree with 1/3 tho. It also really depends on who you are and how you market yourself what percentage of the clients you attract will have addictive tendencies. I’ve literally put the word “addicted” in phone sex listings before and that of course attracts a higher percentage of them. But it’s well known in that world amongst PSOs in general that a high percentage of the clients cycle in and out due to issues with compulsion, addiction, or whatever else you want to call it.

addiction – a brain disorder characterized by compulsive engagement in rewarding stimuli despite adverse consequences https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sexual_addiction “Animal research involving rats that exhibit compulsive sexual behavior has identified that this behavior is mediated through the same molecular mechanisms in the brain that mediate drug addiction.[44][45][44][46] Sexual activity is an intrinsic reward that has been shown to act as a positive reinforcer, strongly activate the reward system, and induce the accumulation of ΔFosBin part of the striatum (specifically, the nucleus accumbens).[44][45][46] Chronic and excessive activation of certain pathways within the reward system and the accumulation of ΔFosB in a specific group of neurons within the nucleus accumbens has been directly implicated in the development of the compulsive behavior that characterizes addiction.[45][47][48][49]”

Some providers do set their rate assuming that they will upcharge for extras, but I think that’s a slightly different issue than tipping. Although some providers do set their rate slightly below a number that is easier to “round up” to, in which case they might find that most of their clients do in fact round up as a tip. For example, charging $275 or $280 per hour. A lot of clients are going to go ahead and give $300. But mostly... no. Tips are generally not expected for normal service. Just always appreciated! How can a provider go above and beyond normal expected service? Here are some examples... - You booked an hour. 65 minutes into the session, you still haven’t come, but you also clearly really want to (you keep mentioning how close you are). Your escort keeps going for another ten minutes to get you there. Then, instead of rushing out since you are already 15 minutes overtime, he winds things down in a natural-feeling way. By the time he leaves, it’s been an hour and 25 minutes. He went above and beyond. - Your regular provider knows that you have a serious jock fantasy. He tells you to meet him somewhere unusual. Turns out he’s arranged an empty locker room and when you show up, he’s dressed in sports gear of your liking. Fulfills your fantasy in a way that goes far above and beyond what you were expecting. - Your regular escort knows that you love scotch, since you usually drink together during your outcalls. He also knows that your house is currently being renovated and you’re stuck in a hotel temporarily. He picks up a bottle of your favourite type before heading over to your room, paid for out of his pocket. Above and beyond.

I’m shy about nudity because I pass as cis when I’m clothed, I don’t when I’m naked, and people tend to treat me more poorly once they realize that I’m trans. Objectification, inappropriate questions, inappropriate anecdotes, ungendering, and more. If I keep my clothes on then I’m just a cute guy and things feel pretty normal. I guess in some ways I am LUCKY for whatever this general shyness seems to be, because it means that a lot of men don’t find it horribly strange that I just want to suck dick without taking my clothes off. Of course that’s all in my personal life. When I’m getting paid it’s another story. My clients are well aware that I’m trans in advance and I’m more than happy to get naked when I’m getting paid, since it has no negative repercussions on our interpersonal dynamics.

Google voice is deleting escort accounts. I still use it because I’ve been using it for 8 years and they haven’t shut me down yet. But I would not recommend opening a new number with GV if you can choose something that isn’t actively hunting& shutting down sex workers. GV has been getting more proactive about it since the passage of SESTA/FOSTA.

I don’t agree with your definition. So we will have to agree to disagree. As Zapped has pointed out, your opinion about what an addiction is isn’t shared by everyone. My definition isn’t “incorrect” simply because the DSM doesn’t agree with it. The DSM has regularly been wrong about lots of things since its inception.

This may come as a surprise to you, but my happiness is not even slightly dependant on whether you think I’m ugly or not...

Compulsive behaviours which are harmful and cannot be stopped even if stopping is desired are addictions. That is the distinction. Eating is an example of a compulsive behaviour that is not an addiction, except in the case where someone knows that their manner of eating is harming them & wants to stop their compulsive eating habits but cannot. In that case it is an addiction.

It’s wild that there are gay people who actually think the DSM is some kind of authority on anything. Seriously??? You don’t know enough by now to know that it’s flawed and biased??? Any behaviour that is harming someone, which they desire to stop but return to and repeat compulsively is an ADDICTION. Regardless of whatever the fucking DSM has to say about it. The DSM had transgender people defined as inherently mentally ill until only this year. And some of you think it’s a worthy authority to define our issues by. Amazing. Critical thinking skills are severely lacking sometimes. Maybe some people are coming from a place of feeling defensive because they have been accused of being sex addicts for being promiscuous. Promiscuity is not sex addiction. But sex addiction is certainly real.

Dependency, reliance, use whatever words you want. Most of the guys I know who use poppers to help them bottom cannot do it any other way. I’m not talking about guys who merely have an affinity for the other effects of poppers. Specifically guys who use them to loosen their hole so they can accept dick. And I’m an extremely patient top who can take a guy from never having taken a dick before to taking his first one without any poppers involved. But I probably fuck at least 10 guys a year who have the same story. They can ONLY bottom with the use of poppers. Its a combination that has become inseparable for them. Anything can become addictive when it’s intertwined with bottoming. Bottoming itself is very addictive. And for a bottom escort, its addictiveness is nearly irrelevant. Being dependent on bottoming to earn a living and being dependent on poppers to bottom sets you up for a dependent relationship on poppers. And many guys who use poppers to bottom become dependent on them. OP asked if he will regret the practice later- many of the guys who I fuck do regret their dependency. If there are no poppers around then they can’t get fucked. It’s a risk of using poppers to bottom and the OP asked if he would regret it. My answer: yes he might. I know plenty of guys who do.

Oh ok you’re out here calling people with my lived experience ugly and then denying it the very next post and I’M the one being rude and insulting... got it

No, actually I don’t wonder. To me it’s very obvious that global colonisation is responsible. The amount of money earned by a wide variety of escorts who fall well outside the spectrum of body types that would be featured in mainstream magazines is proof of that. Thanks for playing tho. If being ugly is what has gotten me flown all over the world & funded my life for the last 8 years then so be it. The 50+ messages a day that I receive on Grindr says otherwise to me but who am I to argue with such an articulate troll!

I find superficiality to be a real turn-off too. My lived experience has proved to me that good looks are subjective. I received extremely mixed and widely varied feedback to my appearance before my transition. A lot of people genuinely felt I was one of the most beautiful creatures they had ever set their eyes on. A lot of people also felt that I was so ugly that they were angry that they had even seen me naked. Entire threads were started about how disgusting I was. Meanwhile my Inbox filled with both hate mail from people who felt the need to tell me how ugly I was and fan mail from people who felt the need to tell me that I was the most attractive person they had ever seen. Very very mixed feedback. It was difficult to care too much about all the haters since the bookings and money kept pouring in. But some types of beauty are very controversial and subjective. I have lived this and know it firsthand. Post transition, most people seem to agree that I’m a cute guy, especially when I hide my hair under a cap. I don’t get dirty looks or hate messages anyway. When I wear my hair down (it’s long, curly, thick and beautiful) my look becomes very androgynous, and the mixed reactions, ranging from malicious disgust to jaw-dropping admiration, again ensue. Much more than before, considering that now I challenge people’s ideas about gender and beauty. Interesting. I know my own sense of who is good looking also varies widely from the dominant cultural standards. I usually think people become better and better looking as they age if they are taking good care of their health. Obviously some people do not, so I can’t say it applies to everyone. But the dominant culture says youth = beauty, and I just don’t agree at all. Anyone who thinks good looks aren’t subjective has probably copied their tastes from magazines and popular media. I can’t blame anyone for what they like, but the attitude that your personal taste is the RIGHT taste and that anyone who disagrees has “issues” is self-centered, shallow and naive. All traits that are turn-offs for me.

I don’t recommend involving poppers in your bottoming as professional. The problem is that many people start to feel that they can ONLY bottom when using poppers. Especially if this is how you earn a living, intertwining the two can be a real problem. Do you want to be dependent on poppers to bottom for the rest of your life? If not, then I really recommend avoiding them, especially to help you bottom for work. Developing a relationship with them when bottoming can make bottoming without them seem more difficult. For the record, I’m not anti-poppers. I keep them on hand at nearly all times so that I can offer them to people who like/need them during sex. But when people ask me if they should use them who aren’t already dependent on using them to bottom, I give them essentially the same spiel. I know a lot of guys who can no longer bottom without poppers. Which is exactly why I always have them on hand. But why put yourself in that situation if you can avoid it? What I would recommend doing instead, is preparing with a butt plug and/or dildo and pre-lubricating before you meet clients. That way, even if they are impatient, you are already prepared.

Going to Tokyo in early-mid October. I’m really excited to see the Digital Art Museum! https://borderless.teamlab.art/ I also heard that Tokyo has FTM bars in the red light district! Obviously I’ll have to check those out while I’m there!

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