Monarchy79

I’m going to pick at you for a second just to make a point…. (so don’t be offended). You were able to adhere to a scheduled time and date for a dinner with friends (at least some time in advance); why would it be so problematic to have the same consideration for a masseur? 🧐

I always plan/schedule in advance. My favorite massage guys are travelers and let me know in-advance when they are coming to town. Also, it’s a personality thing. I like making reservations for everything (restaurants, massages, movies, etc.) and being prepared for everything, especially when it comes to being considerate of someone else’s schedule.

I think there’s a disconnect in what we are all defining as “equality”, in relationships.

Yes, they are. Those transactions could be: money, shelter, clout, validation, self-esteem, or even codependency. In every relationship, someone is giving something, and someone is receiving something. Those are transactions .

Once I was around 25 (now 42), I came to the following conclusions about all types of relationships…. (Intimate, friendship, business) 1.) Most relationships are transactional. One party has a need, and the other has the “supply”. Once one party either stops their need or ability to supply, the relationship will soon develop issues and will be on the road to the end. 2.) In a lot of intimate relationships, people aren’t looking for love, they are looking for help. Whether it’s emotional, psychological, or material; there’s usually one half who is lacking in something, and the other who feels that they can either help, cope, or fix. 3.) All relationships require compromise. In every relationship, someone has compromised some part of their beliefs, values, wants and desires, for the sake of the relationship. In every relationship, someone is going along with something they don’t want to do. 4.) More people are in relationships for the purpose of validating themselves by being in a relationship, than actually their “love”, for their partner. Loneliness, societal pressure, and insecurities will push many people into relationships. And finally… 5.) What most people present to the world in their relationships isn’t real. what’s presented is staged. What goes on behind closed doors is a lot of dysfunction, issues, and conflict. And the reason is simple: Most people are dysfunctional, have issues, and create conflict. It’s just a part of the cycle of human nature.

I’ve had one done with a rentmasseur, and it was just not a feasible situation: 1.) we’re both trying to maneuver in the shower, and 2.) the product wasn’t “spa” grade either. It’s just better to get those type of body treatments in a spa.

How was the body scrub? I’m long overdue for a full exfoliation.

I’ve hired him before and he didn’t smell bad at all. My biggest issue was the product that he used to massage me with. I personally prefer some type of oil (coconut/almond/etc.) I’m thinking that the B.O. issue might be due to him being heavily booked, and not being able to shower in-between sessions. So based on your timing, you’ll either get the “fresh” version, or the “funky” version. And keep in mind that for every guy who prefers “shower fresh”, there will be others that will prefer some “pheromones”.

Never mind. Met him, and left. pictures are EXTREMELY MISLEADING. It’s him, but pics are extremely outdated. extreme catfish.

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Nope.

But it does make a difference. The difference of an increase in being exposed to the virus. Also, there’s no “back & forth”, if a person asks and the other person answers. It’s a simple exchange of information. “Yes”, or “No”.

Once someone is either cheated out of their money, or intimidated by a provider, it shouldn’t be considered a “review, but more of a “warning”. Thanks for the warning.

I just met him this evening. He used the headrest attachment to the bed, which worked great. All of the positive comments made about him in the threads were accurate. However, he needs to upgrade his pics, because he looks BETTER than his pics. Hairier body, more lean-muscle & vascularity, just an overall sexy guy with a bit of a scruff/edge (exactly what I like) If he’s in your town, BOOK him. Period. Don’t ask any further questions. Just do it.

I’ve never been a prude in my life, but what you just described made me cringe.

This is interesting, as many of the “Bond’s” didn’t have fantastic bodies, and Roger Moore is the first to come to mind. To be a great Bond, swagger is what’s most important.

I’m still mad that I didn’t go for a “round two”. He was definitely a hottie.

For me, it depends on various factors. For the first time massage, I do have a cap (and that varies). However, for a massage that’s good and the masseur checks all of the minimum boxes too (table, quality oil, real skills, good chemistry), I don’t mind paying more and my tip usually pushes the overall payment into the next bracket anyways.

Outstanding article. I’ve always been a supporter of legalization of the workers, with punishment ONLY going towards the pimps. Why? 1.) The pimps are the nucleus of the human trafficking problem. 2.) prosecuting customers results in sex worker’s loss of income, therefore making them more vulnerable to other dangers.

What a person claims is irrelevant. People lie. It’s best not to make any sexual decisions based on what someone else tells you. Either confirm that you are: 1.) a user of condoms, who is not on PrEP 2.) a user of condoms, who IS on PrEP 3.) a non-user of condoms, who IS on PrEP, or 4.) a non-user of condoms who is NOT on PrEP. And then roll with what you want to do, on your terms.

I’ll give a true life example to support my points: Last week, I was invited to participate in a massage exchange group. It’s a lot of fun, and it gets quite hot. I cancelled at the last minute, as I went on a hike a few days before, and caught a little rash on my leg. It didn’t know if it was a series of bug bites, or if it was poison ivy. I definitely didn’t want to place anyone at risk by spreading it to them in the group. Although it wasn’t confirmed what it was, I wasn’t willing to take the risk of giving this rash to others, just for the sake of enjoying myself. And had I participated anyway, and someone had a severe breakout, I wouldn’t have had the stance of “well you were part of the group, so that’s the risk you take” either. We all should have a general sense personal responsibility. This goes from poison ivy, to the common cold, to anything else.

One more thing about the escort in question that makes my blood boil. It’s not even that he lied. It’s the fact that knowing the truth, he still chose not to slap on a condom. If you know you’re positive, and are NOT undetectable and are not being treated; yes, you have the right not to disclose it to anyone, but at LEAST engage in some protective measure. Otherwise, it just looks like you’re maliciously spreading it.

“Consenting”, is when two adults agree to have sex, under terms where facts are disclosed. Had the OP had unprotected sex with the escort, knowing that he was positive, that would have been a consensual arrangement. However, the OP specifically asked him his status, he lied to him. Therefore the OP consented to unprotected sex, under false pretenses. This is no different than a straight man having unprotected sex with a woman who lied to him, stating that she was on birth control, when asked. Had he known otherwise, he would have probably made a different decision in sexual protective measures, just as the OP in this thread would have. This isn’t about HIV stigma. This is about HONESTY, DECEPTION, and LYING.

Just wanted to put out there, that as we are debating about this, the said escort is possibly still having unprotected sex with unknowing clients. Some of those clients may not be using condoms. Some of those clients may not be on PrEP. Some of those clients may have asked of his status, and are being told that he’s negative as well.

Well prosecuting those who purposely infect others, actually cross all spectrums. quite a few heterosexual men are currently in prison for having unprotected sex with women, and not disclosing their status.