FrankR

Men come and go... But what happened to the dog?? ?

Hand washing isnt always an option. When I use the subway (which is almost every day) I use hand sanitizer when I exit the station - who knows how many grubby hands grabbed on to the same pole I had to hold on to? It serves a purpose even when it is not the best solution... ?

Germ-X is an excellent choice. The other option would be Suave - they have a sanitizer spray that is also well regarded. If you can't find a gel, maybe this mist spray will be a good alternative.

I pondered the same question for a while. Looked over the list of brands the FDA warned about too. I noticed that almost all of those on the list came from Mexico. This is going to sound xenophobic but that is not my intention; simply going by the facts: find something manufactured in the USA or Canada. That is the safest bet at this time. I found a hand sanitizer gel at Rite Aid manufactered in the USA by Bajaj Medical.

The one time I did this it did not work out well. Mainly my fault as I did not outline clear expectations and I failed to communicate on an ongoing basis. ? Set up clear ground rules. Adjust or add to those ground rules as needed - he must be willing to work with you as long as you are being reasonable. As an example, we agreed to split the chores around the house but we were not specific about what they were and who should take care of them and when. The kitchen floors should be mopped every other day or when you make a mess. Then there were things that came to light as time progressed. It irritated me to walk into the kitchen in the morning to find dirty dishes on the counter - they should be in the dish washer! Be very clear on how long he can stay and if you decide he has to go, what are the terms? Will you give him a week to find a new place? Also make sure you understand the personal cost. Not just the expense of having him live with you, food can be expensive if he is bulking and utilities for two can also be more expensive - but also you will have far less privacy, he may want to have friends over when you need peace and quiet. I don’t regret having the fella stay with me at all - I do regret not managing his stay better. There is a saying in the military: amateurs talk about strategy - professionals talk about logistics. I should have spent more time on logistics. ?

New rule: on the 3rd bump you have to take one for the team and meet him!

Sorry, I just had to... Remember this scene in the movie 40 year old virgin?? ?

Don't let your dislike for him get to you. You deserve better than to waste your time hating on him!

You can protect yourself by taking precautions like talking to your partner as part of consent - ask him when he was last tested and if that testing includes oral and anal swabs. Practice good hygiene by making sure you are super clean down there; douching and enemas can help with that. You can also use a latex dental dam or tongue condom. ?

I believe @marylander1940 is referring to the risk of STDs - specifically gonorrhea, chlamydia and syphilis can be contracted and spread by rimming. https://www.healthline.com/health/healthy-sex/anal-sti-test#complications

It will probably make him uncomfortable, so no, I would not raise that in a discussion. Be a gentleman: smile, nod and enjoy the companionship!

You may enjoy this clip with Quark/Armin Shimerman. ? I did not know he was the original Ferengi in The Next Generation...

To me the concept is still very valid - “safe sex” means that the parties involved are taking precautions to avoid contracting STDs. PrEP does not cut it as it does not prevent chlaymidia, gonorrhea etc. ? Equating “safe sex” with PrEP alone is like labelling yourself a “safe driver” because your vehicle has air bags, but neglecting to buckle up. I am sure plenty will disagree with me - but that is my 2c. ??‍♂️

You should check out “American Circumcision” on Netflix... I learned quite a bit from it.

I used to be a fan. Then I started paying attention. Just a few examples of things to think about. Is Amazon a monster? That depends in how you define “monster”... ?

Take a look here: https://www.companyofmen.org/threads/choosing-between-these-two-nyc-guys.148279/#post-1712365

Now gentlemen, you have to be reasonable about expectations. If you are looking specifically for a muscle guy, that enjoys the bottom bunk, that barebacks, you are looking for a specialty item - of course it will be difficult to find. And will come with a high fee. If I may be so crude as to outline an illustrative parable - if you walk into Avis and ask to hire a daisy yellow Corvette with low mileage, you shouldn't be surprised to find that they don't have it available. And if they do - it will be expensive. ?‍♂️ Specialty items are rare and expensive.

These two Jet Set Men studs always get me going. These two studs did a scene together - still one of my favorites. Marcus Steele - hot muscle bottom with an adorable accent. Derek Stone - this hottie didn't publish a lot of scenes but boy oh boy; came across as a shy hunky college frat boy...

I am sure she does receive some level of compensation. https://www.wdse.org/support/gifts/suze-ormans-financial-solutions-you My first durable power of attorney came from her Will & Trust kit, many years ago.

I suspect you will need the assistance of one of the site's administrators. I am not aware of a self-service way to do this. ? I suggest you click on "help" link below and then select "contact administrators"

A number of forum members have had unsatisfactory experiences with Den. They are weary of any newbies that say nice things about him - it is not unknown for providers like Den to create a profile on the forum and try to drum up business by creating buzz... ?

I’ve had too many days like this in 2020 as well - hang in there!

I would not expose myself like that to somebody I don’t know. If he leaped at the opportunity and told you he would be willing to see you - even with restrictions - sure, proceed with caution as always. But he was clear that he only works with women so you struck out. Walk away good sir. ?

Not sure I would go that far. I suspect most folks just don’t realize how the valve operate and the impact it has; I would say they are unaware rather than obnoxious.?