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1 hour ago, rvwnsd said:

I lived in San Diego from 2000 to 2016, when my former employer relocated me to Phoenix. I used to call it "Hooterville by the Sea" and "Bland Diego."  The weather is truly wonderful and if you like theater, The Old Globe, La Jolla Playhouse, and Moonlight Theater in Vista are the places for you. Other than that, all the culture is split between the yogurt and kombucha cases at VONS. Despite the marine base (which is north of Oceanside, 30+ miles from the city) there is a dearth of cute, reliable men in San Diego. Lots of flakes and guys who can't commit. I found people to be less friendly than in San Francisco and Los Angeles. On the plus side, the traffic is not as bad as in most major cities, but the entire city is built on canyons and mesas, so there is often only one road that goes where you want to go.  In terms of where to live, Hillcrest and North Park are the Gayborhoods. Aside from East County (Lakeside, El Cajon, and Santee) almost everywhere in the county is gay friendly. You might not find a gay bar in Otay Mesa, but you will find gay people.  

If you lived in one of the "urban mesa" communities like Hillcrest, University Heights, Normal Heights, or Talmadge you would be commuting to Chula Vista when everyone else would be commuting from it in the morning and the reverse in the afternoon. There are a lot of cute houses from the 1920's to the 1950's in these communities, but many of them were built prior to the enactment of strict building codes and can turn into money pits. There was a wave of "gut rehabs" in the 2000's that weren't "gut rehabs" at all. They were paint, granite, and stainless steel jobs on old houses. 

I don't want to say you should turn down the job, but understand you will not be relocating to a real city. 

 

I live in Huntington Beach now so SD might be a step up to the next level.

"Hooterville by the sea" sounds like what I remember from visits to my Aunt back in the 90s.  But I loved that. 

 She was big into theater and the arts, and loved a place in Pacific Beach called The Green Flash where she enjoyed a nice prime rib and a margarita.  I expect living there now is quite different vs. 25 years ago.

With the perfect weather, it seemed like paradise in those days.   

with the sailors and marines stationed in the San Diego area

( a bonus not available where I'm at now )

Are the gay clubs a bit more lively in SD?

Beer me brah....

Make up your own story about the two cuties.

35 minutes ago, Pensant said:

La Jolla, Del Mar and Solana Beach are unbeatable. I don’t think you’d want to live south of San Diego proper. Chula Vista is more like Garden Grove, with bigger tract housing further inland near Otay Mesa. Mission Hills is a lovely neighborhood closer to downtown with easy access to the trolley and heavy rail. Hillcrest and North Park, as stated, are excellent neighborhoods near Balboa Park. 
 

As @MscleLovrstated, the people are friendly and the young people are among the best looking in the world. It’s the only CA metro I’d consider if I ever moved back to California, which is highly unlikely.

I've been looking on Zillow and I get what you mean, the Garden Grove reference comparison.

Ocean View Hills looks nice, west of Otay Mesa.  I wonder how welcoming all of these neighborhoods are compared to Hillcrest and North Park.  🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈

I just checked, the driving time to Palm Springs is comparable to driving from my place in H.B., so that is good to know.  Would be just a bit longer. 

6 hours ago, MscleLovr said:

Weather is the best aspect of living in SD as @Epigonos noted. Traffic is the worst…but you soon learn to avoid certain routes/times.

I lived there at times over the years. I lived first as a young man on Point Loma (a small house) and latterly in La Jolla (a condo) which I enjoy very much. People are friendly and polite. It feels very safe and the beaches are good. Restaurants and stores are excellent. There is a sense of community in La Jolla, and there must be some local regulations against homelessness/panhandling as it is very minimal. 
 

Traffic on the freeway to LA can be heavy (sometimes even at 2 am for some reason) but I adapted and used the train service a few times. I found the trains to be clean and efficient, and in visiting LA I’d generally stay 1-2 nights. 
 

As an old man now, I find one aspect of life there surprising but delightful. It’s how readily nice young men in their 20s chat to me. I’ve made acquaintances easily. 

Point Loma must be a sought after zip code base on the home prices. It must be lovely there.

That's quite an article.

One of the more thoughtful reader comments starts our with a "wink" to the author.

😂

First, I wanted to say that I'm loving all these stories of same-sex sexual behavior in farm animals. Please keep them coming!   

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34 minutes ago, KK913 said:

I lived in La Jolla back in 2017 and absolutely loved San Diego county. It is a bit pricey to live there, but the beaches and neighborhoods are beautiful and safe. It ended up being a bit “sleepy” for me and I headed to the city. I suggest looking north of Chula Vista. I’m not sure how far or long you are willing to commute. North Park, University Heights, Hillcrest is the core gayborhood with a laid back vibe and rich culture. I was excited to move out of a suburban OC city and San Diego was paradise. 

I'm deep in Huntington Beach.   It is what it is.  

Yes Hillcrest and University Heights look attractive.  Those are a good 10 miles from my potential new job.    I guess I could make that work.  

1 hour ago, Epigonos said:

As far as weather is concerned it doesn't get any better than San Diego. Seldom over the mid 80's or below the low 60's.  The one MAJOR problem that San Diego, like all other California cities, is experiencing is a homeless situation that is totally out of control. At least two cruise lines have ceased stopping in San Diego because their passengers have been accosted by homeless panhandlers. State and local governments appear clueless about how to address the problem.  However, even with the homeless problem San Diego is still a great place to live.

I remember SD having lots of homeless years and years ago when my aunt lived there.    Not surprised it's worse now.

43 minutes ago, KK913 said:

I lived in La Jolla back in 2017 and absolutely loved San Diego county. It is a bit pricey to live there, but the beaches and neighborhoods are beautiful and safe. It ended up being a bit “sleepy” for me and I headed to the city. I suggest looking north of Chula Vista. I’m not sure how far or long you are willing to commute. North Park, University Heights, Hillcrest is the core gayborhood with a laid back vibe and rich culture. I was excited to move out of a suburban OC city and San Diego was paradise. 

Was there anything you didn't like about the SD area?

Forum members that live in San Diego, would you please share your input on the following?

What do you  like about San Diego and what do you not like?  I'm interested to learn as much as I can. 

There is a chance I'll be offered a position in Chula Vista.

So I'll need to decide whether to accept and if I do, I will need to find a place to live.  

So, what neighborhoods might I consider?   I currently have a long commute and of course I want to avoid that if I accept the Chula Vista position.    

I prefer a quiet, low crime setting, but I guess that's what many people want, right?  A one story home with a  yard would be ideal.

As a youth,  I often visited a relative in SD, Pacific Beach area.   Back then I thought it was  paradise, compared to where I was coming from.  

We'd visit Balboa Park, the beach, and various theaters.   I was down In SD several years ago for a film festival and did get the sense it is much friendlier than LA.

  Rentmasseur refused to publish a positive review I wrote, claiming I didn't contact the provider through their site, which I disagreed with, but did not have time to debate with them.    But to your poiht, I generally don't rely on their reviews, and I agree that using this Forum has a much better chance of providing best guidance.

As he made light of the queens it occurred to me his own potential as a great drag queen with that bone structure, and especially those puffy lips.

But yeah, this young man does not seem like a good fit in NYC.    Perhaps he'll ultimately find an entourage of like minded straight white guys to hang with.  But the drag queen path is something I bet he could really werk. 

The weather has been nice along the coast this long weekend.  Windows open.   At 9AM we are at 68F at my house.   High of 71F predicted.

Further up the coast from me David Lynch reports 

1 hour ago, 7829V said:

Any updates on this guy?

Looks like he changed his name to Pete.  New pics.

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 came the day they decided to exercize their agency

Prime has quite a mix of offerings if one does a little searching.     

This weekend I found the documentary Family Band: The Cowsills Story.   It belongs in the category "what ever happened to....." ,  touching on their rise to stardom, and their fading into the background.

This was a musical family that the TV Show Partridge Family was based on.

After watching the film, I viewed quite a few YouTube music videos.   The Cowsills were quite a talented bunch of kids.

The film itself doesn't have much of the music, such as the videos I found.  

++++++++++++++++SPOILER FAR BELOW BELOW THE VIDEO+++++++++++++++++++

The parenting in that family was a bit uneven at best.  The Dad was portrayed as abusive.   The kids dealt with those challenges.

On 5/12/2021 at 7:20 PM, 7829V said:

Where is he originally from? You mentioned his English is broken.

He definitely does not have broken English.   Perhaps there is confusion, mixing him with someone else.   I didn't ask where from but doesn't have any detectable accent.  Maybe California?

I wanted to stream something from Frameline 46 so I chose the documentary about International Male underwear catalog.

As documentaries go, I'd give it a 3 out of 5 stars.  I'm glad to know about this piece of gay male history, but it's not something I'd watch again.

The sexy images used to market the movie created expectations that were not met for the most part.       

Along those same lines, 

avoid getting to close with people willing to lie to you.

Anyone watch My Fake Boyfriend on Prime? 

I barely got through it.    Could have been a much better film, IMO.

Samer Salem was kinda hot.

Hot.     Wish the masseur face wasn't hidden.

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Kudos to the above poster for being frank.

To the OP, it does sound frustrating, almost exhausting to be surrounded by that many folks in the throws of addiction.  Hope things improve for you.

I remember sitting at my first drag show back in the Midwest...she did her bit before the strippers went on...and of all the audience she chose my lap to sit, running her fingers through my golden hair which was much thicker and lustrous in those younger days.  " Is it Henna sweetie"

I was newly out and didn't have a clue, but knew enough to play along.

She was soon off to continue her interacting.  

There are drag performers here on the west coast in SF and LA that portray entire episodes of Golden Girls.  It's fun.

I'm not too interested in RuPauls Drag Race.  Not my scene.  They take themselves too seriously IMO.

To each his own. 

Does anyone have recent experience with Alejandro from Miami, currently visiting OC?

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Yes, I did read and understand the comments from a retired thread from 3 years ago.