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Boy are u bitter.

Boy are u bitter.

Boy are u bitter.

Boy are u bitter.

As a client, let me offer a more precise definition: as a general rule, I think a BFE is at least in the offing when 50% or more of the session involves the escort doing something other than trying directly to get me off, and that time is both pre and post nooky. That could consist of: talking, hugging, caressing, kissing, watching TV with his head on my chest, napping together etc.
 
What is it not? When the guy walks in, drops his pants and bends over, or starts to jerk you off while you are still trying to get your shoes off. I've had a few of those.

Boy are u bitter.

W - H - A - T ? ? ? ? ? ?

I'd rather keep a great body AND eat carbs.
 
It can be done with the right trainer, the right carbs and an overwhelming love of a stair machine.

Ive heard alot about the asian diet and plant based diet lately.

Nope. You have the right to be attracted to any type of man you want.

Insert Mocha rant here

As a client, in NYC, I find Grindr quite useful for hiring. Most escorts using Grindr are not "advertising" there. They could very well be pursuing their own personal interests. If a guy uses a picture I recognize from an RM profile, I make it clear immediately that's why I'm sending him a message. In my experience, they respond quite positively to that sort of contact. I like "meeting" through Grindr because of the opportunity to chat, exchange pics, make both of our interests and expectations clear, etc quickly and easily.

I always tell them my race age height and weight. I think it takes away some of the anxiety the provider may have since they are inviting a stranger in their house. I am currently dating an asian man which started as a hook up. When i met him i thought he was italian. Either way was fine by me. He did tell me that there is a pecking order within the asian community with the Japanese at the top of the list and so on. so not only are they discriminated in the gay community they too discriminate against other asian cultures.

I always tell them my race age height and weight. I think it takes away some of the anxiety the provider may have since they are inviting a stranger in their house. I am currently dating an asian man which started as a hook up. When i met him i thought he was italian. Either way was fine by me. He did tell me that there is a pecking order within the asian community with the Japanese at the top of the list and so on. so not only are they discriminated in the gay community they too discriminate against other asian cultures.

I always tell them my race age height and weight. I think it takes away some of the anxiety the provider may have since they are inviting a stranger in their house. I am currently dating an asian man which started as a hook up. When i met him i thought he was italian. Either way was fine by me. He did tell me that there is a pecking order within the asian community with the Japanese at the top of the list and so on. so not only are they discriminated in the gay community they too discriminate against other asian cultures.

I always tell them my race age height and weight. I think it takes away some of the anxiety the provider may have since they are inviting a stranger in their house. I am currently dating an asian man which started as a hook up. When i met him i thought he was italian. Either way was fine by me. He did tell me that there is a pecking order within the asian community with the Japanese at the top of the list and so on. so not only are they discriminated in the gay community they too discriminate against other asian cultures.

I think it's fair and reasonable for a client to share at least basic stats with an escort - whatever they may be - along with other pertinent information. We all have different tastes, and some men enjoy overweight guys. As escorts, we sometimes are hired by guys who aren't our particular tastes, but I personally find that if I have at least a little clue about what this person looks like, I can find a way to eroticize the encounter and the guy so I can bring my best self to the session. That said, if someone doesn't volunteer this information, it isn't a deal breaker for me. It's just more helpful if I have it.

I know this is an older post, but I would like to add my thoughts.
 
For medical reasons, by my early 20's I was over 300 pounds. The gay world is very superficial, and I couldn't get a date. By 23, I was still a virgin, and that's when I started hiring escorts. I probably try about 6 new escorts a year, one every other month or so, and have done so for the last 15 years, and I have had many regulars, although I travel so much for work it makes it difficult for anything regular.
 
I learned early on to always tell them my weight and make sure that they were okay with it. When hiring an escort, I do it not only for the sex, but to feel sexy myself. Any escort can get a guy off, that's just the basics. An exceptional escort will make you feel like the sexiest man alive while you are with him. He will make you feel like you are the only person in the world that matters to him. It's a feeling that I don't get from anyone in the real world, and one why I enjoy the company of a great escort so much.
 
I have found that if I don't prepare them for what to expect, then I often find disappointment in the meeting. I had escorts turn me away at the door, which is exactly the opposite of the confidence boost I wanted. I've had escorts take me in, but not want to touch me, basically they touched as little as possible, had me jerk myself off, took my money, and shoved me out the door. I've had escorts who couldn't get hard, which makes it difficult for them to fuck me. This was all when I was in my early 20's, and a lot of my paycheck went to hiring them. Then I got lucky and hired Cameron Taylor. I warned him that I was 350 lbs, and he told me that was fine, but for the first time he made me feel like the sexiest man alive.
 
There's nothing better than seeing a smile at the door rather than disappointment. There's nothing better than an escort who can't keep their hands off you. There's nothing better than an escort who is hard the instant he sees you. And sure, this may take a little prep on their part. I find the more information I give them, the better prepared they are for the appointment, and the better time I have.
I have escorts flat out tell me that they aren't interested when I've told them my weight, and I do appreciate that. It means that they aren't wasting my time or money for a less than perfect experience.
I've had escorts who simply didn't return my text or email after I told them I was heavy. Sure I was disappointed, but not as disappointed as I would have been paying their rate and having a bad experience.
 
My vote is always tell them, If they are good at what they will do, it will only help them prepare a more pleasurable experience. If they turn you away, you are better off anyways.

When hiring I send an accurate picture of myself. Let the escort decide.

I like to get massages, and I'm overweight. I disclose my weight as some massage tables will not support both my weight and the weight of the masseur. Disclosing my weight allows the masseur to prepare for a massage on a mat or bed.

I realize what I'm about to say may be perceived by some forum members as sacrilegious, silly, worthy of criticism, and possibly divisive. I'm ok with it, it's just one opinion vented to get it out my system.
 
For me, escorts should refrain from using specific client stories to make their point. I know it probably adds more validity to their advice, but to me, detail-sharing is a breach of trust and, ultimately, damaging to an escorts' personal brand. I'm often criticized for not hiring outside my trusted circle of companions. Well, this thread is precisely why I choose so carefully. I've yet to find any of my trusted companions on this forum actively talking about their clients. Doesn't mean they aren't (!), but at least, I don't yet see my personal story and fantasies used as forum fodder.
 
To my wonderful, thoughtful, beautiful, trustworthy companions: Thank you for holding me tight to your chest...literally and figuratively. Let's now embrace our 300 pound client and his fantasy, and let's all of us lift him up against that wall. May his fantasy soon become a reality. With utmost respect, TR

This original post is called "Would you rather overweight clients warn you about their size and expectations before meeting?" It's not called "Are you disgusted with fat people and should people warn you because you think they are gross". In this specific case, for my client, his weight was the reason for which his expectation could not be fulfilled.
 
He was unaware of that. No, he didn't realize his expectation was unrealistic without me telling him. As a matter of fact he had tried many escorts and was disgusted with the whole thing because nobody could give him what he had seen on a porn flick.
 
If you read my post carefully I was having the time of my life. He was a handsome, fun man. This had absolutely nothing to do with me having to be warned about his weight because it's gross, but I would have love to know he wanted to be carried by my cock all over the room. I would have not taken his money had I known in advance.
 

 
I don't need you to lure me with your bravado. The whole point of being with an escort who understands his therapeutic presence in your life is that you can entirely leave the posturing out of the equation. I don't need you to come with airs, I don't need you to exude self confidence and matador style elegance. Just be on time, be clean, be respectful, honour our agreements and be yourself. Believe me, if you do this, you will leave knowing what true self confidence feels like because you will give someone the chance to see you naked, vulnerable and still be appreciated and seen.
 
It's impossible to see, like or appreciate someone trying to put on airs of something he doesn't feel.
 
No need to pep yourself up before a session. No need to steel yourself up. No need to having to charm, lure, or make the escort fall in love... that's our job. Just be yourself. That's all we ask for.
 

 
Props to you. I beg you to put yourself in the shoes of all the inexperienced clients who may suffer from crippling self doubt and would be destroyed if not even a hooker will touch them. Having an escort not answering an email is one thing, having an escort closing the door on you or worse, taking your money and treat you like shit would leave a terrible mark.
 
Good on you for having confidence. Not good on you for pushing your own opinion without thinking how this might impact other people.
 

 
Yeah, and I want escorts to be kind and loving and sweet and respectful and I want them to be mindful of their clients' privacy... I want so many things!
 
Most escorts don't.
 
My advise to inexperienced clients when dealing with escorts is not relevant to when they are dealing with the ten best escorts of the world. No advise needed then. My advise is for when they are dealing with all the rest.
 
Do I need my clients to hide their money when I visit? No. Would I advise them to hide it when an escort is visiting? YES! EVERY TIME!
 
Would I want escorts not to steal? Who gives a shit what I want. Some do, some don't. The advise I give is in case you are meeting with the ones that do.

I would learn a lot about myself if you show me where I wrote that I need any of those people to "warn" me in order to see them or not, to kiss them or not.
 
That is pure fabrication.
 
To me it sounds as if you are reacting to some other instance we don't know anything about, protecting it to my half digested post. No need to be sickened. You just need to read what I wrote.
 
Yes, give all information specially when it can possibly affect your expectations. (Like the case I mentioned).
 
Tell me about you and tell me about what you are hoping to experience.
 
Lastly, and this concerning clients, not me, personally, tell your escort -every single time- in case he is a dud and you can avoid him. If you are wanting to avoid a bad experience, disclose. It is in your own interest.
 
If this makes you feel sickened, then you are right, the conversation is over.
 
Wishing you many fulfilling, exciting encounters.

My man, respectfully, your reading comprehension skills are incredibly lacking. This is not an issue of the escorts' preferences, but of the emotional wellbeing of clients who might already have a tenuous self confidence.
 
Yes, by all means, if you are going to the mall, or a party or the office, hold your head as high as you can, celebrate who you are and give no explanations about your physical state.
 
If you are going to meet an escort, however, if you are going to put yourself in someone else's hands and be vulnerable, if you are planning to be in the incredibly dangerous position in which a prejudiced, dumb or inexperienced guy might actually bruise you instead of handle you with love and tenderness, then it is incredibly important that you weed out the bad ones before meeting as often as you can.

Going to meet an escort "hoping that you picked a winner that treats you like a king" is an abusive suggestion because you know there are not many out there. Leaving it to luck is a very self hating way to go about it. There is a much better way to know in advance if you picked a winner: let him know everything there is to know.

 
And the other part of the question... expectations. If you are one of those people who think escorts are sexbots who can and will do any sex trick for you every time, then I know you are also one of those men who are always disappointed. If someone tells me that I must cum once in his mouth, another time in his ass and another time on his chest, I will have to turn down the appointment. If someone tells me that he must absolutely enjoy anal sex, which has to this point been elusive, I will clearly manage his expectations and tell him that I cannot promise that. If a 400 pound person expects me to fuck carry him around the room like he saw in the movies, I will have to explain why this is not possible.
 
It's not a matter of preferences or performance, as you call it. It's simple physics.
 
Having good, loving intentions is completely different to selling "One syrup heals all" snake oil.

Yes.
 
Every time.
 
It's not whether I am a saint or not or whether a good escort should like everyone. It's not that I need to be "warned", I just need all necessary information.
 
When I say yes attraction has nothing to do with my answer. Yes, you should always share your expectations before meeting and yes, you should always share information about you that might hinder the fulfillment of those expectations.
 
There's tons of wonderfully fun things one can do with a lover who is even morbidly obese and clean, but because of simple physics there are things that are just not possible.
 
I was once hired by a guy who weighed possibly two and a half times my weight. He was really handsome and I thought the session was going well. At some point, after adjusting heights and angles, finally I was able to fuck him. As soon as I was inside him, he jerked at my arms frantically demanding that I lifted him with my dick and fucked him against the wall the way he had seen in a porn movie.
 
This is not an exaggeration. And as much as this case was extreme, it is quite common for people not in touch with their bodies to demand things are -because of the size and condition of their bodies- simply impossible.
 
You are three hundred pounds and you want me to lift you like you were a tiny young man? I am sorry, it sounds as if I am not the man for you. I don't think I can fulfill your expectation.
 
I will not go see someone who I think I might disappoint. If someone wants something that I am not confident I can provide, I will be clear about it and will suggest I am not the right man for the job. I will explain my point and I will offer options, but I will be very happy not to have brought into a situation where the only outcome is failure.
 
Now... let's not talk about me. Let's not talk about those other escorts who will be thrilled about seeing anyone. Let's talk about the other ones...
 
If I am insecure about the way I look, whether it is justified or not, if I feel ashamed that I am fat, for example and I show up at an escort's door just to have that escort close the door on my face because I am fat, or worse, have the escort take my money while he does absolutely nothing for me... that would make me so much unhappier and more insecure.
 
Why not give the escort every chance to reject me beforehand to avoid the much harsher possibility of being rejected in person or being taken for a ride?
 
ALWAYS GIVE THE NECESSARY INFORMATION. Not for your escort. For yourself.
 
You deserve to be treated well. You deserve to be treated with respect, and you deserve to have someone who understands your expectations clearly.