OliverSaks

Re: Karma: from a blog of one of my favorite Buddhist "masters" - Brad Warner, whose book "Hardcore Zen" I would highly recommend. (He spends some time on karma in the book, but here is a bit from his blog below"
 
"I've been seeing a lot of nonsense about karma regarding the recent disasters in Japan. There's a webpage going around that supposedly lists dozens of Facebook status updates saying the earthquake and tsunami were karmic retribution for the attack on Pearl Harbor. Now
is saying it was some kind of message from God. Pat Robertson has apparently learned his lesson and is keeping mum about what he thinks. 
The people who post these things about karma haven't got a clue in the world. I've said it before and I'll say it again, you cannot ever know someone else's karma. You can't even figure out your own.
 
I've often talked about how I can see karma operating in my own life. When I say that I am not referencing things like natural disasters and so-called "acts of God." I'm talking about how, when I act out of anger, angry action seems to come back to me, often from sources other than the object of my original anger. Same with greed, jealousy and all the rest. I am not talking about things like, I dunno, a bucket of soup falling on my head from a third floor window after I stole a copy of Penthouse from the newsstand or whatever. Get those kinds of ideas out of your heads, people!"
 
Annoying to get shorted, sorry it happened to you Junior, but I think ya'll could maybe think about karma in a more personally productive and less "violent" way.
 
-0S

Re: Karma: from a blog of one of my favorite Buddhist "masters" - Brad Warner, whose book "Hardcore Zen" I would highly recommend. (He spends some time on karma in the book, but here is a bit from his blog below"
 
"I've been seeing a lot of nonsense about karma regarding the recent disasters in Japan. There's a webpage going around that supposedly lists dozens of Facebook status updates saying the earthquake and tsunami were karmic retribution for the attack on Pearl Harbor. Now
is saying it was some kind of message from God. Pat Robertson has apparently learned his lesson and is keeping mum about what he thinks. 
The people who post these things about karma haven't got a clue in the world. I've said it before and I'll say it again, you cannot ever know someone else's karma. You can't even figure out your own.
 
I've often talked about how I can see karma operating in my own life. When I say that I am not referencing things like natural disasters and so-called "acts of God." I'm talking about how, when I act out of anger, angry action seems to come back to me, often from sources other than the object of my original anger. Same with greed, jealousy and all the rest. I am not talking about things like, I dunno, a bucket of soup falling on my head from a third floor window after I stole a copy of Penthouse from the newsstand or whatever. Get those kinds of ideas out of your heads, people!"
 
Annoying to get shorted, sorry it happened to you Junior, but I think ya'll could maybe think about karma in a more personally productive and less "violent" way.
 
-0S

One is, after all these years on the analyst's couch, curious why one would feel a need to publicly post about a private message exchange.

You have a right to feel how you wish.
 
However, just consider that it probably isn't about you; maybe he's been stiffed before, and he has decided that he must count before leaving for his own peace of mind - it sucks to feel taken advantage of and I can see how he might just be protecting himself.
 
I don't count the donation near my clients, and I have been shorted before... I leave myself open to this, but I think the gesture of my trust certainly matters to some clients who treat me very kindly and generously.

You have a right to feel how you wish.
 
However, just consider that it probably isn't about you; maybe he's been stiffed before, and he has decided that he must count before leaving for his own peace of mind - it sucks to feel taken advantage of and I can see how he might just be protecting himself.
 
I don't count the donation near my clients, and I have been shorted before... I leave myself open to this, but I think the gesture of my trust certainly matters to some clients who treat me very kindly and generously.

You have a right to feel how you wish.
 
However, just consider that it probably isn't about you; maybe he's been stiffed before, and he has decided that he must count before leaving for his own peace of mind - it sucks to feel taken advantage of and I can see how he might just be protecting himself.
 
I don't count the donation near my clients, and I have been shorted before... I leave myself open to this, but I think the gesture of my trust certainly matters to some clients who treat me very kindly and generously.

You have a right to feel how you wish.
 
However, just consider that it probably isn't about you; maybe he's been stiffed before, and he has decided that he must count before leaving for his own peace of mind - it sucks to feel taken advantage of and I can see how he might just be protecting himself.
 
I don't count the donation near my clients, and I have been shorted before... I leave myself open to this, but I think the gesture of my trust certainly matters to some clients who treat me very kindly and generously.

You have a right to feel how you wish.
 
However, just consider that it probably isn't about you; maybe he's been stiffed before, and he has decided that he must count before leaving for his own peace of mind - it sucks to feel taken advantage of and I can see how he might just be protecting himself.
 
I don't count the donation near my clients, and I have been shorted before... I leave myself open to this, but I think the gesture of my trust certainly matters to some clients who treat me very kindly and generously.

You have a right to feel how you wish.
 
However, just consider that it probably isn't about you; maybe he's been stiffed before, and he has decided that he must count before leaving for his own peace of mind - it sucks to feel taken advantage of and I can see how he might just be protecting himself.
 
I don't count the donation near my clients, and I have been shorted before... I leave myself open to this, but I think the gesture of my trust certainly matters to some clients who treat me very kindly and generously.

You have a right to feel how you wish.
 
However, just consider that it probably isn't about you; maybe he's been stiffed before, and he has decided that he must count before leaving for his own peace of mind - it sucks to feel taken advantage of and I can see how he might just be protecting himself.
 
I don't count the donation near my clients, and I have been shorted before... I leave myself open to this, but I think the gesture of my trust certainly matters to some clients who treat me very kindly and generously.

My sympathies lie with the original poster and his concerns... after all, there is a slightly different level of intimacy (generally!) between a convenience store cashier and a person with whom one has just had an erotic encounter - feelings and sensitivities are likely to be in a hightened state, of course... and even small gestures can be mis-interpreted or blown out of proprotion.
 
as for me, i am always worried that i may have unintentionally short-changed my person, and request that he count out the amount i have left - "just to be sure" - and confess that i am prone to the dizziness of an academic!
 
it ends the encounter on a chuckle....

You have a right to feel how you wish.
 
However, just consider that it probably isn't about you; maybe he's been stiffed before, and he has decided that he must count before leaving for his own peace of mind - it sucks to feel taken advantage of and I can see how he might just be protecting himself.
 
I don't count the donation near my clients, and I have been shorted before... I leave myself open to this, but I think the gesture of my trust certainly matters to some clients who treat me very kindly and generously.

Who keeps the metric system down? WE DO!

When an escorts lists himself as 19 cm one place in the ad and 20 cm in another part...
 
Hmmmmm....

Intellectual-emotional disconnect!
 
I know all the reasons why I "shouldn't" feel the way I do - but the ego has a mind of its own.
 
I'm very content with all of this, just to be clear. @tristanbaldwin just said things so well, and it rang true to me.

I would not be happy if I spent time and effort trying to put myself out there and meet somebody on a social app with no mention on my part about escorting only for them to engage me and then after ensnaring me, then bring up escorting or a generous/sugar daddy component to the meeting.

Intellectual-emotional disconnect!
 
I know all the reasons why I "shouldn't" feel the way I do - but the ego has a mind of its own.
 
I'm very content with all of this, just to be clear. @tristanbaldwin just said things so well, and it rang true to me.

Very vulnerable of you to post - kudos.
 
I'm finding my own insecure / jealous feelings creep in with all the "competition" that's constantly around on the board and on Rentmen: stronger, bigger, more rugged...
pornstars, athletes, bodybuilders...
 
Life is beautiful.

Intellectual-emotional disconnect!
 
I know all the reasons why I "shouldn't" feel the way I do - but the ego has a mind of its own.
 
I'm very content with all of this, just to be clear. @tristanbaldwin just said things so well, and it rang true to me.

Very vulnerable of you to post - kudos.
 
I'm finding my own insecure / jealous feelings creep in with all the "competition" that's constantly around on the board and on Rentmen: stronger, bigger, more rugged...
pornstars, athletes, bodybuilders...
 
Life is beautiful.

Intellectual-emotional disconnect!
 
I know all the reasons why I "shouldn't" feel the way I do - but the ego has a mind of its own.
 
I'm very content with all of this, just to be clear. @tristanbaldwin just said things so well, and it rang true to me.

Intellectual-emotional disconnect!
 
I know all the reasons why I "shouldn't" feel the way I do - but the ego has a mind of its own.
 
I'm very content with all of this, just to be clear. @tristanbaldwin just said things so well, and it rang true to me.

Very vulnerable of you to post - kudos.
 
I'm finding my own insecure / jealous feelings creep in with all the "competition" that's constantly around on the board and on Rentmen: stronger, bigger, more rugged...
pornstars, athletes, bodybuilders...
 
Life is beautiful.

Intellectual-emotional disconnect!
 
I know all the reasons why I "shouldn't" feel the way I do - but the ego has a mind of its own.
 
I'm very content with all of this, just to be clear. @tristanbaldwin just said things so well, and it rang true to me.

Intellectual-emotional disconnect!
 
I know all the reasons why I "shouldn't" feel the way I do - but the ego has a mind of its own.
 
I'm very content with all of this, just to be clear. @tristanbaldwin just said things so well, and it rang true to me.