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It’s not real love guys! You can have connection. But I will say that people mix lust, need with love. Real love is based on sacrifices, selfless attachment and not transaction. Keep it transactional, be good, treat respectfully the other person. Best thing is to be self reliant and avoid dependency on others!

It’s not real love guys! You can have connection. But I will say that people mix lust, need with love. Real love is based on sacrifices, selfless attachment and not transaction. Keep it transactional, be good, treat respectfully the other person. Best thing is to be self reliant and avoid dependency on others!

As you can tell, this is fairly common. Every hobby has a dark side and this is it for us.
1) Disengaging is important. You may feel like you are “dating” but you are not. Don’t keep texting the guy. Don’t meet with him in person to “break up”.
2) If he keeps texting you (why wouldn’t he - you are a paying client) be respectful but clear: I have other commitments and cannot see you. That is not a lie - your commitment is to yourself and your own mental wellbeing. Get your priorities straight.
3) Make it stick. It is not a negotiation. Be polite but resolute. Even if it breaks your heart and wants to make you cry.
Block his number if you have to.
4) Learn from the experience. Professionals (doctors, lawyers, auditors) all learn how to grow a thicker skin and to maintain an emotional distance. You can do that too.
 
My comments probably make me sound like a heartless person. I assure you that is not the case. I care for many of the guys I have met. Experience is the hardest teacher... Good luck! ?

I figure that the ones I have feelings for are the ones that are really good at their jobs. Which then reminds me that it’s their job and I’m their client.

It's easy to do. Part of what many of us are seeking is the emotional connection. And sometimes the provider is just so dam nice to us. It's easy to swoon. One fellow I really fell for once told me that "that sort of thing happens to him all the time." It reminded me that the thing that I fantasize about- a loving long term relationship, is not gonna happen with my favorite provider. Once in a blue moon you hear about a client/provider relationship turning into something more long term. But these usually develop if there is a great deal of money involved. And that's fine. A couple of times I have developed a bit of a friendship with a provider. And I am grateful for the friendship. But that's as far as it would ever go. Enjoy your provider as a friend if you wish. Anything more is exceedingly rare.

That’s a hazard of this so-called hobby. It’s happened to me 3 times. First one was a masseur. in my naive way, I was sure it was two-sided, but eventually when I pushed for more, the let-down was crushing. The next one was an escort. Movie star quality - Mr. Perfect. And he picked up on the vibes and took me on a long, fantasy ride for over a year. And like the first one, he had met “someone” new and it was over. Yeah, after I’d taken him to Hawaii for a week, and spent gawd-knows how much $$$ on his wardrobe, sports tickets and food. Number three was even more painful. Again, Mr. Adonis was nearly perfect and we went so far as to move in together. My job changed and he had some family obligations that mysteriously appeared at the same time. So I was headed to a new city, and he was going back “home” - it was a tough breakup; but then through the wonders of social media I discovered that he found another dude within days. Moral of these stories? Escorts and masseurs are entrepreneurs- and they for the most part are wonderful people. But they are almost always not seeking a love interest in their client base.

Cut bait and run.
 
This hobby can be fun, but like all fun things there is a dark side.
Keeping a healthy perspective can be difficult and kudos to you
for realizing that you may be in over your head. If he’s a true professional
he’ll understand and help you depart gracefully with your dignity intact.
 
Although I have occasionally developed strong feelings, I’ve never fallen
in love with an escort. If I ever did realize I was starting to develop deeper
feelings I would disclose that to the escort and then stop seeing them.
 
Its hard to do, but like ripping off a bandaid, it’s less painful in the long run.

Whenever I think I might be falling in love with an escort, it’s my healthy sense of personal worth that reminds me I can’t afford it. Lol

VERY bad. Avoid at all costs

I hate those guys who are greedy and sure that their service will suck!

Well said and I can’t agree more! For those cops the easiest thing is to catch someone for traffic violations moving or non moving and slap tickets. And run after the legal aged, independent escorts and arrest them to show how great of a work they have done. On the other side they will neglect the real issues and don’t catch hard core criminals!

Eastern European !!! My spidy sense says stay away from Eastern European and especially from those pack of infamous three Eastern Europeans too! Those guys are gay for pay and just suck the money from gay men.

I met up with him and he's very hot but he was difficult to book and overall it was not a great experience.
He had a bunch of ridiculous requests before he'd come by and when he finally came over everything was rushed. Pics and stats are accurate and he has a nice dick, but definitely not someone I'd repeat with.

Cliches and stereotypes always have bases in fact. I'm sure there are plenty of porn stars who fit the bill of attractive young guys who get into porn because they don't see any other opportunities, and then get hooked on the "easy" money and attention. When you are young, pretty, and have money and praise rolling in, I'm sure it's easy to believe that it will last forever. After a couple of "green" years, the downward slide begins. Other sites, more 'fringe' kinks, escorting for less and less, and so on. I think the porn industry is like the film industry with bigger, hungrier teeth. There's always another 18 year old twink, or jock, or whatever coming in and pushing someone else down the "road" as they become the new fresh young thing.

There are a lot of words you could use to describe the guy it those links..."Cutie Pie" is not one of them

I ran into him around Lauderdale recently. He is more lanky than built now, lost a bit of muscle mass. Still as arrogant as ever and still a Trumper. Make of that what you will.

https://rent.men/HungMatt
 
This guy is a lot of fun...but definitely looking to be in a 'private collection'.... I think he found someone, got dumped, and is back.

I think probably for a while the non- functional junior Ryan Rose will keep the elder Ryan Rose ego in check!!

Is it permanent damage to his cock? Just wondering that instead of viagra why he chose Trimix and screwed up his cock?

I think by page 8 my eyes were getting tired .. so no

Hey Guys,
I've noticed that especially over the last few months there is an increase in trolls and users that are likely "bots" on the board. In a couple cases I have complained but I understand free speech and until these trolls or bots break the rules, they will likely roam free.
 
I care very much about providing accurate and helpful information here and I'm extremely grateful for what this community has provided me as well!
 
I can't tell you how many times advice from users here has saved my ass and saved my wallet!
 
That said, since the trolls and bots seem here to stay, I'd like to caution everyone (well at least the real souls and kind, good folks) to be careful about what you disseminate and who you engage with.
 
I'm sure many of you already know what I'm talking about and WHO I'm referring to, but here are some pointers regardless:
 
1. Be wary of people who consistently post nonsense, gibberish, or random things that don't fit in the conversation. I understand that English isn't everyone's first language, and that's fine, but one tell of a bot is that grammar, comprehension, and continuity are way off.
 
2. Beware of trolls seeking personal information on specific escorts (or clients). I'm generally happy to share information that's helpful to a similar guy who's looking to hire and there's something he likes or doesn't like that one or another escort can or can't provide. However, when someone (or someTHING) starts asking for specific details of a meeting or for things that would possibly identity me or the escort, warning flags go off.
 
3. Beware of users who repeatedly ask for information already contained upward in the thread or in other threads or for information that's clearly already been verified by reputable users.
 
4. "Common Sense" isn't common enough unfortunately, but it's still a trait that bots do not replicate well if at all; when you read a post that's just plain stupid or asinine, it may not be a real person posting it.
 
5. Users new to the board who spar with and antagonize longtime, reputable members either have an agenda to discredit or distract or to otherwise cause trouble are likely trolls or bots.
 
Overall, when you encounter these type of posts or direct messages, I recommend that you ignore and don't engage. Engaging allows them to continue the conversation and keep their threads visible.
 
This website is so wonderful and it's a shame that trolls & bots who seek to misguide, collect information that they can use for nefarious purposes, and otherwise pester good people should taint the experience.
 
I also encourage anyone who encounters this type of behavior to speak up and report it to moderators.
 
Good luck, and stay safe!
Cody

Interesting. If this is a non-sexual Zoom session, according to his own description, I’m curious how he offers a boyfriend experience and why his physical description, including his 7” uncut dick, is relevant? ??‍♂️

The preparation time for a top is the time it takes to swallow a pill.
The preparation time for a bottom (especially the Helden-Bottom...) is longer, so
Bottom line...billable hours etc.
His milage may vary...HMMV

Then give it a shot!

The condom?