Rod Hagen

I've seen lots of guys who've lost their prostates to cancer, and it makes for a more complicated, maybe occasionally frustrating, sex life. I found this morning's article interesting. https://www.nytimes.com/2021/12/07/health/gay-men-prostate-cancer.html

Given that Wellbutrin is not an SSRI, its lack of sexual side effects make it useful for gays.

I don't want to see pets pawned-off or in shelters, because owners, depressed or otherwise, bit off more than they can chew, as is most often the case with discarded pets. I also touched on working on improving sleep, exercising, considering therapy, not discounting medicine, and other options, admittedly without swearing. I apologize if my dirty mouth offended.

Pets are a responsibility, not a life-hack. There are LOTS of effective things people can do to improve their own mental and emotional health short of acquiring a pet. People can wait until they are mentally and emotionally equipped to make the pet, not themselves, the priority. Shelters are full of people's selfish decisions. Mild depression or loneliness are another matter, then definitely get a pet. I was talking about, but I wasn't clear that I was talking about, heavier cases, cases where I've seen people get a pet, and said pet ends up in the fucking shelter or becomes some other friend/relatives responsibility.

You won't want to do any of these things if you are anxious/depressed. But they'll help. Improve your sleep hygiene. Daily DAILY Exercise Daily gratitude journaling, even if you eventually find yourself repeating the same gratitudes. Meditate daily, that means spending time NOT thinking about the horrible shit, or good shit, but just focus on the breathing. There are TONS of guided meditations on youtube. Online therapy. Online Group Therapy Do NOT get a fucking pet. Don't be afraid of Wellbutrin and/or Lexapro, they can help. As things improve, maintain the exercise, maintain the good sleep hygiene, continue meditation, you can drop the gratitude crap, consider dropping therapy (therapy is meant to be temporary), talk to your doctor or psychiatrist about tapering off Wellbutrin/Lexapro, and only when you are feeling much much better should you consider a pet.

Enjoyed the book long long ago. Enjoyed the movie.

Scruff works well. Not for hiring, but they are very very hungry for fresh meat. Have fun!

Great show. Hilarious. I didn't like/watch friends. matt LeBlanc was excellent in Episodes.

oops, didn't even know this was on the site. years ago Hooboy tried an escort only section of the forum. predictably, some of the posts leaked out and everyone got pissy and it closed. also, long long long ago there were two variations of the blacklist (reportedly "bad" clients) website. Someone famous started it, can't remember who. Not Talvin, but someone on that level. Was it Talvin?

I haven't read his poems, I will. I love his short stories. One Arm?! As someone who is a working man and was once a young(ish) working man, I LOVE that story. It would make an excellent 82-minute film. https://www.nola.com/entertainment_life/arts/article_cee29cf1-5b4f-5c54-8348-548924c98a18.html Also, I like Desire and the Black Masseur. Sadistic and beautiful It was also an ok movie. https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0091646/

I talked to someone who saw a screener, and confirmed it's awful :-( Ridley Scott should stick to what he's a master at.

Extraordinary. I wish he could have come out as Gay, as someone living with HIV and then AIDS, but I don't fault him in the least for not doing so. When men like him die, I again wish I still believed in Heaven.

I've exchanged with photographers. It's fine. Do be clear which sessions are a compensation and which are paid, also try not to be rigid about your time vs. his, that's how the relationship can sour. In the late '90s there was an artist in the southwest who'd offer to fly escorts to him for a few days in exchange for some money and one of his paintings. He was a respected artist, but I did not care for his art (southwest) at all. I declined. A friend of mine, took him up on it and he still has the painting.

and, now, unfortunately, I have an 11. My 6s just wasn't keeping up w/my most used apps :-( I will say so far I am happy with the 11.

Maybe he chased after Alec Andrews and they are together, again, happily ever after :-)

Oh my god you're going to have such good food!

Codie has really calmed down; in the '90s it was such a common dog name, it seemed odd to run into a person with that name: "your parents named you after a dog?"

Thank you Tyger. I can't stay up tonight, but I'm looking forward to the photos and videos tomorrow!

I don't mind getting older, what i don't want is to be their caretaker, emotionally or otherwise. I'm too happy caring for guys my age and decades older :-)

Be gentle. Most people don't even realize what they are saying as they say it!

you're right, it started around 35, which makes no sense because the person saying it is only 10 years younger. I'm nearing 50, I still hate it.

Wasn't sure anyone would know the name. Interesting thing is I really like Henry Rollins, yet I very much do not respond to Black Flag.

Years ago I was at a No Age concert, this one: In the rare instance I'm alone at a concert, I want to get as close to the stage as I can, so that night I stood JUST at the border of the danger zone, where everyone was crushing and thrashing and crowd surfing. Security was freaking out because this is definitely NOT The kind of concert McAruthur Park usually sees; more often it's either Latin or Classical music. THIS night someone picked up a guy and his Wheel Chair and he crowd surfed and LOVED it. :-) But security was truly on edge. And it was fine, until just before the last song the lead singer of Black Flag*, who had joined No Age on stage, said, "this is our last song, so fuck it, do whatever you want" and I could feel and see the slam dancing and shoving that had been nearest the stage move it's way through the crowd like a wave. it was violent, and fun, and as far as I know nobody got hurt. BUT I sure am glad everyone waited until the last song to expand the intensity. *I know BF is legendary and important, but I'm not a fan and I wish No Age hadn't sung so many songs with them. Still, an amazing night, one of the best concerts I've attended.

Cool, Santa Barbara together. That's pretty romantic :-) A law degree, I think I've only ever met one other escort who had a law degree. That's pretty cool. Well, apart from politics, where you parted ways, sounds like you had a pretty good rapport!

Well if he got to meet you, you two must have had a GREAT time. Seems like such a nice guy, yeah I really hope he's doing well.