rustyrex

I tried contacting a potential hire and it was disastrous. I use a virtual connection for security reasons and the guy basically accused me of being a bot and told me to leave him alone. Said something about my connection being from a foreign country. I was thinking...this is exactly why I’d rather just text.

This is an interesting thread, I’ve never done 4 handed but I assumed it would be better. But if it’s more like sensory overload then what’s the point. Massage is supposed to be relaxing, if I wanted sensory overload I’d do a manwich with me in the middle, on poppers, blindfolded, while spinning.

A couple years ago I went to Denver and met the provider at his place. I was surprised to see that the elevator required a key especially since the hotel was far away from a busy tourist area. A guest let me in and pressed the floor I needed but I ended up getting mixed up and turned around and lost so the provider had to come get me on the floor I accidentally went to. So embarrassing....

I love tats but they gotta be tasteful. The only way I would get one would be to remember a loved that passes away or something that means something to me, like a milestone. I do like sleeves but some people do have tats in strange places like under the pecs or on the face or in the scalp.

how have I not seen this thread before? ???????????

I was shocked and saddened by his death. The Black Panther movie was well done and he was perfect to play the role. His other movies are really good too. What kind scares me is that his death was from colon cancer, that is almost unheard of in someone that young. I used to work in the GI lab and seeing this in someone so young is heartbreaking.

I've contacted him while I was in Phoenix a couple years ago. I passed, although he didn't want to take no for an answer, he kept texting until I told him I spent all my play money. Seems nice enough, definitely cute and very nice body. I would give him a try.

Crazily enough...I've had a "straight" guy do this to me at work.

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Depends on the guy. I've had guys use pics that had to be at least 20 years ago, sometimes they don't even look like the same person. I try to give everyone a chance. One guy had some really old pics but he definitely still had a gorgeous body, another guy didn't even look like the same person. I've never had an outright catfish but have had a damn near close one. If I have to ask if I have the right place or person when they come to the door they should know better than to use that old picture.

Once in a while, but I really have to trust the guy. Gay men are just as gossipy and catty as the women and you'd be surprised just how close the 6 degrees of separation really are to you. Sometimes a buddy and me will exchange notes but for the most part it doesn't come up. Hiring still holds a stigma to it instead of being looked at as a form of getting exactly what you need.

I should've known better than to get on the floor face down on a futon, but I figured the guy really needed the business so I let it slide. As I got my face down to the floor, the dog hair was so much more noticeable, imagine it being stuck to you. It was everywhere.... He gave an okay massage, he had obviously been trained but his practice was unkempt. I flipped over and he offered a HE...I said sure and after about 30 seconds he tells me to get dressed and get out. I was surprised because I didn't do or say anything to be treated like that. I paid him and left....apparently his reputation spread all over town and not one of my buddies like dealing with him. Plus I heard more than once that he acted very odd during the sessions. At least it wasn't just me.

I understand your frustration. I'm a top as well and I tend to gravitate toward roided out super muscle but 99% of the time they only top or worse, do the bare minimum with "muscle worship." It's par for the course, you just have to look at the wording in the ads, negotiate, and be prepared to be disappointed or pay a little more for what you want. I had been keeping my eye on this roided out guy from Vegas who moved to NYC who was pretty much a bottom. A few weeks later he says he's a top with a domination fetish. All the pics of his beautiful ass have been removed. I was crushed.... If I"m ever in NYC I'm still contacting him to see if he'll give up that ass, you never know...he may just say yes. Don't give up hope and don't let hearing no discourage you, just move on to the next guy and maybe be a little more open to trying guys who aren't necessarily your first choice. I have met some great guys that don't fit my first choice and they are totally worth the time and effort to meet.

Had a coworker that wanted to be referred to as the dog lady. I said, "you know there is another name for that..." Needless to say I got chastised for implying something. Even though the word bitch never left my mouth....

Lucifer-the new season just started OMG Ozark-wow...just wow...every episode Great British bake off & Ancient aliens-background noise whilesurfing the net the Legend of Kora-for a cartoon I’m surprised how good it is I may destroy you - extremely serious subject matter but the accents are so strong I have to put on the subtitles

Chalk it up to a hard lesson learned and only pay for services provided. It's interesting how he threatened to out you for your fetish but will disregard the profession of prostitution and extortion as illegal. In fact you can call the police and report him, tell them that he extorted you for money. What's to keep him from coming back and threatening you in the future. You gave him money and he basically took it and ran to keep your fetish secret. Who knows, next time the fee may be higher to keep him quiet...would you pay the price?

I had never experienced an up sell till last year and I only paid it because I had been wanting to see this guy for years....I will never do that again. The guy was very attractive but the service wasn't even on par with guys that hook me up with a $65 massage with full on sex without the up sell. I'll admit, his body was amazing and dick was nice and big, but his attitude was awful. He basically expected me to be grateful he pulled off his undies and put his dick in my face. Afterwards he wasn't even friendly, no small talk and no nice doing business with you. I even told him that I had been wanting to meet for years, he didn't even care. I was thinking....wow...I just threw away $50 on this guy for what? His hand job was shit and he didn't even finish me off...I had to finish myself off. NEVER AGAIN!!!!

It happened by surprise, like another guys said here, from a massage. I went to this guy and he offered way more than a hand job. I was floored by the offer because no one had offered me full on sex after a massage, plus he said in his ad that he didn't offer anything except a legit experience. So naturally I accepted the offer and the rest is history.

Always liked the song I touch myself by the divinyls and I’ve heard some guys cover the song too. But found this cover which is kinda funny. It’s like the chipmunks

It takes two to tango. He's not innocent, nor is he naive, and knows exactly what he's doing. I'm just putting my experience out there for advice. Thanks for your insight....remember escorts also come at a cost and risk as well...yet we take a risk of being labelled a predator, jail time, and possible STI's for some physical intimacy.

I think there is a connection but I've been forward with people before and it's blown up in my face. He's in a position of authority so being forward might cost me more than I'm willing to pay for just a curiosity. I will say this, a couple months ago we stood in the parking lot and chatted for a little while. I kept asking him so many questions and he finally got a point where he said "Is this a personal question?" Which kinda threw me because I thought we were just being friendly. He had told me earlier he's pretty guarded with people he works with and even shared some personal stuff that he asked me not to repeat. I think he was wanting to ask me some personal questions but I told him I was curious about his thinking and why he thinks the way he does. Another manager passed us in the parking lot and said "you gotta be careful with the conversations in the parking lot, before you know it an hour will pass..." and with that the conversation ended. We haven't really talked like that since....but the stares and smiles continue. Sometimes he'll call me out during a meeting just to mess with me. Maybe I'm making more of this than there is....and he's just my grown man crush.

We are the same age...42. I don’t use grindr, don’t even have an account, keeps me out of trouble ?...usually. I think your right, this isn’t his first rodeo nor his last I’m sure.

So there is this guy I work with that has been temporarily assigned to our area from another part of the country. Very cute, confident and straight. I have my suspicions that he may not be totally only because he’s done a few things that give him away. Yesterday someone else told him that I was going to miss him as his assignment will be over next week. He seemed really surprised and gave me this long stare that made me a little uncomfortable but also excited to know that he’s definitely into me. We’ve talked a couple times and he’s even shared some very personal things with me. If this married straight man made a move on me before he leaves I don’t think I could tell him no. I truly admire him and have learned a few things from him that will help me out in life. I think he started noticing that he was being too friendly as well because at times he would avoid me, but I could see him looking at me or smiling at me when no one else noticed. I’m not a home wrecker and I know better than to force myself on anyone I work with but I must admit I like him too. I try not to stare but he notices that I do and is appreciative. Just throwing this out there to the group. Most likely nothing will come of this and he will move on as will I.

I started getting massages again. I've been so tense my muscles needed the attention. His requirement was that we both wore masks during the whole session. I could hardly breath....I'll have to figure out a better way to get comfy. I think my guy was nervous about the whole thing and I totally understand. We didn't do the typical extra special super spectacular ending but I totally made a mess of the sheets from the hand job. Will I hire again during these dangerous times? I'm getting to the point where I feel I'm missing a basic human need, so yes I will eventually. But if things are to get worse as predicted I may pull back again. It took me a long time just to order take out from restaurants and I haven't been to the gym in months. I was fortunate enough to have my own equipment but I do miss the eye candy.....A LOT!!!! There is so much we don't understand about COVID and it probably won't be fully understood for years to come. I believe I've already had it, I know myself well enough to figure out something didn't feel right. That was back in April, since then I feel fine but I have never been tested, I've been told it's only for those exhibiting symptoms. It's all mess and it will be interesting to see how we will get out of this, either we stand together or we watch each other suffer and perish. Hopefully we can come together and move forward, it's the only way we will survive as a people.

Closeted Celine Dion Fan......It's all coming back to me now, it gets me every. single. time. Bob the Drag Queen put a whole new spin on it.