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I think "within a certain range" is the key part here. Travel time adds up pretty quickly, and if you happen to be located in an out-of-the-way location, that's not their fault any more than their lack of hosting ability is your fault.

It is clearly spelled in the FAQ (last time I read them a couple of months ago) that the site will turn into charging to the escorts in some moment. It is a common business model in start ups, you start offering a service for free, in the process adjusting your site to your market needs, and once you grew enough you start monetizing.

So dear friends from Rentboy.pro, let's be completely honest and share that the volunteer and vocational work is just the beginning, the site will become a commercial enterprise.

This!

It is a totally understandable and respectable business model to operate this way. What would not be understandable, and in fact would give me serious concerns about trusting the site, would be presenting the site as if there are no plans to monetize the site in the future if everyone knows it will likely happen.

@Boomxyz has given the impression of "always free" in this thread. What we don't know is if it is totally genuine, or if there is the above "catch." So, maybe let's just ask directly. Do you really mean "always free" or do you just mean "free for now"? If the latter, we are still on board, just maybe consider dialing back your rhetoric a little.

Depends. Are they doing actual classical psychoanalysis with you (which is in many ways the epitome of non-directive therapy), or are they doing analytically-informed psychotherapy? If the former, you're unlikely to get homework no matter how you ask for it, and they definitely won't define goals for you. If the latter, you could probably just ask for it directly.

"Homework" as a term, and where you have a specific assignment to practice a specific skill, is pretty much a CBT thing. If you want it, ask for it; but I wouldn't expect most psychotherapists to automatically "assign" it every week and definitely wouldn't discount a therapist because they don't. Similarly, there may be a limit to how "smart" your goals can be on day one. Whether you and your therapist set very specific goals (and then update them as needed), or start with a more general, exploratory attitude before identifying what is truly at the heart of things for you, is a question of style and preference as much as anything.

I don't think this is quite on the nose about MA. From the state website:

"Under state regulation, any diagnosing physician who provides primary care for an individual with HIV infection or AIDS is required by law to report this case to the state health department. Usually this is a person's primary medical care provider. Counseling and testing providers who are not diagnosing physicians are not required to report HIV or AIDS."

"Yes, free, anonymous HIV testing will continue to be available at sites throughout the state. Results of anonymous tests are not reported to the Department by anonymous testing sites."

http://www.mass.gov/eohhs/gov/departments/dph/programs/id/hiv-aids/reporting/hiv-reporting-in-mass-for-consumers.html

However, what may be more relevant to MA residents is this line:

"All people living with HIV in Massachusetts who are in medical care will be reported by name starting January 1, 2007."

I don't know if it's plausible to receive anonymous HIV treatment, but I have to imagine it's not advisable. So it seems like the testing itself may be less relevant.

I’ve always had a problem understanding the concept of transference... I’ve never understood why this concept of transference is reserved for the therapist/client relationship. It seems to me that transference-if it is real at all-must happen frequently in most relationships.

You're right -- transference is definitely not reserved for client-therapist relationships, and does indeed happen frequently in most relationships.

The basic idea is just that we unconsciously "transfer" elements of our old, formative relationships, to interactions we have with people who are currently in our lives -- perhaps in the form of how we experience them, or assumptions we make without realizing it, or just the emotional cadence or expectations we bring to those interactions.

The reason transference is most often discussed in the context of therapy is because it is, again, a critical, on-the-table component of most psychotherapy. It is deliberately watched for in that context (which we don't usually do, elsewhere). A good therapy session thus plays a double role. On the one hand, it has a detached, reflective, analytical side to it, where you can sort out what's going on in your life with a third party who is external to it. At the side time, it is a hands-on laboratory experiment. Your interaction with the therapist is both the tool you use to shed light on your life, and a big part of what you use that tool on.

the best predictor of a positive therapeutic outcome is the therapeutic relationship.

This can't be emphasized enough.

It doesn't just mean liking your therapist, because this relationship is itself an actual, on-the-table component of almost any successful therapy. So you need someone who you find it easy to communicate with, and who you trust to be "on your team" even when providing tough feedback.

Re training background and particular therapeutic techniques: the majority of therapists identify as having an "eclectic" theoretical orientation, meaning that they draw from multiple schools of thought, including both directive therapies (like CBT) and evocative therapies (like psychodynamic approaches). I wouldn't, however, write anyone off based on their training. There are certainly some MDs (= psychiatrists) who focus solely on meds, but I've known multiple psychiatrists who have been incredibly insightful on a non-biological level and have emphasized talk and relationships.

I spent some time with him this afternoon. Charming, recommended. Feel free to PM w/ any questions.

https://rentmen.eu/HarryMorgan/

https://rent.men/HarryMorgan/

New on RM, no reviews, is visiting from the UK. Image and phone searches turn up nothing. Anyone seen him?

I did always like Colonel Potter.

For those who don't want to look at dates:

The post in this thread:

" atlgaboy, Sep 12, 2017 "

The review:

"Reviewed by atlgaboy, Oct 10, 2017"

Sheesh, guys.

Interesting, I contacted a local provider based on a daddy recommendation. I sent an email asking for their rate. The rate was much higher than the average for our area. Though the provider was attractive but no Wickedboy, I said thank you for taking the time and I appreciated the response but price is too steep. I figured no big deal. I would just move on. The provider came back with a counter offer which was considerably less. Just out of respect, I do not negotiate but also in my mind I am thinking I may get a cheaper service. To me the whole counter offer sets up a negative overtone, how do other clients feel when a provider negotiates a lower rate for their service in order to be hired? Have you found the service to be excellent?

I had almost the identical experience last week (wouldn't be surprised if it was the same provider), and I had the same reaction.

I kind of got the feeling that it was an innocent attempt at a selling technique: to make a high-end-of-average price seem like a really good deal. But it was hard to shake the feeling that the provider might not be as invested in it.

One more vote for the early days of Sean Cody. That link! Dylan, at the top of the page, really did it for me at the time... and I fondly remember the first "Gang Bang" video he, Zack and Luke were in (currently on page 152).

IIRC, there were a few months of stuff that's no longer listed, with lower production values. Wasn't the first video on the site a sort of weird orgy featuring Michael Brandon?

Yikes.

I can imagine how a well-meaning (if somewhat naive) member could end up giving this info to an escort without thinking it through, due to pressure from the escort in the moment.

But what I have a harder time understanding is the step that comes before it: why any potential client would share with an escort they haven't met, that they are turning them down because they got negative feedback about them. Why in the world would you want to antagonize someone in that way? (Especially if the negative report involved behavior and not just talent.)

https://rentmen.eu/Kellan_James

https://rent.men/Kellan_James

Reverse picture and phone number searches don't turn up anything, but the short bio could be concerning. Anyone with more info?

Yeah. Perhaps a tweaked analogy would be to compare it to, I don't know, renting a car, and the experience you have with that. Better cars do cost more to rent, and while admittedly those prices often turn on size (*cough*), the experience of driving them is probably more on most renter's minds than the prestige is.

Or as Shakespeare put it: "O happy horse, to bear the weight of Antony!"

Yes, and some people care more about one, some people more about the other, which sounds like the very point Mike was making with that analogy.

The partner is now in the pictures, and the ad says "WE WORK TOGETHER". Not sure if he means exclusively -- the pictures are almost all both of them. Huhmmmm...

No that's definitely his body I checked his profile out.

Victor, do you know if that particular photo setup involves some special kind of processing? The whole (tantalizing) series of them from that photographer clearly involves different bodies as well as different heads, yet they all set off alarm bells for photoshopping, in part I think because there is always a weird ring of suddenly shifting flesh tones around the neck.

Just to be clear, I'm not saying they are fake in any way -- but they clearly seem fake to some of us on first glance, and I'm just trying to figure out what's up with that.

FWIW, the ad is extremely new so there may not be anyone here who has. If you do try him out let us know how it goes!

Fun fact: if you remove the letters in "Ayn Rand" from "Grayson Daniels" you are left with "I go less".

* Disclaimer: this doesn't have any subtext or meaning. I was just amused to notice it.

There was a previous thread that came to no conclusions but was skeptical:

https://www.companyofmen.org/threads/too-good-to-be-true.128439/#post-1361560

However, I did some sleuthing earlier this week (because, let's face it, that is a great picture) and I think the ad may be legit. I managed to reverse image search my way to a very similar picture of the same guy wearing the same wristbands and a different harness, in a labelled promotional shot for a leather company. The leather company is based in New York, but shows at IML, and this particular image has a somewhat verbose filename that suggests an oblique IML connection. Altogether it potentially fits a number of elements in the description (modeling work, experience with BDSM, and Cleveland being relatively close to Chicago).

Anyway, I think he's worth further investigation -- perhaps someone else will have better luck getting in touch than dixietony did.

Bumping this -- I'm interested too, if anyone has experience to share.

RM name has changed several times recently, but the ad is now at:

https://rentmen.eu/Lamont_Phoenix

(I appear to be blocked by Lamont on RM, so I had to open that in an incognito window... I don't remember having any interaction other than him sending me repeated PMs to say hi because he saw that I had visited his profile.)

If I was working in the same city, I'd totally give this little boy a fucking bump he would never forget. My testosterone is raging. If he ages like fine wine I don't see his "fame" going away for a good 10 years. Fucking hot little boy, would love him to sip my fine wined escort c**k. Pin him down like a beta bitch And fill his brain with euphoric endorphins from my king cobra.WOOF!

While I will admit I find JT pretty hot, my main takeaway from this thread is that I need to arrange some time with Griffin Donavon, stat.

Elaine Benes would throw a fit. All those short sentences with exclamation marks. Somewhat similar in style to each other. Compare: "I felt like a guest" vs "He is a fantastic host." And FrankieMan talked about how he offered food and drink. Two reviews have a significant focus on his apartment, to the point of saying how each time they "check out something new in his apartment"... what does that even mean?

*shakes head*

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