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I had one block me right after a session. Very odd because I’m usually fairly self aware and didn’t think the massage was off. I texted to rebook. No issues rebooking and we have had multiple sessions since then. We never spoke of it. I’m curious if it was just a vibe thing or feared a bad review?

Tangent it doesn’t show the private gallery as an option in rent.men mirror site. Is that why folks mainly post the .eu domain?

Going to go back to Defcon 2024. What else? Maybe some shows.

I’d generally avoid the built-in chrome or Firefox browser password managers. They have been easy to compromise in the past. I don’t think much has changed. LastPass has a bit of an image problem as of late. I use Keeper, but other colleagues use BitWarden too. Apples password manager has been well reviewed as well.

Also a collary - you can fuck them or you can mentor them. You. Can’t. Do. Both. Hence, “Daddy” is an easily imitated stereotype. Big Dad Energy - aims for results - not for himself but in others.

Kicking around thoughts about going from rudderless in my late teens to buckling down into Big Dad energy. It’s not quite “Daddy” stereotype, but when Big Dad energy shows up, it doesn’t need rank, suit, or some fancy introduction. Competence has entered the chat. Shit got serious long ago. Now it’s time to sort out and put in the work. Not the quick fix work either. The work that will test your commitment. You will fail in the commitments you made to yourself. You will beat yourself up over it, and recommit because that’s what you do. An experience with a surgeon at Northwestern exemplifies that. He’s not the chief of the department. He doesn’t boast of his accomplishments. However, when shit went sideways, Big Dad energy showed up, and put in the work. “These things sometimes happen, but they happen to my team only once” With that statement, acknowledged problem, took ownership, provides assurance. I often crack jokes far too often in the professional setting. I try to keep things light. I did the same during my hospital stays. Because when the mood turns serious, it’s time to put in the work. A coworker once observed that Big Dad energy. Irate client - technology not responding as expected - read the room saw he needed a lifeline and now wasn’t the time to teach - “Hey, do you mind if I drive for a bit?” Instantly, focus on me, irate client still irate, (in my head, “keep this up shithead, and it will stay fucked until Tuesday out of spite” - outwardly, “putting in the work”) Resolved the issue. Advised coworker afterwards what I did and what led me to that solution. Assured them they would have gotten the solution if the client wasn’t adding unneeded pressure. Big Dad energy doesn’t need to boast. It shows up puts in the work, and tries to leave the situation better than he found it. It doesn’t always work. That’s why your dad gets quiet a lot or sometimes drinks. 😉 It’s also why hearing a dad voice their pride is high praise. Also - some biological fathers never mature into dads. Some dads never were biological fathers. Big Dad energy on display - no time to play politics, no time to sugar coat, time to put in the work.

Late to the party. Here’s my experience. I’d wake up routinely around 2-3am. I convinced myself it was probably something going bump in the night etc. On the weekends, I’d sleep in until noon or 2pm easily. I convinced myself I probably needed it because I was working too much during the week. I finally used a snore counting/recording app on my phone. I heard it for myself - the same snore, silence for an extended period of time, then jolting gasping for breath. I use the term same snore sound, because I heard it from my dad decades prior. I was a teenager and didn’t know any better, but I knew it probably wasn’t healthy. My dad passed shortly after my 17th bday from a heart attack in his sleep. Sleep apnea is no joke. I wear the CPAP religiously, and luckily I didn’t have too many issues adjusting to it. I sleep mostly through the night. I wake up now consistently around 6am maybe 8am on the weekend if I allow myself to sleep in. I have since lost 40 lbs since diagnosis, but still find my sleep is crap without the cpap. I’ll happily wear the cpap if it means better quality of life. Less serious side stories, I have had friends nod off on car rides mid conversation. Turns out yeah sleep apnea for them. They were getting such poor sleep they’d be nodding off unless they were actively engaged in things. I’d encourage your friend to stay the course, and track his sleep quality / how he feels the next day.

Often thought that a 2nd life for an escort/stripper could be nursing. Pay is pretty decent, and their people skills would surprisingly crossover in all types of interactions between patients, their family members, and doctors. The bedside experience would likely improve. Completely serious in this. The medical field could use some professionals experienced in making people feel at ease. Tho yes, double entendres abound. As for the poster, yeah, you keep it to yourself. No good will come from any disclosure from your lips.

I wouldn’t be as concerned with Bluetooth as much as making sure the wifi setting's are tighter. Bluetooth has gotten better to insure that you are joining known pairs. Under WiFi section of settings, make sure “Ask to join other networks” is set to Ask. Otherwise, there could be a chance you’d join an open network without any security. I wouldn’t put too much faith in any additional anti-hacking apps for the mobile device. You’d have to give them wide access to your phone for it to do any good. That in it of itself is a problem. I recommend the password manager route just because it enables you to set and remember unique passwords per app. It’s more to limit any damage if a single service gets compromised on their end. Plus it’s common now for criminals to use your username and previously breached passwords as an attempt to get lucky into other apps. Often people use the same password for everything or most things.

I’m cleaning out a room today, and a storage tote of VHS porn shattered into pieces. Yeah that’s my sign - the infamous box of porn used to be a good draw in my college years in the 90s to meet new “friends”. Now it’s my clue, I better lift with my knees.

They got into one app? Could you describe what occurred? Did you connect to the “airport” wifi? If yes, if the app used basic authentication it could have passed the user name and password in the clear. Hence VPN or just sticking with cellular is your best bet. Were you also on the latest IOS for the phone? MFA, VPN are good. Are you also using a password manager to make sure all your passwords are unique for each app/service?

In Hiya app, they have a call screening option, but you need to forward your calls to their service. It also requires you to disable live voicemail. So it replaces the native iPhone voicemail? I dont see a spot for user comments in Hiya versus Mr. Number. So far not too impressed. May stay with Mr. Number. I don't see the call screening being helpful. I'd rather just dump unknown callers to voicemail.

MrNumber seems to be the app of choice for this community. It's owned by Hiya that also has a similar app. Curious if they use the same backend and have access to the same comments? Any experience?

The Grabbys is also in town that weekend so that tends to draw a crowd. In years past, there was heavy cross over and a few guest dancers.

Update: I've lost some 30+ lbs. It's been fairly consistent weight loss over 6+ months I've gotten the lecture from well intended coworkers about unknown long term side effects with new medications. My response is simple: I know what the long term side effects will be if I don't make this change from my own experience: Sleep apnea, lower back issues, high triglycerides, high blood pressure meds, multiple abdominal hernias, family history of early cardiac death / disabling strokes. My doctor asked if I have a specific goal in mind, I just want to be sub obese 5'8" 180s. Will I continue to be on this drug for maintenance after goal weight? Unknown. I'll make the decision later in the year with input from my doctors. For me, this continues to be the right decision with manageable side effects.

First EV was a 105 mile range Mercedes B250 powered with 1st gen Tesla technology. No fast charging options. Range anxiety was real. Especially in the winter. Current EV - Volvo XC40 Recharge with 220 miles. Fast charging at 150KW so under 20% battery to 80% battery usually around 30 minutes. Winter range is 150-180 miles depending on temp and road conditions. I'm happy with it overall. I've taken it on road trips as far as 700 miles in a single summer day to DC. Takes a little planning and research. About to get much easier when Tesla opens their network up. I find that traveling into the rural centers of Illinois and Indiana are charging deserts about to get better with Tesla's network assisting. If it had 250 miles range, it be best for the longer trips. The stops to charge don't bother me as long as there are amenities like food and rest room options nearby. I found on the DC trip, I'd hook up to the charger, restroom break, walk the dog, grab a quick bite, chill out while eating, walk dog once more, the charge would be complete. It's amazing how much time you can get back by not babysitting a gas pump. I'd look at an app like Plugshare and see what fast charging options are along the routes of frequent roadtrips. You'd definitely want to have a home charger installed. You can get by on a wall outlet if you work from home. However, having the 240v 40 amp option will be nice if you ever need to drive a lot in a single day, and want to be ready the next day.

Any advice? I'm the executor/trustee of the last of the family money. I'm bound and determined that I'm not going to dip into my money to continue to support my sibling once their portion of inheritance runs out. Any advice on how to get a 49yo teenager to wisen up and stop spending excessive unneeded things? I allowed some of their inheritance to pay off one of their multiple max'd credit card with the clear communication to use that and pay it off in full every month. That hasn't happened. Now I'm faced with a crossroads. I love them, but I can't break their self-destructive habits. Sadly, writing this. It's clear to me. No advice will work without my loved one tackling the root of their self destructive behaviors. Food addiction, OCD - hoarding behaviors, low self-esteem, etc. It's well past time for therapy. It's super sad, but with their health problems I fear all I'm doing is trying to stretch their remaining inheritance until they eat themselves into an early grave. #shitTheydontcoverGrowingup

Echoing this... my mom never calculated her net worth. Kept working until disability forced her into retirement. I thought the reassurance that she was financially set for retirement would have been a comfort. Instead I got the reply, "what good does this do me? Money can't reverse this. (Wheelchair - mobility issues)" After that - "I'd rather die while I'm living; then live while I'm dead." Growing older but not up - Jimmy Buffett became a mantra. Save for the rainy day by all means; but don't forget to enjoy life today.

I've been on the journey since August 2023. I'm plateauing out 1.7mg/week right now past couple months. The side effects were manageable with little indigestion/nausea for me. I've dropped roughly 25 lbs since August. It's not the right decision for everyone, but I feel this is the right decision for me. There's always a cost for any of our decisions. Not doing anything to reduce the weight and continuing to lie to myself that I can diet and exercise my way out of 2 decades of obesity, comes with a side effect of remaining as heavy as I have always been. Family history has some significant overlaps, and I don't intend to repeat the same pathologies. I know what my likely life expectancy would be if I stay on that path.

Yeah, I'd want to work in some capacity. Ideally, keep the hours flexible, stress to a minimum and decent Healthcare benefits.

FIRE Financial Independent Retire Early folks are a bit crazy. However, I do wonder more and more at what point should I start to pull back from working full-time. I've been single AF for most of my adulthood. I'll likely be the last of my immediate family. I don't intend to pass along an inheritance to anyone. My early retirement concerns are: Affording Quality Healthcare to enable Quality of Life - I'd rather die while I'm living then live when I'm dead. Finding purpose in retirement Knowing when I can push back and be "okay" (figure that will likely need a financial advisor) Affording my indulgences from time to time For those approaching or in-retirement, how did you answer some of these questions?

Thumbs on the experience. 5 stars - will book again if travel overlaps. We spent about 2 hours together and it was super nice.

No worries cause there's no Wegovy to be found. CVS won't even try to fill the script for the starter doses.

I had a barstool there for a few years in the late 2000s to early 2010s before work creeped back up on my time. Michael my favorite bartender has left again for Florida. I'd need to start all over. So many good nights I can barely remember. Melrose diner for breakfast! I need to schedule some nights out from my suburban existence.