IronMaus

There is something about you that gay trans men like, and you specifically aren't into trans men. That's a tricky situation! A more general rejection is the polite way out. Preferences of race and genitalia are old-fashioned and unavoidably problematic. Telling someone that genitals or skin color is the reason you don't find them attractive is the same thing as telling them its the reason they are unattractive. Trying to convince them its just YOUR preference still makes you look 1 of 2 ways: either you are obviously prejudiced and are willing to admit it to everyone but yourself, or you just don't know how to talk to people of different skin colors or genitals. Referring to men you like as having the "working" or "right" parts implies that trans men have neither the right or working parts - or that they aren't men at all. I know what you meant when I read it, but its not something you should say to them or in a public forum. They are a gay man with a vagina. You are a gay men with a penis. You are no more manly than them because your were born with a penis and raised as a boy. We are men because we say we are and like to be thought of as men. Language changes fast sometimes. But that's how language works. You either change with it or become a troll. Just because people don't think what they say is offensive doesn't make what they say any better. It makes you look like the oldest person at the family reunion who says things nobody else there would and you either call them out on it or let it slide or take their drink from them. Just because something you say can seem and sound and feel prejudiced doesn't mean it is. But when people who suffer from the prejudice of others encounter the same language they've heard from their oppressors coming from someone within their community, should they really take it any other way?

This is a pet peeve of mine. It irks me enough to turn me off from someone on a hookup app - especially when NONE of their photos have their eyes and they think they look so good in sunglasses ? The eyes mean a lot in a picture. People say "I want to take a good picture so I look at the screen." Bitch, you can take 10,000 pictures and pick the one that looks good! At LEAST look at the mirror haha

My policy is no same day appointments - I've done this almost from the beginning after receiving advice from an escort in his 50s. However, if we have already met and we are in the same city, that's a different story...

Of course - I don't like doing these things on my own! I'm embarrassed for not implying that. Especially in new cities, I love to explore their museums and walking history tours and bike paths and such.

With most men I'm down for the all day every day vacation - but good boyfriends give each other space. Let me have my 3 morning coffees so I can handle my business ;-) It depends on the occasion, but separate time can be very useful. To make my living I need to look at my phone a lot - having time to do this makes for better company on both ends. But sometimes you get those clients that also live on their phone or have a different tolerance for the use of these damned phones. The amount of sex depends on the client and how much else we are doing that day. Most clients like sex in the morning and again at night - with various degrees of fooling around between. Bathhouses, sex clubs, and bringing in other escorts makes a big difference in how much sex I have on multi-day trips. I have a flat rate and expect travel/lodging/meals, but I also negotiate my rate with clients and offer reduced rates for sponsoring my trips: clients that only want to see me once or twice a day in their city can fly me in and put me up in a hotel for a reduced rate. If I have a lot of friends where we are going and only want me half the day that makes a difference too. Trying to take me to somewhere like Thailand? Let me play with some baby tigers and you'll get a hefty discount ;-)

This news hit me hard and its been a somber week. Larry Kramer is a man that history simply could not have done without. Larry will remain a great source of inspiration to me throughout my life. With COVID-19 making our STI/HIV resources scarce, his efforts, his methods, and his views are just as important now as they were 30 years ago.

A lot of us haven't seen each other in a while, and many didn't get to see each other in Palm Springs. As long as y'all aren't drunk we might be able to carry on a conversation between a several of us ;-)

A massage is actually a great alternative to sex work. Easier to control the environment and possible exposure. Just keep your face down and bring your dental dam and we'll be good to go.

Of the people I know who are still working in the Bay, I hear that rates are being challenged. Those that are willing to work (many of which have no other options and have difficulty getting unemployment) will take what they can get, new provides on the block will work for chump change, and clients are taking advantage whether or not they have the money. Anecdotally, I've watched how the street trade on my street in Oakland has been affected the last two months. As soon as people needed money or weren't getting it, a whole new class of hoes showed up. Never thought I'd see young, white, or trans hoe on my block. I'm all for diversity, but the girls I know that walked this block the longest go from tricking with a bed to homeless and fiending in a month... It's mostly a matter of economics. I haven't lived through many recessions as a sex worker, but I imagine hookers get fucked by them every time. Pardon my french ;-)

Thanks, Mike! I look forward to a time when we can all see each other. Currently I'm working on a campaign/non-profit I launched to lower STI rates (shit is getting REALLY bad), and will be putting more into to my personal "porn" and virtual sex for the time being. I know this may be a long shot for some of y'all, but I'd love to put a Zoom meeting together for forum users...

I have known SpunkPup for years and they special to me. I can speak to what he has to offer in the bedroom: He's beautiful, full of energy, and can deliver with roleplay & Dom/sub. I recommend this on Pup for sure.

I'm not comfortable seeing clients until I know whether I have the antibodies, or if the client knows they have. Besides, the majority of my regular clients won't be hiring anytime soon.

I keep a calendar with all my sexual activity, and use that to notify people in a wide window when I test positive. When I show symptoms, I'll let people know BEFORE I get the results - it's not worth waiting just to save face. As for my personal sex life, I like to know how many people someone has had sex with SINCE their last test. Tested a week ago? Great. How many guys have you had sex with? This makes all the difference to me. I turn down sex with very sexy people - often people I know and love to have sex with - because of their recent sexual activity. ...However, if I don't have a client or porn shoot lined up in the next few days and I have a test later in the week, I'm more likely to have more bareback fun.

Messenger is awful - now I can't have my messages forwarded to my email like I used to. So I have to log in and check my messages? F*ck that. I set up an automatic "please call me - messenger sucks" message.

OOF! Sorry I've kind of had my head in the sand on this - I stopped working in March, all of my trips (US and international) have been cancelled for the next year, and I don't know what this will look like a year from now. Thank goddess for unemployment!

I had a client pass away the first week of February - 2 days after I left him. It wasn't until a month ago that I realized it very well could have been COVID-19. Including him, that's 3 people I've known who this has killed. As for providers with COVID-19, I know a LOT who think they've had it. None of them have been tested.

Ew don't chew it. So gross when it gets in your teeth. Just crush the pill and put it under your tongue for as long as you can - it works well and fast enough that you can take less. There is a gel called Kamagra you can find at sex shops and on the grey market via India. I love these because you can take the smallest of dose, it kicks in quick and wears off faster than the pills.

I'm flattered you would think of me as that young.

It's not complicated. Sex and gender are two separate things. Gender is a decision we make to label ourselves and sex is what doctor's use to label us. Until recently, our parents and society decided our genders for us based upon what was between our legs. Although we still use genitalia to identify sex at birth, science has come to understand that "male" and "female" excludes the comprehension of other variations. There is no longer a hard line between the male and female sex. XX and XY are only the two most common chromosome combinations. You can believe that what is between your legs makes you a man or a woman. But it's simply not true. Logically, in the future we will move away from gender completely. Until then, the "male" sex seems determined understand our species only in the terms they are comfortable with. Personally, I'm not confident that our species can crawl from beneath the rock that our "male" members have created for us. But maybe that's just the feminist in me talking ;-)

I love Ari! We met him in Atlanta and filmed a scene together. We had more fun that that but I won't kiss and tell here. It's best to assume and type "they/them" instead of "he/she"; Gender is a personal identity preference and there are more than just two options.

Burger King and McDonalds have had vegan burgers for many years - not on the menu because the cost of the burgers isn't worth it. You just have to ask for it. These new "fake meat" burgers are trending because they mimic meat rather than creating a healthy alternative. Beet juice is what helps create that bloody flavor. The fat from coconut is very good fat. Cows actually burp the methane that is causing alarm. Gee all this talk about burgers is making me hungry...

There are a lot of people who are popular on OnlyFans and JFF who haven't done studio porn - some of them refuse to. Some of them never show their face/head but make thousands a month off of their videos. If you have a niche (one particular type of video/fetish) it's easier to create a following. A big cock helps and the sound of your voice can also determine people's attraction to you.

We can't list our rates anymore and sometimes you see an older review or rate of an escort so the best possible first inquiry includes asking about rates. You handled this well and I believe the escort was very rude for canceling on you at all - especially rude for telling you its because someone offered him more money. This isn't a "best offer" business for me. If someone booked me for a 1 hour appointment then someone wants to book an overnight during that same time period, I will go with the hour appointment unless I feel comfortable asking the 1 hour client if they could reschedule.

Haha! No that doesn't really add up - but it's common for escorts to list an age they are more comfortable with.

He's going on my fuckit list for sure.