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....date me.

I wondered, "Why not?" The old-style woman-is-housekeeper marriages worked exactly that way.

You recognize Boomers said the very same thing about Gen Xers, right?
 
I look forward to hearing Millennials bitch about Generation M or whatever their progeny are called.

Oh great....All along I thought I was just a "Boomer", and I was OK with that, now I come to find out that I'm an "Older Boomer"...now I'm depressed. Is it 'Happy Hour' yet?

I live in a area with a large gay population, young and old, so yes, I get hit on by younger guys a lot, but their motivation is often suspect...I thought Julian's response was amusing.."If I'm screwing around with him, I'm going to have to pay for dinner 'again', I don't mind paying for dinner, but at some point, it's like, I can't really build much with someone who can't 'ever' pay for dinner"

I'm missing some facts here. Is the client saying it repeatedly or did he/she just blurt it out?
 
If the latter, it is probably a faux pas. Give the client some grace by simply smiling and continuing to do what you were doing. the client will either get the hint or appreciate your grace during an impulsive moment. However, if the client continues telling you this, you may need to set boundaries. maybe you could bring a gag rag next time?

Mike, if we ever get together and I say I love you, please respond "I love you too" that will snap me back to reality. If that doesn't do it, I suggest saying: By the way, it is an extra $50 if i say: I love you. I can guarantee that I will not love you at that point.

I love all the men I am with. Then I come and then not so much.

Ditto. I have a regular that I see every few weeks. I love our time together, I love everything we do together. I really care about him as a person and would be there for him if he ever needed anything. I love our arrangement but am always conscious of the boundaries.

Loving someone and BEING in love with someone are two different things. (No, I'm not about to go all RuPaul in here.... bare with me.)
 
I've always been of the opinion that actions speak louder than words. Words can be very imprecise.
 
If the person is obviously thinking there is more to the relationship than client/escort, it's a problem. If it was a moment in the heat, or more of a meaning of "I love what we're doing" or "I love my time with you", great!

I said "I love you"to an escort once. It was just a misstep. I didn't really mean "I LOVE YOU." I meant more that I loved what we did together, or loved our time together, or some such. He is a special man, but I'm not in love with him.

the only tight space that's going to have large thick hard objects forced into, is going to be my ass:P
 
sounding just reminds me of a video I saw of a scope being ran through the urethra to find kidney stones

I thought Hastert was a wrestling or boxing coach. Why are the boys wearing kimonos?
 
 
I had an occurrence several years ago where a youngster contacted me through Grindr. His stated age was 18. But then in conversation he told me he was 16. He was the one who initiated the texting in the first place. I'm not usually attracted to youngsters like that. When he told me he was 16, I said I can't talk to you, and I immediately blocked him.

Apparently he was raised up in a strict Christian upbringing along with being a conservative Teabagger today. Knowing that it's no big surprise. The guys totally fucked up in the head.

Not really my issue. It's really only an issue for those that chase the barely legals. However, If you find yourself going.. "Damn. He looks 14" then maybe time to delete and log off no matter what they say.

I wouldn't say "warn", just inform. I like to know basic stats of whomever I'm talking to, so I can imagine how we'd be like together. I'm honestly trying to think of the potential client I might reject and most of what comes up has to do with cleanliness (which anyone can manage with a shower beforehand) and excessive drug and alcohol use (my own fear of him being under the influence and unpredictable during our appointment).
 
I'm super new to escorting, but my first client was a big guy. He had his stats in his profile, and he also sent me a picture of him. I appreciated the info and picture because I knew what to expect when we met, and we had a great time.
 
I'm an information sponge in my regular life as well, so I always prefer more info to less. I do understand that some guys might use that info to discriminate—yet as NYClocker and others have said, I think it's better to be rejected via text/call/email by someone who really won't treat you well than end up with a unsatisfying experience or rejection in person.

I wouldn't say "warn", just inform. I like to know basic stats of whomever I'm talking to, so I can imagine how we'd be like together. I'm honestly trying to think of the potential client I might reject and most of what comes up has to do with cleanliness (which anyone can manage with a shower beforehand) and excessive drug and alcohol use (my own fear of him being under the influence and unpredictable during our appointment).
 
I'm super new to escorting, but my first client was a big guy. He had his stats in his profile, and he also sent me a picture of him. I appreciated the info and picture because I knew what to expect when we met, and we had a great time.
 
I'm an information sponge in my regular life as well, so I always prefer more info to less. I do understand that some guys might use that info to discriminate—yet as NYClocker and others have said, I think it's better to be rejected via text/call/email by someone who really won't treat you well than end up with a unsatisfying experience or rejection in person.

I wouldn't say "warn", just inform. I like to know basic stats of whomever I'm talking to, so I can imagine how we'd be like together. I'm honestly trying to think of the potential client I might reject and most of what comes up has to do with cleanliness (which anyone can manage with a shower beforehand) and excessive drug and alcohol use (my own fear of him being under the influence and unpredictable during our appointment).
 
I'm super new to escorting, but my first client was a big guy. He had his stats in his profile, and he also sent me a picture of him. I appreciated the info and picture because I knew what to expect when we met, and we had a great time.
 
I'm an information sponge in my regular life as well, so I always prefer more info to less. I do understand that some guys might use that info to discriminate—yet as NYClocker and others have said, I think it's better to be rejected via text/call/email by someone who really won't treat you well than end up with a unsatisfying experience or rejection in person.

Yes I am a fat boy; 61 year old pudgy...no I'm not going to be politically correct, I'm a 5'6" guy at 250 pounds. That being said, I make that known to any request for services I ask. There are some that say no problem and also some that are hustlers that don't care unless they get the money; but I look forward to someone who wants to have some fun and not be afraid of my largeness or some would say you're not that large.

When hiring I send an accurate picture of myself. Let the escort decide.

My man, respectfully, your reading comprehension skills are incredibly lacking. This is not an issue of the escorts' preferences, but of the emotional wellbeing of clients who might already have a tenuous self confidence.
 
Yes, by all means, if you are going to the mall, or a party or the office, hold your head as high as you can, celebrate who you are and give no explanations about your physical state.
 
If you are going to meet an escort, however, if you are going to put yourself in someone else's hands and be vulnerable, if you are planning to be in the incredibly dangerous position in which a prejudiced, dumb or inexperienced guy might actually bruise you instead of handle you with love and tenderness, then it is incredibly important that you weed out the bad ones before meeting as often as you can.

Going to meet an escort "hoping that you picked a winner that treats you like a king" is an abusive suggestion because you know there are not many out there. Leaving it to luck is a very self hating way to go about it. There is a much better way to know in advance if you picked a winner: let him know everything there is to know.

 
And the other part of the question... expectations. If you are one of those people who think escorts are sexbots who can and will do any sex trick for you every time, then I know you are also one of those men who are always disappointed. If someone tells me that I must cum once in his mouth, another time in his ass and another time on his chest, I will have to turn down the appointment. If someone tells me that he must absolutely enjoy anal sex, which has to this point been elusive, I will clearly manage his expectations and tell him that I cannot promise that. If a 400 pound person expects me to fuck carry him around the room like he saw in the movies, I will have to explain why this is not possible.
 
It's not a matter of preferences or performance, as you call it. It's simple physics.
 
Having good, loving intentions is completely different to selling "One syrup heals all" snake oil.

I have recently started sharing my stats with escorts because I am very tall. Although I don't consider 6'4" to be freakishly unusual, many guys have had a surprised look and comment on my height when they open the door. I usually tell them that I will be shorter when I am on my back and we both laugh, but for some guys the height difference is a real issue. In terms of communicating expectations, it seems only fair to explain what you want when hiring. How else is the escort supposed to know what you are looking for?

My actual experience for 15 years suggests the opposite.
 
The anecdote I already posted above says it all. It's just my perceptions, but what you are talking about here is basically whether you can disclose you are imperfect AND come off as self-confident. And you're right, self confidence is sexy.
 
In one case as I described above I felt like a client with a perfectly hard cock that functioned very well was desperate to cover up his lack of confidence in himself due to his age. In another case I felt like a client with a cock he himself described as nonfunctional (regarding erections) was full of self-confidence and fun and relaxing to be with. These were just my perceptions, but what we're talking about here are perceptions of sexiness. Clarity and confidence are not mutually exclusive things.
 
There's at least one poster on this site I have been hired repeatedly by who manages to combine what would clearly be considered an overweight body with a self-confident "that just means there's more of me for you to love, if I let you" attitude. I find that sexy, too.

Yes.
 
Every time.
 
It's not whether I am a saint or not or whether a good escort should like everyone. It's not that I need to be "warned", I just need all necessary information.
 
When I say yes attraction has nothing to do with my answer. Yes, you should always share your expectations before meeting and yes, you should always share information about you that might hinder the fulfillment of those expectations.
 
There's tons of wonderfully fun things one can do with a lover who is even morbidly obese and clean, but because of simple physics there are things that are just not possible.
 
I was once hired by a guy who weighed possibly two and a half times my weight. He was really handsome and I thought the session was going well. At some point, after adjusting heights and angles, finally I was able to fuck him. As soon as I was inside him, he jerked at my arms frantically demanding that I lifted him with my dick and fucked him against the wall the way he had seen in a porn movie.
 
This is not an exaggeration. And as much as this case was extreme, it is quite common for people not in touch with their bodies to demand things are -because of the size and condition of their bodies- simply impossible.
 
You are three hundred pounds and you want me to lift you like you were a tiny young man? I am sorry, it sounds as if I am not the man for you. I don't think I can fulfill your expectation.
 
I will not go see someone who I think I might disappoint. If someone wants something that I am not confident I can provide, I will be clear about it and will suggest I am not the right man for the job. I will explain my point and I will offer options, but I will be very happy not to have brought into a situation where the only outcome is failure.
 
Now... let's not talk about me. Let's not talk about those other escorts who will be thrilled about seeing anyone. Let's talk about the other ones...
 
If I am insecure about the way I look, whether it is justified or not, if I feel ashamed that I am fat, for example and I show up at an escort's door just to have that escort close the door on my face because I am fat, or worse, have the escort take my money while he does absolutely nothing for me... that would make me so much unhappier and more insecure.
 
Why not give the escort every chance to reject me beforehand to avoid the much harsher possibility of being rejected in person or being taken for a ride?
 
ALWAYS GIVE THE NECESSARY INFORMATION. Not for your escort. For yourself.
 
You deserve to be treated well. You deserve to be treated with respect, and you deserve to have someone who understands your expectations clearly.

I'm of the school that believes that the escort needn't be warned/informed. Two reasons:
 
1. As JD has pointed out, a quality, professional escort shouldn't care.
 
2. It is very difficult to tell an escort that you're overweight without coming across as having self confidence issues. I believe that while extra weight may be unattractive, low self confidence is 10 times more unattractive. If you walk into an escort appointment carrying yourself like you are the sexiest man alive, a good escort will pick up on that energy and roll with it. I'm not suggesting that you be cocky or arrogant, but just confident. On some level, I think we all expect an escort to do a little acting to make us feel sexier than perhaps we are; as clients, we can play the supporting role.