Just Chuck

Some of the massage sites have rules around names. Particularly they screen out names that imply sexual activity. You might see "Mind Blowing Massage with Joe" on one site where he poses with a banana touching his lips on one site and "Luxurious Massage by J." on another site where he poses in scrubs in front of a massage table on another site that wouldn't allow the word "blowing" or suggestive photos in an ad.

@Vegas_MillennialMaybe you'd like the InterroGATion events.

@Vegas_Millennial On the "Watts the Safe Word" podcast a listener emailed in the question: "what's the funniest safe word that you ever remember hearing? The answers that I remember laughing at were: "Lawsuit", and "I LOVE YOU!"

I hope that you are able to find some comfort in this forum and in whatever ways you are able to express that side of your sexuality whether in the physical or imaginary world. I hope you get the most satisfaction possible.

I had a guy ask me for an abduction role-play and consensual-non-consent "rape" scene. I declined. One of my biggest fears around that would be to be mislead and actually harm someone who didn't want it. Now, if I already knew the guy and had been a successful sexual partner with them and trusted them to look out for everyone's safety, I might consider it. But, I'd require a written contract and a video-recording of us both showing ID's and discussing what he actually wanted to do to him, any limits or warnings, and safe-words. Then, I'd have to stage the "abduction" so that any bystander would not be alarmed. Like maybe, I just walk up behind him and whisper in his ear "come with me or else".

@Alabastrine Is there something that stands out in your memory that you've been surprised to learn since you joined CompanyOfMen?

Do you have a fantasy that: Really turns you on to think about AND You ABSOLUTELY NEVER want to try out in real life? I'm sure that I have several, but here's one that had me thinking lately: It's being used (as a bottom) in a completely anonymous fashion where I never get to know who did it. I can't remember where I heard of the San Francisco Horse Market but when I web-searched the term . . . holy cow! The Horse Market is a gay sex party where attendees sign up in advance as either a "mare" or a "stallion". Mares are bottoms. They arrive at the event earlier than the stallions (who are tops) strip and are blindfolded with cloth hoods, taken into the "stable" (play area) and lightly restrained. When the tops arrive, they can examine, grope, and fondle any of the mares and "mount" them however he chooses. The mares get used (probably by several stallions) during the party but never get to see or know which stallions they serviced. Actually doing that (either as mare or stallion) crosses several big red lines for me. But, thinking about it is currently a turn-on for me.

@Alabastrine Welcome to CompanyOfMen! I would love to hear some of your thoughts and opinions in several of the threads throughout the forum. I'm looking forward to seeing you post more here!

I’ve been told that a super fun game is to sexually tease the caged guy. Move your face down, kiss and lick his balls, even take the cage into your mouth while you mix in dirty talk. And as he becomes more aroused and straining within the cage . . . then, remind him that he is caged and just there for use as a bottom.

I’m a slutty, bisexual, former martial arts teacher and former wrestler and former firefighter/medic. I’ve been touched all over in both sexual and non-sexual ways countless times. Whenever, TSA agents need to pat me down, it’s absolutely no-big-deal for me. I’m always just smiling and saying “just go ahead and get it done” while they, hesitantly and embarrassed, keep repeating that we can move somewhere private. I’ve been amused a couple times when the millimeter wave scanner flagged my wrist when I was in a short sleeve shirt or flagged my ankle when I was wearing shorts and sandals. They went through the motions of patting down my bare skin to comply with procedures.

2025 updates and for non-DFW locals: The View didn't last very long and closed permanently. TMC is a bar named The Mining Company it's right in the gayborhood. Marty's is also a bar kind of on the edge of the gayborhood. I have a hearing loss that makes loud dance clubs less pleasant for me. (I'll wear clear silicone earplugs when I do go into them.). The Hidden Door is a really fun neighborhood bar were you might encounter literally anyone. It's like a much friendlier version of the Mos Eisley Cantina on Tatooine. Last time I was there, they only accepted cash payments.

@samhexum Thank you! Those recipes look really good! I've been meaning to try out the anti-inflammatory diet but just hadn't put for the effort yet to make it happen.

I didn't like cum for a long time. Then, I suddenly seemed to have a switch thrown and I love it now. I have surprised some partners who just took a load in their mouths when I immediately asked them to kiss me. That's a fun reaction to see.

I agree about Embassy Suites. They are great places to meet and host. Having the bedroom separated from the hallway by the small living room makes it feel more private. The big atrium space gives me a place to meet and greet before we go upstairs. If the meeting is in the later afternoon or evening, then the bar and "manager's reception" give us a place to pause a grab a drink before or after the meeting.

Don’t use poppers if you use either blood pressure medicine or erectile dysfunction medicine. I’ve heard that combination can be deadly.

Natural Harvest: Collection of Semen Based Recipes Cookbook I’ve heard of this cookbook but never actually looked at a copy. Read some of the reviews. They are fun.

I certainly can't argue with that.

I like to swallow and just keep on going with the sucking until they are completely drained or they “tap-out” from the intensity.

I listened to a podcast from someone who was familiar with law enforcement in New York City (it might have been Preet Bharara, but I can't remember for sure.) who said that the NY District Attorney's office for NYC had an entire office for sex crime and a group within that, that handled all the prostitution cases. He said that they exercise a LOT of prosecutorial discretion and rarely prosecute for cases between consenting adults unless there's evidence of trafficking, it's embedded into another criminal activity (mob, drugs, sex-for-stolen goods, etc.), or it's impacting other people. I don't think that priests make a lot of money and have a lot of disposable income. I'm guessing there's a financial crime that may be attached to the investigation. Maybe, "Where'd the church's embezzled money go? Well, he spent it for sex."

In engineering school, I had a professor who actually forced us to perform thermodynamic and fluid dynamics calculations in imperial units, just to force us to do the unit juggling that those types of measurements require. Then, at the end of the semester, he'd let us switch back to SI units and it was all MUCH easier. I really grew to appreciate the metric system in his classes.

Man, he was super sweet,personable, and friendly when I met him.

How could I have left out mentioning awesome performances by Murray Head or Alice Cooper as King Herrod. Or Carl Anderson or Brandon Dixon as Judas.

I'm re-watching the 1973 version of "Jesus Christ Superstar" this evening (I'm not religious, I just love the show). It's one of my favorite musicals. I love the music. I own three versions of the soundtrack: the stage performance from London featuring Ian Gillian (Deep Purple's lead singer) as Jesus, the 1973 film version, and the 2018 version featuring John Legend and Sarah Barielles. I think I've seen eight to ten versions of live stage performances. I also love the soundtrack to "Chess". But I've never seen a performance. "Cats" has some awesome songs and it's held together by some themes, but not really a storyline (that I can tell). Likewise for "Phantom of the Opera" or "Moulan Rouge". Love 'em or hate 'em, tell me about your relationship with musicals.

Hands have ten fingers that can each move in intelligent and controlled ways. Hands are strong enough to deadlift or do pull-ups but gentle enough to pick up a feather or an egg. Hands are more mobile than any mouth, anus, or vagina. Unless it's masturbation, the person touching with their hands doesn't have their brain distracted by a flood of other sexual sensation and can use their brain to control and plan every second of what's going on. (That's the biggest advantage of a good handjob, I think.)