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I think you're referring to cathexis..which is the more natural state of "falling for someone". Limmerance is a more obsessive state where you compulsively adore someone and worry they don't love you in return. It sounds like @lseactuary90 hasn't quite gotten past cathexis with anyone enough to be obsessing over them leaving him.

There are definitely exceptions, because I have dated many men and women who are non-white. When I was younger I was good looking enough to get whatever I wanted. I dated several wonderful people ...and never felt that I was held up as superior simply because I was white. (Possible that I missed that)...but I don't think so. I was attractive/ they were attractive. The subsequent relationships always felt balanced in regard to who was "valued". I can say that I've always dated outside my own CULTURE since I was in college...and i know THAT can be a challenge no matter what your skin color.

Super cute...but sadly I'm on the wrong coast. Looks promising for the California crowd.

I recently chatted with a handsome young man (24) on Grindr who claimed he was on PreP for 5 years but is now poz because he was irregular about his doses.

Is this a problem for P.o.c. dating white men or other P.o.c. ?

Well of those three places, the only Spanish speaking destination is P.R. in Mexico. Although Catalan and Portuguese speakers will often understand Spanish

Ok. Let's look at THAT. What feels like systemic racism about your dating history ? 🤔 There are definitely people who fetishize ethnic groups with little interest in the challenges of crossing the aisle to learn about other people's culture in a relationship.

Are all your friends from LA ?

I wasnt referring to escorts. I was talking about my random hook ups with straight-identifying friends-of-friends.

NYC is a giant candy store. There's people from everywhere here. Moving isn't likely going to solve your problem. Maybe you're looking in the wrong places ? Hook up sites are for hooking up. Dating sites for dating. Sexually active people sometimes forget about "normal" ways to meet people. You said you're not sexually attracted after a friend's-first relationship. Maybe start looking at THAT. Why is a "friend" sexually uninteresting ? What is in that sexual connection that isn't satisfied when someone is already there with you ? Are you expecting too much up front ? Looking to be swept off your feet romantically and sexually ? As we mature we realize that's not always going to be our destiny...so we settle for what works and makes adjustments in life to keep it working. Hollywood often fills us with unrealistic goals in romance.

What happened ? Did you fly him on Spirit ? 🤣

Handsome. Seems to have quite a repertoire of sexual satisfaction available..including "electro stimulation".

You're a class-act @BaronArtz

I think the overarching principle is that everyone agrees on is that you need to provide some down-time for your friend to be "off the clock". Yes. You're paying him to be attentive, but you're hiring a human, not a robot. We all need time to decompress and disengage from others. All the rest should obviously be discussed up front so there are no feelings of your expectations being dashed. But communicate what you would LIKE, not what you EXPECT. Let your friend have some input about his limits.

I suppose it depends on the facility. Some are rather clinical and others can be quite luxurious. I placed an elderly friend in one that feels like a four star hotel with beautiful facilities like a cocktail lounge with live music, pool, game room and two dining rooms and a rooftop deck..as well as on-site beauty salon. Various levels of care are offered. Independent living/ assisted living and memory care. Seems that maintaining two separate homes is going to be expensive. Although the issue of a dog will indeed limit your choices (but not preclude every one ).

I've always said, the best BDSM doms are those who started out as a sub.

Personally...I prefer to mention a few basics upfront: "I'm a top". "Wild over mild"...etc. and then see where the provider naturally takes things. Gives me a better sense of their natural inclinations...and skills. Then afterwards discussing any special role play that I may want to schedule for a separate meet. I can tell you from much experience that giving someone a script doesn't always work whether you're paying a pro or hooking up with a rando. Best to check how adaptable someone is before getting too specific.

I haven't eaten chicken nuggets for decades...but if there's honey-mustard sauce WHY would I dunk one in ketchup ? 🤢 As far as the burger....yes. I forgot another appropriate use. Ketchup, mayonnaise, lettuce, tomato and cheese with a potato bun...is the correct way to serve a burger.

It truly is. There are so many delicious sauces served all over Asia. Ketchup is however, perfect with Pomme Frites. Otherwise it doesn't belong on your food.

This is an example where an upfront deposit might make sense. (As much as I'm opposed to sending money to randoms). If you want to spend time discussing your session..that's reasonable. But you're on the clock.

I'm curious why you're not both moving. I recently moved an elderly friend into a facility in Fort Lauderdale. There are a lot of couples there. Many don't seem to NEED the care...I'm thinking just preparing for the inevitable so it's not a burden later in life.

Yummy. Good find. Makes me wish I were a bottom. 🍑

Because eggs are disgusting without spice. I use jalapeño sauce on my eggs. Ketchup is a bizarre default for Americans who lack global culinary experiences.

In the end...it's all theater. Same as the gay guys who want providers to kiss them and pretend they actually like you. None of this is necessarily real...you just need to get into the head-space to want to believe...and want to pay for someone to help you get there.