BtmBearDad

I would tend to agree. I know for many hobbyists, a name change is the kiss of death, but for me, unless there’s some negative reviews/commentaries/experiences, why should I care “MrAlphaMan” is now “AlphaManXXL”? 🤷🏼‍♂️

The 54 reviews on RM represent a good cross section - not every single one is a 5 star review, in the mix of reviewers are a number of long-standing and prolific RM clients, and while I can’t say with certainty, some reviewers appear to be current/former forum members - or they at least share the same name. 

Having said all this, more of a concern to me is the fact that there have been zero reviews since 2021. 

If I were in WeHo, and interested in engaging this gent, (and trust me, if I was in WeHo, I’d be very interested - this gent is smoking hot IMO), if I had no joy here, I’d reach out to a couple of his RM reviewers, and/or see who else they reviewed, use a VPN to read the text, and google his RM name to see if anything shows up. 

Good luck!! 👍🏻 

Come back, and let us know if you pulled the trigger, and if so, how it went. 
 

Cheers,
BBD 

5 hours ago, pubic_assistance said:

Does that make ME homophobic too ? 

Some may very well think that, but I couldn’t possibly comment. 

11 minutes ago, pubic_assistance said:

Why ? 

Do you feel you'd have a chance with Pietro if he were a pipe-smoker ?

Nothing like that at all. This gent is monetising his looks, and specifically targeting gay men - a group which going by his public comments, he holds a very low opinion of. Given this, why would I or any gay man want to help someone like this continue to make money off of us? 

It’s basically an extension of my “shop local” mantra - there’s plenty of hot, out, gay men to thirst over. 

6 minutes ago, pubic_assistance said:

Doesn't make them less hot.

No, it doesn’t but I just try to thirst after gents who, you know, aren’t disgusted by me, who I sleep with. 😉

https://apple.news/AS35YVdhySge0iFGSr47GrA
 

Anyone familiar with this fellow? Easy enough on the eyes - wonder how his content was. 

I would understand the concern over his different RM names if there was negative chatter about him under any/all of them. But there’s not. In fact, other than one poster who made one negative 2 word comment without context that I’m disregarding, all the posts have been universally positive - and from established, respected contributors here. If given all that, you’re still clutching pearls saying “red flags! red flags!”, that’s on you. 

I couldn’t give a tinker’s cuss over why this gent, or any gent, changes his RM name. As long as there’s no negative commentary about the gent under any name, I fail to see why it would even be an issue. 


Just my tuppence.
BBD 

38 minutes ago, Charlie said:

No, but only one star from eight reviews is not encouraging.

I think you’re mistaken - of the 8 RM reviews, 6 are 5 Star, and 2 are 1 star. Those two both indicate the ambience was not relaxing. I didn’t do a VPN to read any text, or check which of his reviewers have history. 
 

BBD

36 minutes ago, Unicorn said:

Well, one can certainly come up with legitimate reasons why someone truly can't answer a text for 3 hours, but almost all of the ones I can think of are both rare and also mean the escort wouldn't be available anyway. Yes, trans-continental or trans-oceanic travel would last more than 3 hours (particularly if you texted him shortly after his plane's take-off), but in that case the escort is probably not going to be available. And, yes, if the escort got involved in a horrific traffic accident and was laid up in a hospital, he might not be able to text you, either--but, again, he wouldn't be available in that case, either.

Not a single one of the other "excuses" you mentioned would result in someone being unable to call over a 3 hour period. Lectures almost never last over 3 hours, and when they do, they come with breaks. I still go to conferences regularly and there are always breaks every 2 to 2.5 hours (3 hours is the max and unusual). While there are  handful of exams a person might have to take during his entire life which are more than 3 hours long, they also all come with breaks, generally every 2 hours, and never over 3 hours (and how often to escorts need to take those?). And certainly being in a lab doesn't mean you're unable to text or go to the bathroom for 3 hours--ever. Even if the escort is engaged in a long-term hire, there really is no situation in which there are 3 continuous hours in which he can't at least excuse himself for a few minutes. (Well, I suppose if the client took the escort camping into some woods where there was no cellular service, but, once again, that would mean the escort won't be available for a long time)

Trust me on this. Listen to the voice of experience from someone who's hired for decades. If you wait for more than 3 hours, you're almost certainly dealing with someone who's a flake in one way or another. The only other possibility is that he's truly unavailable (in a hospital, on a long-haul flight, etc.). If you don't move on after 3 hours, you're wasting your time and could find yourself alone with blue balls. 😉

You’re entitlement, and inability to see beyond your own myopic view of real life is ridiculous - and not limited to this topic. 

This isn’t about flakes, which are an entirely different category all together. This is about well regarded, well reviewed providers who often aren’t able to drop everything to reply to a potential client’s text ASAP. The lump them all together is a disservice to the latter cohort. 

What you term “excuses” are in fact real life scenarios. If I’m in the office, chances are I’m not responding to any text. If I’m working remotely, there’s a better chance I’ll answer, but if things are busy/crazy, probably not. If I’m out to dinner, my phone is off - IMO it’s the height of bad manners to be on your phone when in company. Most of my friends and I have a “no phone” rule for dinner parties we host - again it’s just bad manners to be on your phone rather than engaging. In all these scenarios, that would be more than 3 hours before I’d respond to a text.

As far as studies go, there is a provider that while he no longer advertises, maintains availability to former regulars, but when he did advertise he was in graduate school, and his ad made it quite clear hours/days of availability as well as the fact one should not expect an immediate reply. Yet, as he often bemoaned, when he did reply (and yes, sometimes after more that 3 hours - quelle horreur!) there were always some hobbyists who would make a snarky, often degrading comment on the delay in reply. 

I can only imagine the vitriol you’d spew if a provider while engaged with you “took a break” to start texting with potential future clients. 

As I said, each hobbyist needs to determine their own window to wait on a reply. To say that the 3 hour rule is the standard isn’t the case. Of course, if you’re looking for “right now” or today, that’s different - but in this hobby, as with all things in life, you always start with Plan A, but you make sure you have a Plan B, C, etc. ready just in case. 

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