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I’ve heard of them, but they were a bit before my time. My first exposure if you will was found in sneaking peaks with my best friend at his older brother’s porn - Hustler in particular where they showed men fully erect! I can close my eyes, and still remember the one pictorial of the “executive” and “secretary”. I always wished I wound up with such a hot boss! 🤣

Wow! Blast from the past! Some hot guys for sure, but definitely no hiding just how amateur it all was - which for me, was a plus. These strolls down memory lane always get me wondering, “I wonder what these guys are doing today?” About a year ago, a good mate was moving, and in the midst of clearing stuff out, came across an old suitcase packed with old porn mags and VHS tapes. He had a vague memory of packing it all away but had thereafter forgotten about it. Anyway, we got talking, wondering where these hotties in the mags from the 90’s were now. Unfortunately, a few google searches resulted in sad updates. I’m guessing there would be similar results for some of the BulBuddies boys. My first 90’s crush was featured in one of the mags - Ryan Zane. I wouldn’t let my mate google him - I said in my mind, he and his partner are living their life, running a guest house in the Keys lol Sometimes, you’re better off not knowing. BBD

I think the author’s intent -at least how I took it- was something beyond the “normal sexual attraction turn ons” which are usually physical - ass, package, muscles, hairiness, smoothness, etc.. Think of a man who could be viewed as between average and handsome -someone you wouldn’t think inn”that way” based on the physical, but who then rocks on up the “hot chart” because of something else. Maybe his voice, maybe his manners, maybe his turn of a phrase, etc..

This is why I enjoy these forums! Where else would a thread asking one’s choice between a washed up, gay4pay, former boytoy with, one can kindly say, “issues”, and a provider with the charm, wit, intelligence, and physical blessings such as Mr Nicholas (why this was even a question boggles my mind), would wind up including references to Mary Pickford, an Elsa Lancaster number, and the Duke of Windsor! An oddly enough, the references all weaved in well to the thread. I’m half expecting to come back, and read mention of Elsa Maxwell, the fabulous Ann Slater, Jerry Zipkin, and the scandal of Mary Jane Cuddihy dancing on the tables at El Morocco to get Errol Flynn’s attention! BBD

Yes, I have received texts, emails, and from one actual mail. Most tend to follow the patterns laid out above - wishes for a happy holiday, info on availability around said holiday, often times accompanied by a pic of provider in an appropriately themed holiday outfit or setting. I don’t delude myself into thinking I’m the only one he’s sending it to - I recognise it for what it is. Some others are personalised messages, without the info on availability, and they do come across as more genuine/sincere. With providers I’d classify as “semi-regular” to “regular”, I’ve gotten everything from holiday wishes, to requests for recommendations on things, to heads up on something he remembered I liked, to asking for advice on jobs/careers, to funny pleas for help when cooking. My former go-to guy knew my birthday - we had gotten to the point of dropping our nom de guerres with each other, and knew quite a bit about each other. He’d always send an actual card in the mail for my birthday. BBD

I’m with @NJmusclelover on this one. While yes, we all can fall victim to jet lag, and crash after a long flight, how one addresses the aftermath of crashing like that -whether it’s in our personal, professional, or hobbyist lives - tells the tale. The way this provider handled things moves him from “unprofessional” to “rip off artist”. He took a deposit for a specific window of time, was radio silent for hours on the day when the hobbyist was trying to confirm, replies 40 minutes after he was supposed to be there with an offer to shower, and come over after - and when the client replies that won’t work, this provider flippantly replies that the hobbyist probably just jo’d, and didn’t want to pay for a session, so he’s keeping the deposit since by his twisted logic, the client is cancelling on him. To me, it’s the provider’s last flippant reply that bumps him to rip off artist. Sorry this happened to you, NJML - and thank you for this heads up. Something tells me this isn’t the first time, and probably won’t be the last time this provider has pulled a stunt like this. Forewarned is forearmed, so to speak, in this hobby on many fronts. BBD

Reading through this entire thread, I find one thing stands out - texting is such a flat medium, so what may be thought of by a provider as a succinct reply, is perceived by the potential client as rude. I think that’s key - distinguishing between blatant rudeness vs perceived rudeness. There’s been some comments made about how this is just like any other sales business, that may be true to an extent, but big picture, it’s really not. Other sales transactions are offering the inanimate for X price. In this hobby, it’s the animate that’s being offered. Personally, I think comparing the two can come off as a bit degrading to the provider. Also, time wasters are not an urban legend. They exist, and I suspect some are members here either as lurkers or contributors. My practice is when I come across a provider I’m intrigued by, I read the profile fully, and I’ll use my VPN to read the reviews. I’ll come on here to look for info and/or post a 411 inquiry. I’ll also on occasion read out to RM clients who posted reviews to inquire. Only then do I initiate contact. Just a few short lines expressing an interest, inviting them to view my RM client profile, and asking them to reply whether they think we’d be a match. Since I’m normally travelling on business, I let them know that with the caveat that I’m free these times, but there may need to be some flexibility if something work related comes up. Depending on how the provider replies determines whether I continue or reply with a polite decline. I know how many texts, and emails I get daily both work, and personal, so I appreciate providers don’t have the time or inclination to engage in lengthy electronic conversations. In addition to this business, many have other demanding careers, as well as their personal lives they need to attend to. It’s unrealistic to expect near instant replies and/or friendly text chats right off the bat. That may in fact develop should you, and the provider click, but it’s not something I would expect. Anyway, just my tuppence. Don’t overreact, don’t read into what’s not there, not intended. Do your homework, and be concise in your initial inquiry. This hobby is supposed to fun! Cheers, BBD

Both good choices! I guess I was thinking how they were written, how I perceived them in my head more. Tarquin was supposed to be the monied toff, which is why Hyacinth loved their friendship, so I thought Joe would be a good fit. As far as Sheridan goes, in my mind he is camp as Christmas, the type *everyone* knows is, except for his darling mummy who just knows the right girl is out there for her darling boy! 😂 So someone campy in the style of Graham, Matt Lucas, or Alan Carr comes to my mind.

@Pensant and @CuriousByNature - who would you cast as Sheridan and Tarquin? 🤔 I’m thinking someone like a young Graham Norton for Sheridan, and someone like Joe Lycett for Tarquin?

He had no biological children, only two stepdaughters from his third wife. Not that it matters, but he was still married to her at his death, so the third wife probably inherits.

Very handsome Spaniard! Definitely ticks the boxes ✔️ My reverse image skills are truly woeful 😂 no joy for me - so if anyone knows, hit me up on DM/PM with his IG 🙏🏻

He managed to achieve a memorable second act after leaving Office. I think that, more than his presidency, will be his legacy. As others noted, given his age and his illness, this cannot be a shock to anyone. I agree it will be tough for Roslyn after. Given her own age, and their over seven decades together, I’d say that like the Bushes, and the Windsors, it won’t be long until they’re together again.

Nice one! Any idea where this is from?

I would concur with this statement! It’s not the size of the ship, it all comes down to the skill of the captain! 😉 Reading this thread, I recall three times this was an issue: 1.) A still fairly new, young gayling fresh out of college, working the white collar gig, and out for a Thursday Happy Hour with office mates. One of them has some of his mates meet us, spotted one hot fellow, and as soon as our eyes locked we both knew lol Fast forward, later that evening we’re back at his walk up apt on Reade St (which would probably fetch north of $2M today), on the couch, jackets, ties, shirts being discarded when my hand went south on him just as his did on me. I felt it. It was, without exaggeration absolutely huge both in length and girth! I believe I must have tensed up at the realisation of what was on offer, the gent just pulled me in, and whispered in my ear “don’t worry, just think of it as a handle to get me in position for you” This hot guy who would make a size queen faint was in fact a dedicated bottom. No need to decline, but I wonder how things would have gone had he been vers or a top 😳 2.) Several years later, party at a friend’s, met a handsome guy, we’re chatting, the usual flirting going on, then he ups the ante by grabbing my hand, placing it right on his member, as he leans in to whisper in my ear to tell me he’s been hard and leaking since we started talking, and he wants to give me what I was feeling, and make me cum hands free while he’s in me. My virgin ears! He was about 5’8”-5’9” with most of it between his legs. I demurred that night, but exchanged numbers. He did keep after me, telling me how he knows what he’s doing, how I hadn’t really been ducked, how much better it is with a big dick, etc.. I did eventually acquiesce, and he was quite skilled, and patient, and so began a mutually beneficial FWB arrangement for us. 3.) November before Covid, I was down in FL for some RnR. I was heading to Europe for work shortly, and staying thru the holidays to see family, and wanted some colour before I went. Anyone, an IG friend saw a post of mine, got in touch (he lives where I was) and we met for drinks. Honestly, I thought it was *just drinks* - naive me I suppose 😂 But this hottie had other plans. I actually would have been DTF as he ticked most of my boxes, but I had dinner plans that night. In an attempt I suppose to pique and keep my interest, IG hottie did send me a few intimate pics later that night. Knowing him from IG, I’d never seen him in anything less than a bathing suit, so I was unprepared for the behemoth he displayed. Definitely outside my wheelhouse. I suppose I shouldn’t have been so shocked, he is Brazilian and as a rule those gents seem to be overly blessed 😝 I did decline, telling him he was outside my range of experience. He still keeps in touch, promising me a good time, so who knows - maybe I’ll be swayed! BBD

In the halcyon days of youth, when out and about, and meeting guys, hooking up, I’ll admit, there was a bit of “la nuit, tous les chats sont gris” at play. But one matures, and that’s no longer the case. It’s very much the whole package -inside and out- that ultimately seals or kills the deal. Having said that, as much as charm, personality, sense of humour, manners, etc. can make up for whatever may be perceived as lacking physically, on the opposite side, someone without any of those qualities cannot be redeemed regardless of how drop dead gorgeous he may be. I should add that the above applies primarily in my personal, dating life. For this hobby, a handsome face is definitely something I look for. Cheers, BBD

Daisy and Onslow were favourites of mine. Judy went on to play a totally different type of character on “EastEnders” - she got rave reviews for it too, I think everyone shocked to see “Daisy” as this evil mother Queenie Trott.

I believe just Hyacinth, Daisy, and Emmet are the ones still alive from the main cast.

🤦🏼‍♂️ Yes! Connie, not Stella Stevens. Mea culpa.

That’s the trifecta - Burt, Raquel, and now Connie. 😢

The “ask me” answer under either orientation or position gets my spidey senses tingling. Whether it’s true or not, I just get the vibe they’re either totally non-interactive or only willing to provide certain services depending on where a client falls on the hot scale - or both! Which usually means a less than stellar encounter. As such, I tend to pass on them. Just my tuppence. BBD

In my (dirty) mind’s eye, I picture Rafael holding the phone, his eyebrows arch when you tell him you’re a less experienced bottom, then a sly smile comes across his face as he replies, his free hand moving down to where his mighty oak begins to rise as he pictures events that will be played out…

@BuzzLiteQueer Sounds pretty much identical to my gent. He was making very good money at his day job, didn’t want to be swamped with requests he didn’t gave time to reply to, and as I said, was very happy with his circle of regulars. As we got to know each other more, he did share that his RM income allowed him to bank the entirety of his salary - his RM income covered his monthlies. His goal was to use his banked salary to purchase a flat in London, which he did. Needless to say, that’s no small feat given London real estate costs.

Thanks for your reply, Cliff. Honestly, it was posts like yours, along with seeing a few vid interviews he’s done, that made me want to engage him. I think my only trepidation was about the size of the ship he’s captaining. When you’re used to cabin cruiser, taking on the Queen Mary is daunting! haha Like I said, for whatever reason I have it in my head that someone said something that dissuaded me. Normally, that would usually mean the provider isn’t into bearish types, or has a preferred age range, or just likes fit, athletic, muscley guys. I don’t know 🤷🏼‍♂️ I’ve put him back on the buddy list, so I may yet ignore what I can’t remember and engage. I do have a bday in few months, and that would be one helluva candle! 😜

To paraphrase Kipling, you’re a braver man than I, MakeMeCowboy! While I 100% get the attraction based on his profile, even the pics, but those pics are so oddly cropped, and blurred, I’d need to see more, you know? I’m glad the bad vibe was all that went down, and thanks for the intel for your fellow hobbyists 👍🏻 Cheers, BBD