BtmBearDad

I’ve no skin in this game, but for what it’s worth, and based just on a cursory look at the pics, I think he looks most “mature” in the main pic. He’s definitely a handsome gent, and his peach looks absolutely edible. Good luck! 👍🏻 BBD

I understand what you mean 100%! It’s a totally different matter when one knows the politicians positions. There are some objectively handsome conservative politicians on one side, and some objectively handsome closeted politicians on the other side, but I wouldn’t be interested in any for the same reasons you state. But, if I had been introduced to Eduardo socially as a politician, and knowing nothing about him (which is the case save for this thread), as it’s a social setting, I tend to follow the “no politics, no religion, no money” when it comes to chitchat. So unless he brought up something, I’d be without a clue, and that’s ok - I mean, I wouldn’t be looking to marry him - just looking for a rub of the relic 😝 I had an experience years ago, visiting a friend in DC, he was having a party, and as it’s DC, everyone is in someway working in politics - staffers, lobbyists, media, appointees, even a few elected. I always thought DC guys were handsome, and this party was no exception to that observation. Anyway, wound up clicking with one fellow so when the party headed to the bar, we made an exit to his. Next day my mate was all “I can’t believe you slept with him!” This was back in the GWBush admin, and this guy was an appointee in his administration. None of which came up when we were chatting. Given the situation, if anything was going to happen, it was only ever going to be a one-and-done, and I got that vibe from him too - our chat was just funny, light, and not deep. Neither of us was looking to pick out china patterns.

Not being a country rube in the least, @azdr0710! I sometimes forget not all idioms, expressions are universal. On FI, when renting for the summer, you have 3 options: • a full share where the house is yours entirely from Memorial Day to usually 1 or 2 weeks after Labor Day. • a 1/2 share where you have the house every other weekend for the same time period. • a 1/4 share where you have the house once a month, again over the same time period. It’s down to the owners how they want to list the houses. So the expression would be “doing a share” when talking about spending summers on FI. Also, it wasn’t a Sunday-Saturday week, your week began either Wednesday or Thursday and ran until Tuesday or Wednesday. I’d say, like my own experience, the overwhelming majority of shares are done year after year by the same groups of friends, and usually the same houses. We always did a 1/2 share, where each side had one of the parties (the Invasion or the Pines Party) on one of their weekends. Usually, providing the other 1/2 was cool, you could swap weekends. I remember an “elder gay” owner who offered 2 pieces of advice on doing shares - (1.) if you’re all still friends after your first summer, you’ll be friends for life; and, (2.) never let a stray into your share - there’s a reason the previous groups don’t want to do a share with him again. He proved prescient on both counts!

He’s definitely a looker, but as noted above, like many out gay politicians on both sides and all over the world, who they sleep with isn’t always reflected in their positions. Having said that, I don’t think I’d be looking to discuss policy positions with Eduardo 😜

@Charlie, my years of doing shares spanned from the late 90’s thru the early 2000’s. Yes - the sex was definitely abundant - whether you met someone on the beach, walking “the boardwalk” aka Fire Island Blvd, at tea, at a party, or when cutting thru the “Judy Garland Memorial Forest” - you couldn’t swing a cat without finding an eager hole or pole to satisfy your needs 😂 As I write this, a memory flooded back of a weeknight upstairs from Sip N Twirl at the bar on my own, having a drink. I noticed one very handsome guy playing pool. I thought I knew him, but decided I didn’t. I must have stared too long because he came over, we got to chatting, one thing led to another, and we’re back at his. After, as we lay there chatting a bit, I realised I did know him! Actually I knew the character he played on a soap, and before I could stop myself, I blurted out “OMG I just realised you’re *character name*!” He looked at me with a smile “you didn’t know?” I explained how I thought I knew him, but then decided I didn’t. He laughed and said “here I thought I had to thank *character name* for getting your attention”, to which I replied something about how it was his good looks that got my attention, and so commenced round 2! Memories like this make me smile.

To build off what both @KensingtonHomo and @arnemgreeves stated, as a client some of the commentary on here is frustrating, and entirely unwarranted. When a query is posted looking for info/feedback on Provider X, posts by members who have no first hand knowledge, and no intention of engaging the provider, just to make disparaging comments on their looks, how unattractive they are, how they’re not the member’s type, etc. offers no value. I’ve posted previously about how it baffles me that these members think their post is in any way contributing to the thread. I know I have many, many times opened a thread about a provider, clicked their RM link, viewed the profile, and thought “oh not for me!”, and I moved on. I don’t see why anyone has the need in the same scenario to instead of moving on, come back, and leave insulting commentary about the provider’s looks, style, writing ability, etc.. It’s beyond childish, and while there is a significant number trapped in their own little “femme bad, masc good” version of reality, the insults can, and do, cover everything - tattoos, piercings, hair colour, body hair, penis size, body fat/musculature, clothes they wear, ad infinitum. I agree with KH - the commentary says much more about the member, and his own fears, insecurities, internal self homophobia, than they do about any provider. There is, however, as noted a difference between these insulting comments (with NO first hand experience), and genuine criticism that comes from actual first hand experience. Whether that criticism is about provider looks (pics not the person or pics severely outdated or photoshopped), inability to preform (couldn’t get it up, not clean), rude personality, late or no show, cutting time short, asking for more than agreed fee OR skipping out with fee without providing services, etc., all of this is useful info to potential clients. That the client may be heated when making the post may result in a bit more of an editorialised critical post, but it’s still warranted. And I think it’s a two street - what’s fair game for a client to criticise, is fair game for a provider to as well. Ignore the Bitter Betties on here, as many of us do - or view them for the bit of comic relief they supply knowing how sad, and empty their lives must be. BBD

Wasn’t there some big confab a few years ago when a “gay novel” was published, AND all the literati were falling all over themselves, trying to outdo each other with ever more effusive praise for the work, declaring it *the* gay novel, and all that, only for the author to be discovered to be a woman? 😂 You’d be surprised how many romance authors - particularly for Harlequin, and Mills & Boon types, but a few bodice ripper ones too - are gay men. To return to the OP’s topic, mine are a bit fat and hang well, and they do draw up. I’m honestly not sure if it’s noticeable, or how much is noticeable to a partner, but I can feel the rise, so to speak, as the moment nears. Back in college, had a buddy, and when his moment neared, his sack practically disappeared up into him. Took a bit after for those boys to come back down too. BBD

100% Very true! You don’t want to be renting a bedroom in a house with strangers - especially those there to one-up each other - see above on exhaustion. 🙌🏻 This was my favourite part of shares in FI - you could get off the ferry, stock up at the pantry and liquor store, and not bother going into town again. Last few years I did shares, we were way out the east end - practically in Water Island - so we could and did just go from house to beach and back much of the time, only venturing to town to catch the ferry back. We got to know others down that end equally over the “scene” in town, so we’d all hang together, have each other over, etc.. The most we’d do is go to tea, usually when we had friends visiting, and/or to a house party if it was at a friend’s house. I still think FI is pretty special, but like many places, for me it’s best in my memories. I’d be gutted were I to go now, and have my memories crushed.

I’ve never noticed a difference in countries where services legal or decriminalised 🤷🏼‍♂️

He wouldn’t be the first to switch from the anchor desk to this vocation. A “former broadcast journalist” can mean many things to many people. For instance, I went to college with someone who majored in broadcast journalism, did I think *maybe* an 8 month stint with one of the networks in NY, no real “beat” as such, packed it in, became a teacher, yet 25 years later still talks about being a “former broadcast journalist”. Perhaps his career was just as fleeting 🤷🏼‍♂️ I’d wager this fellow probably didn’t have the beard during his time in the news either. Whatever his backstory, he’s a looker! I actually thought for a hot minute he was another provider on RM (AdamBlack) I had tried to connect with once upon a time when travels brought me to Chicago. Chicago does have a nice selection of gents that tick my boxes.

If you’re looking for destinations to exclusively engage in this hobby, NYC, Boston, Chicago, Miami/Ft Lauderdale, LA, DC, all have a delightful selection of gents to make your travels memorable. If you’re looking for destinations for both this hobby, and other activities, you may want to give some indication of what other activities you enjoy ie; beaches, museums, theatre, dining out, ad infinitum. If you elaborate a bit more on what exactly you’re looking for, providers and activities, I’m sure your fellow hobbyists will offer up a plethora of suggestions for you!

If it’s the guy I’m thinking of from those commercials, he’s a fairly successful model, and a partner in a NYC bar. He also has a partner. I’ve met him socially, he’s very handsome and charming. Never would have made the connection between him and this ad without your comment 👍🏻 As an aside, it always gives me a chuckle the number of gents I’ve met socially or indeed know personally that I discover are in the game.

It is nothing like Ptown 😂 You’re basically on a sandbar off the south shore of LI, so there’s not a lot of amenities or activities. The two gay “towns” on FI, (there are many others, populated mostly with families), are Cherry Grove and the Pines. CG had the reputation of being more “flamboyant” shall we say? Whereas the Pines was much more about not being flamboyant. I suppose in many ways that’s still true. I did shares in the Pines for many years in my youth - typical weekend would be grab something to eat on way out, take train from Penn to Sayville, bus cab from Sayville to ferry, ferry to the Pines. Stop at the Pantry for outrageously over priced groceries, same at the liquor store, off to the house, greet others, have cocktail, shower change, out to Sip & Twirl. Next morning, the house cook makes breakfast for all, then it’s the beach or the pool for most of the day. Cocktails at the Blue Whale or at whichever house is having a party (several are always having parties), then tea (high and low), home for house dinner, change, shower, back out to Sip & Twirl. Etc.. Change the names of the places, maybe throw in a drag show, and that’s pretty much the same in CG. If you’re looking for fine dining, activities, sights, you better skip Fire Island.

I don’t think it has much to do with older guys “not being able to get it up” as some have postulated. Think about it - a guy who was a bottom in college, chances are, will still be a bottom when he’s on the shady side of 50 - thus a bottom daddy*. I think this particular area - bottom daddies/younger tops - can be viewed much the same way daddy tops and bottom boys are. Usually we develop a type when we start out - slim and smooth, hairy and muscled, top, bottom, etc., and in all sorts of combinations beyond what I’ve mentioned. So a gent who is a bottom and liked say jocks in college, he may still be looking for those college jock types in his 40’s and 50’s, same way a gent who is a top and liked twinks 30 years ago, still seeks out twinks in his 40’s and 50’s. Also, despite what some have stated, there truly are younger tops who primarily or exclusively like older bottoms**. It’s about as “niche” as younger bottoms liking older tops - that it is to say, not niche at all. Il faut de tout pour faire un monde! For me personally, I’m not looking for a college kid - but a younger top isn’t going to be dismissed out of hand either. My relationships have been with gents in my same cohort more or less, but in this hobby yes, the gents tend to be younger than my 52 years. Even some FWB skew younger. It is what it is. To the gents who have posted the links, pics, vids - thank you! Some hot ones there 👍🏻 Now if anyone does have any connections in the porn industry, I’d humbly suggest these pairings: Younger Top: Jordan Brandt Older Bottom: Markus Cage Younger Top: Colby Melvin Older Bottom: Colby Jensen Younger Top: Lowi Older Bottom: Mateo Muscles Please and thank you! ☺️ BBD * = using “daddy” in the chronological sense here - older/younger pairings are about much more than a “daddy” wanting a “boy” and vice versa regardless who is on top. ** = not referring to “sugar daddies” and those looking for one.

What am I missing - both links are the same pic, no? 🤷🏼‍♂️

I know nothing about this particular provider (yet 🤞🏻), but I do know some providers will “park” their ad in a city/place that’s unlikely to be searched when they’re on a break. But who knows - perhaps he has family or a provider that has him in Fruitland 🤷🏼‍♂️ BBD

Yes! I totally forgot about the “and one for the ladies” pic submissions! This was like early to mid 80’s when we’d sneak his mags. Of course I had to pretend I was into the girl in the spread, when I was all about the hot, hard cock! Sam was a favourite - I have a mate who to this day is in love with him. His husband makes fun of him for it, but manages to give something with Sam on it for each bday lol I remember around the same time, in the building we lived in, someone left some porn mags down outside the laundry room in a box. I remember finding some Hustlers, a Cherri, a Playgirl or two, and a digest of porn stories. Rest were all Playboys or other mags with no men/hard cocks so I had no interest lol I had to hide them and snuck them into my place later lol

While this gent is objectively hot, and handsome, he’s just another gay-baiting thirst trap who is only down with the gays for what they can do for his brand. He’s been exposed multiple times for his tweets/retweets on Twitter that can charitably be described as “uniformed” if not blatantly homophobic. He’s showing the body, the VPL for your follows, for your likes to build his brand, that’s it. Time to direct the thirst elsewhere.

I don’t know how much success you’ll have on RM finding such a provider. Just a quick search now, there are 3 in the 5.5-6 range identifying as Tops. That expands if you include Vers, but most if not all list as Vers/Bottoms. If you select 5 and under, it’s all bottoms and FTM providers. 🤷🏼‍♂️ There is a market for the average to under hung tops - I have 2 friends who won’t go near someone over 6, one says 5 is his perfect size - but it may not be lucrative enough for this hobby. I’ve enjoyed a few gents in the under 6 club myself, so they are out there - but in my experiences they weren’t providers. Maybe try on the apps? I know from my experiences (and hearing from my mates) a less endowed top can get turned on from a bigger built, larger hung bottom. Sorry I can’t offer more - but good luck! Let us know how your search goes! 👍🏻 BBD