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Yet another example of why I have a strict policy: No Ubers. No deposits. No exceptions. I've been hiring for years and I have never paid either a deposit nor an Uber & have had some very hot experiences. When the very few instances I've been asked for a deposit or an Uber I immediately decline. The escort has always backed down.

A NOT BEFORE DISCUSSED REASON TO SAY NO TO DEPOSITS: Hi all again. Many men on this thread on the debate of deposit/no deposit have read the unfortunate tales of victimization that some of our community members have described when they provided a deposit in the past- the escort took their deposit money and ran. Its a horrible experience to be a victim. Consider this: There ARE criminals out there. And they seek out vulnerable and seemingly weak victims. And many people in society think gay/bi men are weak. Even if you disagree we are a weak people, many others will disagree with you. Many of us were victimized in our youth by a society that despised gay men or any boy with seemingly weaker attributes. Tragically, being bullied and harmed is not a rare event for many gay men in their past history. Yet, when you provide a deposit, this actually creates more gay/bi victims. And these victims are your brothers. Why? You know when you travel out of the country and go to that wonderful "tourist" spot? The part of the city where its charming & quaint, full of history and beauty? Sad to say, but they often are full of pick-pockets and criminals. Why? Because tourists are easy prey. They come in "vacation" mode: not paying attention, drinking too much, ignoring clues around them, looking very "touristy". If Americans only worked on not acting so, well, touristy in these areas, the crime might go down! When criminals think of gay and bi men, they may think we are weak and easy prey. Then they hear from here and there how easy it is to put up a Rentmen profile & advertise escort services. Then when approached online by one of us, they demand a deposit. We give in because their effort seems well meaning, they seem well spoken, and promises you he just needs "reassurance" with a deposit. You send the deposit but he runs. Another victim. And that criminal is bragging and laughing about his exploits to his shady friends. ("OMG, that stupid idiot actually sent me $100 online....!!!!"). Birds of feather flock together- these are crooks. And the more the escorting community for gay men is full of guys who WILL pay a deposit, the escorting pool attracts more and more shady criminals who want to steal from and victimize us. Sure, there are escorts who are genuine and provide their services with a deposit with no problem! But word of mouth/advertising of deposits make our hiring community like a tourist hot spot in a beautiful country: a place for criminals to go to target easy prey. Ruins everything. So don't think just because you paid a deposit and your particular escort is honest that that choice alone does not add to the problem. It does. It makes all of us who hire more at risk for others to victimize and harm us, just like acting like a tourist in touristy areas makes those areas less safe. Escorts who take deposits and run inevitably provide (if they show up) bad service to us. They are not going to do all the things you want them to do. They will be horrible providers. They only want our cash. We dont want to encourage them to advertise escort services. Protect not only yourself (NO DEPOSITS!) but protect your brothers and this wonderful hiring community- no deposits!! You want a safer place for gay/bi men? Help create a community that is not making itself a target. "Be the change you wish to see in the world" Mahatma Gandhi Love to all Josh PS: to all escorts- many of you are genuine, good at what you do, and oh-so-much-fun. You would never harm any one of us. And you dont demand deposits! Dont ever change. You are beautiful.

Hi JB_Studio38/ Mocha/Jarrod_uncut (and all the other names you have had on this platform in the past- there have been many) No. I, and my fellow client colleagues, are not willing to be "on call" with money for you when escorting is not working out financially for you. Although I do NOT wish you or any other escort financial harm, we are not responsible for your solvency. But to you and all escorts in the world: I'm hopeful you prosper. You provide a wonderful service to the community. Ah, you are not satisfied with my advice? Allow me to elaborate. You and I are both business men. Similar fields, albeit with a few differences. I'm a physician. You are an escort. We are both seek to ...heal our clients (or patients). As a physician I have high overhead costs in maintaining my office: support staff salaries, my office rent, my exorbitant malpractice premiums, to name a few, costs which rise yearly which is alarming & frustrating. And just like you, before I take home one dollar, ALL my overhead MUST be paid first. Heck, I was hundreds of thousands of dollars in medical school debt before I even got paid to see my first patient! Yes, I genuinely understand your predicament. I live it daily. But when a business informs the client this is my fee, BUT then says, "oh, I also need a deposit", um, yah, no. Or the escort says, "Oh, I need you to pay my Uber". Also a big Nope. See, all of my overhead AND my own salary AND (this is the critical point I fear you dont understand) the cost of the lost revenue is wrapped up in the fee I charge for that office visit. You think patients call, make an appointment to see me and don't show up? It happens DAILY. Every physician has no-shows. You think patients get a bill (after I provide them medical services) from me and always send a payment? Nope. I get patients who stiff me ALL.THE.TIME. But that loss is factored IN to my fees. That's Business. I don't charge multiple fees. I have protocols that attempt to minimize loss. For example: two no-shows and my staff informs the patient they are discharged from the practice. You think you are the only businessman who takes risks and experiences financial loss? Think again. I don't come to this platform and bitch & whine & come across as a lunatic because my patients stiff me. Rather, I focus on my wonderful patients who stay, pay, and make it all worth while. To all escorts: keep providing your excellent services. Stay professional. Continue to hone your craft. Keep detailed reports of what's not working. For what's not working focus on strategies to minimize loss and maximize profit. You are an escort to make MONEY - there is nothing wrong with that! So am I. But demanding fees (deposits or Ubers) will ultimately turn away good clients & make you seem unprofessional. Good clients (like me) stay away from escorts like that. Including staying away from JB_Studio38/ Mocha/Jarrod_uncut. Asking for a fee makes you look sketchy. Its a bad look. Love to all, Josh

I've been hiring for years. I have met some wonderful, and hot, escorts. I've never paid for a deposit nor paid for an Uber. On rare occasion I've been asked to, I politely but vehemently decline. The escort has always backed down. My friends: no deposits, no Ubers. Hugs to all Josh

Salutations all I'm planning a repeat trip to Rio and considering booking a hotel I haven't used before: the JW Marriott Hotel Rio de Janeiro in Cococabana. I once stayed at a different hotel in Rio that refused me to bring up a garoto to my room and I'm looking to see if anyone has roomed at the JW Marriott and had similar problems. Any and all reports or concerns regarding this hotel welcomed. Josh

Good morning Primary care physician here. I work in a mid-size physician group on the east coast (not NYC) & do this (treating patients high pressure) for work all day long, so I'm familiar with your issue & I'm rooting for you to conquer it! You do not have a "minor" problem. You have hypertension, also known as high blood pressure. Its in the family of cardiovascular disease. Its dangerous & potentially lethal. Its the number 1 killer of Americans (I am aware you live in the UK but I did not investigate UK health statistics), which means more deaths than cancer. Are you aware of that? If your doctor told you that you had cancer, would consider it to be a "minor" issue? I'm not trying to be indelicate or confrontational but (hopefully) educational. Your health future depends on you fully understanding & controlling your blood pressure. Gay folk are wonderful & beautiful and we can't afford to lose one of us prematurely. Strong work on the exercise! It may help. Keep it up. A) Other interventions to consider: 1) lose 15 lbs (if that applies to you) 2) significantly reduce (best is stop) your alcohol intake. Maximum is 2 drinks per week (on 2 different days, not 2 drinks on 1 day). 3) reduce your salt intake. (For example- canned soup has crazy high amounts of sodium) 4) stop all nicotine products (yes, even vaping is smoking). B) Is your blood pressure controlled? If not, are you on max dose ramipril 20 mg a day? If so, are you only on ramipril? Most people with high blood pressure need 2 (or more!) medications to adequately control their blood pressure. When is your next appointment with your primary care physician? I wish you all the best in your journey in getting healthier! Josh

Hey there. Could you explain a bit further? What specifically you mean by "LGBT characters"? Also, specifically what "themes" do you not support? It such a broad topic that it's almost impossible for the reader to understand what you meant. Could you supply some examples? I'm just confused and would enjoy exploring your views more. Josh

Hi I wonder if you could elaborate? I'm interested in understanding your opinion better. What do you mean regarding age-appropriateness in tv, cartoons, chidrens movies etc with opposite sex couples? I distinctly recall seeing as a very small child (before even 5 yrs old) on children's cartoons, movies, tv etc opposite sex married couples being portrayed. I don't mean seeing couples actually having sex, kissing, or anything like that. I just recall seeing opposite sex couples in media, the school reading books, media etc doing basic things family activities. For example, Sesame Street had multiple opposite couples: Gordan & Susan Robinson & Luis & Maria for starters. Was that age-appropriate or inappropriate display of human sexuality in your opinion? Thank you in advance for your thoughtful reply. Josh

No, no, you did not originally write "ask". You specifically used the word "right". Any businessman, of any field, can of course ask for anything, even $10,000,000,000,000 to engage in business dealings. I'm skeptical that the logical & sane men on this board would disagree with that. Yet, few would pay that. But you are coming across as it's their right. There are no rights in this detail of minutiae of hiring regarding asking for pics prior. But it is bad business practice. You may have tweaked your sentence in follow up (thank you for responding, kind sir!) but your revealed your true thoughts on this. To All Readers: don't add toxicity to hiring. There is enough toxicity already. Campsite Rule: leave the site better than you found it. Say NO to pic requests.

Could you elaborate on how/when escorts achieved this societal "right" to get pictures of potential clients? I've never heard of this before and I'd like to learn more.

Are you SURE you are correct on that? The current standard of care is for seniors to get TWO shots, not one, of the current covid vaccine. I hypothesis that you accidentally misunderstood your doctors office. I think they probably DO recommend the 2nd vaccine as I'm sure they are interested is promoting good science, right? I recommend (primary care physician here) all seniors reading this post to get their second Covid vaccine 6 months after their first one. This is not MY opinion. Rather, it's the USA medical community's recommendation. I don't get to have an opinion but must use the scientific data which the CDC uses to generate the best medical recommendations. Don't believe me? Read on. From the CDC's website regarding covid vaccinations: Interim Clinical Considerations for Use of COVID-19 Vaccines in the United States: Summary of recent changes (last updated October 31, 2024): People ages 65 years and older, vaccinated under the routine schedule, are recommended to receive 2 doses of any 2024–2025 COVID-19 vaccine (i.e., Moderna, Novavax, or Pfizer-BioNTech) separated by 6 months (minimum interval 2 months) regardless of vaccination history Clinical Guidance for COVID-19 Vaccination | CDC WWW.CDC.GOV View FDA-approved and FDA-authorized uses of the Covid-19 vaccines in the United States. Please pursue good health. Hugs, love, and great sex to all, Josh

DEAR MODERATORS I genuinely feel that TallMuscl37/Mocha is not contributing in a positive or helpful manner to this community. Instead, my fear is his epic rants, hostile attitude, & bizarre ideas PUSH people, both client & escort, away. This is not productive in my opinion to the overall goals of this board, nor does it further its prowess or stature in the community. Yes, people respond to his posts, and he angrily responds back, but I suspect these abrasive discussions push 10x the people away rather than increase the boards membership. Please end this person's contribution privileges. At least for a 60 day period. I thank all moderators for their tireless work. It is ever so appreciated. Josh Dear TallMuscl37, First, I wish you good health & hope for a better future. From a professional prospective (I'm a physician), I recommend: 1) Find a therapist to work thru the issues you have brought to this website. Your feelings & frustrations are absolutely valid. Therapy would be safe & therapeutic place to work on them. This website is not. 2) Talk to your doctor about a SSRI medication like celexa or venlafaxine. It will will help with mood & anger. I say NONE of this to harm or mock you, but to help you. I fully accept you may not appreciate my advice. I also apologize for anger or sadness my words bring to you. Nevertheless, I stand by them. Regards Josh

Greetings, Sync. Physician here. I'm a PCP, board certified, and still practicing Medicine. I'm dreadfully worried about you. Your PCP is relating to you completely nonscientific rubbish. There is no evidence that covid vaccines are cancer-causing to the elderly. There is no "alternative treatment" to covid except for initial treatment with Paxlovid. Your PCP appears like he is practicing outside of the Standard of Care & possibly promoting unfounded & dangerous treatment plans to his patients. Please be aware that for a physician to be accused of practicing "outside the Standard of Care" is a HUGE ACCUSATION. The entire medical community is in agreement to the benefit of covid vaccination & STRONGLY urges everyone to get vaccinated. Sure, there are a few conspiracy theorist physicians out there who are against covid vaccines, but the scientific community sees them for who they are: dangerous. While I understand you have built a 30 year trusting relationship with your PCP, it might be time to rethink that relationship. Ask him to provide you the specific medical literature that supports his anti-covid vaccine stance. He should only provide research from peer-reviewed journals with robust support from the medical community. Fringe journals don't count. Non-mainstream websites that are unknown are suspect. Medical influencers are high risk for quackery. If he does provide that type of research, my original criticism is true. Run. I get it. It will be easier to get mad at me, discount what I'm saying, maybe even attack me here on this forum. Fine. I'm strong enough to take it. Indeed, the stronger your internal emotional response you have, the more likely there is truth in my statements which is unconsciously resonating with you. But I'm hopeful that you still consider my point & take logical action to protect your health. You deserve to stay beautiful and strong. I strongly urge you, and everyone, to get covid vaccinated. I did. Declining covid vaccination is fine until you get covid and are running to the ER due to difficulties breathing, as I have seen clinically. I've seen many people like you. Your strategy is similar to the guy who refuses to wear a seat belt while driving., thinking, "I've never been in a car accident yet, so I really don't need one." Poor and uninformed strategy. Trauma surgeons OR time are filled with people with that strategy. Please get covid vaccinated. You deserve to stay healthy. Josh

No. Your understanding of the timing of the dose is incorrect. You should take DoxyPEP ASAP after sex, not wait for 24 hours. What you are describing is not consistent with the research on DoxyPEP. As time elapses away from the encounter, effectiveness decreases. Please note the "ideally" is not 24 hrs LATER, but "within". Per research that was published from the New England Journal of Medicine: https://www.nejm.org/doi/full/10.1056/NEJMoa2211934 Participants were counseled to take 200 mg of doxycycline ideally within 24 hours but no later than 72 hours after any condomless anogenital, vaginal, or oral sex and to take no more than one dose every 24 hours. No. That is also incorrect. If you have more than one sexual parner experience in a 24 hour period you should only take 1 two hundred milligram dose, as soon as possible after the first encounter in that 24 hour period. Dosing for a Saturday nite sex play should not wait till Monday. Also, no need for repeat doses within that 24 hour period. In other words, only one dose per 24 hrs. Yes, you can take daily if you are having daily sexual encounters. I wish you, and all my brothers safe sex & travels. Josh

Hi Lucky & everyone else. Physician here: I am recommending to all my patients 60 years and over to get the RSV vaccine. There are thousands of reasons to get RSV vaccinated. Dont be embarrassed. Just go get your RSV vaccine if you are 60 or over. Its easy. Just one vaccine needed in your lifetime, it's not yearly like flu vaccination. Per the CDC: While most children who contract RSV experience mild symptoms, the CDC estimates that each year, between 58,000 and 80,000 children younger than age 5 years are hospitalized due to RSV infection. The CDC estimates that RSV causes approximately 60,000-160,000 hospitalizations and 6,000-10,000 deaths among older adults every year.