It is terrible that you are being made to feel this way. Please do not give in or give up. It's possible that you just happen upon environments that are racially intolerant, and (a bit of lay psychology) is it also possible that your sensitivity is perceiving too many movements away from you as rejections? I know from the experience I had when I first entered gay bars. I discovered that I was unconsciously repelling because of my tense and nervous appearance. After a time I realized that the world was not watching my every move and became more relaxed and inviting. Soon after, happy hours became really happy.
The Rachel Maddow program featured the northern California fires last night. I was frozen in disbelief by the sights of the mass destruction. And the speed of the destruction is demonic-like.
Being an older person who has been crapped on by inconsiderate people most of my life, I have to recuse myself because for my remaining days I've pledged to myself "no more."
For the wedding: "Your demands and restrictions for the wedding party are beyond my perception of reasonable. I, therefore, respectfully decline my bridesmaid participation."
For the husband/daughter: "This is something that will have to be resolved between and by the two of you in your meeting. I will not be attending."
Praise for different strokes. It's the present version that does it for me.
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Charisma is an amazing entity. This gentleman, for me, is a bit too young, a bit too lean, and I've never liked the look of latex/rubber attire, but through it all he projects the "it" factor. If I ever had the opportunity, I certainly would.
I'm thinking this man's appendage could produce a hernia from him just rising from a chair.
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