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Chicago? Alx Ward
 
https://rentmen.eu/AlxWard
 
Tall, gorgeous, sweet, in-charge and would probably be excellent with a rookie! (I think he is 100% top, so not-so-great a choice if you want to flip, but sounds like what you're mostly interested in would be right in his wheelhouse). If you contact him (or any escort) just explain what you're looking for.
 
Go have fun!
 
PS -- I wouldn't go to a hook-up app first time around the block. IMHO, chances of finding someone who would actually be attuned to your needs as a first-timer are slim.

Yeah, it's unfortunate, but I do work full time with odd hours at my "real" job and frequently travel. I use the "Unavailable" feature during extended periods of time where I literally cannot meet anyone. I like to keep my personal life, work life, and "work life" completely separate
 
Appreciate the kind words, everyone

I don't do drugs. I also don't judge.
 
Except -- within the last year 4 hires have gone into some kind of drug-induced hole and passed out in bed. Sometimes at very awkward moments. One guy was so out of it -- incomprehensible, could not sit up in bed -- I wound up knocking on his roommate's door (yet another bit of awkwardness I didn't know until I got there) to take care of him.
 
So, any RM post that includes PNP in the blurb is a non-starter. I also generally pass up those who have PNP in their "I am into" laundry list. But that means I pass up a lot of guys who otherwise really interest me. And, if every escort who lists PNP actually uses, well, that's kinda scary percentage-wise.
 
Anyways, from your experience/knowledge of your peers, is PNP just a regular check-off escorts hit as they zoom down the list? Guys who take clients who are into PNP but don't use themselves? Or, should I continue to avoid.
 
One obvious answer is "ask them". But, like asking about health, you can't rely on everyone to give you a straight answer and have to protect yourself. (And, one of my four was a guy I raised the issue with prior. He made a bit of a deal about "Good, I'm not into that either.")
 
All opinions welcome. Thanks.

More than a few, less than a horde. Let's say about a 15% pass-out rate?
 
PS -- after about 4 years of hiring and having a lot of great times, I've been on a horrible unlucky streak for a while, so maybe it's me.

I like that. But, based on something I saw on the street the other day, I'd have to go with Ferret on a Leash. Probably `80s New Wave.

Or you're pregnant.

Hey guys. With all due respect, whatever opinion we may have of Derek, do you think maybe we should give him a modicum of privacy? Yes, this link takes you to a public record. And yes, Derek is somewhat of a public figure. But IMHO just because Derek fucks guys for a living doesn’t mean we should be delving into and publicizing his court records that involve his ex-wife and his young daughter. I mean, wtf! How about we all just wish him well and get on with our lives. That’s all I have. Thank you.

I know that the OP asked that this stick to clients and not escorts, but this made me chuckle and compelled me to respond.
 
Tuesday I made arrangements with a guy in my town. I've had some bad luck hiring new escorts lately, but figured I might break my unlucky streak as I'd once hired this guy's partner and had an amazing time. He lives about 3 miles from my place, but said that since I was a first-time client, I'd need to send him an Uber to weed out flakes. I told him fine, and I usually offer an Uber anyway. He explained some more that he finds this reduces the number of flakes he gets. OK by me. Sent him a text immediately after our call (around noon) to tell him where I was staying and told him to send me time and address for the Uber.
 
**crickets**
 
Texted him again a half-hour before our scheduled appointment to ask if he was ready for the Uber and where I should send it.
 
**more crickets**
 
About 15 minutes after our agreed-on start time, I sent him a (very polite) text telling him I was making other plans. Never heard a word back.
 
It was my fourth no-show in about four years of hiring, which I figure is a pretty good batting average. But, I always get worried that something might have happened to the guy. First no-show I ever had, the guy blew out his knee in dance class that afternoon and slept through the appointment in a pharmaceutical haze. He actually sent me pics of his swollen knee and the prescription painkiller bottle filled that day So, I was a tiny bit concerned. However, Uber dude checked his RM account an hour after our start time and an hour later his "Available Now" light was back on.
 
The no-show? Annoying, waste of an evening and a perfectly good Viagra. But, that's the cost of business of being a client. But, the gall after explaining in detail that Uber weeds out flakes -- priceless.
 
Now, based on a string of recent experiences, I'm off to go start the "The Climate is Changing (Escorts)" thread
 
@hypothetically -- I was highly suspicious that you were my guy until you said you were in NYC

I know that the OP asked that this stick to clients and not escorts, but this made me chuckle and compelled me to respond.
 
Tuesday I made arrangements with a guy in my town. I've had some bad luck hiring new escorts lately, but figured I might break my unlucky streak as I'd once hired this guy's partner and had an amazing time. He lives about 3 miles from my place, but said that since I was a first-time client, I'd need to send him an Uber to weed out flakes. I told him fine, and I usually offer an Uber anyway. He explained some more that he finds this reduces the number of flakes he gets. OK by me. Sent him a text immediately after our call (around noon) to tell him where I was staying and told him to send me time and address for the Uber.
 
**crickets**
 
Texted him again a half-hour before our scheduled appointment to ask if he was ready for the Uber and where I should send it.
 
**more crickets**
 
About 15 minutes after our agreed-on start time, I sent him a (very polite) text telling him I was making other plans. Never heard a word back.
 
It was my fourth no-show in about four years of hiring, which I figure is a pretty good batting average. But, I always get worried that something might have happened to the guy. First no-show I ever had, the guy blew out his knee in dance class that afternoon and slept through the appointment in a pharmaceutical haze. He actually sent me pics of his swollen knee and the prescription painkiller bottle filled that day So, I was a tiny bit concerned. However, Uber dude checked his RM account an hour after our start time and an hour later his "Available Now" light was back on.
 
The no-show? Annoying, waste of an evening and a perfectly good Viagra. But, that's the cost of business of being a client. But, the gall after explaining in detail that Uber weeds out flakes -- priceless.
 
Now, based on a string of recent experiences, I'm off to go start the "The Climate is Changing (Escorts)" thread
 
@hypothetically -- I was highly suspicious that you were my guy until you said you were in NYC

As a client, I can say it goes both ways. I have never canceled at the last minute. I have never done any of the things you mentioned. I always plan ahead and confirm. I have had escorts no show or not contact me once I got to hotel. I have had them not provide the service the promised and leave the session early. I have had them clock watch or worse read texts during the session. This is all in the last 10 months. I am not too discouraged though because I have had many great ones as well.

I think you're not going to have a very fun time if you keep getting upset at what's happening, or if you keep searching for the "logic" behind it all. I personally have experienced many of the things you've mentioned (as I'm sure many of the working fellows have), and I sometimes find they seem to come and go; at times, there are more oddball questions and flakes than others. This is part of the business and I would assert that nearly every business on earth has the time wasters, the people who don't read, the people who communicate ineffectively, etc. To me, part of the work we do is dealing with these things.
 
Essentially, you can be right or you can be happy.

Did not try both but Travis is super enthusiastic and fun in bed. Would totally do him again. Let us know how the three way works,

@MaxSargent -- we spent a couple of hours together a while back -- besides skillz, you came across as a really good, genuine guy. I think that's reflected to some degree in your apology.
 
However, you crossed a line that IMHO can never be crossed. Posting a photo or personal information in a public forum, especially one as pervasive as Twitter, simply destroys any trust one might have in that particular escort or their colleagues generally. That bell can never be unrung. We have no idea what an escort who is prone to post uses as his criteria to disclose client information. The only thing we can do to protect ourselves is stay very far away.
 
Personally, I've had negative (and sometimes really bad) experiences with escorts, but don't post negative reviews out of concern of retaliation from a guy who at least has my first name and phone number. Professionally, I also freelance and (thankfully) frequently deal with new clients/potential clients. Flakes or knobheads trying to exploit my skills without ever intending to sign up or pay are, sadly but simply, a cost of doing business. There are ways to communicate bad actors to your colleagues without undermining trust in you or in your profession.
 
I'm glad you seem to have grown from this. But, I could never think of engaging your services again. I wish you well.

@MaxSargent -- we spent a couple of hours together a while back -- besides skillz, you came across as a really good, genuine guy. I think that's reflected to some degree in your apology.
 
However, you crossed a line that IMHO can never be crossed. Posting a photo or personal information in a public forum, especially one as pervasive as Twitter, simply destroys any trust one might have in that particular escort or their colleagues generally. That bell can never be unrung. We have no idea what an escort who is prone to post uses as his criteria to disclose client information. The only thing we can do to protect ourselves is stay very far away.
 
Personally, I've had negative (and sometimes really bad) experiences with escorts, but don't post negative reviews out of concern of retaliation from a guy who at least has my first name and phone number. Professionally, I also freelance and (thankfully) frequently deal with new clients/potential clients. Flakes or knobheads trying to exploit my skills without ever intending to sign up or pay are, sadly but simply, a cost of doing business. There are ways to communicate bad actors to your colleagues without undermining trust in you or in your profession.
 
I'm glad you seem to have grown from this. But, I could never think of engaging your services again. I wish you well.

@MaxSargent -- we spent a couple of hours together a while back -- besides skillz, you came across as a really good, genuine guy. I think that's reflected to some degree in your apology.
 
However, you crossed a line that IMHO can never be crossed. Posting a photo or personal information in a public forum, especially one as pervasive as Twitter, simply destroys any trust one might have in that particular escort or their colleagues generally. That bell can never be unrung. We have no idea what an escort who is prone to post uses as his criteria to disclose client information. The only thing we can do to protect ourselves is stay very far away.
 
Personally, I've had negative (and sometimes really bad) experiences with escorts, but don't post negative reviews out of concern of retaliation from a guy who at least has my first name and phone number. Professionally, I also freelance and (thankfully) frequently deal with new clients/potential clients. Flakes or knobheads trying to exploit my skills without ever intending to sign up or pay are, sadly but simply, a cost of doing business. There are ways to communicate bad actors to your colleagues without undermining trust in you or in your profession.
 
I'm glad you seem to have grown from this. But, I could never think of engaging your services again. I wish you well.

@AJ Doyle I think that should be brought up before the appointment. I do not like a condom for oral and that would be a major influence in me hiring you. To not bring it up ahead of time is disingenuous to me.
 
Note: I’m not saying you shouldn’t perform oral without a condom if that’s your thing, but at least let the client know ahead of time.

With regard to bareback, if they list "ask me" or "anything goes" on their profile, I assume they do bareback with clients (which is not automatically a disqualification for me). With regard to STDs, of course you can ask. The question is how much confidence you should have in the answer.
 
And if you always use condoms with escorts, why does it matter if they bareback with others. If you are not confident that condoms will protect you from HIV, you shouldn't be doing this.

@MaxSargent -- we spent a couple of hours together a while back -- besides skillz, you came across as a really good, genuine guy. I think that's reflected to some degree in your apology.
 
However, you crossed a line that IMHO can never be crossed. Posting a photo or personal information in a public forum, especially one as pervasive as Twitter, simply destroys any trust one might have in that particular escort or their colleagues generally. That bell can never be unrung. We have no idea what an escort who is prone to post uses as his criteria to disclose client information. The only thing we can do to protect ourselves is stay very far away.
 
Personally, I've had negative (and sometimes really bad) experiences with escorts, but don't post negative reviews out of concern of retaliation from a guy who at least has my first name and phone number. Professionally, I also freelance and (thankfully) frequently deal with new clients/potential clients. Flakes or knobheads trying to exploit my skills without ever intending to sign up or pay are, sadly but simply, a cost of doing business. There are ways to communicate bad actors to your colleagues without undermining trust in you or in your profession.
 
I'm glad you seem to have grown from this. But, I could never think of engaging your services again. I wish you well.

I wouldn't. There's a difference between a no-show and a provider letting you know he can't make it after all. In this instance, take him at his word.

Flakes happen to us on every single trip we make. Just this week we had a guy from Prague begin to arrange a meeting. He got right to the end where he books our flights, then complete silence. There is a large group of "clients" who will never become clients. But, we won't know that until they actually flake. Therefore, we take precautions to protect our investment of time and energy. First, we never get into a photo/video sharing frenzy. If they want that kind of interaction, we ask for payment. We've found the constant interaction with unending exchanges just prolongs the inevitable. It also is a way to weed out the fakers. Second, before we go anywhere at all, we request a deposit of at least 20%. Sometimes the flights themselves count as commitment and we will let that suffice. However, when a client isn't willing to put money into it up front, 99% of the time they will go silent.
 
Therefore, it is up to us as providers to count flakes as a business loss and move on when it happens. We know they exist and it is our fault if we get stuck. Outing them publicly would only serve to damage our credibility and make us seem vindictive. Neither of which is good for business.

https://rent.men/EthanGrande
 
Any scoop? Dayum hot, very responsive and respectful via text.
 
I'm on a real bad streak with escorts recently, so I'm guy shy on newbies, but I may not be able to resist. Help!
 
Thanks,
Wham

All that glitters is not gold is often times salient advice

Yes, we should:
 




 
I am just going to repeat my request. Please stop turning threads with ACTUAL, USEFUL INFORMATION -- that should be accessible via the search function -- into bar brawls.

I hired him a couple of months ago. All good.

Funny, my finger was hovering over my cell keypad and just decided to check here first. I may take the dive. One odd thing, though . . . I regularly troll the NYC listings and he hits all my search criteria, but he's never come up in my searches before. Recent transplant to NYC?