I also hope he gets help. He’s in a cul de sac now because of the “selfishness” error. In his post, he debates who is more selfish: himself, for wanting out without regard for the pain it would cause others; or those others, who are more concerned about themselves than about his pain.
There is no answer to that, because “selfishness” is a red herring in the suicide discussion. The poor guy is partly stuck, spinning his wheels, because of it.