natmas02

I agree with you up to a point. I think that the escort could have just said "I apologize for not replying back to your texts, but I've been having trouble with a high number of strange communications the past few days and I am currently not using texting. Would you like to set up a meet? I can communicate via email" to get the point across without going into venting. Venting about other clients or issues with booking other clients is a big faux pas if the escort is actually talking to a serious client. Most clients don't want to hear about other clients.
 
But I can appreciate the honesty. And his venting was in a respectful manner. I think in this situation it's just poor communication skills on both the client and escort lol.

What is the point of not going straight to the point. To take @escortrod analogy, when you go to Starbucks, do you discuss the weather with the barista or you tell her what you want?
Of course we all have different styles and preferences. But never forget that you are not working on a hook up, you are contacting a professional. In case he is a successful provider, he is probably sorting hundred of messages and has all the right to set priorities. He was perfectly polite and friendly when communicating his priorities.
If you do not like his style, cool, just move on to the next. He is also communicating in between lines that he does not need your business, so it is not a big deal for any of you two.
 
@youngboldone , if you are actually asking for advice, I would say honor your screen name and be more bold.
If you are texting, tell what you want when you make first contact. If you have a profile in the outlet you are using, let's say Rentmen or Adam, you can write a thoughtful description of your preferences and refer to it when you make first contact. I have a profile in RM and in A4A, so my first message is something like: "Hey! I like your profile. Please, check mine and if you think we are compatible hit me back". If he hits me back, I ask whether he is willing to have a videoconference to verify pics. No waste of time.
When I did not have a profile or when I use rentboy.pro, where you cannot have one, my first message would be something like: "Hey! Hot pics. I am looking for a passionate French kisser who enjoys being submissive, bottoming, and oral. If you think we can click, please hit me back letting me know whether you are willing to have a videoconference to verify pictures."

I know the chorus of "the client is always right" has chimed in, and what I'm about to say is going to go against the grain. From what you've written, I fully understand why the scort would be apprehensive. These guys are in a precarious situation. They face the prospect of being set up for prosecution, they get calls/messages/emails from all sorts of people who will never follow through, but think they're entitled to know intimate sexual details, often just because knowing those details get them off. I interpret what he wrote to you as sincere, thoughtful, and, dare I say, bordering on kind. He's tried to accommodate your issues. No need to trash him.

well the thing is - you're not a confirmed client. And you're not a paying client yet. The tone of the escort's message was actually very polite while being firm about his rules.
 
I'd say confirm the appointment if you are able to/want to and then ask him the questions. If he refuses to answer your questions after you confirm, then yeah that's off putting and I would take caution in seeing him. If he answers your questions, then I don't see anything wrong with what he's doing.

@KeepItReal I had a bad situation with a regular who became extremely entitled. We started off great and then he would ask for money in advance to help pay for bills, etc as he stopped advertising and would put it towards our future time and then unfortunately he took advantage of me and I got burned. It was a very expensive lesson learned for me - at the end of the day, we can enjoy each other's company all we want but it's still a business transaction.

@KeepItReal I had a bad situation with a regular who became extremely entitled. We started off great and then he would ask for money in advance to help pay for bills, etc as he stopped advertising and would put it towards our future time and then unfortunately he took advantage of me and I got burned. It was a very expensive lesson learned for me - at the end of the day, we can enjoy each other's company all we want but it's still a business transaction.

well the thing is - you're not a confirmed client. And you're not a paying client yet. The tone of the escort's message was actually very polite while being firm about his rules.
 
I'd say confirm the appointment if you are able to/want to and then ask him the questions. If he refuses to answer your questions after you confirm, then yeah that's off putting and I would take caution in seeing him. If he answers your questions, then I don't see anything wrong with what he's doing.

Over the years, I’ve found that terser communications are now the norm and I deal with that fact. Also, if you’re interested in engaging a hot 20-something, you also may need to sell yourself as a client, as annoying as that may be to some forum contributors. Some of the hotties whom I’ve met have stated that my approach and attitude persuaded them to meet with me rather than others. We’re dealing with young men who perhaps aren’t always sure they want to jump into this line of work; however, among that cohort I’ve found many hotties with whom I’ve developed longer-term and very satisfactory relationships. I’ve learned to leave my ego behind when engaging some very desirable candidates and have been well rewarded.

I have 2 escorts that I'm a regular with - one of them I've been seeing for 3 years now and I do one overnight a week. The other one I see for a multi-hour appointment once or twice a month. It guarantees that our time is well spent and I know what I'm getting into. The weird thing is that these guys are have girlfriends,etc which is can be a huge negative for many, but for me it keeps my brain and feelings in check with these 2 so I'm able to keep viewing these relationships as FWB then catching feelings.
 
I hire new guys if I'm traveling but it does get a little tiring having to do the research on here and the initial nervousness of seeing a new guy.

well the thing is - you're not a confirmed client. And you're not a paying client yet. The tone of the escort's message was actually very polite while being firm about his rules.
 
I'd say confirm the appointment if you are able to/want to and then ask him the questions. If he refuses to answer your questions after you confirm, then yeah that's off putting and I would take caution in seeing him. If he answers your questions, then I don't see anything wrong with what he's doing.

"Please limit messaging me until you are 100% sure you can meet. Otherwise we'll end up chatting a lot and never meeting. I hope you understand ;-)"
 
I really don't see how this message is offending a lot of you guys, but ok. You guys are making it seem the text is the equivalent of "fuck you, don't waste my time with your texts". It really isn't.

well the thing is - you're not a confirmed client. And you're not a paying client yet. The tone of the escort's message was actually very polite while being firm about his rules.
 
I'd say confirm the appointment if you are able to/want to and then ask him the questions. If he refuses to answer your questions after you confirm, then yeah that's off putting and I would take caution in seeing him. If he answers your questions, then I don't see anything wrong with what he's doing.

I have 2 escorts that I'm a regular with - one of them I've been seeing for 3 years now and I do one overnight a week. The other one I see for a multi-hour appointment once or twice a month. It guarantees that our time is well spent and I know what I'm getting into. The weird thing is that these guys are have girlfriends,etc which is can be a huge negative for many, but for me it keeps my brain and feelings in check with these 2 so I'm able to keep viewing these relationships as FWB then catching feelings.
 
I hire new guys if I'm traveling but it does get a little tiring having to do the research on here and the initial nervousness of seeing a new guy.

Over. Dramatic.
 
You're entitled to hire how you want to hire, but keeping your ego in check will help you have a better time in hiring escorts. The escort said something you didn't want to hear, but he did it in a very respectful manner. There's really not an issue with his tone. There really isn't. And in your original post you stated that you are a paying client. You're not. So let's keep the perspective in check.
 
The escort's time is just as valuable as yours. Why entertain a potential client who just said he doesn't even know if he has the time to set up an appointment? How about you see if you even have the time first and then ask him your questions?
 
I guarantee if you figured out your schedule first and THEN asked "Hey, I have free time on Tuesday at 8PM and I'd like to see you for an hour. Can I ask you a few questions about what to expect during our appointment?" you would have gotten what you wanted.

"Please limit messaging me until you are 100% sure you can meet. Otherwise we'll end up chatting a lot and never meeting. I hope you understand ;-)"
 
I really don't see how this message is offending a lot of you guys, but ok. You guys are making it seem the text is the equivalent of "fuck you, don't waste my time with your texts". It really isn't.

well the thing is - you're not a confirmed client. And you're not a paying client yet. The tone of the escort's message was actually very polite while being firm about his rules.
 
I'd say confirm the appointment if you are able to/want to and then ask him the questions. If he refuses to answer your questions after you confirm, then yeah that's off putting and I would take caution in seeing him. If he answers your questions, then I don't see anything wrong with what he's doing.

Over. Dramatic.
 
You're entitled to hire how you want to hire, but keeping your ego in check will help you have a better time in hiring escorts. The escort said something you didn't want to hear, but he did it in a very respectful manner. There's really not an issue with his tone. There really isn't. And in your original post you stated that you are a paying client. You're not. So let's keep the perspective in check.
 
The escort's time is just as valuable as yours. Why entertain a potential client who just said he doesn't even know if he has the time to set up an appointment? How about you see if you even have the time first and then ask him your questions?
 
I guarantee if you figured out your schedule first and THEN asked "Hey, I have free time on Tuesday at 8PM and I'd like to see you for an hour. Can I ask you a few questions about what to expect during our appointment?" you would have gotten what you wanted.

Sure, there's certainly no ego or entitlement in those comments. What about showing empathy for the escort who just doesn't want to engage further with a client who doesn't even know he can book a time?
 
You made this post asking for people's opinions. I'm certainly being direct on our disagreement, but it's pretty obvious you been made up your mind about how you went about this situation, so why bother making this post in the first place?

Over. Dramatic.
 
You're entitled to hire how you want to hire, but keeping your ego in check will help you have a better time in hiring escorts. The escort said something you didn't want to hear, but he did it in a very respectful manner. There's really not an issue with his tone. There really isn't. And in your original post you stated that you are a paying client. You're not. So let's keep the perspective in check.
 
The escort's time is just as valuable as yours. Why entertain a potential client who just said he doesn't even know if he has the time to set up an appointment? How about you see if you even have the time first and then ask him your questions?
 
I guarantee if you figured out your schedule first and THEN asked "Hey, I have free time on Tuesday at 8PM and I'd like to see you for an hour. Can I ask you a few questions about what to expect during our appointment?" you would have gotten what you wanted.

Over. Dramatic.
 
You're entitled to hire how you want to hire, but keeping your ego in check will help you have a better time in hiring escorts. The escort said something you didn't want to hear, but he did it in a very respectful manner. There's really not an issue with his tone. There really isn't. And in your original post you stated that you are a paying client. You're not. So let's keep the perspective in check.
 
The escort's time is just as valuable as yours. Why entertain a potential client who just said he doesn't even know if he has the time to set up an appointment? How about you see if you even have the time first and then ask him your questions?
 
I guarantee if you figured out your schedule first and THEN asked "Hey, I have free time on Tuesday at 8PM and I'd like to see you for an hour. Can I ask you a few questions about what to expect during our appointment?" you would have gotten what you wanted.

well the thing is - you're not a confirmed client. And you're not a paying client yet. The tone of the escort's message was actually very polite while being firm about his rules.
 
I'd say confirm the appointment if you are able to/want to and then ask him the questions. If he refuses to answer your questions after you confirm, then yeah that's off putting and I would take caution in seeing him. If he answers your questions, then I don't see anything wrong with what he's doing.

So I'm an egomaniac for wanting someone I'm paying hundreds of dollars an hour to take an interest in me? Okay, sure.

I have 2 escorts that I'm a regular with - one of them I've been seeing for 3 years now and I do one overnight a week. The other one I see for a multi-hour appointment once or twice a month. It guarantees that our time is well spent and I know what I'm getting into. The weird thing is that these guys are have girlfriends,etc which is can be a huge negative for many, but for me it keeps my brain and feelings in check with these 2 so I'm able to keep viewing these relationships as FWB then catching feelings.
 
I hire new guys if I'm traveling but it does get a little tiring having to do the research on here and the initial nervousness of seeing a new guy.

"Please limit messaging me until you are 100% sure you can meet. Otherwise we'll end up chatting a lot and never meeting. I hope you understand ;-)"
 
I really don't see how this message is offending a lot of you guys, but ok. You guys are making it seem the text is the equivalent of "fuck you, don't waste my time with your texts". It really isn't.

okay - but the client doesn't even know if he can meet up with the escort based on his schedule. This isn't a confirmed appointment.
 
If the client ends up having the time to see the escort, and then confirms a time - then I'm certain this escort would be happy to answer questions about compatibility. If the escort replies back and it's good to go, then no harm done/no time wasted. If the escort and client find that they are not compatible, then cancel the appointment.
 
If anything the client is wasting his time by not even being sure if he can meet up with the escort at all. You guys are being so overdramatic and nit-picky about this.