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Thanks for explaining it and oh my gosh 😵‍💫

I'm not super knowledgeable about butt stuff. What the heck is a "second wall?" Does that just mean you're tight and not relaxed enough for him to go past a certain point? 

I'm not super knowledgeable about butt stuff. What the heck is a "second wall?" Does that just mean you're tight and not relaxed enough for him to go past a certain point? 

If you suck at your job, I’m willing to pay the 250 even if the massage is mediocre.

Flipping the script on this topic. Here’s my worst provider experience with a client in 2025. He likes to use G in his sessions. He is the reason I will no longer tolerate client drug use.
I saw him for two hour sessions about half a dozen times over several months, once with my provider friend Newell (MuscleGingerXL). He was nice enough. Long sad story about how he got clean and used to work for Goodwill inspiring others to get sober. Now he’s a junkie again, spending every last dime on providers and drugs. He always paid, until he started asking me to wait while he “moved money around” before sending it. Never a good sign.
The next session he asked if he could pay later that day. Red flag city. I should have cut the cord. Eventually he paid me days later after a lot of follow up. He may be sketchy but he always follows through. Until he didn’t.
I agreed to one more session, but I was not going to leave until he paid me. This time he had a visitor over in his bathroom showering…for over an hour. While we were in session. I didn’t care that the visitor was in the next room, but then the client asks if he can have his friend join us. He wanted to watch us play. I agreed. It took a while for him to get the guy out of the bathroom. Weird. Red flag.
Then in walks a guy I can best describe as a scraggly 20 something meth head Jesus. The client watched us play as he requested. I was weirded out because I noticed at some point Jesus had open sores on his body, and not of the stigmata variety. WTF. Not cool.
The client suddenly leaves the room and doesn’t come back after a while. Concerned, I go look for him but he is nowhere to be seen in the house. I ask his roommate the client’s whereabouts to no avail. I go back to the client’s room and chat with Jesus for a while. Jesus goes looking for him, can’t find him either. Time is coming to an end and I have something booked after I have to travel for. So I’m not sure what to do. The client went MIA.
Then the client suddenly emerged, teary eyed. Apparently he was hiding in a shed in his back yard, sobbing, really upset by something I apparently did. WTF. I explained that I had to get going and that he needs to pay me. He ran off and hid in the shed again. WTF. So I decided to leave.
The client later goes on a tirade blaming me for all his emotional distress. I try to calm him down and come back the next day while he is not on drugs to talk. We go through everything and he comes to agree with me that it was on him for taking so much G, and that he shouldn’t have brought a vagrant in off the street and involved him in our session. It was disrespectful to the vagrant and to me to use each of us in that way. But he says that I was into the vagrant (I wasn’t, believe me) and that I ignored him (I didn’t, I kept checking in asking if he was enjoying himself), and that I took advantage of him. After all that he reluctantly agrees to pay me, saying he will send it later that day. I leave.
I wasn’t holding my breath. After a lot of long, histrionic, barely intelligible texts from the client in the following days, the client decided not to pay me after all, and turns downright nasty. I finally concluded that I have to block him, cut my losses, and move on. I know where he lives. I could make his life a living hell, but I don’t have time for games or petty bullshit. And that’s not the kind of person I am.
Fast forward to this month. A provider I know in Las Vegas reached out asking if I knew [client] and I warned the provider to not see the client, that he was mentally unstable and on drugs. The provider decided to see him anyway. Apparently the client has alienated everyone in San Diego, so he is asking for sessions with men hundreds of miles away now. My provider friend tells me the client goes around flashing his gun in his trashy circus circus hotel room and is taking more drugs. Seriously unsafe, and unhinged. Eventually the client pays *part* of what he owes the provider, but it was with money he asked to borrow from a friend.
So sad. No more seeing clients who use. It’s unsafe, unreliable, and unnecessary.
You guys may have flaky provider experiences at times, but man, some of us providers really go through the wringer with these sketchy clients. All the more reason so many of us are guarded, jaded, and unwilling to put up with clients displaying any hint of red flag behavior. We have to protect ourselves.

Hi all,
I'm going to take a vacation and I'm thinking about hiring someone for the first time. I want to experience being submissive and pleasing a dominant dude. But I don't have a lot of experience and my butthole is like a dolphin. 
What's an appropriate way to communicate to a provider that I'd like them to be dominant but I'm also nervous and don't have a lot of experience? Being pushed outside my comfort zone is what I'm looking for but I also don't know what my limit is and I don't want to disappoint anyone or freak them/myself out. Thanks in advance for the help. 

As always, when people talk about someone, misinformation can easily circulate. I’d like to take a moment to clarify a few things.
 
First, I have never asked for $400, certainly not in 2024. When I first started, my rate was $200, and over time it increased to $350, which is a recent adjustment. On a few occasions, I have charged more than $400, but only in very specific and unconventional situations.
 
My rate is set by me alone and reflects much more than physical appearance. It encompasses the nature of the work itself, including emotional labor, personal boundaries, and situations that can be challenging or uncomfortable. Sharing intimacy with someone you don’t know — and may not even like — requires care, professionalism, and mutual respect, which is why a fair and mutually satisfying exchange is essential.
 
Everyone has different tastes, and that’s completely fine. If someone feels my rate isn’t for them, I respect that. What isn’t fair is deciding the value of my work without truly knowing me. Photos and cameras rarely reflect the full experience, and I’m confident in the fact that people consistently find me more pleasant and engaging in person than in images.
 
For anyone who has doubts, I’m happy to invite you to a video call so you can better understand the value and reasoning behind my fee.

Hi all,
I'm going to take a vacation and I'm thinking about hiring someone for the first time. I want to experience being submissive and pleasing a dominant dude. But I don't have a lot of experience and my butthole is like a dolphin. 
What's an appropriate way to communicate to a provider that I'd like them to be dominant but I'm also nervous and don't have a lot of experience? Being pushed outside my comfort zone is what I'm looking for but I also don't know what my limit is and I don't want to disappoint anyone or freak them/myself out. Thanks in advance for the help. 

No, @CuriousByNature was right. It's the whistles and clicks. 😜

No, @CuriousByNature was right. It's the whistles and clicks. 😜

No, @CuriousByNature was right. It's the whistles and clicks. 😜

I'm trying to figure out what it means to have a butthole like a dolphin...
Will it do tricks when you dangle a fish in front of it?  Can it whistle and click, and use echolocation?  Does it have smooth skin with a layer of blubber for insulation?  
I hope you understand the porpoise of my questions.
 

This is fan fiction, not advice.

Sorry, I meant that I was planning to hire someone for a night on my vacation. I'm not planning on spending a vacation with someone. I should have written that more clearly.

Hi all,
I'm going to take a vacation and I'm thinking about hiring someone for the first time. I want to experience being submissive and pleasing a dominant dude. But I don't have a lot of experience and my butthole is like a dolphin. 
What's an appropriate way to communicate to a provider that I'd like them to be dominant but I'm also nervous and don't have a lot of experience? Being pushed outside my comfort zone is what I'm looking for but I also don't know what my limit is and I don't want to disappoint anyone or freak them/myself out. Thanks in advance for the help. 

You know, that's great advice! After reading tips here on the forums I think I'll ask the first hour be spent grabbing a drink/coffee and feeling out the vibe, make sure he's feeling me and I'm feeling him. All of this assumes I have the balls to go through with it 😅. 

This is fan fiction, not advice.

Sorry, I meant that I was planning to hire someone for a night on my vacation. I'm not planning on spending a vacation with someone. I should have written that more clearly.

You know, that's great advice! After reading tips here on the forums I think I'll ask the first hour be spent grabbing a drink/coffee and feeling out the vibe, make sure he's feeling me and I'm feeling him. All of this assumes I have the balls to go through with it 😅. 

Sorry, I meant that I was planning to hire someone for a night on my vacation. I'm not planning on spending a vacation with someone. I should have written that more clearly.

You know, that's great advice! After reading tips here on the forums I think I'll ask the first hour be spent grabbing a drink/coffee and feeling out the vibe, make sure he's feeling me and I'm feeling him. All of this assumes I have the balls to go through with it 😅. 

I really like the way you put this. Why don't you just send this to a provider. If he's willing, I'd also recommend a 5 minute phone call with him. So you can be comfortable with the vibe. Also, if any of us have met the provider and can tell you he's good at being a dom, then you could take some of that advice into the meeting. Good luck stud!

Okay, that makes sense. That's what I meant when I included that comment about Cabo in my first reply.

I've been in this scenario before. I basically was just very upfront and direct about what i wanted, what i wanted to try, roughly how much i wanted to be pushed past my limit, and things i knew were absolutely off limits. That way they know your baseline, where you want to go, that they know they're allowed to push a little past that, but know where the hard line is and to absolutely cannot cross it under any circumstance till you explicitly say otherwise. This lets you feel safe to dip your toe into discomfort to find pleasure, but not be so scared of falling into the deep end before you know how to swim that you don't even stick your toe in the pool.

One last unfortunate financial situation for 2025:  by not going to Stopnshop today I will be forfeiting 23 GoPoints, which expire today.  That's 23 cents I'll never get back.