This was difficult to read because my best friend in high school also lost his wife at a young age. He raised his daughter and his special needs son on his own. But, his children had first cousins close by. That allowed him to explore his sexual feeling for men sooner than most.
But, it was never easy, his older brother, a drunk driver, was killed driving in the wrong direction on a major highway. Two people were killed in the other car. His mother never recovered from that accident.