sam.fitzpatrick

No, it was one with individual stalls. On my campus, there was only one dorm that had what we referred to as gang bang showers. At the rec center on the other hand.....

I had three or four guys living on my dorm floor that were 8 - 10 years older than the rest of us after having opted to enlist right out of high school.

I would meet in the lobby. I usually tell co-workers before the evening that I have plans to meet a college friend (or former neighbor) for dinner, so they don't expect me to join them for the evening. If we bump into them in the lobby, I start to head out the door with the escort as if we're going to eat and then say, "oops, I don't have my wallet, it is up in the room. Can we run up there to get it?" I'm only had to use it once, and it worked well.

It will be good to have you back next year! (Thanks for the reminder - my flights are not yet booked.)

@Realalist, I think many of fear the rejection. In the ten years I've been pursuing this hobby, I've realized that I'm not going to have a mind-blowing experience if I don't go outside of my comfort zone and reach out to someone whose ad has me interested. When hiring someone for the first time, whether for an escort or massage experience, I include a brief bio about myself. I like to think it helps a provider understand my sincerity in the potential hire and also politely decline the opportunity if he's not comfortable with my stats. (It also helps for some masseurs planning our session if they have tables with weight limitations that might not support us both if that is part of the masseur's technique.) Last week while vacationing, the communication went like this: "Hi Bob, I'm Sam and I saw your ad on xxxxx. I'm looking for an erotic massage tonight in Ft. Lauderdale and was hoping you would have an open appointment. I'm looking for a 90 minute session at my hotel/your place. About me: I'm 55, 5'10", 330, DDF and on PrEP." I will get one of three responses and an occasional no reply. (1) Thanks Sam, I'm available at 9p tonight. (2) Thanks for the interest Sam. Sorry, I'm booked tonight. Would you be interested in tomorrow? (3) Thanks for the interest. I'm sorry, I'm not available. I would say 70% of the time, I receive either reply #1 or #2. So I find that by narrowing my selection to advertisers that list their age as over 30 (sometimes I drop it to 25) helps reduce the quantity of no responses. Last week, I contacted five first-time providers. The results of my five inquiries were: 3 - yes, let's book. (I actually scheduled time with two, the third could only meet while I had dinner plans with friends) 1 - sorry, I'm moving tomorrow and need to finishing packing. How about next week? 1 - no reply For the two appointments I actually had with first time providers for erotic massage, one was satisfactory and the second was unbelievably wonderful. I hope sharing how I approach it, will make things a little less anxious for you.

I have two sisters; both are straight. Between them I have three nephews. One of the three is gay.

Unfortunately, often times the abuser doesn’t know how to ask for forgiveness. Often it takes the victim opening the communication channel before the abuser can ask for forgiveness.

It's got to be him. I've never had a massage therapist (male or female) perform a massage and expect the client to remained clothed; draping might be required but under the sheet I'm fully naked.

Do people from out of state really enjoy an OSU football game? (For the benefit of other Forum members, Oliver knows I attended another Big Ten school.)

I did use the spa on one of my stays at Cabanas, maybe about three years ago. I had a hot stone massage in the morning, and after lunch I had a mani/pedi. I was pleased with the services. The space is set up well and a separate gentleman handles the front desk. Next time I'm staying more than 24 hours I will use the spa again.

I doubt you would be a nightmare client. I've hired several escorts that would be great in this situation. When I started hiring, my opening line would be, "Hi Joe, I am Sam. I saw your ad and would be interested in spending time together. About me: I'm 45, 5'10", overweight guy who has only started having M2M sex in the last year and would like to experience _________." Only one guy responded no and a couple that did not respond. I had several more that were open to seeing me and most were great experiences. Those that we're great we not bad, but I just had chosen some guys who were newer to being escorts and not really ready to give me what I needed then. You might also consider hiring a sex therapist. I believe a couple of members on the forum have received formal training in the area, such as @Lance_Navarro. I found another thread on the topic with this info to help find therapists in your area.

Here in the Midwest, most have cars and traveling to see me shouldn't require Uber - - thus I've always assumed that the outcall rate covered transportation. I would completely understand an increase in the outcall rate if traveling outside of the typical market.

For a same day appointment I agree. However, if I'm planning out longer, if I get no response in 24 hours I will send a second text message starting from scratch as if it is my first message. I've found that I usually get a response to the second message. (If the guy got the first message, he knows I'm a little more serious by making the second attempt; however, he isn't offended by me explicitly asking, "why didn't you reply to my first message?")

As a client, it amazes when I see someone only in town for a day when I factor the transportation cost, I wonder the cost effectiveness of such a plan. (I realize that sometimes, an escort is traveling for another career and is only in town for two days of business, and thus may only advertise availability for one night.)

Interesting question. When I first started having anal sex, I decided I should explore some to discover what I enjoyed. I tried a lot of things and am still finding new things that I find surprisingly enjoyable. Four of my five most pleasurable sexual experiences have come when I've bottomed. Three things stick out about bottoming: 1. As time went on, one thing that I discovered is I have a need to feel the physical contact with the guy I'm with. I don't get that same emotional satisfaction from topping and only occasionally from oral. There's nothing better than wrapping my legs around a guy's waist or giving him a bear hug as he is topping me. 2. I love the look on a guy's face as I demonstrate that I've been doing kegels. I love knowing that I can give my partner pleasure when bottoming. 2. Sometimes it is more about my ego rather than sexual enjoyment, although they are not mutually exclusive. The shy boy in me wants to prove I can do anything. For example, in my non-sex life that includes doing my first competitive running since 5th grade at age 46 when I decided to do a half-marathon or work hard at the gym to be able to leg press all of the plates on the machine. In my sex life, that includes testing how far I can go before my gap reflex kicks in, how hard a fucking my hole can take, or how big of a toy my partner can use on me. There's pride in having bragging rights about having done or being able to do something.

The reasons the audience is targeted to those of us around 50 and older are pretty basic: 1. For the most part, the younger generations often are not likely to be ready to think about retirement 2. Depending on the firm the financial planner works for, there is often a minimum portfolio size clients must bring to open an account and younger folks often do not meet that threshold 3. For those of us that have retirement plans in place, many of us want reassurance that what our current planner is telling us is the right thing or can we make more money? 4. As folks are nearing retirement from long-term employment, many will have 401(k) or pension plans that can be rolled over into options that are not available from their employers.

I have stayed at the Cabanas three times and enjoy it. It is a relaxed setting and as a plus, the Spa is provides great services. I've found the other guests will to socialize. My last visit had quite a wide age-range of guests staying there. I will stay there again.

To the extent that I've invited the escort to travel, I have paid for the transportation in advance. While I'm sure that an unscrupulous escort could cancel plane ticket and pocket the funds and stand me up, but that has never happened.

Well, the illusion the hand over the package gives me is that the underwear isn't flattering enough to show how it might look. It must not be worth purchasing.

I was looking at ads for sexy underwear and continue to be stumped on the approach taken for some of the photos. While some brands do not hide the fact that a certain designs are transparent (such as lace or mesh fabrics), other brands are prudish and pixilate or stuff hands into the briefs to cover the cock. What's up with that?

My very first massage session I selected a masseur whose ad was more explicit that masseurfinder would allow these day - - something along the lines of "your hour massage will include 45 minutes of massage and finish with 15 minutes of oral play." My second massage came from a guy who gave me an overview of my session when I arrived and indicated that it would include a prostate massage. Although I had been told I would get one, I was shocked when he inserted his thumb to start that section of the massage. (Not so shocked that I didn't go back four weeks later!) Basically, if I ask for an erotic massage I expect nudity, mutual touch, and HE. Only about once a year does a massage include oral. I've only had one erotic massage in the last ten years with me receiving anal.

@bostonman - Glad to hear that you followed your impulse to see if BrianKevin could swing by. He is a caring guy and sometimes the stars align to have right person there at the right time even when you are not expecting it. How nice this happened for you. Wishing you the best as you start with your therapist.

Hit the hot tub and talk to the others in the tub. I've had good conversations some nights and other times there may have been some more hands on activities in the tub - - some I watched and I may have joined in once or twice .

My very first massage appointment was with Peter in 2008 and started me on this hobby. I have hired him twice since then and each time it has been a great massage.

No one has mastered marketing to the big and tall men's market. If one men's wear company were to do that, (with the same quality that they provide to their existing customer base) it could be tap a very loyal customer base.