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Well if that's the case you might want to rethink this hobby. Despite saying "safe" most engage in barebacking in their personal lives or on the down low with clients. My suggestion would be to play safe and get on PrEP. Protect yourself and all will be fine.

It's the time of year. Around tax time I keep a tight fist on my wallet. I'm sure other clients do the same.

An hour wouldn't be enough time to unwind and be present after a long drive. I would definitely offer two hours plus $200 for travel. Seems like a lot, but if the escort doesn't know you they'll need some incentive. If you decide to see someone regularly then you could negotiate that down. Perhaps an offer of "if you're ever having a slow night give me a shout." They're not going to drop good local business to travel without incentive. Same goes for my own line of work.

An hour wouldn't be enough time to unwind and be present after a long drive. I would definitely offer two hours plus $200 for travel. Seems like a lot, but if the escort doesn't know you they'll need some incentive. If you decide to see someone regularly then you could negotiate that down. Perhaps an offer of "if you're ever having a slow night give me a shout." They're not going to drop good local business to travel without incentive. Same goes for my own line of work.

Just be sure to bring flowers and buy dinner for the goat first. Even if the it doesn't consent, it will owe you one.

Ah. Wish I saw this before posting elsewhere. I doubt the changes will protect them. We'll see what happens.

I have dealt with this a number of times, but mostly from newbies. When I used to fish on Craigslist it was quite common, but how could I complain when only having to pay a $50-$100 fee for a multiple hour engagement? I guess you just need to gauge how interested you are in this fella. If I was lukewarm, I'd move on.

I subscribe to the theory that people are not machines. Not everybody is going to be enthusiastic about 'performing' with ME. I have no problem sending a picture or answering questions from a service provider.
 
I am sorry to say, but sending a picture of a $100 bill is just plain RUDE.

I’m not gonna raise my rates because I feel like I’m already ahead of the curve on this one. That said, my rate is already hundreds above average. I do agree with the premise of the letter and Blake’s sentiments tho.
 
Being an escort is risky work. We lack benefits and social support. We lack legal rights related to our work. We are often ostracised from family and community support because of what we do. Sometimes we can’t find lovers, or our lovers tokenise us because they find it “sexy” what we do for a living (a completely unsustainable dynamic in the long term). We do not charge $200 or $300 or $500 an hour because we EARN that much per hour. That is merely a BILLING rate for BILLABLE hours. Our work is comprised of SO much more that is necessary and also non-billable. The risks we take and the social consequences we face due to stigma can also not be assigned a dollar value. We deserve to be compensated more than we are. As much as we can manage to charge. Why should sexual professionals be making $20-30K per year when the clients we serve often make $50-100K per year? There’s absolutely no reason for any client to take on the attitude that we don’t deserve to increase billing rate from $200 to $300 per hour or whatever. That’s not a 33% increase in our wage. To claim so displays a distorted and naive view of economics.
 
Anyone who thinks demand is going to decrease with SESTA/FOSTA is very mistaken. We are not in an acute economic crisis, nor are clients being more heavily criminalised by this law. Clients will ALWAYS want sex as long as they have money. What’s decreasing is the SUPPLY in this case, the availability of escort ads. The demand is not going ANYWHERE. We have seen this pattern over and over again as various escort ad venues have been shut. Clients stick with their regulars and look for new ways to find escorts. Escorts who have their shit together and keep a mailing list or are constantly finding new ways to advertise are going to be fine.
 
But the loss of ad venues, review boards, and screening resources means more marketing expenses for us. More risk. More labor as we explore new ways to reach our client base. These are all the “non billable” aspects of pur labor. When we see our non-billable expenses increasing, why the hell wouldn’t we raise our rates for billable hours?? Literally any industry would do the same.
 
If you as a client can’t afford to book as often due to increased rates- here’s an idea: book less often. Here’s another idea: get a 2nd job. Make an investment into something income-generating so you can use the proceeds to supplement your escort budget. These are all things that people have to do when they participate in any expensive hobby on a limited budget.
 
The only reason that clients who shop RM think that rates higher than $250 or $300 are “ridiculous” is simply market norms. Once male escorts widely start to raise rates above these levels, the market will adjust. It’s common for female escorts to charge $500 and I promise you that frequent renters make the EXACT SAME comments on those boards implying that they will stop hiring or that the demand will drain out of the market due to the high rates. It hasn’t happened. The market adjusts as rates increase and escorts who charge higher rates continue to earn well in a lower volume business model.
 
I have been experimenting with offering $500/hr sessions, but my minimum was $1000 (or more) for two hours for years, and it continues to be my most often-booked session. Yes, I could see 20 clients a month for $200 each, or I could see 4 clients a month for $1000 each. Which business model do you think is more successful for me? Which business model do you think will suffer less in an era where all our advertising sites (including this website and RM) disappear?

I fondly remember learning BASIC on that machine.
 
Kevin Slater

Perhaps it's time we start a GoFundMe to relocate Daddy and his servers overseas.

Personally, I rather enjoyed the days of the hustler bars and cruising for street trade. You knew what you were getting from the get-go and there was a certain level of excitement. Oh, and don't get me started on those occasional rest-stop rendez-vous! All have disappeared due to the internet. I hope for at least a bit of a comeback.

Perhaps it's time we start a GoFundMe to relocate Daddy and his servers overseas.

Personally, I rather enjoyed the days of the hustler bars and cruising for street trade. You knew what you were getting from the get-go and there was a certain level of excitement. Oh, and don't get me started on those occasional rest-stop rendez-vous! All have disappeared due to the internet. I hope for at least a bit of a comeback.

Personally, I rather enjoyed the days of the hustler bars and cruising for street trade. You knew what you were getting from the get-go and there was a certain level of excitement. Oh, and don't get me started on those occasional rest-stop rendez-vous! All have disappeared due to the internet. I hope for at least a bit of a comeback.

Now see, when @HornyRetiree mentioned van, my mind went here...
 

I always enjoy his use of big words yet he doesn't understand basic grammar, sentence structure or when to use capital letters. If you're trying to sound smarter than you are, please take the time to learn the basics.

Personally, I'm a little suspicious. If you're in Seattle and looking, you really should engage Andrew Maroc while he's there. 5 stars and then some!

You may not be everyone's cup of tea, but chances are you're someone's. Escorts come in all shapes, sizes and niches. I know guys who are average at best who are cleaning-up financially. Even more so than the modelesque guys or porn stars. Just experiment in your city and charge a reasonable rate (200-250) and go from there.

I always enjoy his use of big words yet he doesn't understand basic grammar, sentence structure or when to use capital letters. If you're trying to sound smarter than you are, please take the time to learn the basics.

*eye rolls*

I believe Mocha is a good example of someone suffering from the Dunning–Kruger effect.

I believe Mocha is a good example of someone suffering from the Dunning–Kruger effect.

No mystery as to why you have a shortage of clients.

No mystery as to why you have a shortage of clients.