i feel bad my comments made you defensive, and apologies if our wires got crossed regrading my expectations. you're handsome, sweet, forthcoming and honest, and did your best to be accommodating. i have no doubt there are many clients who are very satisfied with what you have to offer. you're a very cool dude and i know you will develop a clientele that appreciates the services you're comfortable offering.
some providers do require pictures or video chats prior to meeting. i would personally not do that because applying for intimacy seems to kick the legs out from under it, and it still doesn't guarantee chemistry. everyone finds their own way to feel comfortable, and you will as well. also, in my experience, many dudes are easily aroused in every context, while others prefer to be turned on by the client.
and while i'm clear that the kind of interaction we're discussing here is actually professional, i feel compelled to add that spending time with a provider who is unable to respond can feel rejecting, the same way it does when you're seeking recreational intimacy. having said that, i honestly don't understand how providers offer what they do to their clients. i'm grateful there are people in the world who do.