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So i made a post few days ago about wanting to hire a guy but he was unavaliable so i decided to get someone else for 2hrs 250e + travel paid found him thru site called ,,romeo'' he had few reviews so i thought itd be fine he was younger lik 29years old (for context im 24 years old and i look completely fine) he came we started slowly but he couldnt get it up at all saying he could and if he does wed just finish 2 fast making excuses that its ,,cold'' in the house? After that he asked me to turn on some videos i did and again nothing... I got so pissed off i just paid him 100 just to leave worst exp of my life did any of u go thru something similar? Id link his profile but im p sure he deleted it since i cant find it just wanted to vent my frustration dont think ill be doing this again and wanted you guys to share stories if u had something similar happen legit.

I met JayJay for a collaboration. This was for one of my clients visiting San Diego the week of Thanksgiving 2024. JayJay doesn’t drive, so he charges to offset rideshares. My studio is not far away, so to simplify things, I picked him up at his place in Hillcrest and drove to the client’s hotel.
The client enjoyed our two hour session together. Kinky stuff, massage, threesome play, spitroasting, voyeur play watching us go at it, and plenty of sensual and erotic touch throughout. JayJay was great to work with, and easy to communicate with before and after. He thanked me for making it so easy for him. I arranged everything.
A highlight was the rimming. I can’t say this about many men, but JayJay got me throbbing hard as I sat on his face. He didn’t want to stop, saying he loved eating my hole. Then, when I took my turn, I had him moaning, eyes rolled back, toes curling, cock raging hard, begging me not to stop. And of course we fucked the client and each other. That rimming though…hot!
JayJay is stunning. I did not ask him directly about his real age because I think it’s rude and not particularly relevant, but he did ask me that question in person and I gave him my real age, which is the age I list on my ads. I am guessing he is early 40s, but he looks young. Beautiful body, build and skin. Hot booty. Nice long cock, and not so girthy, which I personally like. Tastes vary, take that for what it is. Striking greenish eyes. His photos are flattering, to be sure, not 100% the way he looks in person, but not in any way that you should concern yourselves about. He’s hot from head to toe!
Re: Experience. He spent many years being supported by a few sugar daddies in NYC. He’s less experienced as your typical “multiple client” escort, but he’s been doing more of this work over the past year or two in addition to his massage. Some periods not working while he takes care of some life things. Interesting guy. You will have to ask him for more details. I can’t say he’s a feminine guy or anything, but certainly not your hyper macho type either. If extreme masculinity is your thing, maybe he’s not the one for you.
JayJay advertises massage services too, see his RentMasseur ad for that. We really only did some bed massage as foreplay for the rest of the session, so I can’t speak to his massage skills or style. It’s on the steeper end for San Diego, but not crazy, starting at $185/hr. It’s in that $180-$250 no go zone I have opinions about, but hey, if he strikes your fancy maybe try him. He tells me his massages feel like a “spiritual experience”. Y’all be the judge of that. 
His rates for escort service are close to mine: $325/hr, or $500/2-hrs. Verify of course since these things change over time. Quite reasonable in the going range for our area. I recommend JayJay. He is fun, easy to work with, talk to, and gorgeous.

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There are always travel fees. It can be a flat fee, or increase to the outcall price or based on the particular situation. This may include gas, parking fees, or an Uber. 
Providers should be expected to bring whatever materials are necessary to perform the job, but NOT pay any amount to conduct the session. 
 
For those trying to make the comparison, can confirm plumbers and gardeners have lower rates when you bring your plumbing and yards to them ...🫩

Put yourself in an escort's place. At 10:00 p.m. a potential client texts you asking you to be as soon as possible at an airport hotel. Trying to save time you call him to know what he's into, other details and mostly to get a feeling, and you discover he's using a Google Voice number... You check Uber and the ride to the airport is $40 each way... Would you ask him to send you an Uber to make sure he's for real? 
 
 

He is a self claimed “native American” lol. That is a red flag right there.

Another suggestion is to avoid providers who post pics in their ads of themselves picking at their GOLD teeth.
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A podcast is interviewing me soon. We’re going to talk about m4m sex work. The audience is primarily gay men and other LGBTQ+ folks, but isn’t as knowledgeable as most of you here on The Company of Men. Most of them have never hired a masseur or sex worker before. They will want to know all the basics. It’s hard for me to step back and put myself in the shoes of someone who knows almost nothing about the profession, or perhaps has misconceptions about our work.
What questions would you ask me?
What do you think I should cover?
Is there anything you would like other men who are interested in men to know about hiring? Any advice for them?
Some topic ideas:
General
What is sex work?
Who does sex work? 
Who hires sex work?
Why is sex work important and valuable?
Is sex work really work?
Economics
How much do sex workers make?
Why does it cost so much?
What about discounts?
Do I tip my sex worker? How much?
How do I receive the best value for my money?
Do sex workers pay taxes?
What methods of payment can I use?
Risks, Personal Safety
Is sex work legal?
Is sex work safe?
What about STIs?
Will I get in trouble?
Are sex workers discreet?
Will anyone find out?
How do sex workers screen?
How do I select a good sex worker?
How do I avoid fraud and scams?
Practical Matters
Cum
Erections
Performance
Stamina
Hygiene
Sex roles, preferences
Communication 
Expectations
Other
Why do you do this work?
Do sex workers have romantic relationships?
 

It could be he takes a while to respond because he's regularly on a different account. Whatsapp allows multiple accounts, but users generally only get notifications for the account they are logged into. 

Just out of curiosity, how much do you typically expect to pay a provider?

What you're asking is confusing. The person you intend to block wasn't looking at your blank profile. You mentioned that you added to your profile, which is when you then had everyday visitors - like me (I'm not whoever that other guy is, but it's not uncommon for me to become a fan of clients who see multiple men I've seen also seen before, so I visit their profile and read different reviews each day).
Is there a picture of yourself with your added information? This too could create many visitors. There's a guy I'm a fan of who hires like I do who has a tremendous body and superb penis bulge in his pics. He hopes to be able to tag along with other men who hire, since he doesn't have his own transportation. He looks so great, it's common for men he's seeing to go out of their way to pick him up and drop him back off. 

It's about identity.
The same way trans people identify as something that we all know isn't actually true. But modern social theory says that we should respect the way that person identifies, not what is precisely true. 
"Straight" identity in men who are actually bisexual typically means their identity is based on their primary relationship status. Married to a woman, primarily attracted to women, or only romantically interested in women.
The old attitude of being "gay the second you stick your dick in a dude", is archaic. For examoke, I don't personally identify as "straight" just because  I'm married to a woman, but I have been told, plenty of times that I am not bi, but actually gay because I am also attracted to (some) men. In this case, these gay guys, who are happy to acknowledge some dude in a dress is a woman, will give ME a hard time, when I identify as bisexual. 
In the end, how a person identifies should be at least acknowledged, in spite of any contradictory information that may lead you to believe otherwise. Yes - the straight identifying m4m escorts are not actually straight. But we dont need to tell them how to express themselves same way you shouldn't call out a dude-in-a-dress for being a liar.

Excellent insight.  When I used to get massages weekly when I did daily physical training, I always requested a masseur for that reason.  Only once did I receive a massage from a masseuse that was up to par with the deep work that masseurs usually provide.  I still remember when and where she worked, even though it was over 15 years ago. 
And of course, I was so relaxed and in a state of bliss at the end of her massage that I wouldn't have refused a handjob if she offered.  But there was none, and I still left  happy with the service, and I never once thought to change my sexual identity during that hour.

Many guys like a deep thorough massage and women are less reliably good at delivering that. 
Massage generally makes you horny delivered by either gender.  They may or may not want a happy ending, but who delivers it isn't the priority of the session. Gay guys can get HEs from guys they're not at all attracted to or get aroused when massaged by women. 
It makes sense for straight guys to go to guys even for erotic massage, and it's not as telling as you might think of their sexuality.

Situations for tipping: 
1. Your provider accommodates your irregular requests.
-  ...
2. You are high maintenance. 
- If you need to be strangled and spat on to cum, you should probably be tipping
3. You have a reason to apologize.
- If you've made same day cancellations, untimely reschedules or arrive late 
 
A good 2/3rds of my clients tip. Most 10-20 bucks.  I think it's because it's become national habit and because my rates are very reasonable.
An interesting amount pay the standard rate online and tip higher than the nude rate in person. I also get newer clients who tend to be wide-eyed after a session and like to empty their wallets ... 🤷🏾‍♂️ 
Under regular circumstances you should never feel obligated to provide a tip and you SHOULD NOT tip if it lowers the frequency for which you can get a massage.
Please read that again, because if you're calculating the tip to meet budget costs it's counterproductive. 
 
Tipping is also useful for making a lasting impression on your provider. But only outrageously high ones, so this should never be used as a tactic ... unless you're attempting to hire someone for a Diddy party in the future and want them open to it 

I did do a tandem sensual massage for two lesbians one time (tandem massage is two tables, two masseurs, two clients, massaging next to each other, the masseurs switch tables part way through).
I’m bi, so was the other masseur. Before the session we wondered whether the two lesbians would interact with us in any way. Despite us being naked and available to touch the lesbians were only interested in receiving touch and got turned on by the proximity and sound of their partner enjoying their massage. They both climaxed at the same time. So unfortunately we didn’t turn them straight 😕. Probably made them even more lesbian.
I find ‘straight’ women are much more relaxed about same sex activities than ‘straight’ guys. I’ve been at parties with straight couples and the women play with each other easily whereas the guys are really anxious about doing anything ‘gay’. It’s like they think if they let me touch their cock within 5 minutes I’ll be balls deep in their hole…and they worry they might enjoy it 😂. 

Situations for tipping: 
1. Your provider accommodates your irregular requests.
-  ...
2. You are high maintenance. 
- If you need to be strangled and spat on to cum, you should probably be tipping
3. You have a reason to apologize.
- If you've made same day cancellations, untimely reschedules or arrive late 
 
A good 2/3rds of my clients tip. Most 10-20 bucks.  I think it's because it's become national habit and because my rates are very reasonable.
An interesting amount pay the standard rate online and tip higher than the nude rate in person. I also get newer clients who tend to be wide-eyed after a session and like to empty their wallets ... 🤷🏾‍♂️ 
Under regular circumstances you should never feel obligated to provide a tip and you SHOULD NOT tip if it lowers the frequency for which you can get a massage.
Please read that again, because if you're calculating the tip to meet budget costs it's counterproductive. 
 
Tipping is also useful for making a lasting impression on your provider. But only outrageously high ones, so this should never be used as a tactic ... unless you're attempting to hire someone for a Diddy party in the future and want them open to it 

Situations for tipping: 
1. Your provider accommodates your irregular requests.
-  ...
2. You are high maintenance. 
- If you need to be strangled and spat on to cum, you should probably be tipping
3. You have a reason to apologize.
- If you've made same day cancellations, untimely reschedules or arrive late 
 
A good 2/3rds of my clients tip. Most 10-20 bucks.  I think it's because it's become national habit and because my rates are very reasonable.
An interesting amount pay the standard rate online and tip higher than the nude rate in person. I also get newer clients who tend to be wide-eyed after a session and like to empty their wallets ... 🤷🏾‍♂️ 
Under regular circumstances you should never feel obligated to provide a tip and you SHOULD NOT tip if it lowers the frequency for which you can get a massage.
Please read that again, because if you're calculating the tip to meet budget costs it's counterproductive. 
 
Tipping is also useful for making a lasting impression on your provider. But only outrageously high ones, so this should never be used as a tactic ... unless you're attempting to hire someone for a Diddy party in the future and want them open to it 

Situations for tipping: 
1. Your provider accommodates your irregular requests.
-  ...
2. You are high maintenance. 
- If you need to be strangled and spat on to cum, you should probably be tipping
3. You have a reason to apologize.
- If you've made same day cancellations, untimely reschedules or arrive late 
 
A good 2/3rds of my clients tip. Most 10-20 bucks.  I think it's because it's become national habit and because my rates are very reasonable.
An interesting amount pay the standard rate online and tip higher than the nude rate in person. I also get newer clients who tend to be wide-eyed after a session and like to empty their wallets ... 🤷🏾‍♂️ 
Under regular circumstances you should never feel obligated to provide a tip and you SHOULD NOT tip if it lowers the frequency for which you can get a massage.
Please read that again, because if you're calculating the tip to meet budget costs it's counterproductive. 
 
Tipping is also useful for making a lasting impression on your provider. But only outrageously high ones, so this should never be used as a tactic ... unless you're attempting to hire someone for a Diddy party in the future and want them open to it 

Situations for tipping: 
1. Your provider accommodates your irregular requests.
-  ...
2. You are high maintenance. 
- If you need to be strangled and spat on to cum, you should probably be tipping
3. You have a reason to apologize.
- If you've made same day cancellations, untimely reschedules or arrive late 
 
A good 2/3rds of my clients tip. Most 10-20 bucks.  I think it's because it's become national habit and because my rates are very reasonable.
An interesting amount pay the standard rate online and tip higher than the nude rate in person. I also get newer clients who tend to be wide-eyed after a session and like to empty their wallets ... 🤷🏾‍♂️ 
Under regular circumstances you should never feel obligated to provide a tip and you SHOULD NOT tip if it lowers the frequency for which you can get a massage.
Please read that again, because if you're calculating the tip to meet budget costs it's counterproductive. 
 
Tipping is also useful for making a lasting impression on your provider. But only outrageously high ones, so this should never be used as a tactic ... unless you're attempting to hire someone for a Diddy party in the future and want them open to it 

YES

Yes, book in advance. I’ve someone booked for next May! That’s extreme. If you leave it to ‘hey are you available today?’ I probably reply with ‘sorry I’m busy’ because I plan things ahead. I’ll probably have someone booked, or another commitment. Last minute rarely works. Last minute clients are usually flaky anyway; they haven’t mentally committed to it, it’s a whim. ‘Hey, free now / next hour or so’ is a big red flag. 

I get this request from time to time. I entertain clients wanting to massage me and I do it for my hourly massage rate. I decline requests for me to do this for free, however. I am not volunteering for unskilled people to work on my body and - let’s be honest - most of them get tired or bored of the whole thing and give up after ten minutes or less anyway.
Or they just want to jerk me off for free, which 1) is unpleasant for me 2) interferes with my ability to perform for clients, or 3) interferes with my personal sex life. This is not community service. Pay sex work rates for my cum, or at least pay massage rates for time to indulge your “touch a sexy masseur” fantasy (sans cum). 
When I get a massage, I prefer a skilled man going the entire time, so I hire a professional. Sometimes I trade massage time with other masseurs. Never has it crossed my mind to seek out a client to massage me.

5’7” 😍

I’ve been thinking about this a lot today as I brace myself for several hours of returning calls today that my boss forwarded to me this morning.  I genuinely don’t understand why anyone (with the exception of someone who is not up to date technologically, which describes none of the people who called) would make a phone call for a basic inquiry or to schedule, when an email is infinitely more efficient for both sides.
A couple months ago, I got a phone call from a potential client (one who I had already spoken to, so she had my cell number) to schedule a visit.  Almost an hour on the phone was spent of her talking to the person she was in the room with to work out what time worked for them when I just kept saying “any time in that window works!”  So that was almost an hour wasted of my workday that could have been a 2-sentence email, which I then had to confirm via email anyway!