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Thoroughly agree! Michael is a must-try. His style is Thai which few other therapists are able to pull off anywhere near as well.
Top scores for his percussion calf work! 💯

I agree. The purpose of a review isn't to complement someone for a good job; it's to give future clients insight on what to expect from a client perspective.

I agree. The purpose of a review isn't to complement someone for a good job; it's to give future clients insight on what to expect from a client perspective.

I agree. The purpose of a review isn't to complement someone for a good job; it's to give future clients insight on what to expect from a client perspective.

I agree. The purpose of a review isn't to complement someone for a good job; it's to give future clients insight on what to expect from a client perspective.

I agree. The purpose of a review isn't to complement someone for a good job; it's to give future clients insight on what to expect from a client perspective.

I agree. The purpose of a review isn't to complement someone for a good job; it's to give future clients insight on what to expect from a client perspective.

Not cowardly, and exactly the correct and safe and SMARTEST way to extract yourself from this situation. 
 
Two things - #1. Don't hire provide who list that they are involved with PNP. 
and #2 - while it is indeed a sad situation, it is not your problem to fix him, but it is best that you leave a review here to warn others of your experience. It is not unfair to help others not be in this situation as well. 
You yourself may have benefited from others leaving warnings of this kind of danger. Pay it forward. 
And what to do when they show up high? exactly what you did do. The only other thing you can do is make sure it doesn't happen to someone else.
Wait a few weeks if you don't want to leave a review that he can trace back to you. 

That’s not quite true though is it. The guys requiring a face pic are choosing you. These guys aren’t really escorts; they’re guys who have discovered they can monetise their sex life. Is that going to be a fun session? 

I haven't experienced this yet. Is this more towards Deli than Masseurs? I agree with what you said about us not even thinking about how we look if we're looking towards hiring them. That's kind of the whole point of the experience.

Inspired by @7829V 's reporting, I thought I would share my experience at Mr. TJ's Only Boys Spa in Zona Centro yesterday; it was a delightful way to spend a part of the day.
I took the San Diego Trolley to the end of the line at San Ysidro, walked across the border and took an Uber to the Zona Centro location.  I had made an appointment for 11 AM, but arrived maybe 25 minutes earlier than that; the entry was was shuttered but in several minutes a young man arrived to open the spa for the day.  When he had done so, I told him I had requested a Turkish bath and a 60-minute massage; I'm not certain if he was aware of that, but it was fine with him, and I paid 2,000 pesos ($113) with my credit card.
The young man, Yahir, guided me to the massage room to change for the Turkish bath; he gave me a towel to wrap around my waist and a pair of sandals; that bath itself was luxurious; water, soap, scrubbing, repeat.  After a shower, we went back to the massage room; where Yahir, now nude, gave me what I thought was a good therapeutic massage with wonderful erotic touches (I couldn't help but grin at the time and I am grinning now as I write this!).  The session did turn into a deli experience; Yahir was so sweet that I wanted to adopt him and bring him home!  I had planned on tipping him $40, but I was so happy with the session that I gave him $60; he gave me a big smile.
Yahir, who I later learned was 25, had better skills in English than I had in Spanish, but that did not detract from my session in the least.
After lunch at Caesar's Restaurante on Av. Revolucion, I walked around a bit with my camera and, since I was dreading Friday afternoon lines going back to San Diego, I walked back to the port of entry, paid $20 for a bus to take me across the border, went through customs and took the trolley back to San Diego.
Yahir and I were alone the whole time, and that was fine; the place, as indicated above, is not fancy, but it is clean and I felt comfortable the whole time.
I'd encourage those of you who are interested in an adventure to consider this if you are visiting San Diego.  (I am still grinning!)

That's beautiful.

I’ve mentioned somewhere before: if the person is contacting you for the service, it’s probably suspect. Not always, especially if you looked at them first. However if you didn’t look at them and they hit you up, it’s a bit SUS. 
It’s not much worse on the escort end than RentMen and RentMasseur which is also home of “can I paint a mural of you/be your sugar daddy allowance” scams we get. 
 
It’s one thing to ask for full advance payment, but a deposit for a nominal amount towards the session is not of the same kind of request.
I will give an example of someone just today, complaining on my phone about my deposit policy which is clearly on my website. I showed him the same thing that I will show here: how he requested a booking, back in December…said he was going to get back and then never replied. Only to hit me up today asking for a same day appointment like…nothing happened (he’s in Grey, I’m in Green):
 

 
So not only was this person not reliable, but the lack of respect of boundaries and dismissive tone: why the fucking hell would I want to meet someone like this? How can he even get an attitude with me, when HE was the one who didn’t follow thru, and then hits me up 2+ months later out the blue, for a SAME DAY BOOKING ON A SUNDAY like nothing happened? These mother fuckers are out of their raggedy ass minds 😆  I would never open my door or get in my car for these non deposit guys. They can go be another escort or masseur’s problem, but I’m not the one ❌
People like that are why I require deposits. $50 for outcall and $100 for me to host. If I have to travel out of city/state or overnight: it’s up to $250 or half the fee. There’s a lot of games on the sites, and it’s not just from other escorts. I’ve been requiring a deposit for years, and I’ve not seen a cause to drop it for any reason. Guys who don’t want to arrange deposits, are not the type of clients I want to see. 
 
Like I said in another thread, my years of experience in the industry is extensive: and anyone saying how other guys don’t ask for deposits, or another guy scammed them: isn't my prerogative. What I do know is, I see no reason to meet an anon stranger off the street who can’t furnish atleast a portion of the season ahead of time. 

I finish my massages with a hug and it is the one thing he needs to keep going. When his marriage turns sour, when a parent passes, and when he loses his job or his children lash out, he comes. He comes other times as well, but always when he's at his lowest. I give him a hug and sometimes he cries, sometimes uncontrollably. He says that he tries so hard and I say nothing back. I hold onto him as long as he needs someone to hold on to and when the tears have stopped, I let him go. I wipe him down with warm towels, he thanks me and he goes his way. 
The first time he said "I love you" I said "you're welcome". He wanted to express his thanks using stronger words and I gave my response to his gratitude. 
He says I love you every time afterwards and he's been saying it for for years. Recently he moved to a different coast. He has a fulfilling new position and a new house in suburbs of an exciting new city. He also has a great relationship with his children.
Whenever he visits, he comes and he's full of smiles but even still he sometimes cries, and sometimes uncontrollably. And he says I love you.
It's still just a thank you 
(Yes, this is a true story)

Echoes my experience exactly. I can’t wait until my next massage with him.

I finish my massages with a hug and it is the one thing he needs to keep going. When his marriage turns sour, when a parent passes, and when he loses his job or his children lash out, he comes. He comes other times as well, but always when he's at his lowest. I give him a hug and sometimes he cries, sometimes uncontrollably. He says that he tries so hard and I say nothing back. I hold onto him as long as he needs someone to hold on to and when the tears have stopped, I let him go. I wipe him down with warm towels, he thanks me and he goes his way. 
The first time he said "I love you" I said "you're welcome". He wanted to express his thanks using stronger words and I gave my response to his gratitude. 
He says I love you every time afterwards and he's been saying it for for years. Recently he moved to a different coast. He has a fulfilling new position and a new house in suburbs of an exciting new city. He also has a great relationship with his children.
Whenever he visits, he comes and he's full of smiles but even still he sometimes cries, and sometimes uncontrollably. And he says I love you.
It's still just a thank you 
(Yes, this is a true story)

I finish my massages with a hug and it is the one thing he needs to keep going. When his marriage turns sour, when a parent passes, and when he loses his job or his children lash out, he comes. He comes other times as well, but always when he's at his lowest. I give him a hug and sometimes he cries, sometimes uncontrollably. He says that he tries so hard and I say nothing back. I hold onto him as long as he needs someone to hold on to and when the tears have stopped, I let him go. I wipe him down with warm towels, he thanks me and he goes his way. 
The first time he said "I love you" I said "you're welcome". He wanted to express his thanks using stronger words and I gave my response to his gratitude. 
He says I love you every time afterwards and he's been saying it for for years. Recently he moved to a different coast. He has a fulfilling new position and a new house in suburbs of an exciting new city. He also has a great relationship with his children.
Whenever he visits, he comes and he's full of smiles but even still he sometimes cries, and sometimes uncontrollably. And he says I love you.
It's still just a thank you 
(Yes, this is a true story)

I finish my massages with a hug and it is the one thing he needs to keep going. When his marriage turns sour, when a parent passes, and when he loses his job or his children lash out, he comes. He comes other times as well, but always when he's at his lowest. I give him a hug and sometimes he cries, sometimes uncontrollably. He says that he tries so hard and I say nothing back. I hold onto him as long as he needs someone to hold on to and when the tears have stopped, I let him go. I wipe him down with warm towels, he thanks me and he goes his way. 
The first time he said "I love you" I said "you're welcome". He wanted to express his thanks using stronger words and I gave my response to his gratitude. 
He says I love you every time afterwards and he's been saying it for for years. Recently he moved to a different coast. He has a fulfilling new position and a new house in suburbs of an exciting new city. He also has a great relationship with his children.
Whenever he visits, he comes and he's full of smiles but even still he sometimes cries, and sometimes uncontrollably. And he says I love you.
It's still just a thank you 
(Yes, this is a true story)

I’m 55 - in shape and willing to travel.  Woo me. 

I understand clearly the stereotypes of gay guys, particularly perpetuated by straight men, and they go beyond the trivial things you mentioned. Let’s get into the heavy stereotypes straight men have about gay guys (and the hypocrisy of it all):
1.) “Gay men are extremely promiscuous, and will have sex any and everywhere”. 
Straight men love saying this, especially as they think they have “proof” of this, as the one major circumstance they are in proximity to gay men where they can make this assumption is the gym sauna and steam room. The moment they catch some gay slut having sex in the sauna, they gasp at it with such shame, knowing good and well their true feeling is envy. If women were allowed to be as sexually liberated as men are (without that shame), they’d all be fucking in saunas and other public places too. 
 
2.) “Gay men spread STDs and are the reason why AIDS has impacted women.” The truth is that more women have died from cervical and uterine cancers, stemming from the dirty dicks of their straight male counterparts, via  HPV… and many women suffer from multiple auto-immune diseases and suffer from interfility due to the many STDs their straight partners give them. If you know any gynecologist, they will tell you that lesbian women have the best gynecological health, because their sexual activities involves no men. 
 
3.) “Gay men are sexual deviants”. 
Well the truth is that on a global perspective, straight men have plagued society with human sex trafficking, the sexual exploitation of children and the sexual abuse of women. Look at any state’s sexual offender list, and 90 percent of the men are straight. 
further, even your most deviant gay slut is picky and has “standards”. 
Go to your local truck stop or hoe stroll;  the nastiest of female lot lizards and crack whores are making steady cash from straight men. There’s even a documentary in a county in Central America where they have to take great measures to protect the donkeys, because straight men are raping them. 
So no….. I don’t give any consideration or deference to straight men. They’ve ridiculed the reputations of gay men with ridiculous stereotypes for generations, all the while, they are far worse. 
 
 

There’s a lot to unpack here, but the core issue seems to be the idea that being attracted to “straight” men is somehow more natural or universal among gay men than being attracted to other gay men. That’s simply not true. Yes, many gay men have had crushes on unattainable straight guys growing up, but that’s often because we lacked representation and safe spaces to explore our desires. That doesn’t mean all of us fetishize straightness into adulthood or see it as an ideal.
The real issue with “straight guy” fetishization isn’t about individual preference—people are attracted to different things, and that’s perfectly fine—but about the way it can reinforce internalized homophobia. Elevating straightness as the ultimate form of masculinity suggests that being openly gay makes someone less desirable, which is a toxic mindset rooted in shame. It also plays into a broader cultural problem where queer men are often expected to diminish or hide parts of themselves to be seen as attractive.
As for the escort argument, marketing is about selling a fantasy, and “straight” sells because of lingering stigmas about gayness, not because it’s some universal truth about attraction. The idea that most gay men prefer “straight” men is a broad generalization that erases the many men who love and desire other gay men without apology.
At the end of the day, everyone is entitled to their preferences, but it’s worth asking—do those preferences come from an authentic place, or are they shaped by cultural bias and internalized messaging?

I hear you, and I’m not saying your attraction isn’t real or valid—people are drawn to what they’re drawn to. But I think it’s worth examining why masculinity is often seen as more “authentic” in straight men versus gay men. Masculinity isn’t something that only straight men inherently possess, nor is it something that gay men have to perform or belong to as part of a “subculture.” There are plenty of gay men who are naturally masculine without it being a “show.”
I think the bigger issue is how society conditions us to view certain traits as more desirable when they’re associated with straightness. But at the end of the day, attraction is personal, and as long as it’s not rooted in shame or invalidating others, people are free to have their preferences. I just think it’s important to question where those preferences come from sometimes.

This doesn’t surprise me at all.  You are so giving and gracious.  You allow a lot of space for healing and create space that feels safe.  I’m grateful for you and your gift of restorative and awakening energy. 
 
and since this is in a thread about falling for your provider, no I haven’t.  🤓

🙄
I agree with most of your "tips" but this one about "If their English is bad" is a bit xenophobic. English fluency does not make someone a more skilled massuer, and it certainly isn't a prerequisite for learning massage. Some of the best massages I've had have been from non-native English speakers.

I finish my massages with a hug and it is the one thing he needs to keep going. When his marriage turns sour, when a parent passes, and when he loses his job or his children lash out, he comes. He comes other times as well, but always when he's at his lowest. I give him a hug and sometimes he cries, sometimes uncontrollably. He says that he tries so hard and I say nothing back. I hold onto him as long as he needs someone to hold on to and when the tears have stopped, I let him go. I wipe him down with warm towels, he thanks me and he goes his way. 
The first time he said "I love you" I said "you're welcome". He wanted to express his thanks using stronger words and I gave my response to his gratitude. 
He says I love you every time afterwards and he's been saying it for for years. Recently he moved to a different coast. He has a fulfilling new position and a new house in suburbs of an exciting new city. He also has a great relationship with his children.
Whenever he visits, he comes and he's full of smiles but even still he sometimes cries, and sometimes uncontrollably. And he says I love you.
It's still just a thank you 
(Yes, this is a true story)