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So You hate the guy just because he didn’t want to meet you? And you still want to see what he looks like ? How old are you buddy?  

You hired him for a 3 day session without ever having met him before and then trash talked him on the phone with him in the room? Sucks that you didn't get what you expected but it doesn't sound like you made the wisest choices.

You do not get thanked or praised enough for keeping working links in front of us. 

His political views were, at one time, a factor that could have made encounters uncomfortable.  By that I mean he reportedly was insistent on discussing them and defending them.  Then, at some point, it clicked for him that it was better to keep the politics to himself so as not to create discomfort or conflict.  From that point forward, those who've seen him have been universally laudatory in their comments.  I'd encourage everyone to do as Adam has and leave his politics out of the discussion.

Careless and thoughtless comments aren't "taken out of context". As the writer, it's up to you to supply the context and to be aware of how you come across. If your goal is to get others to help you out with their thoughts, coming off as judgemental and above other clients is counterproductive.

That's all true. But there's also a supply/demand thing going on. He's banking on the likelihood that there aren't a lot of escorts with his looks, build, other physical attributes, etc, who are ivy league educated with a PhD. My guess is he won't get many bites from a site like RM with his rates and pricing scheme.

Or it could be to reenforce that he's sophisticated/well-rounded and discrete.

Could you clarify something: did you set an appointment and then recontact asking for a video call? If I were the escort, I'd think you weren't serious about meeting and wanted to ogle him via skype. The constant concern you hear from escorts is not to waste their time if you're not serious about meeting.

That's happened a lot recently.  Several brand new posters, each either promoting an lightly (or un) reviewed guy or trashing one. 

Correct.  He was on the Tyra talk show. In threads like this, it would avoid confusion to be specific about who we're referring to in a specific post.

@OccassionalHire there is something known as tone. Your tone was very loud, facts or not. Being the guy that asked the question that provoked your response, I have to say I found your "facts" entirely unhelpful. All I want to know is what he's like as an escort. Thank you. 

That wasn't a statement of facts. It fairly dripped with judgment and a tone of superiority.

So he enjoys kinky sexy outside of hiring? Is that a bad thing?
All providers have dating and sexual lives outside of hiring, which have no bearing on how good of a provider they are.
So what if someone else enjoys their company for free? I would argue that what should matter is how well they take care of you when you pay for their time. 

three sides to every story......
no, I'm not going to repeat the same thing in the three, or is it four??, other threads you posted this in......

I am totally unclear about what you’re saying here about Jose and how he allegedly “got his client arrested.” This sounds way too flammable to post on this forum without more clear and substantiated information. Thank you, sir. 
 

It was Hooboy who did that, not Daddy.  Daddy took up the cause/site when Hooboy passed.

Not to sidetrack your inquiry but every time someone asks about Victor Rios. I get excited. Then I realize it's not the porn actor Victor Rios, That guy I would hire in a heartbeat. The guy you're inquiring about is sadly not the Victor I'd want.  😛

Always clear payment methods ahead of time. Not a reason to downgrade a provider. Just deal with it and then enjoy the time. Cash always works. 

I don't know if I am  just misinterpreting your post, but that sounds like sexual assault to me.

But we don’t talk about his porn here, right? And again, being a stripper or advertising on rm, doesn’t make him a public figure. 

He's a stripper, he's done porn, and he advertises as an escort on a free website. He's certainly not a private figure. 

Yeah
Yeah, I don’t get it either and I doubt providers think of themselves as public figures.

You seem high maintenance. Maybe that was the issue.

You are reading a lot into the ad in your city for that date.  A lot of guys put up ads to see if there are other potential client sessions on subsequent days.
When did you first find out he missed the original flight?
 

"Feel free to message me" does not undo the harm. Most readers will just move on retaining the bad impression. Absolutely not fair.