Manhattan

How about this - "I'm not booking right now. Please stop texting me about it."

Thank you samhexum! I totally forgot about the search function. "My God, I've left brain cells all over the eastern seaboard."

Just finished watching this limited series on Netflix. It's only four episodes but feels like twice that. They worked hard to make this work. Casting an unknown as the kid, shooting each episode as one continuous take, and making it about "male rage". Sadly, the kid is a bad actor, the filming is self-conscious, and the "male rage" isn't explored. I don't know what it's about. It's not a mystery about the crime, it's not about the mind of the accused, it's not about the victim, it's not about the family, or the town. Anyone know what it's supposed to be about?

Sometimes people have to drum up business, that's not exclusive to masseurs. As a customer you could just text, "I appreciate your reaching out and I look forward to our next appointment, but I'm not ready to book right now. I'll let you know when I can." Or, "Your massages are relaxing, but your texts are not! Take care of yourself and I'll reach out when I'm ready to book." Then ignore.

Can't they just end this? Jean Smart deserved a meaty role and she got one, but the rest of the show is garbage. Bad acting and bad writing everywhere.

I'm enjoying it so far, but that wig on Nancy is the real scandal.

This doc really made me dislike her. A portrait of a selfish, manipulative, competitive person who polluted our society with the worst kind of pseudo-journalism delivered with poor speech, and then topped off the cultural devastation with a revolving crew of knuckleheads on The View. if you are even vaguely aware of Barbara Walter's, you know enough. There's nothing interesting in the documentary.

I thought it was very well done. There's such a glut of documentaries now and most of them have no point of view. When I watch a documentary, I want more than a Biography Channel overview and this one really delivered. That piano though - hideous.

That's a complicated system. He should just change his prices to reflect all the ways he is afraid of being underpaid. If he expects money to allow clients to use his shower - put it in the price list. I think a shower should be a standard amenity and it wouldn't occur to me to tip based on that. Things are gray and vague already in this line of work, Pros should provide a clear structure so that client can relax and not think about money. i don't tip my mechanic, or my weed dealer. They work for themselves, they can charge extra for last minute appointments or unusual requests, but they tell me up front.

$20/hr is the average portion of the fee shared with masseurs at NYC mens spas, so $20 should be the baseline tip for a plain old massage. Any service beyond that should be generously acknowledged. You cheapskates out there are ruining it for everyone when you get great service and don't tip accordingly. If masseurs expect to get shitty tips, they are forced to negotiate. Lead the way, be a gentleman, and tip well. The next customer will reap the benefit and one day that customer might be you! For private masseurs, there is a different power dynamic since they run their own business and set their own prices. They are also free to decline appointments or refuse clients at any time.

Has anyone else watched this limited series? i thought it was tough to stick with. The premise is provocative enough and should provide lots of opportunities for humor and pathos, but I think it tries too hard. It's based on a true story, but it felt a lot like Dead to Me without being as funny. Michelle Williams is good, as is most of the cast, with the exception of Jenny Slate. I don't understand how she got the job or how she wasn't fired. She's so bad that I ended up fast forwarding through most of her storyline. I'm shallow and I don't like the trend of having an unattractive, talent-free sidekick in every series I'm glad I stayed with it because the final episode, although not really in keeping with the rest of the show, was very well done and moving.

You've already gotten lots of good advice, but I can't help but add my two cents - You have sex, intimacy, frustration, drama, suspicion, insecurity as well as financial and emotional inequality. Sounds like a lot of couples I have known. The client/provider dynamic doesn't have to be the problem. Every relationship has a price tag, some transactions are just more obvious than others. You've got an expensive and immature "mistress" who needs you as much as you need him. You each have power and agency in different ways. No fantasy lasts forever and now you have to negotiate your way forward. You are just two people at the end of the day. Ask him to marry you - or dump him and get yourself a new provider - or accept your relationship as it is.

Walked in and had a massage with Andy. A cute, slim Asian guy. The massage was surprisingly strong and satisfying. The name Andy seems to only be awarded to talented masseurs. Never had a bad one. There were two other masseurs around the desk, Jay and Michael (who has been around forever - at East Men, and on RM, and other spas). I've had good experiences at Batman, with Tony, Jay, and now Andy. The guys are always engaged in their work and I've never had anyone mention a tip.

This Open Letter is the only example of bulling that I see in this scenario. Patti may be cranky and indiscreet, but an online mob assembling to prevent her from attending the Tonys? That's terrifying. These performers are cowards. Maybe Kecia and Audra could pick up the phone and confront their colleague about her behavior. Adults can often work these things out amongst themselves.

Has anyone else watched this limited series? i enjoyed the set up, but it got too overwrought by episode four. Julianne Moore and Meghann Fahy are good, but the third lead (Milly Alcock) is terrible. Not photogenic and not up to the job.