Bigelow123

Haven't seen this topic here yet, so....

 

I'm going to write you guys a story here that's very applicable to these forums that I have refrained from telling.  Mostly because you don't want to give everyone hope and my situation is probably pretty unique and rare. 
Backstory: 
I'm a 47 year old gay guy who had never hired before or considered it up until about four years ago. I am very masculine and cool and comfortable. For reference, a bigger guy (5'11, 255#) but carry it well. Handsome face and usually attracted both women and men. I'm not fucking paying for sex is what I always thought. Spent my life in IT and rode the crypto wave a decade ago. I founded my own company and built it with my then partner at the time. It was crazy successful but tore us apart emotionally. We separated and I moved out. When the company was crashing down and almost bankrupt, I was drinking every single day and didn't leave my house for a week. Didn't shower and shave. I was a mess. 
For many reasons, I lost all my friends. I had lawsuits against me and couldn't go hang out at the bars. My lawyers said I couldn't talk about everything and my entire social world was with my partner. If I walked into a bar, people would be like "how's work? how's your partner?" and I just had nothing. So I stayed home.  
After a month or so of this, I wanted a person. Someone to just hold me and tell me life would be okay and to just have raw sex with and unload everything in my balls as much as possible, because at least that would feel good for the moment, right? 
Escort: 
So I jump on Rent Men. $300 per hour. Had a guy come over. It was decent, I got off, and he went away. Not great not bad. Tried it a second time, same thing. At least I had someone with a pulse. 
Third time, I was in New York city which is amazing for escorts and I decided okay, let's do this the right way. I have a list of 20 requirements I want.  Handsome as fuck, masculine, square jaw, deep voice, a body like you just walked off a stage. Just raw dripping testosterone... and that's a little hard to find right. But that's when Trevor walked into my life. 
Paid for an hour. We met up and guess what? Didn't even have sex or get off. Just talked and I was too nervous and shy because I had never been around someone like him before. A day after we met up, he texts me and says "You know I do overnights, right?" and so I paid $2,400 for an overnight and it kind of changed my life. I had been a top my entire life and never got fucked, but this dude railed my lights out and I LOVED it. I didn't understand why or how guys bottom until him.  
So I go back to NYC and we do it again. Then again. After a few meetings, he basically looks at me and is like "What are you doing with your life?" -- I think he could see the depression and me not taking care of myself. My gut reaction was "I'm not paying you to question me like this!" but it sat with me. I kept thinking about the question. 
I wound up hiring him for a trip out of the USA as a 4th person for a group of three of us.  It was a lot of money but worth it. Fast forward a year and he actually made me a better person. I woke up in the morning and thought "What would Trev do?" so I hauled myself out of bed and showered and shaved and hit the gym. Then did it again. I realized that I am not just paying Trev for sex, but the value is flowing both ways. I'm getting more out of this then I am paying. 
Jose: 
So I am back in Boston and lonely. But I am doing better. I have more energy, I look better, and I see the sun and the good things and natural energy takes over in all my interactions during the day. I don't want or need a boyfriend or a relationship and that's why I was hiring, because  they go home afterwards. 
But I am horny and bored on a Friday night. There's a new escort in town I haven't seen so I get him over for an hour for $300. 
He leaves but there was a real connection. I text him after and ask if he has plans the following night, and he said he can come back. I offer $2000 for the night. 
.... and he doesn't leave. We sit on the beach watching the sun come up together. He lives in Miami and says "Come to Miami and stay with me."  Well wouldn't you know I had a conference in Miami that Wednesday, already had an Airbnb booked with work people, and flights planned. I say what the hell and take him up on the offer. I walk in the door to his apartment and it's clean, and comfortable, and feels like home. We spend the next week together each night. No payment. Nothing. 
Passionate sex. But more than that, an actual connection.  I go home and tell him to come back to Boston and go to Ptown with me in two weeks. 
One year later, I asked him how many people he invited to his house before. He said nobody. His house is his temple and he doesn't bring clients back.
Fast forward almost two years and I am now living in Miami at his place. My company went bankrupt and I lost everything, and he's here paying the bills supporting us. He said "I don't care how much money you have, I would be happy eating a sandwich with you in the room with nothing"
We are getting married soon.
Lesson: 
I'm writing this to show people that escorts are also humans. Will this happen to others? Probably not. But beyond the business transaction, they are also people with their own problems, their own life, and their own desires. I happened to find someone who was single, available, open, and fell in love with me (although I didn't know it at the time). But at the end of the day, what really matters is will they be there for you when you have nothing and the money runs out?  In my case, yes.  He was there to pay some of the bills and give me a place to live. That's how you know it's genuine and authentic. 
As far as Trevor goes -- those types of escorts are just magic. You can pay for sex, sure. But sometimes you can get so much more if you open yourself up and let it in. It isn't always about sex. He and I still keep in touch. He doesn't escort anymore and is back in Canada living his fulfilling live off of Rent.men. He will be back at some point and if you have the chance to hire him (he is easily searchable on here), don't walk, but run at the chance. He's fucking awesome. 
So that's my story. It feels good writing it. Not looking for any validation, just something to share. 
Be good guys.

ESL?
Posting while drunk?
Putting the original post through an online blender?
I just gotta know.

I think we need a new section (s) here:
1) Known GOOD masseurs
2) Known BAD masseurs

Hello everyone,
I celebrate the fact that forums like this one serve as a vehicle for expression and information. It’s been quite a while since I first started coming up in these threads and I am very grateful to both the people who run the forum and the ones who discuss (or quietly read) its content.
This isn’t the first time that I see comments that aren’t flattering or that describe an experience that was disappointing or even a negative one. It is important for me to see what is being said because I have over 30 very positive reviews on my rentmasseur account and one can become too comfortable with the flattery and the praise.
I agree that I have kept photos on my profile that are over 5 years old along with pictures that are as recent as last week. I should not treat these profiles as social media, as much as those pictures mean something important to me and transmit something powerful about myself that I want to share, they do not represent my age or current look. For instance, it’s been about two years since I keep a beard or a scruff and any clean shaven or boyish looking portraits of me should not be there since the chances of meeting me without a beard are zero. I have removed the old pictures and kept the ones that are recent. The most recent picture is the one with the bow tie (taken last week end in Costa Rica) and I also uploaded a few other ones from the last few months where I appear photogenic.
It is also true that I have been having a hard time losing weight. I’ve been struggling with thyroid disease for a bit over 4 years and there are periods of time where my weight drops at a normal rate and other times where it doesn’t. I am at the moment 12 pounds heavier than I would like, just to weigh what I’ve always been used to. I don’t worry too much because I know it’s cyclical and it’s really just my body adjusting to its capacity to stabilize muscle gain and fat burning. Im sorry if I disappointed or misled any of you into thinking I was a muscled fit guy, I never have been. I am tall with long legs and have a large frame, broad back and shoulders and large chest. A few times I’ve been able to get more than a central abdominal line but it’s mostly a tummy on the chunky side.
About 4 years ago, I had a masseur finder account where I managed to have almost 80 positive reviews. I have always been so grateful for those who take the time to do it. One fine day, about a year and a half ago all reviews disappeared, I was no longer the highest rated masseur in New York City. Eventually I was forced to close my account because I wasn’t a permanent resident of the US at that time and the website wouldn’t allow me to have an account anymore. Since then I have used Rentmasseur where I continue to accumulate positive reviews, a great deal of them during these past few months where I have not been at my fittest and not too long ago I reopened masseurfinder once again starting from zero.
I mention this because although I am not the guy with the amazing body or the youthful face, I continue to work very hard and I am recognized for my skills, my looks, my personality, my sensuality, and whatever else someone might see in me or obtain from me.
I do not ask for a higher rate because I offer the body of a model for someone to grope, it’s not because I offer sex, and it’s not because I cater to an elite clientele either. I do it because I know that I am an individual with the ability to give a legit therapeutic massage of any pressure you might need, consistent and on point and also possess an innate ability to become intuitive and passionate and truly devote every minute of the session to the purpose of the client’s pleasure and healing.
I do this full time, I see an average of 6 clients per day and I travel routinely to the same cities to visit regular clients.
this is my life, and those who have known me and frequent me understand this and value my time and my work because we click.
I don’t expect to click with everyone and quite honestly I wouldn’t have a minute to myself if that was the case.
This forum has always been a great way for me to find out where I can improve and what I’m doing right and what I am not. I thank everyone for your valuable opinions. I have removed and added pictures and will continue to shed the extra pound and will plan a new photo session to be as updated as possible since you all deserve it.
again, sorry if I disappointed and misled you, and also thank you to those who have been my clients from the start and the ones who have recently become regulars. And 1000 thanks to this forum! Sincerely. Kenzo

I’m curious as well 

Bumping. I’m interested to know as well. 

Ok, you two, Stop It Hurts! LOL

In the end...it's all theater.
Same as the gay guys who want providers to kiss them and pretend they actually like you.
None of this is necessarily real...you just need to get into the head-space to want to believe...and want to pay for someone to help you get there.

I do see a mess, inconsistent, arbitrary, non-research based, and a lot of it downright made-up bullshit.

Hello All! 

It seems a simple post on behalf of a very kind gentleman set off a bit of a debate with several of you. I’m new into this site and wanted to thank those of you who, despite not knowing me, paid several compliments or simply said kind things on my behalf. I very much appreciate it.
I just wanted to have a moment to introduce myself, and that I look forward to engaging with you. I do my damndest to lead with kindness and empathy, whether online, in a date, or in bed. 
As for my weight - it is a challenge having an above average bubble butt that makes you, statistically, obese. Luckily - as a power bottom I have found men tend to enjoy a the extra pounds in my posterior. Feel free to see the proof of my obesity below.

Thanks again, and feel free to reach out with any questions you might have for me either on here or on 
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Regrettably it wasn’t a misunderstanding. The poster makes disparaging remarks about escorts that don’t meet his ideal body type. He has a history of it. He’s come and gone on this forum multiple times after leaving in a huff after being called out on is narrow views of what people are in to. Why he keeps coming back is anyone’s guess.
If you don’t like a particular trait or physical appearance of a provider, that’s fine. However you don’t have to revert to childish remarks/behavior when people don’t agree.

You missed my point.  But I’ll leave it there.

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This may be presumptive on my part but, I believe AZdr0710 was suggessting that postings in threads are more or less looked upon by the moderators as general bitching and that if the complaint is to be taken seriously, one should be direct and contact the people who can change things.  AS to your point, this site is US centric as it was started and continued by ment in the US and my bet would be that the vast majority of the users are US men.  There is a section for all other parts of the world and their lack of popularity porbably to do with just that, More Americans, more traffic.   That being said, try contacting a moderator who is not from the US and see if that reaches a sympathetic ear.  

Perhaps making a suggestion is not bitching.  But the statement you made following the suggestion(and the title of this thread) is.  

Anyone have any experience with this hot guy?  https://rent.men/JassLatino?

Has anyone met him? 
 
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Anyone have any recent experience with or info w/ this masseur? Listed in Houston. Thx!
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