ShortCutie7

Exactly, this is why I don’t get the anti-condom rhetoric.

FYI outcall only 😢

Really surprised that it could even be possible for a homeless person or recent immigrant to have a credit card- I’m in my 30s, have lived here my whole life, have a full time job and two debit cards, but can’t get approved for a credit card because I don’t have enough credit history! Anyway, back on topic, you can easily avoid homeless escorts if that’s an issue for you by doing incalls only with escorts who are based out of the city you are in.

I had similar thoughts when I saw it on Broadway- I enjoyed it for the performances and a handful of good songs, but the show as a whole left me cold. I did not get the hype at all (and saw it right before the Tonys which I knew it would win just due to the overwhelmingly positive word of mouth/reviews).

I do all of my communication via RM messaging. If a provider I haven’t met insists on texting me, I let him know that as a general rule I do not give my phone number to people I haven’t met in person.

I unfortunately have never been able to find a picture of it, but ballet/theatre dancer Harold Lang’s ass was the stuff of legends. https://images.app.goo.gl/x92bDj9LHpnQjaBP8

I do manage my schedule; that’s why my appointments have either been in the morning or on a day off. I’m not saying it’s ok to show up unclean; I’m saying that if someone does show up unclean, it’s probably not due to them being generally unhygienic, and is more likely to be circumstantial. We have to give people benefit of the doubt. ETA: to be clear, I am not making excuses for myself; I have only ever had two appointments and arrived squeaky clean to both. It’s just one of my pet peeves when people have unrealistic expectations of others.

I really don’t give a crap about dick size as long as it gets hard. It was when I started hooking up that I discovered some parts of the face/body that I am particularly drawn to, but I’m definitely a “whole package” guy, to the extent where I don’t need a lot of information or even see a clear picture of a man’s full face or body to tell if I’ll be attracted to him.

People don’t always have control over these things. For example, if I’m going to an appointment after work, it’s not physically possible to be shower-fresh upon arrival. That said, I would absolutely not be offended if asked to shower (and may even request one if available). Anyway, I do often wonder if the rates I get quoted are lower or higher due to my stats, but unfortunately it’s nearly impossible to gauge if I am a provider’s “type”, which would make for a better session, anyway.

Heartbreaking! He was a great person in every way by all accounts I have ever heard.

I have an addictive personality and would absolutely become addicted to hiring if I had the time and money to indulge regularly. I find that for anything I’m trying not to become addicted to, I have to give myself specific parameters or goals to hit before I engage. For example, before my next hire, I must: 1- have and set aside the free time to do it (this is surprisingly the hardest part as it can be months between opportunities to have a few hours to myself). The more in advance I know my target date, the longer I have to make arrangements with an escort and ensure that my below goals are met. 2- have above a specific amount of money in my checking account (I won’t be able to afford to pay $X for an hour if I don’t have at least $10X in the bank). 3- hit below a specific (but realistic) weight on the scale (this is extra encouragement for me to manage my weight, plus I know I’ll have a better time if I feel sexy, myself).

One of the main elements I look for when I peruse an escort’s profile is if I can tell WHY he escorts. If he seems like he does it because he can make a lot of money or is desperate to make ends meet? Wrong reason. If he seems like he does it as a favor to those less hot than him? Wrong reason. If he seems like he does it because he genuinely loves sex and making others happy? Right reason!

I used to see Nick out and about and he looks even better in person!

Strikingly hot guy!!!

I re-downloaded Grindr a few days ago and had to delete it again because it is now making sounds on its own even while my phone is locked (and my settings are to not receive notifications). When my phone is making the refresh sound and a new grunt sound at random times even hours after closing the app (and there was no possible notification it could have been), something has to be wrong with the app.

That sucks for both of them! The family I’m referring to in my post is both of my parents (who I take care of)… I’ve never actively pretended to be straight (never dated etc) but don’t need my doctor and parents to know that I like cock.

If being in a convent prevents me from getting an STI, you can call me Sister Mister.

That is one of my main reasons for not being on PreP and being a “condom n*zi”- I have the same doctor as my family, and my (very infrequent) sexual activity is nobody’s business. I’m on one med (for an unrelated condition), and that’s one more med than I’d like to be taking.

Yep, I did tell the escort in advance and he was rock hard, so it’s possible he did take a Viagra. I guess it seemed at like a “big ask” at the time because oral with a condom was something I had never seen/experienced before. I would definitely not hire a provider who refused a condom during anal… that would be the biggest dealbreaker!

Glad to hear that the clients enjoyed being on the receiving end! I didn’t receive oral during my last encounter (we were busy with other things 😈) but I will try it next time and report back!

Yep, which is basically exactly what I wrote here 😊:

@moonlight No new experiences since that was my last sexual encounter, but I would absolutely prefer to give oral with a condom going forward. My only new thought is that whether I insist on it or not would depend on the dynamic (ie whether I’m paying a provider for exactly what I want or having a more equitable hookup).

Exactly, it’s not the science I don’t trust; it’s the margin of error in people taking it… how many of us know a woman who took birth control “as directed” and got pregnant anyway? I would guess all of us… there’s an innate margin of error to literally anyone doing anything, even if they think they’re doing it right.

@lseactuary90 as a fellow 30-something in NYC I feel you (and have also never been in a relationship), and I really don’t think it has as much to do with you as it does the game itself. When I think of all of the gays I know who are around our age and in committed long-term relationships, I don’t think most of them met on apps or dating sites; they met through friends, work, activities, etc. When I was in the stage of my life that I was open to dating/a relationship (I genuinely don’t have the time for that now, but that’s another story), I went on a couple dates and had a few “mind-blowing” hookups, but they never went anywhere. My philosophy is that love will find me when the time is right.

And this is why I don’t trust PreP on its own and will always rely on a combination of condoms and vetting/very rarely fucking. I saw more than one “starred” Grindr guy’s status change from “on PreP” to “undetectable”.