Jason Dutch

There are plenty of clients who enjoy thicker and beefier guys. I may have met a few, actually.... 😛

Well, I'm a chubby cub I'll be in New York in July, too. 😛

One of my most memorably bookings was quite like this, actually. You'll have a blast! Just make sure to compensate admirably and set some shared ground rules before hitting the go button.

Hi everybody, I am compiling lots of information about this topic ahead of a workshop I am co-facilitating with Maggie's precisely about this issue, it's on this coming Friday Nov 15 and there's so much legal and technical stuff we are pulling together, but real experiences can be more instructive as we try to to build out best practices for crossing the border... at least knowing which ways it could go, and being prepared for various potential outcomes... To that point! If anyone in this thread personally has experience trouble at the border as a result of working in the sex industry in any form, or if you can put me directly in touch with a person who has been through it, please send me a private message right away! Would be very helpful. Or if you're a provider interested in attending, likewise hit me up

Yeah I don't mind that they're separate since the clientele differs in a few ways, in most towns. I do wish there was a damn discount for having both, though... sheesh!

Providers occasionally are organized enough to collectively establish a safe and welcoming incall space that we can share equitably. Benefits everyone in my opinion... saves providers expenses, builds a safe and familiar space for visitors and workers, and allows for security and mutual accountability between clients and providers as well as the professionals together. Keeps the standards high and everything fair and keeps cops out. Bless these entrepenurial gents!

Organizing a threesome/group for a client can be more of a hassle than one might think, at least in my experience. Sometimes it works out. But several times, I've done the work of wrangling another escort for a duo, or several for a group session, only to have the guy bail a few minutes after his scheduled arrival. That happened once without a deposit, I learned my lesson I thought.. not too long after, another guy ghosted three of us, even *after* paying the deposit I'd askled(which, after splitting it, wasn't quite enough to make up for the wasted time and energy). Another time, a guy I'd never worked with before but who seemed legit was an hour late, causing me to basically waste an hour uncompensated. The client tipped a bit but a fraction of my rate. It has always worked much more smoothly for me when the client himself arranges with whoever he wants to have there. However, recently I did such an arrangement in a new city, smallish place. The other guy was younger, very new to the work and, in my assessment, more vulnerable than me in a number of ways. I gave him a ride home and during our conversation, I discovered that the rate he'd asked and been paid was quite low - less than half my rate. I gave him some of the cash I'd gotten to even things out with him (at a loss to me) and told him that he really ought to be charging more. We ended up having a really good conversation and have stayed in touch. But that aside, I then had a few firm words with the client, who certainly could have spared the difference. I mean, I understand that as providers we each negotiate our rates independently in this set-up, leaving no incentive for the client to pay us both the same. But such a vast discrepancy made me really uneasy...

Hey y'all, I recently was interviewed for a podcast that is genuinely different than any other I've listened to or experienced. It's "them pups thots and bears" by Pup Cylon and Pup Tango and even though their style is unusually meandering and sometimes a bit chaotic, I think they're genuinely on to something and I had a great time talking about porn, SW safety, polyamory, piss play, and cruising. What also makes this podcast unique is that it's recorded on video and all the participants are naked and intermittently playing with themselves haha. While this podcast skews towards bears/cubs/pups etc, thereby eliminating the interest of a hefty segment of this site's population, I do think some of y'all might get a big kick out of it, as I sure did. Check it out. : ‎them pups “thots and bears” on Apple Podcasts PODCASTS.APPLE.COM ‎Health & Fitness · 2024 (I'm episodes 47-50 if you're curious)

In Canada we have LeoList which is essentially a Backpage clone and is widely popular. Not the same format, but: Adam4Adam now has the option to upgrade one's profile to a PRO account, and it's pretty affordable. It's also free for non-PROs to use the site and message PROs so I find a lot of guys are on there who wouldn't purchase a membership to, say, RM. I've done and I've gotten many inquiries and appointments out of it, far more than I ever expected. The site as a whole is overly tricked out with every imaginable feature (video reels and stories, status updates, groups/parties, podcasts, underwear shops, winks, chats, comments, likes.. it's a bit much) but this feature is great. However, the "PRO" icon often goes unnoticed by people not expecting it and I'm not sure how easy it is to filter down just to providers.

Haha fair point — and can't thank you enough for that Miss ya bud

Thank you so much to all who have responded, both in-thread and by DM!! Great information and helpful. Ultimately my first goal is to make a habit of mentioning how helpful reviews can be to my cliente while avoiding being annoying or vain haha. Let's see how it goes. In the meantime I'd love to hear from anyone else who has thoughts.

Wow you’re right! That sucks!

I have never made a big deal about reviews, and don’t usually bug my clients to write them. Just felt a bit vain/annoying to do so. I’m seriously regretting it now that I see that they’re a crucial part of your marketing and viability as a provider. I’ve had countless clients give me wonderful positive feedback directly or in private, but very few have made the effort to write a review, and I regret not following up and asking. I’d love to know how to encourage guys to review more, and what y’all think about review culture in general. (I recognize, of course, that members of this community are likely to be more inclined to write/value reviews in the first place, and therefore aren’t a general population sample for my lil survey haha) Right, so, here are my questions. You may answer question by question if you have some time to spare, or by all means freestyle a paragraph or bullet point response with any thoughts you have on these topics or any related points. Part I : Writing reviews In general, do you typically submit reviews of the providers you see? Why or why not? Do you ever review the same provider multiple times (a review for each experience, for instance)? What factors influence whether or not you submit a review for a given provider? How often do providers specifically ask you to submit a review? Do you feel it’s appropriate for a provider to request a review? When or how is the best way to do so? And is it ever inappropriate, annoying, or distasteful to ask for a review or remind you to submit one? Have you ever said you’d leave a review, but didn’t leave on in the end? What has your experience been like submitting reviews? Have they been posted, censored, responded to, removed or anything like that? Do you ever notice a change in your experience with a provider, or in your dynamic, after you’ve written a review? Are you any more or less likely to book him again if you’ve reviewed them already? Have you ever felt any regret about a review you’ve left, be it positive or negative? Do you think providers should have the right to respond to reviews? Should they be able to screen, report, or remove them? Part II: Reading reviews How often do you read a provider's reviews while browsing ads/profiles? What do you hope to learn from a review? What makes a review helpful or useful, and what makes it less useful? How important of a factor are reviews when you’re making a decision to reach out to a provider or meet them for the first time? Have they ever been the deciding factor for you? How much value do you ascribe to the number of reviews a provider has? Why? What do you think when you notice a provider has zero reviews or very few? Have you ever been misled by a review? What happened? What are some red flags you might encounter in reading provider reviews? Have you ever read a review that you suspected was fake? What made you question its legitimacy? How did that impact your decisions with regard to the provider? Do you ever look at the profile for the author of a review, to see if your tastes align or for any other reason? Have you ever reached out for more information? Are star-rating reviews helpful? Or review forms with multiple choice questions (e.g. “Are the pictures accurate? Y/N” kind of thing? Do you find that reviews are more useful or more widely used on any particular sites over the other? How does the review culture differ between, say, Rent.men vs RentMasseur vs others vs Company of Men etc? Thank you guys!!

I had decided to go and was looking at flights before the hotel situation stopped me dead in my tracks. Alas.

I've used it recently. Though not every city has options... the program seems to have some brand identity issues to work out because it's variously called Work Anywhere, Day Pass and Day Use Rate, but check out https://workanywhere.marriott.com/ to see the options. Here's more about it as well: Marriott Bonvoy Customer Service and Online Help HELP.MARRIOTT.COM