Timsbud

Back in the days when cruising SM Blvd., plus the Advocate “Pink Pages”, was my way of locating escorts, I would do spontaneous repeat “Boulevard Pickups” with those I had the luck of finding exciting on the 1st time, and the luck of locating again on subsequent cruising. For the last 7 years or so, I‘ve had one “go-to” person for numerous get-togethers: Justin has become my trusted companion, for afternoon get-togethers, theatrical events, and extended road trips. To me, he provides the quintessential “boyfriend experience” - a versatile confident “jock” in great shape who excels at role-playing, which keeps things fresh for local get-togethers, and is an easy-going, enthusiastic and appreciative traveling companion, with whom I enjoy discussions on topics of mutual interest, and distinctly different life experiences. It has become more than physical attraction – more of an emotional connection with a “buddy” that I look forward to repeating often. He still has the same aol email address that he had when he was reviewed on Daddy’s – but now relies more on word-of-mouth advertising to communicate with new prospects.

When the escort treats the client like a friend - there is much more affection / mutual respect / interest in one another's lives / concern for each other's well-being and feelings / shared interests (besides the bedroom) / wanting to be together and do things that both enjoy. When to both parties, there is much more of an attraction (mentally, not just physically) that makes the underlying monetary transaction take on the aspect more of a "gift" than a "fee".

Back in the days when cruising SM Blvd., plus the Advocate “Pink Pages”, was my way of locating escorts, I would do spontaneous repeat “Boulevard Pickups” with those I had the luck of finding exciting on the 1st time, and the luck of locating again on subsequent cruising. For the last 7 years or so, I‘ve had one “go-to” person for numerous get-togethers: Justin has become my trusted companion, for afternoon get-togethers, theatrical events, and extended road trips. To me, he provides the quintessential “boyfriend experience” - a versatile confident “jock” in great shape who excels at role-playing, which keeps things fresh for local get-togethers, and is an easy-going, enthusiastic and appreciative traveling companion, with whom I enjoy discussions on topics of mutual interest, and distinctly different life experiences. It has become more than physical attraction – more of an emotional connection with a “buddy” that I look forward to repeating often. He still has the same aol email address that he had when he was reviewed on Daddy’s – but now relies more on word-of-mouth advertising to communicate with new prospects.

I’m sure I’m going to be at the low end of the bell curve......a bunch of guys have made it to 4 and one to maybe 7 or 8, but I’m still looking for my steady Mr. right for fun.
 
But the quest is fun!!

I have hired several guys more than 20 times or so each over the years. I tend to have a man I see regularly and see very few others. I am sort of a serial monogamist. However, the longest consecutive period of time I have hired one man is 4 years or so. There are a few escorts I have seen a few times each over a period of 10 years or so. Some have retired, one has expired (RIP John) some have stopped traveling to this area and some have drifted off. I have two or three escorts who I used to hire regularly and then stopped hiring them though I keep in touch with them regularly and see them socially from time to time.

I realize this was a tongue in cheek (!) question, but personally, I find my best regular guys are not only worth every penny (I never expect a discount or price-break!) they charge, each and every time I hire them, but I love to add an additional tip. So many of my regular favorites not only are not clock-watchers and will extend our times together without thinking twice about requiring extra fees but also happily spend time off-the-clock to socialize over lunch or dinner, which I am always happy to pay for. My thought is that they are making their living this way and I certainly want them to stay successful so I can continue to enjoy them for a long time!!!
 
TruHart1

I continue to hire my favorite guys regularly. If most didn't live in other cities, I would be homeless and bankrupt! LOL There are four or five escorts especially with whom my relationships have deepened so much that whenever I get to see them, it literally feels like coming home for me, I feel so comfortable with them! I could get numeric and say I've seen this guy over 30 times, that guy over 20 times, etc. but really, it is the strictures of distance and budget that limit the number of times I've been with one favorite over another. If I won the lottery, I'd be traveling constantly to see these men all the time!
 
BEST. HOBBY. EVER!
 
TruHart1

With me it was sort of a sarcastic celebration name. After 6 months he was adamant that we not define us as lovers because he's bi and has two kids. So I told him, Ok we'll just go to Key West to celebrate my fucking you for the 100th time. He was ok with that and that's what we told the bartenders where he works. People.
 
And "lovers" are often much more expensive than escorts.

When the escort treats the client like a friend - there is much more affection / mutual respect / interest in one another's lives / concern for each other's well-being and feelings / shared interests (besides the bedroom) / wanting to be together and do things that both enjoy. When to both parties, there is much more of an attraction (mentally, not just physically) that makes the underlying monetary transaction take on the aspect more of a "gift" than a "fee".

When the escort treats the client like a friend - there is much more affection / mutual respect / interest in one another's lives / concern for each other's well-being and feelings / shared interests (besides the bedroom) / wanting to be together and do things that both enjoy. When to both parties, there is much more of an attraction (mentally, not just physically) that makes the underlying monetary transaction take on the aspect more of a "gift" than a "fee".

To me a boyfriend experience entails greater physical and emotional intimacy than might be expected of a typical encounter. Talking before the experience and getting to know each other, gentle and sensual physical interaction, cuddling, holding, etc. That has roughly coincided with the expectations of all of the clients who have requested BFE from me.

Thank you, @JudasKane for the link to this article by @tylerthebadwolf. It proves that many of the great escorts find their work rewarding in so many ways. As Tyler says, a BFE is not about playing a role but rather about accepting a client for who they are and letting them know they can be free to truly be themselves with him!
 
TruHart1

I think this post by the always insightful @GLEE proves my point that a truly great BFE includes excellent and natural communication between the client and the escort, providing pleasure both socially and sexually for each other and mutually satisfying both! This is certainly one of the main reasons I hire and have developed continuing relationships with some of the best escorts working today!
 
TruHart1

The vagueness of the term certainly leads to as many different interpretations as there are clients and providers.
However, I think a general impression can be culled from our individual ones: That BFE is just as much (if not more so) about compassionate mental-emotional affection and interaction as it is about whatever else may take place.
 
For me, it means that we spend time together and there's a general ebb and flow with our physical interaction as opposed to having a laundry list of physical acts to take place. A fair amount of time could be spent hand holding, cuddling, talking about the great mysteries of life, etc --- generally behaviors one may expect in an established relationship versus what behavior one may expect from picking someone up at a bar.
 
I think I would be remiss if I didn't mention a fantastic piece about BFE by @tylerthebadwolf for thought catalog - https://thoughtcatalog.com/tyler-darlig-ulv/2017/05/what-being-a-professional-companion-really-is-because-it-isnt-sex-work/

To me, "boyfriend experience" implies a longer encounter, multiple hours and involves a lot of kissing, giving and receiving of affection, mostly vanilla sex and a fair amount of time devoted to chat and cuddling etc. To me, a one-hour appointment is kind of a quickie, and therefore its difficult to pour everything into it that someone might hope for in a BFE. I don't think of a BFE as including much in the way of BDSM or other kink, although I did read in an escort's profile the other day that he specializes in the "BDSM-BFE ."

As a client, let me offer a more precise definition: as a general rule, I think a BFE is at least in the offing when 50% or more of the session involves the escort doing something other than trying directly to get me off, and that time is both pre and post nooky. That could consist of: talking, hugging, caressing, kissing, watching TV with his head on my chest, napping together etc.
 
What is it not? When the guy walks in, drops his pants and bends over, or starts to jerk you off while you are still trying to get your shoes off. I've had a few of those.

As a client, I know when I am furnished what I feel is a true boyfriend experience, where I actually have not only an extraordinary sexual connection, including everything that excites me sexually, from amazing tongue work while French kissing, to having my nipples manipulated in the most sensual ways possible, to hearing his groans of pleasure as I rim him and suck him, to feeling myself nearing that point of no return as he sucks or f**cks me, but also our sharing with each other in mutually enjoyable conversations before moving on to the sexual play, which is followed by intimate cuddling after we climax.
 
There is nothing quite so intimate to me as being in his arms, with my head on his chest and our arms around each other, sharing our thoughts quietly for a bit, sometimes even napping with each other for a short time. I do think that a boyfriend experience is not necessarily the same for every man, though. I always hope to be treated as if I am the most desirable man the escort has ever met, for the time we enjoy together. As I've said many times since I began this hobby, I do fall in love with the best escorts I hire just a bit during the time we spend together, in bed or out, during both the on-the-clock and off-the-clock time we are together.
 
Now since I am only one client, with only my personal definition of the boyfriend experience expressed here, I'd be interested to get back to the "Ask An Escort" topic requested by the OP. I would love to hear from any escorts out there who are willing to explain what the "boyfriend experience" is for them with clients from their own professional perspective.
 
TruHart1

Yeah, as @TruHart1 said I'd love to hear any of the escorts here on the forum describe what their definition or expectation of a "BFE" would be. My personal definition of this is very "narrow-minded" and I think it's because of me being picky regarding the choice of my hires, like besides sexual encounters I really want certain level emotional or even intellectual connection there. And I'm not sure if it's just me but for me "BFE" is like a two-way street, like I also want to please this man I'm with in any way possible. So for me a successful BFE for me requires lots of preparations. Though it's time-consuming, it's definitely fun for me to really spend some time talking to the person I'm going to meet, maybe also realizing what he might like, preparing some small gifts and choosing a place/restaurant we'd both like. I just really want to treat it as a real date. Maybe that's just my thing though.

Leo Ford - remember him well, but have no recollection of the TV commercial. He had a lean body, with an unruly mop of blond hair. A power bottom - he had at least one scene where he came hands-free.
Lance was the other "Power Blond" at the Higgin's studio. Besides "Leo and Lance", they were also successfully paired in "Blonds Do It Best". As far as I recall, Lance never bottomed. He had a more muscular build than Leo, and a big uncut member. Actually picked up Lance once on Santa Monica Blvd, wearing a tank top and red shorts - he had apparently had a "fight" with whoever he was living with at the time - and needed to get out and make some quick cash. He was quite easy to talk with - not at all egotistical. He hadn't had dinner - I offered him a peanut butter sandwich, and he graciously accepted it. Once we had finished our encounter, before I took him back to the Boulevard, he asked to use my phone to call his friend, and they resolved their differences. I got the impression his presence on the street was a one-time thing, and I just happened to be there at the right time. We didn't discuss his film career - not sure he was aware that I recognized him, and that I thought that he was anything other than a good-looking, blond street hustler. A few years later, while visiting a non-professional acquaintance at the LA Downtown Men's Central Jail, I saw him lined up with other inmates - visitors, after talking to inmates on phones behind glass panels, could give a roll of quarters to the guards who would pass it to the inmates behind the counter in the waiting area. Didn't see who was there to visit Lance, and while we did make eye contact, briefly, he didn't give an indication that he recognized me from our one time visit of, by then, some many months previous. Still quite handsome in his orange jail jump suit.

When the escort treats the client like a friend - there is much more affection / mutual respect / interest in one another's lives / concern for each other's well-being and feelings / shared interests (besides the bedroom) / wanting to be together and do things that both enjoy. When to both parties, there is much more of an attraction (mentally, not just physically) that makes the underlying monetary transaction take on the aspect more of a "gift" than a "fee".

When the escort treats the client like a friend - there is much more affection / mutual respect / interest in one another's lives / concern for each other's well-being and feelings / shared interests (besides the bedroom) / wanting to be together and do things that both enjoy. When to both parties, there is much more of an attraction (mentally, not just physically) that makes the underlying monetary transaction take on the aspect more of a "gift" than a "fee".

When the escort treats the client like a friend - there is much more affection / mutual respect / interest in one another's lives / concern for each other's well-being and feelings / shared interests (besides the bedroom) / wanting to be together and do things that both enjoy. When to both parties, there is much more of an attraction (mentally, not just physically) that makes the underlying monetary transaction take on the aspect more of a "gift" than a "fee".

Leo Ford - remember him well, but have no recollection of the TV commercial. He had a lean body, with an unruly mop of blond hair. A power bottom - he had at least one scene where he came hands-free.
Lance was the other "Power Blond" at the Higgin's studio. Besides "Leo and Lance", they were also successfully paired in "Blonds Do It Best". As far as I recall, Lance never bottomed. He had a more muscular build than Leo, and a big uncut member. Actually picked up Lance once on Santa Monica Blvd, wearing a tank top and red shorts - he had apparently had a "fight" with whoever he was living with at the time - and needed to get out and make some quick cash. He was quite easy to talk with - not at all egotistical. He hadn't had dinner - I offered him a peanut butter sandwich, and he graciously accepted it. Once we had finished our encounter, before I took him back to the Boulevard, he asked to use my phone to call his friend, and they resolved their differences. I got the impression his presence on the street was a one-time thing, and I just happened to be there at the right time. We didn't discuss his film career - not sure he was aware that I recognized him, and that I thought that he was anything other than a good-looking, blond street hustler. A few years later, while visiting a non-professional acquaintance at the LA Downtown Men's Central Jail, I saw him lined up with other inmates - visitors, after talking to inmates on phones behind glass panels, could give a roll of quarters to the guards who would pass it to the inmates behind the counter in the waiting area. Didn't see who was there to visit Lance, and while we did make eye contact, briefly, he didn't give an indication that he recognized me from our one time visit of, by then, some many months previous. Still quite handsome in his orange jail jump suit.

I think a BFE should include generous amounts of affection.

If you make me feel both desirable and cared about then you get an A+