Keenan

If it's a mutual like then the provider might see it differently but at times the like is more "one-sided". By that I mean the client feels something while the provider doesn't. It's part of the job of the provider to make each client feel special. If it's something that you'd expect that the provider doesn't charge their regular rate then before arranging something make sure you talk with the provider and make that known. The provider could be fine with it or want to keep it strictly business, meaning they still charge the rate for their time. It shouldn't be off-putting rather it gives you the answer you are looking for, move onto the next provider.

As a provider I'm being paid for my time whether it's going to get dinner with the client or spend time in the bedroom. As a result I would charge my regular rate either way. If it's a regular customer and depending on how frequently there might be times when I give a discount here and there but in general I charge for my time and whatever happens during that time.

Depends on where you live but most local police have other things to worry about more important than what you are doing behind closed doors with someone.

For me typically anything past midnight is a "no-go" unless it was pre-arranged. Most who call at the last minute are either high or drunk and I want to make sure I protect myself from any situations that could arise.

I am finding that there are more clients out there not treating providers with respect. Primarily for me these are the ones that will call last minute looking for a last minute appointment. Also for me it's the way some of the way that a client will talk to a provider. Yes I am a sexworker but I am also a human so treat me with the same respect you'd want yourself.

Say where you found him. Mention when you are looking for and if you are looking for him to come to you or you go to him. Mention how much time you are looking for and mention what you enjoy. This should limit numerous texts back and forth and gets right to the point. Be aware that he might not be available at the time you are requesting. If so have some alternative times. Also be aware that if you are trying to do a same day booking that it might not happen based on his availability. You might want to ask his rates also.

I feel there are a number "straight" men that hire with the curiosity of what is it like to be sexual with a man. Some enjoy the experience and might consider themselves bisexual afterwards. I've had a number of men come to me saying they wanted to try anal but their wife wouldn't let them. My job is to help them with the experience to help them with their fantasy.

As far as identity if you aren't using face pictures it will help with identity issues. At the same time clients can and will ask for a face picture before meeting. While you can let them know not to share it once you share the picture with them you have no control over where that picture shows up. As far as career opportunities just be smart, don't attach your real name to any photos, etc... There are many other risks beyond those that come with escorting such as keeping yourself protected from potential STD and meeting with clients who could potentially be crazy and try to harm you. Make sure you screen and get an idea so you know who you are meeting with.

Keep in mind it's not as easy as it sounds. You need to be able to work with all types of clients even if you aren't attracted to them. Also consider your personal safety, not only sexually (STDs) but also clients that might decide to be violent. As others have said you also need to be able to provide a fantasy for the client.

Thank you for saying this. Too many times I have a client say they feel they are entitled to "this or that" just because they paid. Paying doesn't give you full control of my body, it gives you the time to spend with me and whatever we agree upon during that time.

It depends on the provider. Some providers have other jobs, some providers don't want their families to know so they go by a pseudonym. Keep in mind that providers are performers/entertainers providing a fantasy for their clients. Knowing their real name and knowing more about them could kill the fantasy.

Make it clear with the provider prior to the session that it's something you'd like. With that said setting the appointment at least a day before might be best to make sure he hasn't seen anyone else that day.

There used to be a meetup during MAL weekend (MLK Weekend) in DC. It's sort of fallen apart. It would be great to do that again. Keenan

It's still a thing, not a prevalent as was in the past but depending on the city you can still find it. Less with male escorts though. My guess is the Internet like everything else killed it in many ways. Keenan

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Many of the things you mentioned held true in my younger years as an escort. Being naive I didn't properly screen and didn't take proper precautions. I dealt with everything from aggressive clients who had weapons or were on drugs to being raped to being held against my will. Also not using PrEP in my younger years and taking clients bare I did deal with some STDs, luckily nothing that couldn't be resolved. This work is definitely physically, emotionally and mentally draining. Luckily after my family found out I was doing adult work, also stripping and adult videos, they have been supportive, even somewhat protective.

I'm available in that area. Vers.

I'd actually say quite the contrary. If you are visiting a providers profile and they see it then it could show interest. Rather than "lurk" let them know you have interest in them and you'd like to know when they are coming to your area.

If I'm at my day job or around other people I know I typically won't answer the phone. Personally I prefer that the client text or email me to setup the appointment and then afterwards we can talk prior to the appointment if necessary.

Have you asked the provider before he shows up to see you or do you ask when he arrives? If you aren't asking before the appointment that might be one issue. Also some providers might want to provide their own clothing for the appointment rather than wear something someone provides. Just make sure you ask about special outfit requests prior to the appointment and make sure they are clear.

Just be smart about how you respond. Keep things vague if you can. Never promise that you will do anything keeping in mind that the rate is for your "time". A good client will understand your responses. It depends on where you live how concerned law enforcement is but in more liberal states like NY, Maryland, etc... as long as you are smart about what you are doing they are more concerned about other types of crime.

Typically I say within 45 minutes to an hour but it depends on where you live. If I have to drive any over that I'll charge extra travel fee to help cover gas costs.

Here are the details. It's happening at Crush, a dance club/bar in DC. That bar doesn't have an adult entertainment license so my guess is they might be able to get a license for one time use. Not really sure how that will work. Tickets went on sale on eventbrite.com and apparently are sold out now for March 15th.

Anyone interested in helping setup a meetup in DC the weekend of January 10-13th which is the same weekend as MAL. Some people on here must be attending. If you have interest please respond and whether you are a provider or client. I have some ideas if we have enough that want to attend. Keenan

Yes dancers must stay on the bar. If they want to take a break they must go to the changing room. There are no lap dances. I mean I guess customers could discretely include a phone number on a bill if they wanted too but the best thing to do if really wanting to try anything with a dancer is wait until after the shift and meet them outside.